KevinDein:

Somewhere in their hearts they know this and are perfectly fine with it. Heck they encourage it.

Nice thread, @op.

Designerdollars:
just shut up abeg
All these girls with terrible IQ points sef, if they put your brain in a bird, I'm certain it will fly backwards.
Men and women don't have anything in common to just be "friends" .
All these besties are 99% in most cases beta orbiters hoping to Bleep you someday.
And it's girl's with low self esteem that keep alot of men as friends.

Paxie55:
This op is always telling women how to live their lives through subjugation as her only means. When i saw this thread and the moniker, I've already envisaged the type of balderdash i was about to read.

adexpa:
I love this thread not because of the topic but the responses. The arguments here are logical and reasonable. I love what op addressed n everyone has reacted specially on it. My concern is about bestie..... I don't think there should be anyone call bestie aside the guy you claim to be your boyfriend, you can ask n discuss all your concerns n issues with your boyfriend rather than having one bestie that is waiting for a minor misunderstanding between you and your boyfriend to capitalize n take advantage of you.

Designerdollars:
Women are inferior to men ofcourse they should subjugate themselves

xrayj:

Thank u my brother
Don't mind that of a senseless thing!
You didn't see female bestie, it is male bestie u want? It obviously means there are certain qualities lacking in her boyfriend or hubby she wants to complement with d male bestie. This is a good thread by op. Male & female bestie nonsense shouldn't be encourage, it doesn't usually end well.

Romanoff:


Birds of a feather obviously flock together. The fact that you're unable to contribute without insults shows you lack the ability to communicate in a civil manner.

Sixfeetbelle:


I'm that girl. I'm in my twenties and I want to date as little guys as possible before marriage but I don't see how two people who are on different sides of the spectrum can be compatible. Being ready for marriage does not involve toning down flexing. I've seen couples who are as flamboyant as ever marry each other. I've also seen a couple who weren't very social marry. A flamboyant lady and a 'boring' guy won't work out well. That's my point.

Romanoff:
I was okay with all you said until I saw the male bestie part and then, some of your comments made it look like a woman can't have a life just cause she's hoping to get married.

A woman can have a male bestie and it will be a pure friendship. Any man who can't handle a woman who has a male beat friend should just leave her alone and go for one who doesn't.

Why should a woman throw her friendship away because of relationship that might end tomorrow.

Instead of controlling the crowd she moves with, why not look around for a woman who flows with your kind of crowd?

This kind of thinking makes it looks like a man should change a woman to suit him.

How about you look for woman that suits you in the first place?

The happening guy verse boring guy part. See ehn, every woman has what she wants in a man. Some like the happening guys and some just want a quiet life.

I've seen these fast life girls marry a boring guy and still want to club why husband is home. I know one sef that left her baby at home while her husband travelled so she could go clubbing.

Just have the right qualities you want in a partner and date with a purpose. My two cents.

Paxie55:
This op is always telling women how to live their lives through subjugation as her only means. When i saw this thread and the moniker, I've already envisaged the type of balderdash i was about to read.

Paxie55:
This op is always telling women how to live their lives through subjugation as her only means. When i saw this thread and the moniker, I've already envisaged the type of balderdash i was about to read.

Ariza:
So basically the only thing that worries the Nigerian guys on Male bestie is the " Sex" that may likely happen not the emotional detachment, psychological replacement or being subjected to second place in the hearts of their Partners. It's just the "Sex"

Interesting.

Ariza:
You don't have to be toxic to pass an opposing opinion you know?


So if Men and Women have nothing in common to be just 'friends' how come they have everything in common to be business partners, siblings, helpmate etc? Is it the 'Sex' you fear so much? Lol. Friends don't have sex. Woman and Man can be friends. Just Friends.

Ariza:
So basically the only thing that worries the Nigerian guys on Male bestie is the " Sex" that may likely happen not the emotional detachment, psychological replacement or being subjected to second place in the hearts of their Partners. It's just the "Sex"




Interesting.

cococandy:


Or... hear me out.

that version of yourself is perfect for him hence the attraction in the first place.
Sometimes it’s not complicated

I’m assuming he’s a mature man who can immediately identify the characteristics he likes and follows them.

xrayj:

Till male bestie show u something...be shouting male bestie up & down! What happens to female bestie?? I pity u!

Odunharry:
Hmmm

GreatResearcher:
Educate them on how to bring something to the table.

COVIK19:

The OP clearly pointed out the difference b/w ‘a male friend’ and ‘a male bestie’. We both know these are different

Bayokun:
Making opposite sex as your bestie is wrong, unless you do not value your relationship..

Same thing applies to the school father ish.....

Kingjebba:
we know people like you... cheats

Afriifa:
You know, until now, I have wondered if there could be any lady who could acknowledge my exact personality succinctly like you have done..
Please, permit me to appreciate you: "You're a valuable treasure".
I have referred my lady to this post.
I hope she assimilates all you have been trying to relay.

Romanoff:


Pity yourself first sir with this thinking that all men, yourself inclusive, can't be trusted.

COVIK19:

Why go through all that in the first place if you’re in a serious relationship? That’s what the OP is trying to point out

I'm telling you bro
The guys they really want end up using them as cum rags.
I have one in my house now, in her mind she thinks she has found husband.
Me wey no even dey reason marriage now.
I'm just enjoying the sex she provides.
I'm sure if I no propose in the next two years,
She will get the hint and quit the relationship.
Girl's can be so dumb.
Chasing men that don't really want them because he is "exciting"
They think it's every guy with money that will sacrifice bachelorhood to be with them.

I love my current lifestyle and I'm not ready to sacrifice it for any woman.
Make we dey dey Bleep ourselves dey go.
Shebi nah 'excitement' you want

xrayj:

@bold because the op doesn't preach the things u want to hear, it is baldersdash? This thread is for young ladies like u, looking for that "happening guy". After your lives has been shattered & ruined by that happening guy & that male bestie has dumped one baby inside of u, u come back looking for the boring guy with one baby. U people never learn!

Kekereekun123:
This op and toks should have married. They think they are wise and have manual for relationships and marriage. Crap

Designerdollars:
I'm telling you bro
The guys they really want end up using them as cum rags.
I have one in my house now, in her mind she thinks she has found husband.
Me wey no even dey reason marriage now.
I'm just enjoying the sex she provides.
I'm sure if I no propose in the next two years she
She will get the hint and quit the relationship.
Girl's can be so dumb.
Chasing men that don't really want them because he is "exciting"
They think it's every guy with money that will sacrifice bachelorhood to be with them.

xrayj:

@bold because the op doesn't preach the things u want to hear, it is baldersdash? This thread is for young ladies like u, looking for that "happening guy". After your lives has been shattered & ruined by that happening guy & that male bestie has dumped one baby inside of u, u come back looking for the boring guy with one baby. U people never learn!