Chika likes Bolaji, she dreamt a lot about him, she fantasize about holding his arm, kissing him and resting on his chest, One day, she saw her opportunity and walked up to him, told him about her feelings and asked him out, Bolaji agreed to go out on a date with her, she was so happy, , after the date, she waited 3 days and eventually slept with him, Bolaji went home happy, he told his friends about what had just happened, he became arrogant, he deleted her number and started playing games on Chika.

What about Fatima? She loved Emeka so dearly, walked to him and told her mind, Emeka rejected her, she couldn’t believe her eyes, she stood there shaking, she felt the ground should swallow her.

Some women have experienced these situations, they read someone where that a woman can also approach a man and ask for a relationship, they approached and it ended badly for them

Generally, people hardly value the things they do not work for, talk-less of a relationship, men hardly value the women they didn’t work for, that is why stories of a woman asking a man out always end in disasters, he knows she likes him more than he likes her, he has the power, he is at advantage and will do everything possible to misuse that power.

You hear some men, who likes to preach that women also need to pursue men, to go after what they wants, most of these men saying all these, are men without games, lacks confidence and low self-esteem men, they never want to pursue and take the risk of pursuing a woman, they want to get everything on a platter of gold so that they can boost their lost self-esteem and brag to their friends that a woman asked them out. some of these men becomes arrogant after a woman ask them out, they start acting like they have arrived.

It is a known fact, that men pursue not women, even in the animal kingdom, the male cock pursue after the female hen, the female gives the male signal and it is the male who notices the signal and pursues after her, likewise in the human world , a female gives signal to a man that she is interested in, she flirts with him and gives him subtle signs, it expected of a man to noticed these signals and pursue after her or she moves on.

As a woman, whenever a man doesn’t approach after giving him signals your job isn’t to approach him, a man worthy of being called a man will take the lead and act accordingly.

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It's ok if she gives signals. I don't think it should be more than that. That not withstanding some beautiful relationships have come out of women doing the asking out. It's not something to count on though as a woman...OP is right

sisterslodge:
Chika likes Bolaji, she dreamt a lot about him, she fantasize about holding his arm, kissing him and resting on his chest, One day, she saw her opportunity and walked up to him, told him about her feelings and asked him out, Bolaji agreed to go out on a date with her, she was so happy, , after the date, she waited 3 days and eventually slept with him, Bolaji went home happy, he told his friends about what had just happened, he became arrogant, he deleted her number and started playing games on Chika.

What about Fatima? She loved Emeka so dearly, walked to him and told her mind, Emeka rejected her, she couldn’t believe her eyes, she stood there shaking, she felt the ground should swallow her.

Some women have experienced these situations, they read someone where that a woman can also approach a man and ask for a relationship, they approached and it ended badly for them

Generally, people hardly value the things they do not work for, talk-less of a relationship, men hardly value the women they didn’t work for, that is why stories of a woman asking a man out always end in disasters, he knows she likes him more than he likes her, he has the power, he is at advantage and will do everything possible to misuse that power.

You hear some men, who likes to preach that women also need to pursue men, to go after what they wants, most of these men saying all these, are men without games, lacks confidence and low self-esteem men, they never want to pursue and take the risk of pursuing a woman, they want to get everything on a platter of gold so that they can boost their lost self-esteem and brag to their friends that a woman asked them out. some of these men becomes arrogant after a woman ask them out, they start acting like they have arrived.

It is a known fact, that men pursue not women, even in the animal kingdom, the male cock pursue after the female hen, the female gives the male signal and it is the male who notices the signal and pursues after her, likewise in the human world , a female gives signal to a man that she is interested in, she flirts with him and gives him subtle signs, it expected of a man to noticed these signals and pursue after her or she moves on.

As a woman, whenever a man doesn’t approach after giving him signals your job isn’t to approach him, a man worthy of being called a man will take the lead and act

What is your point?

Yeah there are childish guys like Bolaji who kiss and tell. Also, she might encounter an Emeka who is into ladies of a different specs. But dont you know she can actually meet a Musa who also likes her and has been too scared to walk up to her. In the end there are different possible outcomes, but im dure nobody likes to regret their inactions and live with the what ifs.

That's why most of you stay single into your forties and watch as the bolder ladies pick the good men.


Use your mind, there are so many ways you can approach a man and finesse him into thinking it was his idea all along.


Don't stick to the unproductive old ways, grow, adapt, evolve.



This response is because I care about you ladies.

u just want some ladies to die single
biko if yu fancy a guy even if u cant tell him straight off give him signs for him to know u fancy him
no dey stone face at am wen he greets u even wen ur heart says otherwise

This kind of reasoning is what's ruining many of you.

All clips below can be found here: https://twitter.com/RemiOmolosho/status/1203909145939861504?s=19

A girl will get fvcked and be left, irrespective of all you posted here. Only way for a girl to avoid these is by asking a SIMP out. Yes, that is the only way, the 1000% way to avoid the drama of being played.

Na today? Qué Sera sera

Sense will not kill you. You are very correct tho. What of someone like me that is shy to approach a lady? Despite all her flash light and signals

sisterslodge:
Chika likes Bolaji, she dreamt a lot about him, she fantasize about holding his arm, kissing him and resting on his chest, One day, she saw her opportunity and walked up to him, told him about her feelings and asked him out, Bolaji agreed to go out on a date with her, she was so happy, , after the date, she waited 3 days and eventually slept with him, Bolaji went home happy, he told his friends about what had just happened, he became arrogant, he deleted her number and started playing games on Chika.

What about Fatima? She loved Emeka so dearly, walked to him and told her mind, Emeka rejected her, she couldn’t believe her eyes, she stood there shaking, she felt the ground should swallow her.

Some women have experienced these situations, they read someone where that a woman can also approach a man and ask for a relationship, they approached and it ended badly for them

Generally, people hardly value the things they do not work for, talk-less of a relationship, men hardly value the women they didn’t work for, that is why stories of a woman asking a man out always end in disasters, he knows she likes him more than he likes her, he has the power, he is at advantage and will do everything possible to misuse that power.

You hear some men, who likes to preach that women also need to pursue men, to go after what they wants, most of these men saying all these, are men without games, lacks confidence and low self-esteem men, they never want to pursue and take the risk of pursuing a woman, they want to get everything on a platter of gold so that they can boost their lost self-esteem and brag to their friends that a woman asked them out. some of these men becomes arrogant after a woman ask them out, they start acting like they have arrived.

It is a known fact, that men pursue not women, even in the animal kingdom, the male cock pursue after the female hen, the female gives the male signal and it is the male who notices the signal and pursues after her, likewise in the human world , a female gives signal to a man that she is interested in, she flirts with him and gives him subtle signs, it expected of a man to noticed these signals and pursue after her or she moves on.

As a woman, whenever a man doesn’t approach after giving him signals your job isn’t to approach him, a man worthy of being called a man will take the lead and act accordingly.

The best way to catch ur crush is to create troubles to get ur attention. Only feminist have used this to catch life partners.

no wonder so many women get to a desperate point where they either decide to marry any donkey that gives them a little bit of attention OR are miserable in marriage... there is nothing wrong with making the 1st move, if you believe that the man you desire IS NOT GONNA DO IT!

MrBrownJay1:
no wonder so many women get to a desperate point where they either decide to marry any donkey that gives them a little bit of attention OR are miserable in marriage... there is nothing wrong with making the 1st move, if you believe that the man you desire IS NOT GONNA DO IT!

a real man will make the first move...that is nature.

Nnaabros:
This kind of reasoning is what's ruining many of you.

it is not

men lead and chase and go after what they want.

lefulefu:
u just want some ladies to die single
biko if yu fancy a guy even if u cant tell him straight off give him signs for him to know u fancy him
no dey stone face at am wen he greets u even wen ur heart says otherwise

it's seems you didnt read it

a woman gives sign to the man she is interested in, it is up to the man to act or she moves on.

sisterslodge:
Chika likes Bolaji, she dreamt a lot about him, she fantasize about holding his arm, kissing him and resting on his chest, One day, she saw her opportunity and walked up to him, told him about her feelings and asked him out, Bolaji agreed to go out on a date with her, she was so happy, , after the date, she waited 3 days and eventually slept with him, Bolaji went home happy, he told his friends about what had just happened, he became arrogant, he deleted her number and started playing games on Chika.

What about Fatima? She loved Emeka so dearly, walked to him and told her mind, Emeka rejected her, she couldn’t believe her eyes, she stood there shaking, she felt the ground should swallow her.

Some women have experienced these situations, they read someone where that a woman can also approach a man and ask for a relationship, they approached and it ended badly for them

Generally, people hardly value the things they do not work for, talk-less of a relationship, men hardly value the women they didn’t work for, that is why stories of a woman asking a man out always end in disasters, he knows she likes him more than he likes her, he has the power, he is at advantage and will do everything possible to misuse that power.

You hear some men, who likes to preach that women also need to pursue men, to go after what they wants, most of these men saying all these, are men without games, lacks confidence and low self-esteem men, they never want to pursue and take the risk of pursuing a woman, they want to get everything on a platter of gold so that they can boost their lost self-esteem and brag to their friends that a woman asked them out. some of these men becomes arrogant after a woman ask them out, they start acting like they have arrived.

It is a known fact, that men pursue not women, even in the animal kingdom, the male cock pursue after the female hen, the female gives the male signal and it is the male who notices the signal and pursues after her, likewise in the human world , a female gives signal to a man that she is interested in, she flirts with him and gives him subtle signs, it expected of a man to noticed these signals and pursue after her or she moves on.

As a woman, whenever a man doesn’t approach after giving him signals your job isn’t to approach him, a man worthy of being called a man will take the lead and act accordingly.

Dey there.. so as I dey find money na so I go dey find green light.. u beta talk Wen u like someone..

sisterslodge:


it's seems you didnt read it

a woman gives sign to the man she is interested in, it is up to the man to act or she moves on.

So youve comfortably reduced yourself to a mere signpost. This is terrible.

Kindly read this thread below let your fellow girls who are wiser correct you.
https://twitter.com/RemiOmolosho/status/1203909145939861504?s=19

All of you will just be spreading your immature, arrogant ideas to gullible girls. Ideas that are not benefiting you in any way.

Later you'll crying that only Bleep boys are coming after you.

sisterslodge:
a real man will make the first move...that is nature.

see the above is where women are truly failing.... you even have the audacity to say claim that this is what "real" men do, as if men who dont aint real men... have you ask yourself these simple questions:

- what if he is shy like that?
- what if the man failed to notice you?
- what if he is not interested in you "yet" because he doesnt know you like that?
- what if he wrongly assume that you are what you are not?
- what if he believes that unless you show interest and make the 1st move, he aint gonna move?
- are you really willing to lose a possible GREAT man, because of your misplaced ego?!

sisterslodge:


it is not

men lead and chase and go after what they want.

So you'll just wait and settle for whoever comes, and later be complaining that only fu*k boys are coming for you?

Nnaabros:


So youve comfortably reduced yourself to a mere signpost. This is terrible.

Kindly read this thread below let your fellow girls who are wiser correct you.
https://twitter.com/RemiOmolosho/status/1203909145939861504?s=19

All of you will just be spreading your immature, arrogant ideas to gullible girls. Ideas that are not benefiting you in any way.

Later you'll crying that only Bleep boys are coming after you.

what you wrote down is a contradiction

if a bleep boy can go after a woman, what is stopping you a non bleep boy from going after her?

MrBrownJay1:


see the above is where women are truly failing.... you even have the audacity to say claim that this is what "real" men do, as if men who dont aint real men... have you ask yourself these simple questions:

- what if he is shy like that?
- what if the man failed to notice you?
- what if he is not interested in you "yet" because he doesnt know you like that?
- what if he wrongly assume that you are what you are not?
- what if he believes that unless you show interest and make the 1st move, he aint gonna move?
- are you really willing to lose a possible GREAT man, because of your misplaced ego?!

women gives signals to men that they are interested in, they flirt, it up to the man to see those signs of interest and pursue the lady.

sisterslodge:


what you wrote down is a contradiction

if a bleep boy can go after a woman, what is stopping you a non bleep boy from going after her?

Because bleep boys do not discriminate about the kind of girls they go after. They chase anything in skirts.

But we non-bleep boys are very choosy and we don't go after the proud and arrogant types. We look for value and reciprocity.

BlackShit:


So you'll just wait and settle for whoever comes, and later be complaining that only fu*k boys are coming for you?

"whoever comes" do you understand how the dating world works?

women vet men before agreeing to go on a date with them, sometimes we make mistakes but doesnt mean every man that has pursue a woman is a bleep boy. in the dating world, bleep and non bleep boys pursue.

if a man wants something he goes after it.

Shiloh 2030 is just 10 years from now.

Nnaabros:


Because bleep boys do not discriminate about the kind of girls they go after. They chase anything in skirts.

But we non-bleep boys are very choosy and we don't go after the proud and arrogant types. We look for value and reciprocity.

women also do not accept any type of men into their lives.

the bolded is your ego speaking.

in the dating world both man and women discriminate and both bleep boys and non bleep boys pursue after women.

pursuing after a woman doesn't make you a fuckboy

sisterslodge:


women also do not accept any type of men into their lives.

the bolded is your ego speaking.

in the dating world both man and women discriminate and both bleep boys and non bleep boys pursue after women.

pursuing after a woman doesn't make you a fuckboy

That's my confidence and value-oriented mindset speaking. There's nothing wrong with a proper dose of ego.

A man who has value goes for a woman with value, not a complacent and non-challant woman.

If you don't believe in putting effort into a relationship you will carry same attitude into marriage.

This is one of the major dangers in your reasoning.

sisterslodge:


"whoever comes" do you understand how the dating world works?

women vet men before agreeing to go on a date with them, sometimes we make mistakes but doesnt mean every man that has pursue a woman is a bleep boy. in the dating world, bleep and non bleep boys pursue.

if a man wants something he goes after it.

While if you want something you wait for it to come to you?

This is why men will never see you as equals and give you due respect. You cheapen, sexualize and monetize yourselves too much.

Some of your fellow women are already clocking 50 still 'waiting and vetting'. While all the great guys are being taken by more humble open-minded girls.

sisterslodge:
women gives signals to men that they are interested in, they flirt, it up to the man to see those signs of interest and pursue the lady.

in a normal setting, YES, but if that man doesnt understand/see the sign, would you just let your misplaced ego be in the way AND lose a good man?!
life comes in different forms... if you are not ready to compromise then you will always be failing some way or the other. be flexible in everything you do in life.

if you discover a good man but he makes no intentions towards you, would you just take the chance of losing him?

what would you do if only the wrong men showed their intentions towards you?! settle for one of these liabilities?!

MrBrownJay1:


in a normal setting, YES, but if that man doesnt understand/see the sign, would you just let your misplaced ego be in the way AND lose a good man?!
life comes in different forms... if you are not ready to compromise then you will always be failing some way or the other. be flexible in everything you do in life.

if you discover a good man but he makes no intentions towards you, would you just take the chance of losing him?

what would you do if only the wrong men showed their intentions towards you?! settle for one of these liabilities?!

A man that do not understand the signal that a woman is interested in him is naive.

It is common Knowledge that if a woman is interested in a man she gives him signs and it is expected of him to pursue. A strong and confident man will pursue and take action.

BlackShit:


While if you want something you wait for it to come to you?

This is why men will never see you as equals and give you due respect. You cheapen, sexualize and monetize yourselves too much.

Some of your fellow women are already clocking 50 still 'waiting and vetting'. While all the great guys are being taken by more humble open-minded girls.

The great guys are taken by the more humble minded girls because the great guys pursued after the open minded girls.

Nnaabros:


That's my confidence and value-oriented mindset speaking. There's nothing wrong with a proper dose of ego.

A man who has value goes for a woman with value, not a complacent and non-challant woman.

If you don't believe in putting effort into a relationship you will carry same attitude into marriage.

This is one of the major dangers in your reasoning.

A man who has value pursue after a woman with value after she has given him signs that she is interested in him.