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Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by Olude193: 1:15pm On Apr 09, 2020
MrMacinterchi1:


you're talking in the nonsense

Continue to deceive him o
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by Olude193: 1:18pm On Apr 09, 2020
Edavi234:
Man up and do the needful.

Look at what you've achieved on your own as highlighted by you - whoever you decide to marry must also be supportive to expand more than what you have on ground as investment.

So, if your choice is this young girl then you as a man MUST make her understand your vision in clear terms and what you want to achieve in the union.
And please, stop talking too much about her physical features else you'll fall too deep into her and become her play book when she realizes it (women are very smart).

Good luck but

FOCUS!



Thank you ..

Like 80% of what he wrote were about her physically.

This is how men lose focus
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by ALLNIGERIANSMAD(m): 1:24pm On Apr 09, 2020
maestroferddi:
Bill Gates married at 39 with all his billions...

Dont teach me nonsense!
OK happy ruin your business, I'm minding my own business.
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by merits(m): 1:26pm On Apr 09, 2020
Sisijetue:
What you want to do is in your mind already... don’t ask us just do it grin
don't mind the idi,oot asking us stupiddd question again, meanwhile Olympia is about to fall but don't blame Buhari for your downfall in the nearest future.
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by Chuknovski(m): 1:29pm On Apr 09, 2020
Ishitinyourlife:

Exactly bros,that is what I'm thinking I'm not getting younger and I've met a lot of girls in my life but this girl is quite different, the only thing is that she's like 13 years younger than me.

it doesn't matter, provided her character and charisma suits you, do and marry, so u won't be paying school fees at age 65..lol
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by Albertgr8: 1:36pm On Apr 09, 2020
I am seeing packing to village things in this your write up
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by West10(m): 1:37pm On Apr 09, 2020
Sisijetue:
What you want to do is in your mind already... don’t ask us just do it grin
You be savage ��
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by adabaraabdul: 1:38pm On Apr 09, 2020
Relieve her of the job and date her properly
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by adabaraabdul: 1:39pm On Apr 09, 2020
Relieve her of the job and start a proper relationship with her. The feelings you guys have for each other is mutual.
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by profsomebody(m): 1:52pm On Apr 09, 2020
Bro, I see nothing wrong with finding love from amongst your workers, provided you are emotionally strong enough to not let it reflect in your business environment. However, I believe you've already failed at that with your employees beginning to refer to her as "oga wife" as u stated (you have to work on fixing this). Apart from this, it's very wrong of you to have accepted her offer to start cooking for you, for whatever reason (I mean, how did you guys even get to that stage?). It's even worse that she's refusing money for the food she cooks for you and you accepted that too. Now, I'm not about going the superstitious route by suggesting she's mixing love portions with your meals, as I find those shii laughable, but the mere fact that she decided to be cooking for you without pay (twice daily) is a red flag for me. It shows she's desperate to make you believe she's not interested in your money, and in most cases, when ladies do this, the exact opposite is true. Where's she getting money from? The salary you pay her? How much do you pay her? For her to be juggling her schooling with working for you, she obviously isn't "rich", and is doing it for the money. Now tell me why she would go through all that stress just to be spending part of her salary feeding a grown man (in this case, someone who obviously doesn't even "need" her help)? Would she go through all she goes through just to be giving a broke bf half of her salary for feeding? I believe you know feeding costs a lot of money. And considering she's cooking for someone above her level, she'd always try to come up with something that will be presentable and befitting for you (means she has to spend even more than she would need to cook normal students concoction rice). Again, I ask how much do you pay her for her to be able to afford all these in the name of being nice? All these things don't add up. Makes it look like she's only trying to manipulate you (if she hasn't yet succeeded). Think, bro. Think! And going forward, try to set boundaries between yourself and your employees. Nobody is saying you should become a feared boss, but learn to be more professional.
Ishitinyourlife:


This girl is very attractive and she dresses nice too. She doesn't wear revealing clothes. She's modest, all calm. I used to buy food from restaurants to eat in the shop before because I don't really like cooking but she told me I don't need to do that, she can make my food and bring it over to the shop for me. Like she will bring me food in the morning before school and afternoon and she refused to collect a dime from me.


In truth I like the girl but I don't know if asking her out might

Advise me please.

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Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by maclatunji: 1:54pm On Apr 09, 2020
Ishitinyourlife:
I live in the west, I'm single and in my late thirties, I work independently I have a store/cybercafe/gamehouse where I sell electronics like home sound system, games, pads, phone accessories, mobile phones etc and I also have a cyber cafe and a game house in the same building.

I have about 6 workers that run the place with me cos I can't be everywhere at all time and the shop is a little big. Among my workers is a very beautiful 22 year old undergraduate that works for me when she gets off school and during holidays. I like all my workers and I treat them right but I'm not really a guy that gets personal with people so they know I have boundaries, but this girl is exceptional. She takes her work diligently makes even more sales than me in the shop most of the time cos she is good with people.

This girl is very attractive and she dresses nice too. She doesn't wear revealing clothes. She's modest, all calm. I used to buy food from restaurants to eat in the shop before because I don't really like cooking but she told me I don't need to do that, she can make my food and bring it over to the shop for me. Like she will bring me food in the morning before school and afternoon and she refused to collect a dime from me.

People are starting to feel a certain vibe among us cos she smiles whenever she looks at me and even my workers do call her oga's wife jokingly.

In truth I like the girl but I don't know if asking her out might cause a problem to my business.

Advise me please.


There is no way you won't have to make adjustments marrying a woman. These qualities seem to make her a good wife material. Why don't you stylishly check her family background? If everything makes sense marry her my brother.
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by maclatunji: 1:56pm On Apr 09, 2020
profsomebody:
Bro, I see nothing wrong with finding love from amongst your workers, provided you are emotionally strong enough to not let it reflect in your business environment. However, I believe you've already failed at that with your employees beginning to refer to her as "oga wife" as u stated (you have to work on fixing this). Apart from this, it's very wrong of you to have accepted her offer to start cooking for you, for whatever reason (I mean, how did you guys even get to that stage?). It's even worse that she's refusing money for the food she cooks for you and you accepted that too. Now, I'm not about going the superstitious route by suggesting she's mixing love portions with your meals, as I find those shii laughable, but the mere fact that she decided to be cooking for you without pay (twice daily) is a red flag for me. It shows she's desperate to make you believe she's not interested in your money, and in most cases, when ladies do this, the exact opposite is true. Where's she getting money from? The salary you pay her? How much do you pay her? For her to be juggling her schooling with working for you, she obviously isn't "rich", and is doing it for the money. Now tell me why she would go through all that stress just to be spending part of her salary feeding a grown man (in this case, someone who obviously doesn't even "need" her help)? Would she go through all she goes through just to be giving a broke bf half of her salary for feeding? I believe you know feeding costs a lot of money. And considering she's cooking for someone above her level, she'd always try to come up with something that will be presentable and befitting for you (means she has to spend even more than she would need to cook normal students concoction rice). Again, I ask how much do you pay her for her to be able to afford all these in the name of being nice? All these things don't add up. Makes it look like she's only trying to manipulate you (if she hasn't yet succeeded). Think, bro. Think! And going forward, try to set boundaries between yourself and your employees. Nobody is saying you should become a feared boss, but learn to be more professional.

If she is a decent girl and in love, she can. Some people appreciate good things and want to help make them better. Not everybody is evil.

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Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by Donsamie(m): 1:56pm On Apr 09, 2020
Guy thanks for sharing your achievement,you just strengthened my dream

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Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by maclatunji: 1:59pm On Apr 09, 2020
Ishitinyourlife:


Your point is valid,but the girl is showing some affections,like sometimes she'd rather help me in the shop that go out with her friends even when it is her time out,so I don't want to betray that and at the same time I do not want to overstep my boundaries

Guy, do your due diligence, settle with her family if you are satisfied. Marry a good girl I hope and believe.
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by barnny(m): 1:59pm On Apr 09, 2020
Ishitinyourlife:

Ma'am she's an undergraduate and I'm very sure she has a lot of admirers asking her out already, what if the window of my opportunity close
.

At your own risk bro
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by Edavi234: 2:02pm On Apr 09, 2020
Very true. He has lost focus already from his write up.

This is how young men with potentials loose focus after very little success.

He forgot that the reason he has such a lady working for him in the first place is because of the foundation he has laid for himself.

Pity.

Olude193:


Thank you ..

Like 80% of what he wrote were about her physically.

This is how men lose focus

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Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by femi4: 2:03pm On Apr 09, 2020
Ishitinyourlife:
I live in the west, I'm single and in my late thirties, I work independently I have a store/cybercafe/gamehouse where I sell electronics like home sound system, games, pads, phone accessories, mobile phones etc and I also have a cyber cafe and a game house in the same building.

I have about 6 workers that run the place with me cos I can't be everywhere at all time and the shop is a little big. Among my workers is a very beautiful 22 year old undergraduate that works for me when she gets off school and during holidays. I like all my workers and I treat them right but I'm not really a guy that gets personal with people so they know I have boundaries, but this girl is exceptional. She takes her work diligently makes even more sales than me in the shop most of the time cos she is good with people.

This girl is very attractive and she dresses nice too. She doesn't wear revealing clothes. She's modest, all calm. I used to buy food from restaurants to eat in the shop before because I don't really like cooking but she told me I don't need to do that, she can make my food and bring it over to the shop for me. Like she will bring me food in the morning before school and afternoon and she refused to collect a dime from me.

People are starting to feel a certain vibe among us cos she smiles whenever she looks at me and even my workers do call her oga's wife jokingly.

In truth I like the girl but I don't know if asking her out might cause a problem to my business.

Advise me please.
Seems she likes you too. The chemistry is there already ....go ahead and turn it into biology
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by toolate2fail(m): 2:05pm On Apr 09, 2020
Put it straight to her ask her few questions if she like you you will know is a very simple maths to solve baba
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by maestroferddi: 2:16pm On Apr 09, 2020
ALLNIGERIANSMAD:
OK happy ruin your business, I'm minding my own business.
You didnt remember to mind your business when you were asking a ridiculous question, did you?
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by ekwesi3(m): 2:20pm On Apr 09, 2020
Me am just looking at 35 vs 22
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by dinachi(m): 2:21pm On Apr 09, 2020
Ishitinyourlife:
I live in the west, I'm single and in my late thirties, I work independently I have a store/cybercafe/gamehouse where I sell electronics like home sound system, games, pads, phone accessories, mobile phones etc and I also have a cyber cafe and a game house in the same building.

I have about 6 workers that run the place with me cos I can't be everywhere at all time and the shop is a little big. Among my workers is a very beautiful 22 year old undergraduate that works for me when she gets off school and during holidays. I like all my workers and I treat them right but I'm not really a guy that gets personal with people so they know I have boundaries, but this girl is exceptional. She takes her work diligently makes even more sales than me in the shop most of the time cos she is good with people.

This girl is very attractive and she dresses nice too. She doesn't wear revealing clothes. She's modest, all calm. I used to buy food from restaurants to eat in the shop before because I don't really like cooking but she told me I don't need to do that, she can make my food and bring it over to the shop for me. Like she will bring me food in the morning before school and afternoon and she refused to collect a dime from me.

People are starting to feel a certain vibe among us cos she smiles whenever she looks at me and even my workers do call her oga's wife jokingly.

In truth I like the girl but I don't know if asking her out might cause a problem to my business.

Advise me please.
Men are so easily manipulated! Haba, food and smiles and you are already collapsing your business because of pussy!

My dear proceed and date her or is it Bleep her but remember to come back here with the later part of your story of how it later all came crashing down!

Fools everywhere!
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by Mokuwe: 2:25pm On Apr 09, 2020
My brother, if your heart carries it, carry and go.
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by hermesprogidy(m): 2:35pm On Apr 09, 2020
fearnot1:



Bill and Melinda first met in 1987, when she joined Microsoft as a product manager. Source

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.businessinsider.com/bill-and-melinda-gates-marriage-2017-11%3famp

Point is, He was her boss. He owned Microsoft undecided
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by pellummy(m): 2:45pm On Apr 09, 2020
Ishitinyourlife:
I live in the west, I'm single and in my late thirties, I work independently I have a store/cybercafe/gamehouse where I sell electronics like home sound system, games, pads, phone accessories, mobile phones etc and I also have a cyber cafe and a game house in the same building.

I have about 6 workers that run the place with me cos I can't be everywhere at all time and the shop is a little big. Among my workers is a very beautiful 22 year old undergraduate that works for me when she gets off school and during holidays. I like all my workers and I treat them right but I'm not really a guy that gets personal with people so they know I have boundaries, but this girl is exceptional. She takes her work diligently makes even more sales than me in the shop most of the time cos she is good with people.

This girl is very attractive and she dresses nice too. She doesn't wear revealing clothes. She's modest, all calm. I used to buy food from restaurants to eat in the shop before because I don't really like cooking but she told me I don't need to do that, she can make my food and bring it over to the shop for me. Like she will bring me food in the morning before school and afternoon and she refused to collect a dime from me.

People are starting to feel a certain vibe among us cos she smiles whenever she looks at me and even my workers do call her oga's wife jokingly.

In truth I like the girl but I don't know if asking her out might cause a problem to my business.

Advise me please.


Bro shoot your shot, u either lose and wise, or win and be happy

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Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by Donraqh(m): 2:49pm On Apr 09, 2020
Sisijetue:
What you want to do is in your mind already... don’t ask us just do it grin

Imagine the question o! angry
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by HRMK: 2:49pm On Apr 09, 2020
to be frank with u,there is no big deal in dating her!ur single likewise this lady!as long as u av good intentions,and she,too agrees ur good to go!!
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by benji93: 2:59pm On Apr 09, 2020
Ofcourse she's different. Every girl is. grin grin grin.
Ishitinyourlife:

Exactly bros,that is what I'm thinking I'm not getting younger and I've met a lot of girls in my life but this girl is quite different, the only thing is that she's like 13 years younger than me.
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by DanielPop(m): 3:09pm On Apr 09, 2020
Sisijetue:
What you want to do is in your mind already... don’t ask us just do it grin

Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by Realtizzy(m): 3:19pm On Apr 09, 2020
Dont ever try dating your employee
If you find her attractive and she is that good
Call her and ask her a certain questions and if you are pleased with her answers tell her that you would love to meet with her people
After all you are morethan 35, ur mate suppose don get kids wey dey secondary school
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by Kubin: 3:49pm On Apr 09, 2020
Just give her pregnant
Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by yoursidenigga(m): 3:56pm On Apr 09, 2020
My uncle got married to one of his workers at his Printing press, and they have been married since 2003. Go ahead and marry her if you like her.


No let ego and wetin people go talk prevent you from enjoying Love wink wink wink

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Re: I Am In Love With My Employee by Ishitinyourlife: 4:03pm On Apr 09, 2020
King44:
Keep watching her and stop showing affection to her it seems you are already leading her on and giving her false hope, be an asshole to her sometimes and see if she would still take you and your business serious or she would turn against you, stop being deligent and secretly or openly sabbotage your business, you are showing a lot of affection and that is not good

Las las if she still maintain her good character and work ethics, get to know about more about her and her family backaground and deduce if that is the kind of fam you want in your life conclude and shóooot your shot she could be a very good catch, shoot and over shoot you go dey alright.
Thanks,like I said I'm not the social type so I treat her like any of my workers, i don't frolick with people easily, the distance is there.

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