I'm a Jehovah's witness, I graduated from UNILAG in 2018. When I was in my final year, I started dating a non-jw guy who'd been my very good friend since I was in 100L, in fact we were best friends before we started dating.

I never intended to fall for a non-jw because I know that I can't marry one, but I couldn't help it, I guess we really can't choose who we fall in love with sometimes. We really love each other and he's ready to marry me, I'll be 24 next month. He's more than willing to marry me but I can't accept his proposal because my parents will never let me marry a non-witness and my fellow witnesses may see me as a bad person if I marry a non-jw because I'm a very devout member. Also, my dad is an elder in the congregation, a fellow witness told me that if I marry a non-jw, my father will no longer be an elder and he'll never forgive me for that.

I want to let him go and start a relationship with a Jehovah's witness but it's really hard. Also, he's not willing to convert to my religion because he thinks witnesses are too judgemental and hypocritical (we've argued about that before). I'm scared that if I break up with him because of religious differences and marry a JW guy I don't love, I won't have a happy marriage. I've always wanted to marry someone I really love, someone whom I can call my best friend. I don't want to be that girl who thinks about her ex while married to someone else.

We haven't had sex, he's been really supportive of my decision to abstain from premarital sex, that's what makes him even more appealing to me. Should I just let him go and try to fall in love with someone who practices the same religion as me? or should I hold on to him and find a way to make things work?

Lady do what you want and stop disturbing us

Imagine taking this religion to head and everything like you lack reasoning capability

These one go school but dem no learn anything.

Op, do anything wey you wan do. Na your life na.

It's 2020, and religion still tramples humanity.

You can't even follow your mind and let love wins. Go and meet your pastor to think for you.

hailey345:
I'm a Jehovah's witness, I graduated from UNILAG in 2018. When I was in my final year, I started dating a non-jw guy who'd been my very good friend since I was in 100L, in fact we were best friends before we started dating.

I never intended to fall for a non-jw because I know that I can't marry one, but I couldn't help it, I guess we really can't choose who we fall in love with sometimes. We really love each other and he's ready to marry me, I'll be 24 next month. He's more than willing to marry me but I can't accept his proposal because my parents will never let me marry a non-witness and my fellow witnesses may see me as a bad person if I marry a non-jw because I'm a very devout member. Also, my dad is an elder in the congregation, a fellow witness told me that if I marry a non-jw, my father will no longer be an elder and he'll never forgive me for that.

I want to let him go and start a relationship with a Jehovah's witness but it's really hard. Also, he's not willing to convert to my religion because he thinks witnesses are too judgemental and hypocritical (we've argued about that before). I'm scared that if I break up with him because of religious differences and marry a JW guy I don't love, I won't have a happy marriage. I've always wanted to marry someone I really love, someone whom I can call my best friend. I don't want to be that girl who thinks about her ex while married to someone else.

We haven't had sex, he's been really supportive of my decision to abstain from premarital sex, that's what makes him even more appealing to me. Should I just let him go and try to fall in love with someone who practices the same religion as me? or should I hold on to him and find a way to make things work?

You are responsible for your happiness and marriage

You got what you want yet religion wants to separate you from who you love

You are considering your father who was not even born in JW but grew to join them as his choice of place of worship

Well, if you reject him and couldn't get any one like him both in JW or outside it, blame yourself

You should be asking how to convince him to wed you in your church

The choice is yours

When the wrong one loves you right.. Lalalala

From your post above, I can see you really love this guy. My advice for you is to follow your heart cause the heart knows where it belongs.

As for your parents, tell them about that guy and let them see reason why you should marry that guy.

It's better to be with the one you love, than to be cheating on the one you don't love.

Typical Nigerian, we're first human before religion..your father won't be there when you and your JW husband start having issues because you don't love him. Everything for this naija na religion this religion that. People stop using thier senses when it comes to religious matters

hailey345:
I'm a Jehovah's witness, I graduated from UNILAG in 2018. When I was in my final year, I started dating a non-jw guy who'd been my very good friend since I was in 100L, in fact we were best friends before we started dating.

I never intended to fall for a non-jw because I know that I can't marry one, but I couldn't help it, I guess we really can't choose who we fall in love with sometimes. We really love each other and he's ready to marry me, I'll be 24 next month. He's more than willing to marry me but I can't accept his proposal because my parents will never let me marry a non-witness and my fellow witnesses may see me as a bad person if I marry a non-jw because I'm a very devout member. Also, my dad is an elder in the congregation, a fellow witness told me that if I marry a non-jw, my father will no longer be an elder and he'll never forgive me for that.

I want to let him go and start a relationship with a Jehovah's witness but it's really hard. Also, he's not willing to convert to my religion because he thinks witnesses are too judgemental and hypocritical (we've argued about that before). I'm scared that if I break up with him because of religious differences and marry a JW guy I don't love, I won't have a happy marriage. I've always wanted to marry someone I really love, someone whom I can call my best friend. I don't want to be that girl who thinks about her ex while married to someone else.

We haven't had sex, he's been really supportive of my decision to abstain from premarital sex, that's what makes him even more appealing to me. Should I just let him go and try to fall in love with someone who practices the same religion as me? or should I hold on to him and find a way to make things work?

Religion is overrated, fam. We're one under one God. God has no religion, blood.
I'm a Christian by birth but won't mind marrying a Muslim if I fall in LOVE with her.
Love is greater than religion, ok.

hailey345:
I'm a Jehovah's witness, I graduated from UNILAG in 2018. When I was in my final year, I started dating a non-jw guy who'd been my very good friend since I was in 100L, in fact we were best friends before we started dating.

I never intended to fall for a non-jw because I know that I can't marry one, but I couldn't help it, I guess we really can't choose who we fall in love with sometimes. We really love each other and he's ready to marry me, I'll be 24 next month. He's more than willing to marry me but I can't accept his proposal because my parents will never let me marry a non-witness and my fellow witnesses may see me as a bad person if I marry a non-jw because I'm a very devout member. Also, my dad is an elder in the congregation, a fellow witness told me that if I marry a non-jw, my father will no longer be an elder and he'll never forgive me for that.

I want to let him go and start a relationship with a Jehovah's witness but it's really hard. Also, he's not willing to convert to my religion because he thinks witnesses are too judgemental and hypocritical (we've argued about that before). I'm scared that if I break up with him because of religious differences and marry a JW guy I don't love, I won't have a happy marriage. I've always wanted to marry someone I really love, someone whom I can call my best friend. I don't want to be that girl who thinks about her ex while married to someone else.

We haven't had sex, he's been really supportive of my decision to abstain from premarital sex, that's what makes him even more appealing to me. Should I just let him go and try to fall in love with someone who practices the same religion as me? or should I hold on to him and find a way to make things work?

Go and date someone, you can marry..... If you don't marry him, would either of you die?.....

Religion is the opium of the people by Karl Marx. I pity Africa and it's inhabitants.

A graduate thinking and reasoning like this.

Jehovah witness , they are hypocritical.. they claim to be the best but they are worst. That's how my cousin ended up marrying a blind man. SMH..

You have to japa ASAP and stop wasting your time

Sometimes I wonder what kind of brain you girls have.


Firstly, love is just an emotion that can die down at anytime.

Ask yourself valuable questions about this guy, is he the right person? Forget love and focus on his traits. If he is good enough then forget whatever your parents want and go for him.

Just one mistake could ruin your entire life.

hailey345:
I'm a Jehovah's witness, I graduated from UNILAG in 2018. When I was in my final year, I started dating a non-jw guy who'd been my very good friend since I was in 100L, in fact we were best friends before we started dating.

I never intended to fall for a non-jw because I know that I can't marry one, but I couldn't help it, I guess we really can't choose who we fall in love with sometimes. We really love each other and he's ready to marry me, I'll be 24 next month. He's more than willing to marry me but I can't accept his proposal because my parents will never let me marry a non-witness and my fellow witnesses may see me as a bad person if I marry a non-jw because I'm a very devout member. Also, my dad is an elder in the congregation, a fellow witness told me that if I marry a non-jw, my father will no longer be an elder and he'll never forgive me for that.

I want to let him go and start a relationship with a Jehovah's witness but it's really hard. Also, he's not willing to convert to my religion because he thinks witnesses are too judgemental and hypocritical (we've argued about that before). I'm scared that if I break up with him because of religious differences and marry a JW guy I don't love, I won't have a happy marriage. I've always wanted to marry someone I really love, someone whom I can call my best friend. I don't want to be that girl who thinks about her ex while married to someone else.

We haven't had sex, he's been really supportive of my decision to abstain from premarital sex, that's what makes him even more appealing to me. Should I just let him go and try to fall in love with someone who practices the same religion as me? or should I hold on to him and find a way to make things work?

I am doubting the efficacy that you are true a Jehovah witness.

it is either you are not an active member or you got carried away.

nevertheless I would advice you for your health cut him off.it is not worth the risk.

We know how it works. First disfellowshipping and no one wants to despised by their family and your dad will be deleted from the elder and he’ll not be pleased. I just broke up with someone who’s a non-Jw too. Happiness matters most. It’s MOL..sister

The guy should dump your sorry ass