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Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by Rhozabeth(m): 10:02am On Apr 21, 2020
I wish to get Nairalanders advise on this relationship issue.

I have a friend who is more like my younger brother. We are close because we speak same language and he is a level,-headed guy.
This friend of mine is Yoruba (I am too) but has a girlfriend that is from Akwa Ibom whom he loves so much. The lady is a student. Although she started school when her mates have all graduated and are already working, but that notwithstanding, she still has the zeal to want to go to school.

This my friend supports the girl in every way he can, sometimes going out of his way to please her.

The issue is that the girl oftentimes will not pick her calls when with my friend, or sometimes steps out to pick her call or she speaks her language knowing vthat my friend does not understand the language. This girl has been caught once when my friend looked into her phone and saw all manners of messages between her and numerous men but she claimed they are just friends she met on Badoo. She begged and begged then that she doesn't have anything to do with those men.
Another thing is that the girl had told my friend about a married guy she dated before meeting him, according to her she stopped seeing the married guy immediately she met my friend because she loves my friend.

The suspicion now is that it looked so much like she is still seeing the married man or perhaps she is seeing other men. What I saw that gave me some concern was that we were all together recently and the girl just dashed out all of a sudden to go pick a call, the move was very suspicious. I just had to calm my friend down that day because he really wanted to explode that day.

If you were in my shoes what kind of advice would you give this my guy?

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Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by femmoy(m): 10:04am On Apr 21, 2020
embarassed

number one you are the person and not ur friend. you will not get my advice until you say the truth.

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Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by Oluromantic: 10:11am On Apr 21, 2020
Pre-rumored war no dey kill cripple weh wise..

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Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by Fidelismaria: 10:14am On Apr 21, 2020
grin





Your friend girlfriend is an OLOSHO
baddo is a mobile app for OLOSHOS
So she's an OLOSHO


So tell your friend to dump her ASAP cause he's simply a means to an end for the girl






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Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by elmagnifico411(m): 10:16am On Apr 21, 2020
Op, tell your guy to save himself while he still can.. going by what you’ve written, that girl is cheating. Badoo is not a site u just meet and talk to people only, it’s a dating site. I may be wrong oh, but most times, ladies u see on dating sites are the ones that are not into any serious relationship.

Another thing is, no matter how old and matured a student is, me cannot date one. Things would always happen behind.

Lastly, if her hands are clean, she wouldn’t be running out to take her calls. Most women are not good at hiding when they are cheating. Tell your guy to wise up.

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Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by MARX77(m): 10:21am On Apr 21, 2020
Permit me to list a few things

1. As a guy, dating a student is like having a chicken u rear and leaving your chicken to roam about, prepare to find it in someone's soup someday.

2. Guys that spend money UNNECESSARILY on students in the name of she's my girlfriend, hear this... Learn to make these girls EARN it, you WORKED for your money, stop giving it to undeserving girls...and for the ladies if by earn you think I mean sex, then ur brain is void of sense.

3. Sometimes Bleep second chances, people know exactly what they do.

4. If I dey date you and you dey ALWAYS run go answer call for outside, lol... One day you'd go outside to make call and I'd tell you not to bother coming in. Just GO from there, FOREVER.

5. it's Nigeria guys, too much forgiveness is now a sign of weakness, keep forgiving them for the same things over and over again cos u be deputy Jesus. On a good day, when they've run out of taste for you, they'd drop u like cloth when don fade. BE A MAN AND TAKE ACTION WHEN NEEDED.

My advice: Don't break up with her, just leave her for the relationship make she dey date herself. When she ready to settle down, tell her you didn't think she was serious about the relationship.

Brothers in the house, LET'S BE GUIDED. MAY WE NOT BE UNFORTUNATE.

**I'm out**
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by Ogilinsaka: 10:22am On Apr 21, 2020
You simps be dating and worshipping loose women.
Then you come here to ask questions like you already know
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by daddytime(m): 10:23am On Apr 21, 2020
The truth is, he is helping to train someone's fiancee or even wife through school.

If he's doing it for love's sake because he feels there's a future with her, i'd advice he gives himself a hot slap by gently refraining and save himself from any further surprises or heartbreak.

But if he feels he wants to learn the art of philanthropy through her, he can go on and not relent. God will reward him for being a blessing to someone else. grin

Praise the Lord.

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Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by Harrynight(m): 10:26am On Apr 21, 2020
femmoy:
embarassed

number one you are the person and not ur friend. you will not get my advice until you say the truth.

Why are u like this?

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Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by Rhozabeth(m): 10:27am On Apr 21, 2020
femmoy:
embarassed

number one you are the person and not ur friend. you will not get my advice until you say the truth.

Bros, am not a baby if it was me why would I come here and say my friend? Besides I am happily married but the guy is looking to marry the girl in question, so I intend to show him comments from here to save him the stress of marrying the wrong person!!!
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by Rhozabeth(m): 10:35am On Apr 21, 2020
daddytime:
You are obviously the person in question here, but it matters not if you admit so or not.

The truth is, you are helping to train someone's fiancee or even wife through school.

If you're going it for love's sake and you feel you have a future with her, gently refrain and save yourself any further surprises and heartbreak. But if you feel you want to learn the art of philanthropy through her, do not relent, continue and God will reward you. grin

Praise they Lord.
For the records it's not me! I certainly have no reason to say it's my friend when it's me! Secondly, I am happily married, this guy in question is more like my younger brother and I don't want to outrightly tell him the girl is bad news. Thirdly I would not date a girl that has so much secret or so many things to hide, the red flags are too many, I don't have that patience!

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Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by Rhozabeth(m): 10:37am On Apr 21, 2020
elmagnifico411:
Op, tell your guy to save himself while he still can.. going by what you’ve written, that girl is cheating. Badoo is not a site u just meet and talk to people only, it’s a dating site. I may be wrong oh, but most times, ladies u see on dating sites are the ones that are not into any serious relationship.

Another thing is, no matter how old and matured a student is, me cannot date one. Things would always happen behind.

Lastly, if her hands are clean, she wouldn’t be running out to take her calls. Most women are not good at hiding when they are cheating. Tell your guy to wise up.
Thanks for the advice sir.
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by Oluromantic: 10:37am On Apr 21, 2020
Fidelismaria:
grin





Your friend girlfriend is an OLOSHO
baddo is a mobile app for OLOSHOS
So she's an OLOSHO


So tell your friend to dump her ASAP cause he's simply a means to an end for the girl






No mind am. E get mind wan wife akwa ibom girl. Him no know who dem be? Some men dey take lifetime risk Sha.

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Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by Rhozabeth(m): 10:39am On Apr 21, 2020
Fidelismaria:
grin





Your friend girlfriend is an OLOSHO
baddo is a mobile app for OLOSHOS
So she's an OLOSHO


So tell your friend to dump her ASAP cause he's simply a means to an end for the girl







I appreciate ur comment sir.
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by Poseidon000: 11:07am On Apr 21, 2020
Well, going out to pick call is nothing. The call may be family issue that might be embarrassing if discussed openly, taken that you were with your friend(her boyfriend) when the call came in.

Conversely, If I should pretend to ingest the twaddle of an excuse she gave on the married man. Then I'll diagnose it as express indictment on her. See, you get to know a lot about people just looking at their past, because it tell you much about their propensity as a person. If she haven't got respect for marriage institution that is predicated on loyalty, how then do you expect loyalty from her, when she have lost her capacity for the sublime on fidelity.

Bro, it's inutile for me to also hammer on her misadventures on badoo. Isn't it overt like the sun? No matter how well you take care of a pig(not demeaning her, just using a convenient idiomatic expression), it will still run back to the murk at every given opportunity.

I really feel sorry for your friend, because people like him who are drunk in the delusion of love, are almost impossible to reason with until their whole world come crashing before their nose.

Nuff said

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Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by Rhozabeth(m): 11:38am On Apr 21, 2020
Poseidon000:
Well, going out to pick call is nothing. The call may be family issue that might be embarrassing if discussed openly, taken that you were with your friend(her boyfriend) when the call came in.

Conversely, If I should pretend to ingest the twaddle of an excuse she gave on the married man. Then I'll diagnose it as express indictment on her. See, you get to know a lot about people just looking at their past, because it tell you much about their propensity as a person. If she haven't got respect for marriage institution that is predicated on loyalty, how then do you expect loyalty from her, when she have lost her capacity for the sublime on fidelity.

Bro, it's inutile for me to also hammer on her misadventures on badoo. Isn't it overt like the sun? No matter how well you take care of a pig(not demeaning her, just using a convenient idiomatic expression), it will still run back to the murk at every given opportunity.

I really feel sorry for your friend, because people like him who are drunk in the delusion of love, are almost impossible to reason with until their whole world come crashing before their nose.

Nuff said



Very well said bro, thanks so much!
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by Rhozabeth(m): 11:43am On Apr 21, 2020
MARX77:
Permit me to list a few things

1. As a guy, dating a student is like having a chicken u rear and leaving your chicken to roam about, prepare to find it in someone's soup someday.

2. Guys that spend money UNNECESSARILY on students in the name of she's my girlfriend, hear this... Learn to make these girls EARN it, you WORKED for your money, stop giving it to undeserving girls...and for the ladies if by earn you think I mean sex, then ur brain is void of sense.

3. Sometimes Bleep second chances, people know exactly what they do.

4. If I dey date you and you dey ALWAYS run go answer call for outside, lol... One day you'd go outside to make call and I'd tell you not to bother coming in. Just GO from there, FOREVER.

5. it's Nigeria guys, too much forgiveness is now a sign of weakness, keep forgiving them for the same things over and over again cos u be deputy Jesus. On a good day, when they've run out of taste for you, they'd drop u like cloth when don fade. BE A MAN AND TAKE ACTION WHEN NEEDED.

My advice: Don't break up with her, just leave her for the relationship make she dey date herself. When she ready to settle down, tell her you didn't think she was serious about the relationship.

Brothers in the house, LET'S BE GUIDED. MAY WE NOT BE UNFORTUNATE.

**I'm out**

I say amen to that bro. Thanks for the comment.
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by StennyB(f): 1:18pm On Apr 21, 2020
Its better he let's her go cause she isn't ready to commit to one guy.

Had one roommate who told tall tales to the guy she was dating. At d same time she would invite different guys over to our apartment. Turns out she had like 2 boyfriends and many side guys lol but keeps on lying to everyone. I couldn't even stay in d apartment for long.
How many casual male friends can a girl have?

@op your friend should find someone else

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Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed by Rhozabeth(m): 10:49am On Apr 22, 2020
StennyB:
Its better he let's her go cause she isn't ready to commit to one guy.

Had one roommate who told tall tales to the guy she was dating. At d same time she would invite different guys over to our apartment. Turns out she had like 2 boyfriends and many side guys lol but keeps on lying to everyone. I couldn't even stay in d apartment for long.
How many casual male friends can a girl have?

@op your friend should find someone else
Thanks bro for the comment.

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