stuffs4me:


Read what the OP typed in his story and you'll find out that he is just a factory worker with HND while the girl has first degree and a masters and works in a big organisation in Lagos.

Habba! The two of them no be mate na. If not for NYSC, they would never have met at that kind of social level.

The OP sounds to me like a gold digger. that wants to use the girl to escape poverty and the lady's dad was wise to his conny tricks

landmark86:
I graduated from Osun State Polytechnic, Iree.
She also graduated from Babcock University.

We both met in 2015 during our NYSC at River State. We serve in the same PPA. She is good, lovely and caring. And to crown it all she is beautiful. I mean so beautiful.

It all started with friendship which later led to relationship. We share so many things together during our time in River State as per what the future holds.

After our NYSC, we both went back to our various base. She is based in Lagos while I reside in Osun. Immediate I finished my NYSC, I got a job with a private organisation as a factory supervisor. But she went further for her Masters in Covenant University, Otta. Despite the distance we still communicate from time to time and at times I do find time to check on her in Otta, while she also do check on me in Osogbo.

After her M.sc, her dad got her a job with a big company in Lagos.

Last year December she came to Osogbo as usual to check on me but fortunately she met my parents and my siblings at my place. They all love and accept her. When she was leaving the next day she told me that her parents told her that they want to meet her fiancé.

12th January, 2020 I travelled down to Lagos to meet her parents. When getting there I met her parents with her only sister. Her dad ask of my parents, state, my qualification and what I do for a living. I told him and immediately he stood up and told me he will never allow his daughter to marry an HND holder.

He said he can't send his daughter to a university & end up marry an HND holder. Never!!! Though my gal is not in support of that, even ever since that time till now she's not her self in that house.
I truly love her and I know she truly love me too. But her parents is the major concern.
Should I call it quit?

Please your advise is needed, what should I do?

Ybaby:


I have a son in Covenant University and happily married.
What future ?
The poster is not showing signs that he is building a future.... he is waiting for a good samaritan or a rich man daughter ?
Which potential ? 5 years and no potential is sprouting.
Anyone can change but until then....
Poster needs to buckle up.... if he does not give your sister to him biko.... the man said NO

Akalia:
your response to that delusional university slowpoke who thinks he is superior to poly graduates cuts it for me. I hate to come across people riding on their high horses when in reality the are empty scumbags- no top money, no connects, no notable achievement, no gift or talent; just a hollow skull and a loose tongue.

Forget the messed up educational system we operate here in Nigeria coupled with unpopular government policies. The university tertiary system is not supposed to be superior to that of the polytechnic, at least that's what's obtainable in saner climes.

Both systems are totally different and most importantly complement each other.

carpdiemz:


Don’t mind him that’s why I shut him up , such a kid.

menix:


Is a HND graduate an illiterate

Wonders won't end oo!!

To answer that thing u scribbled up there;
Do u know ow many igbo millionaire nd billionaire traders that are married to professionals

pasol4real:

Am glad you have a son n I hope he has a mind of his own. So you don’t poison him with your class mentality
The class mentality has ruined a lot of unions.

humilitypays:
lol, when it comes to lifestyle, Nigerian lecturers live the most stupid and dirty lifestyle; they collect bribe from students as sorting to pass them or upgrade their exam result grade.


They sleep with female students to pass them or upgrade them.

They sell poorly written copy and paste handouts and nonsense textbook at outrageous price to meet up with their dream financial life they thought lecturing would provide for them.


They join small boys in foolish school cult and also do jazz to protect themselves from students they maltreat, fail and sleep with.


So what nonsense lifestyle are you talking about here Lilian


Lecturing in Nigeria is a yeye work, Teachers are more respected and dignified than lecturers, so you better aspire to become a teacher than a lecturer if you want to live a modest life.


Go back and read my edited comment you quoted, I have friends and course mates who are now lecturers, so I know

Thiwalade:


Why do you judge success in life on money? Young man, footballers can pay lecturers or researchers in many fold but that doesn't mean they aren't successful. If academia should choose to chase money, many of you will not have anything to build on. The phone you're using is a product of research of some people. That you can pay my salary doesn't mean you're more successful than I am. If success is based on money, Jesus Christ and many other people we still hear about today will not be heard of. In your own eyes, dangote is more successful than wole soyinka right? Nobody goes into academics with the aim of making millions. We chose it because we love knowledge and wish to improve human life. Look at you all running into your houses while these same researchers are finding cure for the virus. Why can't your money buy you the cure? Get real education and know we are all special in our different ways. You're probably just jealous.

Note# there's always going to be the richest man in every generation but those with influence live long in human hearts through history.

KenModi:


I never said a HND graduate is an illiterate. Don’t twist my words.

To answer that thing you scribbled up there; Yes they may be married to them but do you know what happens in their homes. Or you are fooled by the smiles and nice clothes?

Both are on different wave lengths in terms of reasoning and seeing the world; there would always be serious trouble at some point.

Ybaby:


You accuse me of class mentality but it is you and the poster trying to escape your class through marriage to a wealthy man's daughter rather than through the sweat of a hardworking man.

My son has a hardworking father and he has stepped into his father's shoes. When he is ready to marry - he is swinging in royal swagger to his father in law's house as a catch not as a pity me sir.

Good day to you too

tarantino1:


I agree with your setiments about the purpose of going to academia. I even had plans to go into it, but the attitude of my lectures with the exception of three or four in my Dept made me realize that it is not a noble profession as you paint it, at least here in Nigeria.

The extortion of students for a wide variety of things that should be their job is alarming. It is fast becoming one of the least respectable professions in the country.

pasol4real:

Hmmm, ignorance is a disease
For ur info by all standards I could be referred to as an elite , but that’s no reason for me to be elitist or discriminatory in nature. I was well brought up by my parents,so I was taught to look out for potentials n not already made that might crumble in few years to come. That you are wealthy today is no guarantee you will be wealthy tomorrow, only ppl with potentials will keep going n a wise father knows this.
I pity some of you with this so called” royalty” mentality, going about n causing unhappiness for your children in their marriages, all because of your wanton greed n insatiable quest for a royal or class match.
My elder sister , a graduate of Harvard got married to an ssce holder. A lot of ppl including my mom were against their union , but my dad , after interviewing him saw a lot of potentials in the guy n sanctioned the marriage. Today this guy is well educated n a very very successful business man( one of the biggest Mtn agents in the country). Am not saying you should settle for less no, look out for potentials irrespective of the class the person belongs to .
Thanks .

Ybaby:


I honestly appreciate your advice but the answer is still NO! and the girl's father too said NO!!!!

NO!!!! keep the potential.....

menix:


When u re guessing of others marital life, pls keep shut nd keep moving...

KenModi:


You are the one thinking I am guessing fool!

I have seen my illiterate Igbo neighbour beat his educated wife to stupor because of petty issues.

So you keep shut and keep moving idiiot!

pasol4real:

The girl’s father took a wrong decision n will surely regret it.
My prayer for you is to have a re think and change your disposition, so you don’t later regret.
Mark my words you will remember me in the future......

Ybaby:


Joker!
Prophet of regret. Are you in charge of regret sharing...afi mark my words noh.... you have no such powers!!!!

Are you a comedian or a manipulator ?? The only regret is taking a gamble on a man who after 5 years of meeting a lady higher than him educationally as done nothing to bring himself at par.

You cannot brainwash me or the man. The answer is No! Find your class mate.... Leave social climbing for women.

KenModi:


I never said a HND graduate is an illiterate. Don’t twist my words.

To answer that thing you scribbled up there; Yes they may be married to them but do you know what happens in their homes. Or you are fooled by the smiles and nice clothes?

Both are on different wave lengths in terms of reasoning and seeing the world; there would always be serious trouble at some point.

pasol4real:

This guy is so funny
So because one has an msc n the other hnd they must reason n see the world differently....
Am sure you are a graduate but see how you are reasoning like a primary school certificate holder...
Thats exactly my point ... your level of certification has nothing to do with your reasoning....

menix:


Lil child keep ranting..

pasol4real:

I’ve said my piece
They that have ears let them hear.....

Ybaby:


You have no powers to predict the future.

You have power to get a University degree though....looooool

Blooo-oody manipulator. Use those tricks to fight poverty social climber.

pasol4real:

Lol
You are just a lost soul, reasoning with you is a sheer waste of my precious time
I just pity your son if he chooses to go your way.....
Pride has really finished you......
University degree? Lol
If u know who uve bin opportuned to interact with
You wil do a thanksgiving.

ihejirika:
Guy I also found myself in thesame situation when i met my wife. We fell in love and was planning for the future. But her father was a proff in the university and she is a BSc holder. As usual her father rejected me on the fact that am a HND holder. But my wife then insisted that i must be me and she moved out of the fathers house and move into mine and told the family that when they are ready they know where to find her. The father had no choice that to give his blessing. But one good thing then was that everyone in her house was in support except the father and also i had a very solid job paying in 7 figures. My dear after that experience i vowed to equal the father in academic level. Today i have 2 Masters. About starting PhD. And today the father doesn't joke with me.
So my dear....it all depends on 2 things. Ur girl and the weight of your bank account.

Ningen:
Are you implying he rather gives his blessings to a poor and jobless degree holder than to a rich and successful school dropout?

You are totally naive to believe it's all about your educational background, its your Bank Account!



Your options —

1. She can find her voice and convince her dad that you are success and marriage material.

2. You can go back to school for a degree.

3. Elope together without his blessing.

4. Get rich quick, google 'Robbin Banks' for tips.

5. Quit and move on. ( Preferred option!!)