I would like to say, life is filled with too much pain. Each day we head out looking for a way to make our lives better. We look for a way to find happiness.
In this quest, we often times meet with so much uncertainty that could ruin a man's path in a matter of seconds.

I went through the thread and discovered most folks lacks the faintest idea of how marriage works. Marriage has always been about the women, while men, in reality actually gains next to nothing but children and sometimes a nagging and a non-conformist spouse.

Chose your poison wisely

Ok

UniversalDove:
I would like to say, life is filled with too much pain. Each day we head out looking for a way to make our lives better. We look for a way to find happiness.
In this quest, we often times meet with so much uncertainty that could ruin a man's path in a matter of seconds.

I went through the thread and discovered most folks lacks the faintest idea of how marriage works. Marriage has always been about the women, while men, in reality actually gains next to nothing but children and sometimes a nagging and a non-conformist spouse.

Chose your poison wisely

most times men are the ones who ruin marriages with their known habits

UniversalDove:
I would like to say, life is filled with too much pain. Each day we head out looking for a way to make our lives better. We look for a way to find happiness.
In this quest, we often times meet with so much uncertainty that could ruin a man's path in a matter of seconds.

I went through the thread and discovered most folks lacks the faintest idea of how marriage works. Marriage has always been about the women, while men, in reality actually gains next to nothing but children and sometimes a nagging and a non-conformist spouse.

Chose your poison wisely

The bolded just made a mockery of your supposed knowledge of marriage. It's a two way thing, if both parties play if fair with all cards on the table...they both win.

Why would any sane man go into marriage with the idea of having a woman to control and that would respect his every whim without expecting her to expect the same measures from him? Yet, you want an educated exposed woman of substance! Hian!

Just the other day, a guy put up a thread looking for a maid pending when he gets a girlfriend...chai, something is fundamentally wrong in our society. Respect is a mutual phenomenon fa.

By the way, na every thread we dey open counter thread for now?

It is important for the parties involved in the marriage institution to really come out of their Dreamlands and decide what they want, when they want it, how they want it, where they want it and ultimately if they are truly willing to pay the price to get what they want.

For us marriage is for people who are dead to themselves and alive for what makes their marriage work!
It is not rocket science, its about total sacrifice!



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UniversalDove:
I would like to say, life is filled with too much pain. Each day we head out looking for a way to make our lives better. We look for a way to find happiness.
In this quest, we often times meet with so much uncertainty that could ruin a man's path in a matter of seconds.

I went through the thread and discovered most folks lacks the faintest idea of how marriage works. Marriage has always been about the women, while men, in reality actually gains next to nothing but children and sometimes a nagging and a non-conformist spouse.

Chose your poison wisely

actually this man is fully to be blamed for what happened to him... none of these women are forcing men to enter these fukced up marriages...
A) blame society for making sane people enter marriage with liabilities
B) blame his family for gladly agreeing that he get married to this insane woman, while even a blind man would see that she was no good (her father gladly bought them a car but wouldnt pay for wedding?!?!?)
C) blame that fool for spending so much money on irrelevant rubbish, which turned out to be his downfall....
D) marriage is a great tool, if you fully well know what you are getting yourself into... many wise people succeed at it, its the deluded fools that fail miserably.

Marriage isn't by force, and don't ever feel compelled to marry.
If you don't want marriage and want children, you can perhaps even pay for a surrogate so you avoid baby mama wahala.

eyinjuege:
Marriage isn't by force, and don't ever feel compelled to marry.
If you don't want marriage and want children, you can perhaps even pay for a surrogate so you avoid baby mama wahala.

till today I still don't buy the idea of surrogacy. Best thing is to get a wife or at worst a baby mama

Chapter1vs6:
till today I still don't buy the idea of surrogacy. Best thing is to get a wife or at worst a baby mama

Surrogacy isn't bad really, for those who don't want any woman in their life. Though its not common around us.
Ronaldo got one for his 2 older children, only to get a girlfriend pregnant afterwards
Michael Jackson did same.
You have to be financially buoyant to go for surrogacy though, and in this case you may use an egg donor or the surrogate's egg.
IVF will be done, as it makes no point sleeping with your "surrogate".
Surrogacy is not an option for many in Nigeria, due to the financial implication, even in women struggling with infertility but it's an option suitable for some people

eyinjuege:

Surrogacy isn't bad really, for those who don't want any woman in their life . Though its not common around us.
Ronaldo got one for his 2 older children, only to get a girlfriend pregnant afterwards
Michael Jackson did same

I think wanting a spouse is an "innate desire". You can't fight it.
After all said and done, we all want a spouse just that different circumstance determine how we want it

Da fvck!

Why go all out for just a celebration.

eyinjuege:


Surrogacy isn't bad really, for those who don't want any woman in their life. Though its not common around us.
Ronaldo got one for his 2 older children, only to get a girlfriend pregnant afterwards
Michael Jackson did same.
You have to be financially buoyant to go for surrogacy though, and in this case you may use an egg donor or the surrogate's egg.
IVF will be done, as it makes no point sleeping with your "surrogate".
Surrogacy is not an option for many in Nigeria, due to the financial implication, even in women struggling with infertility but it's an option suitable for some people

Stop quoting Ronaldo if you don't have the details.
He impregnated a lady that works in a hotel he lodged and in a bid to cover the mess.....he threw money around and the story was upgraded to a more fanciful surrogacy storyline.
Sure surrogacy is cool but Ronaldo is not a typical example. Besides it is not as expensive as you make it sound.

toprealman:

Stop quoting Ronaldo if you don't have the details.
He impregnated a lady that works in a hotel he lodged and in a bid to cover the mess.....he threw money around and the story was upgraded to a more fanciful surrogacy storyline.
Sure surrogacy is cool but Ronaldo is not a typical example. Besides it is not as expensive as you make it sound.

Yes, I see you have the details, as the senior brother and confidant of Ronaldo.
Yes, I also agree that surrogacy and the IVF needed in this case will just be a 100K. Not expensive at all.

Any sane person should know it is madness to spend so much on weddings and even take loans. No one forced him to.