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Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Smkinhawt(f): 9:22pm On May 06, 2020
Hello nairalanders

I struggle to type this. Recently I do not know what went wrong in the relationship with my lover. All of a sudden, he stopped replying my texts frequently. He Stopped giving me long replies and hardly messages me unlike before. I tried to ignore it because I felt he was passing through something he does not want to share with me. I know it might sound awkward. He hardly tells me what is bothering him. Yet I asked him what was wrong but he did not tell. This makes me sick and sometimes I feel useless in his life. Maybe I should move on. I can not continue like this anymore. These days I am unproductive. I need someone to talk to. I am tired of being shadowed and ignored. I can stay without a man in my life but I really want a friend to pour my heart to. Someone that shares talks with me and vice versa. I do not want a sexual relationship either. Does anybody get me?
Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by MOnkeyBabe(f): 9:27pm On May 06, 2020
Smkinhawt:
Hello nairalanders

I struggle to type this. Recently I do not know what went wrong in the relationship with my lover. All of a sudden, he stopped replying my texts frequently. He Stopped giving me long replies and hardly messages me unlike before. I tried to ignore it because I felt he was passing through something he does not want to share with me. I know it might sound awkward. He hardly tells me what is bothering him. Yet I asked him what was wrong but he did not tell. This makes me sick and sometimes I feel useless in his life. Maybe I should move on. I can not continue like this anymore. These days I am unproductive. I need someone to talk to. I am tired of being shadowed and ignored. I can stay without a man in my life but I really want a friend to pour my heart to. Someone that shares talks with me and vice versa. I do not want a sexual relationship either. Does anybody get me?
we are GOing through the Same thing, lOve.
Stay STRONG

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Smkinhawt(f): 9:29pm On May 06, 2020
MOnkeyBabe:
we are GOing through the Same thing, lOve.
Stay STRONG

Why do men behave like that?
Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Frankicent(m): 9:34pm On May 06, 2020
Lol.. It sound easy for you. Do you know that most guys will never ever tell a woman there problem? Do you?


Because most women are can't handle issue.. If he tells you his having academic issue, financial issue, mental issue and so on.. You no go japa ni?

Abeg it's best he doesn't tell you anything.

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by XhosaNostra(f): 9:41pm On May 06, 2020
Most guys are like that. Some do it to try make you chase them- playing games. It's predictable & boring, tbh. Too draining. Just cut him loose if he's not on the same page with you as far as communication is concerned. It'll save you a whole lot of stress.

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Smkinhawt(f): 9:44pm On May 06, 2020
XhosaNostra:
Most guys are like that. Some do it to try make you chase them- playing games. It's predictable & boring, tbh. Too draining. Just cut him loose if he's not on the same page with you as far as communication is concerned. It'll save you a whole lot of stress.

Thanks a lot

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by OBONGDON(m): 9:46pm On May 06, 2020
Hit me up, let's talk... You can always reachout to me 09070220861

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Starz825(m): 9:47pm On May 06, 2020
Smkinhawt:
Hello nairalanders

I struggle to type this. Recently I do not know what went wrong in the relationship with my lover. All of a sudden, he stopped replying my texts frequently. He Stopped giving me long replies and hardly messages me unlike before. I tried to ignore it because I felt he was passing through something he does not want to share with me. I know it might sound awkward. He hardly tells me what is bothering him. Yet I asked him what was wrong but he did not tell. This makes me sick and sometimes I feel useless in his life. Maybe I should move on. I can not continue like this anymore. These days I am unproductive. I need someone to talk to. I am tired of being shadowed and ignored. I can stay without a man in my life but I really want a friend to pour my heart to. Someone that shares talks with me and vice versa. I do not want a sexual relationship either. Does anybody get me?
U want somebody to talk to?....
Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by MedicH: 9:47pm On May 06, 2020
One of the best things you can give anyone is not to take from them. Now from what i can see you are just useless in his life and to make matters worse you want to drain him by asking endless "what is wrong ".

What u have to do is give him space, stop texting or calling just let him be. He is going through some phases and there's just nothing u can do to help and you won't be doing him any favour by draining him.

Communication is the key in a relationship is one bullshit every one says not minding that communication is draining and even worse when one party expects nothing useful from the other.

I know very much how it's like. If he thinks you're important in his life, i don't know how, he will text u right back or call. If he doesn't think so then show is over. Pick a book on crypto economy and read.

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by bestabigaelever(f): 9:48pm On May 06, 2020
Let him go and ignore him completely,he will come back if he is yours
As for not seeing someone to talk to, talk to your family I mean since you don't want any sexual relationship
My mummy and brother are my best friends and one old woman in front of my hostel

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Ecbatana: 9:48pm On May 06, 2020
Maybe another girl has jazzed him..

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by traihit: 9:52pm On May 06, 2020
Letting go is a skill anyone going into relationship must imbibe. We deal with humans and we don't have any control over their minds, even if we do, we won't really enjoy that. What they saw in you that made you desirable to them may be seen in another with a better version, only marriage used to be an insurance against that and even marriage itself is plagued with challenges.
Dear op, you'll overcome this. Just try and be strong and hold on to your lesson. Love and commitment must always go hand-in-hand with the ability to let go. Don't turn against men because you don't know the one that'll be ready to give you his head if you asked for it. But understand that you can't control people's minds but you can control yours.

As for your lover, don't be the one to call it quit because of the reason he gave. You can try by giving him space but the steps to be taken will reveal themselves to you in time.

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Allaboutkatiee(f): 9:54pm On May 06, 2020
Smkinhawt:
Hello nairalanders

I struggle to type this. Recently I do not know what went wrong in the relationship with my lover. All of a sudden, he stopped replying my texts frequently. He Stopped giving me long replies and hardly messages me unlike before. I tried to ignore it because I felt he was passing through something he does not want to share with me. I know it might sound awkward. He hardly tells me what is bothering him. Yet I asked him what was wrong but he did not tell. This makes me sick and sometimes I feel useless in his life. Maybe I should move on. I can not continue like this anymore. These days I am unproductive. I need someone to talk to. I am tired of being shadowed and ignored. I can stay without a man in my life but I really want a friend to pour my heart to. Someone that shares talks with me and vice versa. I do not want a sexual relationship either. Does anybody get me?

You need to get the message love
He's trying to move on
I guess you should too.

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Offpoint: 9:54pm On May 06, 2020
Would have to talk to you since you need someone to talk to, but I have a lot of people I'm currently talking to right nowgrin

Download Talking Angela from Playstore, it'll help.

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Jgoldie: 9:55pm On May 06, 2020
God knows I put any matter about guys on my neck not on my head so that when the time comes I will just shake it off.

No guy,I mean no guy can give me emotional issues Biko.if you act funny,I will act funnier.

I told one guy like that I like him and he started giving me attitude,when I ignored him and kept my likeness to myself for like 2 weeks,he came back to his senses but by then my mind don comot from the guy body

I can’t come and kill myself oo

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by MOnkeyBabe(f): 9:58pm On May 06, 2020
Smkinhawt:


Why do men behave like that?
I wonder o. They say they aren't as emotional as women +ego. I take am as I see am o. Just PRayinG to God to make things anew BeCause I know my feelings are Genuine. This is After becoming BORnAGain. I'm not a ReliGious BiGOt though. Let me explain it as being or becoming a more loving PeRSOn.
When you Really love someone, it's CRaZy. You Don't mind the one way communication and Can't help it. Want to get mad at them but the holy sPiRit corRRrects you. It stands the test of time. You Do not want to Be with any other man no matter how pooR they may be. God Shows you a lot of things about them. Feel you have been with them before etc.
Don't mind my typing jaRe. Just havnfun wink smiley cheesy cool undecided

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Offpoint: 9:59pm On May 06, 2020
Jgoldie:
God knows I put any matter about guys on my neck not on my head so that when the time comes I will just shake it off.

No guy,I mean no guy can give me emotional issues Biko.if you act funny,I will act funnier.

I told one guy like that I like him and he started giving me attitude,when I ignored him and kept my likeness to myself for like 2 weeks,he came back to his senses but by then my mind don comot from the guy body

I can’t come and kill myself oo
I like you, how can I impregnate you please?

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by iLegendd(m): 10:00pm On May 06, 2020
Nice post. Keep it up.
Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by iLegendd(m): 10:01pm On May 06, 2020
XhosaNostra:
Most guys are like that. Some do it to try make you chase them- playing games. It's predictable & boring, tbh. Too draining. Just cut him loose if he's not on the same page with you as far as communication is concerned. It'll save you a whole lot of stress.

Pay us.

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by DCmonster: 10:05pm On May 06, 2020
Smkinhawt:
Hello nairalanders

I struggle to type this. Recently I do not know what went wrong in the relationship with my lover. All of a sudden, he stopped replying my texts frequently. He Stopped giving me long replies and hardly messages me unlike before. I tried to ignore it because I felt he was passing through something he does not want to share with me. I know it might sound awkward. He hardly tells me what is bothering him. Yet I asked him what was wrong but he did not tell. This makes me sick and sometimes I feel useless in his life. Maybe I should move on. I can not continue like this anymore. These days I am unproductive. I need someone to talk to. I am tired of being shadowed and ignored. I can stay without a man in my life but I really want a friend to pour my heart to. Someone that shares talks with me and vice versa. I do not want a sexual relationship either. Does anybody get me?
Depression is gradually catching up on your fat ass, seek for help ASAP before it's too late. You need a SHRINK, not NAIRALANDERS.
Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by XhosaNostra(f): 10:06pm On May 06, 2020

Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by yomi007k(m): 10:06pm On May 06, 2020
XhosaNostra:
Most guys are like that. Some do it to try make you chase them- playing games. It's predictable & boring, tbh. Too draining. Just cut him loose if he's not on the same page with you as far as communication is concerned. It'll save you a whole lot of stress.

What if he is having issues at work? The economic situation is not friendly as most businesses have been affected. Even educational institutions have halted , dreams have been cut short.

We need to be empathetic sometimes.
Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by iLegendd(m): 10:09pm On May 06, 2020
XhosaNostra:



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I'm sending my account details.
Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Smkinhawt(f): 10:24pm On May 06, 2020
MOnkeyBabe:
I wonder o. They say they aren't as emotional as women +ego. I take am as I see am o. Just PRayinG to God to make things anew BeCause I know my feelings are Genuine. This is After becoming BORnAGain. I'm not a ReliGious BiGOt though. Let me explain it as being or becoming a more loving PeRSOn.
When you Really love someone, it's CRaZy. You Don't mind the one way communication and Can't help it. Want to get mad at them but the holy sPiRit corRRrects you. It stands the test of time. You Do not want to Be with any other man no matter how pooR they may be. God Shows you a lot of things about them. Feel you have been with them before etc.
Don't mind my typing jaRe. Just havnfun wink smiley cheesy cool undecided

Lovely

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Smkinhawt(f): 10:25pm On May 06, 2020
traihit:
Letting go is a skill anyone going into relationship must imbibe. We deal with humans and we don't have any control over their minds, even if we do, we won't really enjoy that. What they saw in you that made you desirable to them may be seen in another with a better version, only marriage used to be an insurance against that and even marriage itself is plagued with challenges.
Dear op, you'll overcome this. Just try and be strong and hold on to your lesson. Love and commitment must always go hand-in-hand with the ability to let go. Don't turn against men because you don't know the one that'll be ready to give you his head if you asked for it. But understand that you can't control people's minds but you can control yours.

As for your lover, don't be the one to call it quit because of the reason he gave. You can try by giving him space but the steps to be taken will reveal themselves to you in time.

Okay. ��
Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Jaqenhghar: 10:27pm On May 06, 2020
Frankicent:
Lol.. It sound easy for you. Do you know that most guys will never ever tell a woman there problem? Do you?


Because most women are can't handle issue.. If he tells you his having academic issue, financial issue, mental issue and so on.. You no go japa ni?

Abeg it's best he doesn't tell you anything.
If he doesnt say anything and keeps behaving this way she wil still run so why not open up and let it be off your chest

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Smkinhawt(f): 10:30pm On May 06, 2020
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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Smkinhawt(f): 10:31pm On May 06, 2020
yomi007k:


What if he is having issues at work? The economic situation is not friendly as most businesses have been affected. Even educational institutions have halted , dreams have been cut short.

We need to be empathetic sometimes.

At least talk to me. At least tell me 'babe, I need some space.'
Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Smkinhawt(f): 10:32pm On May 06, 2020
DCmonster:
Depression is gradually catching up on your fat ass, seek for help ASAP before it's too late. You need a SHRINK, not NAIRALANDERS.

I am not getting depressed, thank you.
Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by Smkinhawt(f): 10:33pm On May 06, 2020
traihit:
Letting go is a skill anyone going into relationship must imbibe. We deal with humans and we don't have any control over their minds, even if we do, we won't really enjoy that. What they saw in you that made you desirable to them may be seen in another with a better version, only marriage used to be an insurance against that and even marriage itself is plagued with challenges.
Dear op, you'll overcome this. Just try and be strong and hold on to your lesson. Love and commitment must always go hand-in-hand with the ability to let go. Don't turn against men because you don't know the one that'll be ready to give you his head if you asked for it. But understand that you can't control people's minds but you can control yours.

As for your lover, don't be the one to call it quit because of the reason he gave. You can try by giving him space but the steps to be taken will reveal themselves to you in time.

Thank u for this advice
Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by yomi007k(m): 10:34pm On May 06, 2020
Smkinhawt:


At least talked to me. At least tell me 'babe, I need some space.'

Sorry about that.

I do the same to my girl alot because I don't want to stress her with my issues but last week i was able to open up a bit to her after she started making troubles.

Some guys are like that. Forgive us.

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Re: Am Getting Mentally Weak, I Need Help by XhosaNostra(f): 10:38pm On May 06, 2020
yomi007k:


What if he is having issues at work? The economic situation is not friendly as most businesses have been affected. Even educational institutions have halted , dreams have been cut short.

We need to be empathetic sometimes.


It's a slippery slope because he could also be a game player who's not worthy of any sympathy.
If he's going through "stuff", then shouldn't she be his place of comfort as his partner, even if he's not spilling out his guts to her in the process? Radio silence just make it seem like you don't matter much in someone's life & imo, should be met with the kind of disdain it deserves.

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