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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by CHoccolaTE: 12:03am On May 14, 2020
Ybaby:



SAKAMAJE

Stories no provider men tell

Lol, you have a point tho,
But at least it's better than the ones that want 100 percent 24/7 submission while being jobless bums at the same time

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 12:05am On May 14, 2020
CHoccolaTE:


Lol, you have a point tho,
But at least it's better than the ones that want 100 percent 24/7 submission while being jobless bums at the same time

My sister I love being submissive but no woman should abhor an infidel in the first place talkless of infidel making demands.

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by djon78(m): 12:06am On May 14, 2020
Preferito:

Wow! This is so disheartening. Love has really waxed cold. But I think the type of foundation given to the youths of nowadays is what's causing this. The Bible stated that the woman is an help meet to the man. This means that when the man is incapacitated she should be able to augment him. She should not compound his troubles. I see no reason why a woman will be troubling a man because he is trying unsuccessfully. Had it been that he is not trying at all then she could have charged him up. Before exhibiting any nasty behavior towards your husband you need to remind yourself the reason why you married him at the first place. To be honest men are now an endangered species and all these things gives me cold feet towards marriage. Why can't the women of these days be like our mothers? I started hawking since I was in primary 2 all the way till SS3 along with my older siblings because my dad was trying unsuccessfully. But there was never a time I did see my mother insult him. Neither was she in any way ever promiscuous. We were in it together and we pulled through. Why can't the women of these days have the will to build with their husbands? This reminds me of the popular quote that says it is only women and children that are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved base on what he can provide. May God order our steps in the right direction.


That's why many men lock up with there money. Some have died with huge money in the bank without any of there family knowing about it.
Some men even place more value on there siblings than there spouse, so any day he goes, his close family members lay hold on his things.

That's why genuine honesty and empathy must be displayed in a marriage. Because it makes some men Harden up and see marriage more like a business engagement.

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by CHoccolaTE: 12:09am On May 14, 2020
Ybaby:


My sister I love being submissive but no woman should abhor an infidel in the first place talkless of infidel making demands.

They are many in Nigeria
Infidels claiming head of house and demanding submission
Shameless bums

There was a topic about one like that some days ago

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Omoluabi16(m): 12:13am On May 14, 2020
We go dey alright.
Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Nobody: 12:18am On May 14, 2020
Ybaby:


I can NEVER aspire to be your mum.

She has a son seeking to be fed by a woman and he then shames women for being provided for in marriage.

Her son is a woman because he grew up seeing her be the man of the house - the provider.

Again you have no idea where your mum has taken her vagina too.... you will never know how many times that vagina has been traded to put food on your table..... not traded in marriage like mine ( your dad had nothing to offer her).... but traded on the high way because your father was not man enough to provide for his family.

If you go low I will go lower. Be warned I am not M Obama

Keep selling your pussy to d highest bidder, I hope to have my share someday.

And I will.

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 12:27am On May 14, 2020
djon78:



That's why many men lock up with there money. Some have died with huge money in the bank without any of there family knowing about it.
Some men even place more value on there siblings than there spouse, so any day he goes, his close family members lay hold on his things.

That's why genuine honesty and empathy must be displayed in a marriage. Because it makes some men Harden up and see marriage more like a business engagement.

Yimu!!

If a man is not a provider which money is he now locking up ??

You guys will fight everything except poverty

O ma se o

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Prymestrr(m): 12:27am On May 14, 2020
Ybaby:


I can NEVER aspire to be your mum.

She has a son seeking to be fed by a woman and he then shames women for being provided for in marriage.

Her son is a woman because he grew up seeing her be the man of the house - the provider.

Again you have no idea where your mum has taken her vagina too.... you will never know how many times that vagina has been traded to put food on your table..... not traded in marriage like mine ( your dad had nothing to offer her).... but traded on the high way because your father was not man enough to provide for his family.

If you go low I will go lower. Be warned I am not M Obama
Mama chill your roars abeg. Don't play the dirty game coz you'll only end up hurting yourself when the chips are down and you go to bed re-examining your day. You're bigger than this embarassed

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 12:30am On May 14, 2020
Prymestrr:

Mama chill your roars abeg. Don't play the dirty game coz you'll only end up hurting yourself.

Why are you speaking for me

hurt myself how

Mi that I am here at past 12midnight you think I don't know what I am doing?

I am infidel police grin grin grin grin

Donot be concerned about me sir

Quick question - Are you the one paying your children school fees sir??

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by tunmiluabi: 12:31am On May 14, 2020
Ybaby:



You stopped dusting your books

You stopped being self motivated and required force.


Thank you much appreciated.

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 12:33am On May 14, 2020
tunmiluabi:



Thank you much appreciated.


God bless you sir and may you NEVER EVER experience what you went through again.

Sending you kind thoughts

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Prymestrr(m): 12:34am On May 14, 2020
Ybaby:


Why are you speaking for me

hurt myself how

Mi that I am here at past 12midnight you think I don't know what I am doing?

I am infidel police grin grin grin grin

Donot be concerned about me sir

Quick question - Are you the one paying your children school fees sir??
Go back to my comment. Thank you.

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 12:36am On May 14, 2020
Prymestrr:

Go back to my comment. Thank you.

Joker!

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Prymestrr(m): 12:38am On May 14, 2020
Ybaby:


Joker!
If you say so. Made you laugh at least undecided
Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 12:39am On May 14, 2020
Hubby has come to call me - will reply all mentions tomorrow.

Hopefully today's infdel will make a decision to be tomorrow's provider.

God bless us all.

O dara o. My Oga seeks me grin

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by djon78(m): 12:40am On May 14, 2020
Ybaby:


Yimu!!

If a man is not a provider which money is he now locking up ??

You guys will fight everything except poverty

O ma se o


I am telling you real life issues I have witnessed and you are here making noise.

Empathy is the key here. When a woman have your kind of mindset. It makes men become more business minded in there union. I am talking from experience.

I have always adviced guys to hustle up and not just have one streams of income, but several, that has been my philosophy . But on the flip side a mean less empathy wife is a no no. It turns marriage into more of business which may not augur well with the woman. That's how some men place there siblings over there spouse concerning there money.

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Nobody: 12:52am On May 14, 2020
Ybaby:


My husband is the highest bidder. ( You do not have his kind of money)

No you can NOT afford my pusssy because you are a lazy man with no vision.

You need a woman to feed and cloth you but I do not feed men so i know you don't want my pusssy.

Your mama feeds men though so go and sleep with her - you came from there so easy to go back in there.

Your mama is the one that is cheap enough to abhor an infidel and bore Jnr infidels.

grin grin grin grin


Don't make me hunt you, I won't just fight nasty online, I will also do it offline.

You've been warned.

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by TheSociopath(m): 2:53am On May 14, 2020
generationz:


Yes, marriage is truly overrated. Some people are lucky and get it right without so much effort while some struggle to get it right. Thousands, on the other hand, are just suffering and smiling. The spark is gone and reality has set in.

I don't think many people really sit down to think of the worst happening before setting out on this journey.

Are you married?
Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Nobody: 3:25am On May 14, 2020
Another fake story. It's difficult for an average person to write so well, any person with a brain can differentiate when a 'real' story is being told.

I think I should say something, women get worked up when they start to shoulder the family responsibilities because it's not 'natural' to be the bread winner when they have a man. It affects their psych and they can't handle it, that's why you see a hitherto good woman becoming a beast when the man loses his job.

A nice man will also start becoming aggressive if he has to starts handling the kids and the chores when he has a wife who does nothing but crosses her legs.

We have natural roles as males and females and when that role is reversed, both gender starts becoming aggressive and unhappy.

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Gerrard59(m): 4:47am On May 14, 2020
Ishilove:

Nature from time immemorial is ordered in such a way that the male is the provider and the female is the nurturer, which is why it takes a very special woman who can play both roles without emasculating her partner. When a man can't play his natural, God given role, things fall apart.

Quite sad

Which is why I say feminism is a scam and the biggest mankind has witnessed in centuries. grin

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 5:33am On May 14, 2020
Obingene:


Don't make me hunt you, I won't just fight nasty online, I will also do it offline.

You've been warned.


Scary..... grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by djojo(m): 5:49am On May 14, 2020
Seriously I don’t understand most People on Nairaland, someone will drop his true life story for you to learn from and you will be saying its a fiction. I pity some people’s life. Just pray you don’t experience bad marriage

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Preferito(m): 6:19am On May 14, 2020
tunmiluabi:


I take a decision from the day one I got married about what I wanted. It might not have worked but I kept my spirit high. Some people are more favored that others and I took that in its stride and believed my time would come. I submitted mt CV in so many place. It was an everyday affair. Someone stopped believing and chose her path.
Do not allow women of easy virtue to draw you down. These feminist will emotionally blackmail you. They will make you believe that your wife's actions and inactions are all your fault. Does your marital vows centers around your provision alone? What happened to the love that bonded you together. You were never wrong and do not allow those foul mouthed women to justify your wife's actions. No man is praying to be down but this is something that can happen to anyone on earth. Even Job being the most righteous man on earth during his time of temptation was asked by his wife to commit suicide because of the pain he was in. But he held on and things changed. Marriage is a real "for better for worse". Things will not always be rossy. Oga, if the remaining women on earth are these ones who are blaming you up and down then there is no reason to remarry. Our purpose on earth is to serve God and not to die over a woman.

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by XXLMANDIGO: 8:14am On May 14, 2020
Sorry for your past experience Op,and I also commend your patience , big kudos.

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Sankabson(m): 8:54am On May 14, 2020
darfay:



Shut up you bloody hypocrite

Why do you have to turn his failures and regrets to your prayer point
Bloody bloody hypocrite
Oponu! Bye!!
Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Sankabson(m): 8:56am On May 14, 2020
darfay:



Shut up you bloody hypocrite

Why do you have to turn his failures and regrets to your prayer point
Bloody bloody hypocrite
Oponu ayi rada! Bye!!!
Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by dayleke: 9:07am On May 14, 2020
Ybaby:


In a family setting the husband provides he protects - locks the doors at night, spiritual head, kids school fees, shelter, discipline etc

the wife nurtures basically she she does everything else - family health, ego stroking, storytime, PTA, Home cleaniness, Kids to school, Gifts for Teachers, Arranging holiday time, Nourishment etc

For the kids
She teaches affection and pampering - he teaches affection and courage
They both teach self esteem but it is more of his responsibility to let his kids know the child of who they are
They both do homework but it is her responsibility to teach and guide the child in the path of moral
They both teach business but it is more of Daddy's role
etc





Any job! some jobs are more feminine but she can do any job as long as she is able to perform the above duties for her family

I run a software company and code really well - we have a staff of about 30 programmers
I run an importation company and own 5 ecommerce websites that are doing quite well
Also a media company that is doing ok but could be better
Both companies are over 6 years and though my husband gave me capital - he does not ask me for money and he never will. Na man him be. grin



My husband is not required to do chores in the house at all. If he wants to - all well and good but he is a very busy man with plenty on his shoulder- because of him other men have a salary to feed their family.

I have helps that do chores and I coordinate. I cook dinner every night too and make sure we have a meal together Oga, myself and the children. We talk about our day and give support. Crack jokes - watch TV or play monopoly.
He also gives one weekend a month for family recreation and a vacation every year - all funded by him but organised by moi



Once a boss slapped by ass, I slapped him and my husband later locked him up. No one messes with the Queen.

I also never say no to seexx in 19 years. I respect my husband as in truly adore and respect him not audio type. He is a one of a kind man and he in turn adores me even more - I am the queen grin

Hope this answers your question

Beautiful.
God bless your family.
One thing though, just because it works for you does not make it a yardstick.
I saw where you kept saying a man should not eat from a woman's sweat......and even supporting it biblically.
Is it not the same bible that says both of them come together together to become one.
If you find yourself in a situation whereby the way the traditional roles were supposed to be played out do work, adaptation is needed.
Marriage is a partnership, there is no my money or your money as long as trust is there and there is transparency.
In some environments where both the couple have to combine incomes to raise the family, it can not work especially in the western world. All hands are needed on deck. There is no traditional role for any gender. Understanding is needed.
Any of the parent can cook, assist the kids with homework, attend PTA meetings etc.
What works for couple A May not necessarily work for couple B.
Thank you.

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by generationz(f): 9:12am On May 14, 2020
TheSociopath:


Are you married?

Nope, why?
Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by Ybaby: 9:12am On May 14, 2020
dayleke:


Beautiful.
God bless your family.
One thing though, just because it works for you does not make it a yardstick.
I saw where you kept saying a man should not eat from a woman's sweat......and even supporting it biblically.
Is it not the same bible that says both of them come together together to become one.
If you find yourself in a situation whereby the way the traditional roles were supposed to be played out do work, adaptation is needed.
Marriage is a partnership, there is no my money or your money as long as trust is there and there is transparency.
In some environments where both the couple have to combine incomes to raise the family, it can not work especially in the western world. All hands are needed on deck. There is no traditional role for any gender. Understanding is needed.
Any of the parent can cook, assist the kids with homework, attend PTA meetings etc.
What works for couple A May not necessarily work for couple B.
Thank you.

Sir, if you want to be eating from your wife's sweat you are welcome to eat it... infact some parents eat from thier young kids sweat and ask them to hawk. Everybody wants different for thier life.

I gave my opinion and experience and belief.

However every human has free will.

Eat away sir. (It is a prayer)

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Re: I Was A Husband: My Experience by UjuJoan2: 9:21am On May 14, 2020
If I were a man, I would do everything possible to be able to provide for my family. And if I know I would not be able to, I will never get married

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