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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by wunmi590(m): 3:03pm On Jun 05, 2020
mhizgracie22:
I'm a girl tho grin

Then change your status to (f), so that we can toast you like bread cool cool

Was just joking

Nice write up cool

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by JasonScoolari: 3:07pm On Jun 05, 2020
Nice.
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by OpinionCounts(m): 3:10pm On Jun 05, 2020
geekybabe:
Leave everyone to handle their breakup the way they want.
If they wanna post motivational quotes, let them post. Finish. Keep your opinions to yourself and let women breathe..

But she is not holding your windpipe na neither is she forcing you to implement her write-up in your own relationship. She's only sharing her experience and opinion to who may wish to apply, so chill..

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Joefat: 3:17pm On Jun 05, 2020
Moral of lesson.

OP just got breakup.

Or OP just had heartbroken. grin

Sorry dear, you shall overcome.

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Klass99(f): 3:17pm On Jun 05, 2020
Wizywiz:
honestly if she was a bit patient i would hav married her..i loved her so much then sad to say even more than d way i loved the woman that became my wife...but she was never patient enough..we only dated for a year plus

I once heard that men end up marrying the woman who was ready/available, not necessarily the one they truly loved.

You just reminded me of what I heard a very long time ago as a teenager. At the time I heard it, a family friend was newly wedded to a guy whom she was a rebound for, they are still together 10 or more years later.

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Olawalelead(m): 3:18pm On Jun 05, 2020
mhizgracie22:
"I'm better off without you", "I like the woman I'm becoming". Do these statements ring a bell? Many of us have come across quotes like this on WhatsApp, Facebook and so on. Whenever we see quotes like this, the first thing that comes to mind is that the individual who posted it, just got out of a relationship.

I find it funny that after a break up, most people try to prove that they're over their exes by posting motivational quotes like the ones above or memes aimed at making their exes feel uncomfortable. For example, a girl who just got out of a relationship with a stingy guy may constantly post memes condemning stingy guys on her WhatsApp status, hoping her ex will see it and feel bad. Or a girl who just got out of a relationship with a guy who constantly ignored her, may start posting motivational quotes like "Don't force yourself on anybody", "don't settle for less", "don't stay where you are not wanted" etc immediately after the breakup.

If you really want to give your ex the impression that you're over them, posting memes and motivational quotes is not the way. The best way to do that is to act like nothing happened, and that should also reflect in what you post on your WhatsApp status or anywhere else. Post normal stuff, don't post anything relating to breakups or relationships. When you constantly post motivational quotes after a breakup, it gives your ex the impression that you're still thinking about them and that you're still hurt. But when you act like nothing happened, it makes your ex wonder if they ever meant anything to you (I'm talking from experience).

You should also avoid making your ex feel that you hate them, scientists say that our pupils dilate when we see someone we love or someone we hate, so when you hate someone, they still have an effect on you physically, mentally and emotionally. It's better for your ex to think that you've forgotten about them than to think that you hate them. I've actually met a guy who was satisfied with the fact that his ex girlfriend still hated him, he said her hatred was proof that she was not over him yet. They later got back together but the bottom line is that when you harbour hatred for an ex, it means you're not over them completely.

You may never want to get back together with them, but they still have a strong effect on you and your mood, so try as much as possible to forget, not hate. Some people might hurt you so much that you can't even control your hatred for them, take all the time you need to heal from the pain, but don't make it obvious to them that you hate them, you don't have to put on a fake smile when you see them, just be civil, avoid sounding angry or bitter. *This is just my opinion, not a fact, do whatever you think is best for you*

Note: you should only do all this if you want to give your ex the impression that you've moved on, if you want to hash out the problems between you and your ex, there is no need to act like you don't care about them anymore but play it cool so you don't seem desperate. Also, if the issue that resulted in the breakup is a very serious one, it's better to discuss it and iron it out than to act like nothing happened.
Kudos...
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Sharptwotwo: 3:20pm On Jun 05, 2020
Good read
mhizgracie22:
"I'm better off without you", "I like the woman I'm becoming". Do these statements ring a bell? Many of us have come across quotes like this on WhatsApp, Facebook and so on. Whenever we see quotes like this, the first thing that comes to mind is that the individual who posted it, just got out of a relationship.

I find it funny that after a break up, most people try to prove that they're over their exes by posting motivational quotes like the ones above or memes aimed at making their exes feel uncomfortable. For example, a girl who just got out of a relationship with a stingy guy may constantly post memes condemning stingy guys on her WhatsApp status, hoping her ex will see it and feel bad. Or a girl who just got out of a relationship with a guy who constantly ignored her, may start posting motivational quotes like "Don't force yourself on anybody", "don't settle for less", "don't stay where you are not wanted" etc immediately after the breakup.

If you really want to give your ex the impression that you're over them, posting memes and motivational quotes is not the way. The best way to do that is to act like nothing happened, and that should also reflect in what you post on your WhatsApp status or anywhere else. Post normal stuff, don't post anything relating to breakups or relationships. When you constantly post motivational quotes after a breakup, it gives your ex the impression that you're still thinking about them and that you're still hurt. But when you act like nothing happened, it makes your ex wonder if they ever meant anything to you (I'm talking from experience).

You should also avoid making your ex feel that you hate them, scientists say that our pupils dilate when we see someone we love or someone we hate, so when you hate someone, they still have an effect on you physically, mentally and emotionally. It's better for your ex to think that you've forgotten about them than to think that you hate them. I've actually met a guy who was satisfied with the fact that his ex girlfriend still hated him, he said her hatred was proof that she was not over him yet. They later got back together but the bottom line is that when you harbour hatred for an ex, it means you're not over them completely.

You may never want to get back together with them, but they still have a strong effect on you and your mood, so try as much as possible to forget, not hate. Some people might hurt you so much that you can't even control your hatred for them, take all the time you need to heal from the pain, but don't make it obvious to them that you hate them, you don't have to put on a fake smile when you see them, just be civil, avoid sounding angry or bitter. *This is just my opinion, not a fact, do whatever you think is best for you*

Note: you should only do all this if you want to give your ex the impression that you've moved on, if you want to hash out the problems between you and your ex, there is no need to act like you don't care about them anymore but play it cool so you don't seem desperate. Also, if the issue that resulted in the breakup is a very serious one, it's better to discuss it and iron it out than to act like nothing happened.
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by seanchuks: 3:20pm On Jun 05, 2020
mhizgracie22:
"I'm better off without you", "I like the woman I'm becoming". Do these statements ring a bell? Many of us have come across quotes like this on WhatsApp, Facebook and so on. Whenever we see quotes like this, the first thing that comes to mind is that the individual who posted it, just got out of a relationship.

I find it funny that after a break up, most people try to prove that they're over their exes by posting motivational quotes like the ones above or memes aimed at making their exes feel uncomfortable. For example, a girl who just got out of a relationship with a stingy guy may constantly post memes condemning stingy guys on her WhatsApp status, hoping her ex will see it and feel bad. Or a girl who just got out of a relationship with a guy who constantly ignored her, may start posting motivational quotes like "Don't force yourself on anybody", "don't settle for less", "don't stay where you are not wanted" etc immediately after the breakup.

If you really want to give your ex the impression that you're over them, posting memes and motivational quotes is not the way. The best way to do that is to act like nothing happened, and that should also reflect in what you post on your WhatsApp status or anywhere else. Post normal stuff, don't post anything relating to breakups or relationships. When you constantly post motivational quotes after a breakup, it gives your ex the impression that you're still thinking about them and that you're still hurt. But when you act like nothing happened, it makes your ex wonder if they ever meant anything to you (I'm talking from experience).

You should also avoid making your ex feel that you hate them, scientists say that our pupils dilate when we see someone we love or someone we hate, so when you hate someone, they still have an effect on you physically, mentally and emotionally. It's better for your ex to think that you've forgotten about them than to think that you hate them. I've actually met a guy who was satisfied with the fact that his ex girlfriend still hated him, he said her hatred was proof that she was not over him yet. They later got back together but the bottom line is that when you harbour hatred for an ex, it means you're not over them completely.

You may never want to get back together with them, but they still have a strong effect on you and your mood, so try as much as possible to forget, not hate. Some people might hurt you so much that you can't even control your hatred for them, take all the time you need to heal from the pain, but don't make it obvious to them that you hate them, you don't have to put on a fake smile when you see them, just be civil, avoid sounding angry or bitter. *This is just my opinion, not a fact, do whatever you think is best for you*

Note: you should only do all this if you want to give your ex the impression that you've moved on, if you want to hash out the problems between you and your ex, there is no need to act like you don't care about them anymore but play it cool so you don't seem desperate. Also, if the issue that resulted in the breakup is a very serious one, it's better to discuss it and iron it out than to act like nothing happened.
what about then ladies going as far as blocking u from seeing their status on WhatsApp?
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Karleb(m): 3:22pm On Jun 05, 2020
In summary, the best way to move on is to move on!
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by rowland545(m): 3:24pm On Jun 05, 2020
mhizgracie22:
I'm a girl tho grin
its a lie....flash ur boobs let's confirm
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by okpalaAnambra: 3:27pm On Jun 05, 2020
geekybabe:
Leave everyone to handle their breakup the way they want.
If they wanna post motivational quotes, let them post. Finish. Keep your opinions to yourself and let women breathe..
Funny enough na your fellow woman open thread grin grin cheesy

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Keketu(m): 3:29pm On Jun 05, 2020
mhizgracie22:
thanks for reading wink
hi please good evening please pm me thanks
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Chrisjay1998(m): 3:32pm On Jun 05, 2020
Damn....Am really lost of words you really did hit the nail on the head girl

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Klass99(f): 3:32pm On Jun 05, 2020
Megaflex:
Me and my ex broke up last year April, i married this year April and she has been broken ever since. She calls me once in a while and we talk normally. She thought I was cheating on her with my present wife but I told her it's not like that. I met my wife September 1 and we're now married. She has a guy now and wish she didn't broke up with me because her guy no be am.

LESSON: Try to be patient in a relationship

But the speed with which you married wifey after you guys broke up, would make her think, wifey had been in the picture all along.

I'm curious though, what was the deciding factor for you in marrying your wife? As in, what made you decide this was the one, over your ex and all others?

You don't have to answer, but I would appreciate it if you did. Cos, I'm trying to understand how you men date one lady for a long time, then in the event of a breakup, you marry another lady in less than a year of dating her.

Is the second woman, whom you end up marrying usually a rebound for you guys? Like Wizywiz said in his post he married a woman he didn't love as much as he loved his ex.

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Elyse: 3:32pm On Jun 05, 2020
Wanting your ex to know you've "moved on" shows you still care.

If you have really done that, the thought of him/her wouldn't even cross your mind again. And even if it did, you will just smile and think of it as an old memory tongue

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Egoveen: 3:33pm On Jun 05, 2020
mhizgracie22:
I'm a girl tho grin
LOADS OF SENSE.....Educative i must say.

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by okpalaAnambra: 3:35pm On Jun 05, 2020
Tonalphs:
why keep their number in the first place? all those won't be needed if u cut all ties in the first place. mind you, no enmity. but I'm not just keeping ur number or fb details
That's extreme.. what happened to relating normally if need be..the person isn't an enemy
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by babatee90(m): 3:37pm On Jun 05, 2020
God bless you OP

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Wizywiz(m): 3:44pm On Jun 05, 2020
Klass99:


I once heard that men end up marrying the woman who was ready/available, not necessarily the one they truly loved.

You just reminded me of what I heard a very long time ago as a teenager. At the time I heard it, a family friend was newly wedded to a guy whom she was a rebound for, they are still together 10 or more years later.
yea bro most times it happens that way to some men
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Wizywiz(m): 3:46pm On Jun 05, 2020
akaahs:

Almost in d same shoes as U. Mine is now 5 years and still counting. She broke up with then because I wouldn't allow her manipulative tendency to marry her on the pretense of so many suitors who are more handsome and eager to give her what she wants. This is 5 years now, she has not marry and each time she meets my friend, she's always making them know am d one that broke up with her and never cares to check on her.
exactly bro...i never succumbed to her antics..like u said she also tell some persons am d one that broke up with her some end up asking me to hear my own side of d story

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Wizywiz(m): 3:47pm On Jun 05, 2020
murtalaa:
she probably just had another break-up and was shopping from old exes to see if she can rekindle old flame.
u are not far from d truth
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by TemmyT002(m): 3:50pm On Jun 05, 2020
mhizgracie22:
"I'm better off without you", "I like the woman I'm becoming". Do these statements ring a bell? Many of us have come across quotes like this on WhatsApp, Facebook and so on. Whenever we see quotes like this, the first thing that comes to mind is that the individual who posted it, just got out of a relationship.

I find it funny that after a break up, most people try to prove that they're over their exes by posting motivational quotes like the ones above or memes aimed at making their exes feel uncomfortable. For example, a girl who just got out of a relationship with a stingy guy may constantly post memes condemning stingy guys on her WhatsApp status, hoping her ex will see it and feel bad. Or a girl who just got out of a relationship with a guy who constantly ignored her, may start posting motivational quotes like "Don't force yourself on anybody", "don't settle for less", "don't stay where you are not wanted" etc immediately after the breakup.

If you really want to give your ex the impression that you're over them, posting memes and motivational quotes is not the way. The best way to do that is to act like nothing happened, and that should also reflect in what you post on your WhatsApp status or anywhere else. Post normal stuff, don't post anything relating to breakups or relationships. When you constantly post motivational quotes after a breakup, it gives your ex the impression that you're still thinking about them and that you're still hurt. But when you act like nothing happened, it makes your ex wonder if they ever meant anything to you (I'm talking from experience).

You should also avoid making your ex feel that you hate them, scientists say that our pupils dilate when we see someone we love or someone we hate, so when you hate someone, they still have an effect on you physically, mentally and emotionally. It's better for your ex to think that you've forgotten about them than to think that you hate them. I've actually met a guy who was satisfied with the fact that his ex girlfriend still hated him, he said her hatred was proof that she was not over him yet. They later got back together but the bottom line is that when you harbour hatred for an ex, it means you're not over them completely.

You may never want to get back together with them, but they still have a strong effect on you and your mood, so try as much as possible to forget, not hate. Some people might hurt you so much that you can't even control your hatred for them, take all the time you need to heal from the pain, but don't make it obvious to them that you hate them, you don't have to put on a fake smile when you see them, just be civil, avoid sounding angry or bitter. *This is just my opinion, not a fact, do whatever you think is best for you*

Note: you should only do all this if you want to give your ex the impression that you've moved on, if you want to hash out the problems between you and your ex, there is no need to act like you don't care about them anymore but play it cool so you don't seem desperate. Also, if the issue that resulted in the breakup is a very serious one, it's better to discuss it and iron it out than to act like nothing happened.

Nice one. Easier said than done though

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Perocom(m): 3:50pm On Jun 05, 2020
yyba:
may coronavirus and dangerous thunder locate my ex and her parents immediately . undecided undecided angry

Culprit spotted immediately
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by thesaint24(m): 3:51pm On Jun 05, 2020
This should make headlines on the dailies.
Brilliant and thought provoking piece!
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by SATANIIST: 3:52pm On Jun 05, 2020
Wizywiz:
honestly if she was a bit patient i would hav married her..i loved her so much then sad to say even more than d way i loved the woman that became my wife...but she was never patient enough..we only dated for a year plus
leave that think, u did not love her that much,, if you love someone that much, first, you wont be too stiff with your decision. secondly after breaking up, you will try to make up a few times till you are certain that she is really no more interested. just stop all the sermon and enjoy your marriage since you said you are married. you just destroyed a life. that is why i tell women to be careful who they give their heart to. some of these guys na fork them wan fork

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Yungmil: 3:52pm On Jun 05, 2020
I know the op will be a lady.



Women and careers sorry matters of the heart are ......5 and 6
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Wizywiz(m): 3:53pm On Jun 05, 2020
Otii4god:
You nko? You don marry bros? If you like dey dia b deceiving yourself, no marry d babe
guy this na my 3 years plus going to 4 years in marriage ooo d babe still single thats y she later they call they yarn dust...all the men she use threaten me never marry her yet..

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Wizywiz(m): 3:57pm On Jun 05, 2020
SATANIIST:
leave that think, u did not love her that much,, if you love someone that much, first, you wont be too stiff with your decision. secondly after breaking up, you will try to make up a few times till you are certain that she is really no more interested. just stop all the sermon and enjoy your marriage since you said you are married. you just destroyed a life. that is why i tell women to be careful who they give their heart to. some of these guys na fork them wan fork
guy i no get strenght to dey type because if i tell u what i went through in the hands of the babe u no go talk this kind thing...babe wey carry my heart dey play kpan kpan golo..she took my simplicity for granted bitching about all in d name of i dey find husband

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Rilwayne001: 3:59pm On Jun 05, 2020
Wizywiz:
she wasnt patient enough and the way she sounded when she called ..the vulgar words wey she use my brother ...the babe don wild oooo...she don turn something else...

Just be careful. There's nothing a desperate woman cannot do to get back at one. Stay safe away from her.

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Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by Acidosis(m): 3:59pm On Jun 05, 2020
geekybabe:
Leave everyone to handle their breakup the way they want.
If they wanna post motivational quotes, let them post. Finish. Keep your opinions to yourself and let women breathe..

grin grin
Re: Opinion: If You Really Want Your Ex To Know You've Moved On, Stop Doing This! by poweredcom(m): 4:04pm On Jun 05, 2020
Wizywiz:
Same thing i always, ignore and overlook..no calls no chats infact i delete everything about my ex ....i was surprise to see her call earlier this year..after 5 years telling me she wish me unfruitful marriage with my wife..that i wil never enjoy any woman except her that she loved me so much that i will come back to her that she is d only one made for me...imagine after 5 years...i taught she would hav been married by now..because of the way she carries herself then...i never altered a word while she was ranting..i only allowed her finish .then i replied thank you..takia...put off the call and blocked d number again...why hasnt she gotten over me?

This one na winch hahaha good for Dem that the best way to treat them

There is one giving me a tough time like this I just de look her she is pretending not to like me but am tired of her somehow because she has a bad character about men and she is a feminist

SATANIIST:
leave that think, u did not love her that much,, if you love someone that much, first, you wont be too stiff with your decision. secondly after breaking up, you will try to make up a few times till you are certain that she is really no more interested. just stop all the sermon and enjoy your marriage since you said you are married. you just destroyed a life. that is why i tell women to be careful who they give their heart to. some of these guys na fork them wan fork

Well said but remmeber these naija gals ain't got noting to offer to a struggling man and for them to cool down and concentrate on a guy that loves them they will tend to see the guy as an idiot and use him to play and while banging some other guy if she is a ho ..codedly o ..some will even chop you die

Omo naija gal me and Dem no fit de one house forever in marriage

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