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Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by obisite: 8:35am On Apr 11, 2020 |
... Just wondering, you must have been calm enough to handle this situation of urs, very obvious from your post. Taking time to reply every suggestion, every opinion... I think your parent has some faults too, they both need to sit down.. And have an imaginary replay of how they've been handling you Have you ever call their attention, possibly sit them down and express how you feel.. Cos you're gradually losing yourself, psychological, emotionally, mentally.. All these as result of the negative input by them... No parent would want see lose their biological child to any ill-situation. Seems you have cool relationship with your bro.. Sit him down too and express all this,, He might have a way to your parent I pray you get heal and out of this trauma. Lastly,, no matter how disturbing parent are,, we do need their prayers at one time or the other. Clear of the thought of disowning them... It worth asking for forgiveness... |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Futurejoy(f): 8:42am On Apr 11, 2020 |
Xone3:There is really no need to disown your family. |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Mariangeles(f): 9:24am On Apr 11, 2020 |
obisite: It doesn't mean she's faultless, or that her parents are solely at fault. It proves she's been yearning for attention, to be listened to and understood, which is not a bad thing. 3 Likes |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Xone3(f): 9:28am On Apr 11, 2020 |
obisite:Reasoning with them is not easy/possible. Every one tries to justify their action as right. if I talk to them today, they will change for the day and the next day they will get back to the former way. Your opinions don't matter. My elder brother is tired of the situation and doesn't want to talk about it. Younger one doesn't have a say. |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Acidosis(m): 9:43am On Apr 11, 2020 |
Xone3: Yes. You probably make fun of people for their mistakes; want everyone to agree with you; love arguments with colleagues and never willing to back down until you 'win'; never willing to say sorry when you make mistakes not because you can't say the 5-letter words but you hardly see yourself making mistakes. These are personality issues - Choleric. You may have problems securing and sustaining a relationship/marriage unless you find a very tolerating partner. Don't run away from your "problems" (parents). Even your child will come to condemn these traits if left unaddressed in the future. Forget any lie any man tells you about loving "strong women with independent mind." 4 Likes |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Xone3(f): 10:05am On Apr 11, 2020 |
Acidosis: I hardly make fun of people for their mistakes, I am more of a listener and I try to emphasize with people. I don't argue with my colleagues, I discuss and give points to back myself. I say sorry when I am wrong but I don't accept someone attacking me without genuine facts. I make mistakes and accept my flaws but don't over exaggerate it. I. Not perfect hence I don't expect people to be perfect. Thanks for your point though. I will keep working to get better at my flaws. 2 Likes |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Acidosis(m): 10:10am On Apr 11, 2020 |
Xone3: Alright. It's fine. My judgements were based on this; If something irks me it shows on my face especially when someone says something that I dont agree with |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Xone3(f): 10:20am On Apr 11, 2020 |
Acidosis: I am a blend of personality. Either of the two. Yes I usually found it hard to accept authority but I changed along the line because I found out I usually had conflicts with my boss. I really don't agree with the last statement in your post though.
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Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Acidosis(m): 10:38am On Apr 11, 2020 |
Xone3: Why don't you agree? |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by DeeMain(m): 11:22am On Apr 11, 2020 |
Xone3: Read your other posts on this thread. I believe strongly you need therapy. There is a history of abuse, dysfunction, fear and trauma in your childhood and you have embodied it though you are doing a good job of covering it up. If you don't handle it now, it will so mess you up mentally and your outcomes in life will show it including your relationships. The burdens you are covering can even mess your health up with time. You are reacting to life now from a place of subconscious pain, anger and resentment. Your reactions to your parents, relatives and to spirituality(to God) is not by the real you. The real you is buried beneath all that pain and fear and anger. You are angry at the world and angry with God, though your conscious mind might deny it. Stay away from your parents for now. Take responsibility for your own healing. No blaming or buck passing at this stage. Get a therapist. Get healed. Find your authentic self again. Forgive your parents as they are acting out of ignorance. If they knew better they would act better. Heal, forgive, then go back to them. The dynamics will change. Best wishes 5 Likes |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Nobody: 11:33am On Apr 11, 2020 |
Xone3: So. Bcoz of this small things, u Wana disown ur family.. It means u were never part of the family.. U r a bast**d. Many have seen more than this but never tot of wat u think |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Nobody: 11:34am On Apr 11, 2020 |
Xone3: If ur dad n ur mum don't understand u. Then they don't don't av a problem, it's u dt have a problem |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Xone3(f): 12:18pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
ProfDview1:I really don't blame you for being like this. At all. 1 Like |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Xone3(f): 12:19pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
DeeMain:Thank You. I appreciate. I am trying to get in touch with a psychologist for therapy. She is yet to get back. |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Nobody: 12:21pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
Xone3: Like how? I am. Honest with u. If both parents are seeing sumtin wrong with u, yes they are right.. Better amend ur ways b4 its too late |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Xone3(f): 12:27pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
ProfDview1:If both parents can't be pleased with whatever you do? It is my fault right? I prefer it gets late then. Every one has a breaking point and when they act out of it, they are bastards? You're the first person that will tell you me I am a bastard because everyone says I look like my father.�� |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Nobody: 12:35pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
[quote author=Xone3 post=88323466] If both parents can't be pleased with whatever you do? It is my fault right? I prefer it gets late then. Every one has a breaking point and when they act out of it, they are bastards? You're the first person that will tell you me I am a bastard because everyone says I look like my father.��[/QUOTE] SORRY Abt calling u a bastard but then, try listen to ur parents first 1 Like |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by crackland: 12:38pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
Xone3: You've got a response for everything and everyone, don't you? Lol 4 Likes |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Xone3(f): 12:44pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
crackland:Lolz, it is part of my job actually. |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by DeeMain(m): 1:12pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
Xone3: You are welcome. I am a therapist too just in case that doesn't work out. |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Xone3(f): 1:24pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
DeeMain:. Waoh!!! Will send you a request please. |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by DeeMain(m): 1:48pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
Xone3:Responded. 1 Like |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Xone3(f): 1:58pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
DeeMain:Seen, thanks 1 Like |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Candrevah: 3:37pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
Xone3: Thank your stars you even have a calm reasonable elder brother. Mine Is old man and the first 4 people are the real problem. Cowardice, Hypocritical, Unintelligent, Unwise and very Shortsighted people.... |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Noloss(f): 4:23pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
Xone3: Pls someone should tutor me ooo Do we have legal procedure to disown our parents, siblings or children? When I thought I've heard it all. |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by StrikeBack(m): 5:56pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
Stay away from them for atleast 3years. Anytime they need you just act busy but just stay away from them Min 3 Years |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Ferya(f): 9:45pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
Xone3: Hello Xone3, I can imagine the kind of emotional pain you are going through. Most especially from your family, friends and the abuse. It is not easy for you. Please, take a deep breathe and relax a bit. I pray you do not start having High BP so young. Please, everything will be okay. I will advise you to contact Dr. Yolanda N. George-David fondly known as Aunt Landa (if you reside in Lagos) Dr. Yolanda N. George-David is a Philanthropist, a Neurosurgeon with primary residency in Obstetrics and Gynaecology, a clinical & Relational Psychologist. She hosts a weekend radio show on 92.3 Inspiration FM SHARING LIFE ISSUES. My dear, she is really good and gives free therapy. Take it easy and all the best! Her contact details are: Tel: +2348074754380, +2348099111919, +2349070009111, 0700AUNTLANDA, Email Addresses: askauntlanda@gmail.com, aunt_landa@yahoo.com. https://auntlandabethelfoundation.org/ Twitter: @auntlanda Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/auntlanda |
Re: Disowning Family In Nigeria by Mariangeles(f): 10:36pm On Apr 11, 2020 |
Xone3: You see the value of family? Of having an identity? Of calling someone "my father" regardless of how he "gets on your nerves"? Of knowing someone you look like? NOT EVERYBODY HAS THAT! So, are you really sure you want to give all that up? If you were truly serious about disowning your parents, you wouldn't take offense with someone referring to you as a bastard. Humble yourself. Be grateful for what you have. Be thankful for the blessing of family. There are people out there without families to pass time with during this lockdown and are going insane from loneliness. Enjoy the moment with your family, you'll not always have them. The time you're guaranteed is now. These people telling that your parents are the problem, do you know how they live? If they've got families of their own? I'd rather be at fault and be with my family, than sever ties with them. Practice humility and see how things work out. Everything is worth giving up for peace. |
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