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Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Nobody: 12:38am On May 10, 2020
I got on reddit and found this nice thread.
-The thing is society regards showing emotions as a non masculine thing however this guy brought up the opinion that MEN don't hide emotions because of their "masculanity" but because "no one cares".-

Here are the OP's statement;

"Women are given support systems for their depression, they have systems in place and people are much more prone to be sympathetic to women and don't want to see a woman suffering, people want to help and show they are not alone.

But for men we are alone, not because of the traditional view that men cannot show weakness, but the biggest reason is no one cares. People don't just not care they distance themselves from you. Men and women will just walk away or show a miniscule amount of compassion. Men know that expressing our depression or darker thoughts is a terrible idea because it will make matters worse, not better, and blaming toxic masculinity is nothing short of victim blaming.

There is this modern trend that traditional gender roles cause men not to talk about this and that gender is a useless construct, but this is far from true. Its because most of us know if we come forward with our issues, the people around us and society at large will largely shun us. Therefore we bottle it in and deal with it by ourselves, not because we are afraid of not looking like "real men" but because we know we are alone in this struggle and if we open up we will lose so, so much.

y but because "no one cares" Women are given support systems for their depression, they have systems in place and people are much more prone to be sympathetic to women and don't want to see a woman suffering, people want to help and show they are not alone.

But for men we are alone, not because of the traditional view that men cannot show weakness, but the biggest reason is no one cares. People don't just not care they distance themselves from you. Men and women will just walk away or show a miniscule amount of compassion. Men know that expressing our depression or darker thoughts is a terrible idea because it will make matters worse, not better, and blaming toxic masculinity is nothing short of victim blaming.

There is this modern trend that traditional gender roles cause men not to talk about this and that gender is a useless construct, but this is far from true. Its because most of us know if we come forward with our issues, the people around us and society at large will largely shun us. Therefore we bottle it in and deal with it by ourselves, not because we are afraid of not looking like "real men" but because we know we are alone in this struggle and if we open up we will lose so, so much."


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Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Nobody: 12:50am On May 10, 2020
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Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by TheSourcerer: 12:54am On May 10, 2020
Enjoyingvthe topic , sucidal people, it's true the world really don't care for men , all attention is focus on the girl child , the girl,the ladies the women and the Mothers , it's very unfair and unkind

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Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Nobody: 12:57am On May 10, 2020
"Everyone here should shoot a text or call to one of their guy friends/brother/cousin/uncle/dad and just check up on them. Make sure they’re doing alright and not just a “hey what’s up, you good?, okay cool peace” actually make sure they’re doin alright especially nowadays. Mental health is a motherfucker and if by being a friend and listening for 5-10 mins helps then it’s the least we should do"

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Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Nobody: 1:02am On May 10, 2020
Guys, what are your opinions on this?
Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by madone: 1:16am On May 10, 2020
summarize mbok
Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Nobody: 1:21am On May 10, 2020
TheSourcerer:
Enjoyingvthe topic , sucidal people, it's true the world really don't care for men , all attention is focus on the girl child , the girl,the ladies the women and the Mothers , it's very unfair and unkind
Exactly man, we go through the same shit women go through but for some stupid " toxic masculinity " BULLSHIT, we're supposed to hide all of these and stay suffering while women cry about it and get all the attention. And some woman on this forum even made a joke about our SUICIDE RATE being so high because we're "WEAK" smh

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Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Nobody: 1:24am On May 10, 2020
madone:
summarize mbok
Is it that hard to read this? Wouldn't take five minutes of your time smh
Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by TheSourcerer: 1:28am On May 10, 2020
Weebo:

Exactly man, we go through the same shit women go through but for some stupid " toxic masculinity " BULLSHIT, we're supposed to hide all of these and stay strong while women cry about it and get all the attention. And some woman on this forum even made a joke about our SUICIDE RATE being so high because we're "WEAK" smh
come to think of it how is it a man's world? They literally get the juicy part Everytime
Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Nobody: 2:02am On May 10, 2020
TheSourcerer:
come to think of it how is it a man's world? They literally get the juicy part Everytime
Clearly it's not. It is not by any means. We are discriminated against in the system. In western countrys we are discriminated against in divorce, education.
We are discriminated against in society, and held to ridiculous standards and have ridiculous pressures that women seem not to believe in.

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Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Tajbol4splend(m): 6:40am On May 10, 2020
When you read and digest Reno Omoikire post, you will just start bullshitting
Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by TheSourcerer: 7:05am On May 10, 2020
Weebo:

Clearly it's not. It is not by any means. We are discriminated against in the system. In western countrys we are discriminated against in divorce, education.
We are discriminated against in society, and held to ridiculous standards and have ridiculous pressures that women seem not to believe in.
what do we do individually , is there nothing that can be done to cushion this new sadly found knowledge?
Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Ekemeze: 7:17am On May 10, 2020
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Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Ekemeze: 7:22am On May 10, 2020
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Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by James4bright(m): 8:24am On May 10, 2020
I think men lately are getting to emotional. Not trying to make us look bad though. It's an estrogen era.

Our forefathers weren't going through the mental depression a good number of men go through now. They were strong, fierce and independent.

That's why an African American would always be able to deal with the shittiest moment better than this white folks.

Anxiety and depression is a mental illness that comes as a result of lack of serotonin and some times a decline in a man testosterone level. If these men eat healthy, work out often, focus on their careers and read good books then they won't be suicidal.

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Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Kingarthur21: 8:58am On May 10, 2020
Feminists,manginas,white knights et Al blame men for women's problem and blame men for men's problem still. Any burden a Man suffers is blamed on his fellow men (is it not a male that set the system?, they will say) or blamed on men masculinity.
Their narrative is that men hurt women but no one hurts men,they hurt themselves cw,,

Many are trying to propagate the ideology that misandry doesn't exist,and even if it does,it is caused by men.

Let's see how their obsession for victim playing will end. Heaven knows who will laugh last in the end.

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Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by CAPSLOCKED: 9:04am On May 10, 2020
Kingarthur21:
Feminists,manginas,white knights et Al blame men for women's problem and blame men for men's problem still.

IT'S LIKE THIS.

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Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Nobody: 3:19pm On May 10, 2020
TheSourcerer:
what do we do individually , is there nothing that can be done to cushion this new sadly found knowledge?
Best solution is to go MGTOW, start up your own business, buy a house far far away from SOCIETY so you don't have to live to the rediculous standards Or you take mass REDPILLS and enjoy the patriachy in Nigeria while it LASTS.

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Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by TheSourcerer: 3:27pm On May 10, 2020
Weebo:

Best solution is to go MGTOW, start up your own business, buy a house far far away from SOCIETY so you don't have to live to the rediculous standards Or you take mass REDPILLS and enjoy the patriachy in Nigeria while it LASTS.
MGTOW?
Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Nobody: 3:34pm On May 10, 2020
Ekemeze:
cheesy

That doesn't apply to Nigerian men, infact, African men as a whole.

We all know men in the western world are 3rd class citizens because dogs and pets are more and more valuable. Lolz. so their depression is understandable.

Allow them suffer, they call it civilization. Its a saner clime for some people.
This isn't about that. It's about men being seen as emotionless.
Imagine this: "You have a male and female friend, both going through a heart break. Now you focus your sympathy on the female and not on the male because you assume the male is strong enough and can handle himself". This is what society teaches us. Check out how many times a year we celebrate mothers day, breast cancer awareness day even prostitution is celebrated, but people rarely think of fathers or prostate cancer, they be like "he's a man he can handle it,he doesn't need our support".

Oh and also patriachy is slowly getting ripped off from Africa/ Nigeria
Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by EjaikreTheViper(f): 3:43pm On May 10, 2020
loads of garbage!
Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Nobody: 3:47pm On May 10, 2020
TheSourcerer:
MGTOW?
MGTOW- Men going their own way. It's a commitment to a lifestyle of self improvement, self-ownership, where the modern man preserves and protects his own sovereignty above all else. Living according to his own best interests.

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Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by TheSourcerer: 3:53pm On May 10, 2020
Weebo:

MGTOW- Men going their own way. It's a commitment to a lifestyle of self improvement, self-ownership, where the modern man preserves and protects his own sovereignty above all else. Living according to his own best interests.
ive been living this way for a couple of months now, didn't know there was a word for it haha, but really thank you man, any other helpful tip?
Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Nobody: 4:23pm On May 10, 2020
TheSourcerer:
ive been living this way for a couple of months now, didn't know there was a word for it haha, but really thank you man, any other helpful tip?
Many people believe MGTOW is a misogynistic cult but here you are right now going that part without even knowing that it was even a thing... Another proof that the feminists are once again wrong Smh

Anyways, It's probably better you do your own research on this rather than taking my opinions.
But I will highly recomend you read this books:
"The manipulated man" - by Esther Vilar
This one's a nice quick read.The main idea behind the book is that women are not oppressed by men but rather control men to their advantage.
“The Rational Male” – Book 1, by Rollo Tomassi. This book explains female nature and it can be applied to many situations in life.

Other great self development books:
“48 laws of Power” by Robert Greene
“The Art of War” by Sun Tzu

Subcribe to this guys youtube channel:

1. Sandman MGTOW
https://www.youtube.com/user/SandmanMGTOW

2. MGTOW 101
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCXVCVIkIpgUjCPtQ7lpy94Q

3. Howard Dare
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCs-brcHDxKqrOGU9cEWuCMQ

4. Redonkulas (Terrence Popp)
https://www.youtube.com/user/redonkulaspopp
There are alot more of them than the few i have selected above.
Also there should be certain mgtow groups on every social media, you should definately join one to connect more with other mgtow's.

Ahh and never forget to dose on some redpills daily.

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Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by ekaF(f): 4:49pm On May 10, 2020
Ekemeze:
cheesy

That doesn't apply to Nigerian men, infact, African men as a whole.

We all know men in the western world are 3rd class citizens because dogs and pets are more and more valuable. Lolz. so their depression is understandable.

Allow them suffer, they call it civilization. Its a saner clime for some people.
Actually it does. Maybe not a serious.
If you're paying close attention you'll realise that we are heading there. African men, particularly fathers need to wake up before it's late

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Re: Men Don't Hide Emotions Bc Of "Toxic Masculinity" They Hide Them Bc No One Cares by Ekemeze: 9:10am On May 11, 2020
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