I grew up in a compound where there were no kids, everyone was Physically and mentally mature and I was the youngest in the whole yard.... at about 13, I started seeing some things my mates did (Like playing football, or games) as childish, I was very close to the adults that I started talking, behaving and even thinking like them.

I'm 23 now and a 400L student in the University, I also have a skill which I'm making little money from while still in school.

Almost all my friends are older than me, people don't believe me when I tell them my age, they say I don't look or act my age..

I have never been in a relationship before but each time I see someone I like and start getting close I realize along the line that she's either 4 or 5 years older than I am(this has happened for about 4 times now)

Now the problem is; I only get attracted to older women who act mature, I don't want to marry and older lady.....
But this thing is getting deeper
I don't know if it's normal,
How do I control this before it gets out of hand ?

I need your opinion please

Maybe they are your calling

@Dear OP

I see your problem as being psychological as a result of environmental determinism, influencing your behavior and emotional attraction.

Notwithstanding, it seems your problem is temporal and won’t go on for long when you reach a certain age in life.
You are still relatively young (23years) and it is still possible for you to find older ladies in their late 20s attractive to you.

I believe when you get to your 40s, woman in their 40s and 50s won’t be attractive to you but ladies in their 20s and 30s

The earlier you accept who you are the happier your life will be.

maybe one of your ancestor is trying to reach out to you

Be carefull

Chai
Many people indeed wish for this kind of opportunity. The opportunity to just have as little as a conservation with these "matured ladies" not to talk of having an affair with them. But as it's rightly said, "one man's meat is another man's poison".
You shouldn't be troubled by this, like someone above me has said, it might be your calling.

thesicilian:
The earlier you accept who you are the happier your life will be.

So what do you suggest I do ?
go for the older women ?

maybe you are destined to marry an older lady abroad, go for what makes you happy, you owe nobody any explanation. it's your life



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F7PLL1bMTb8

Atomemmy:
Chai
Many people indeed wish for this kind of opportunity. The opportunity to just have as little as a conservation with these "matured ladies" not to talk of having an affair with them. But as it's rightly said, "one man's meat is another man's poison".
You shouldn't be troubled by this, like someone above me has said, it might be your calling.

The funny thing is, these mature women always like me too, some of them even made the first move,
but I'm always afraid to start what I can't finish

Drclassic:
Be carefull

That's why I brought it here, I need mature advice cus I don't want to make a mistake in my relationship or marriage life

Amotolongbo:
@Dear OP

I see your problem as being psychological as a result of environmental determinism, influencing your behavior and emotional attraction.

Notwithstanding, it seems your problem is temporal and won’t go on for long when you reach a certain age in life.
You are still relatively young (23years) and it is still possible for you to find older ladies in their late 20s attractive to you.

I believe when you get to your 40s, woman in their 40s and 50s won’t be attractive to you but ladies in their 20s and 30s

I want to marry early and I don't want to be promiscuous

Pray to God, nairaland have nothing to offer you!

Aplaudez:
Pray to God, nairaland have nothing to offer you!

I do pray, but sometimes you also have to talk to people, it helps

ANIEXTY:


I want to marry early and I don't want to be promiscuous

Nothing stops you from marrying someone older than you sir.

No law mandate a man to get married to a younger woman.

ANIEXTY:


So what do you suggest I do ?
go for the older women ?

Maybe that will be better. Before you go and get married to a young girl and start sleeping with her mother.

Now the problem is; I only get attracted to older women who act mature, I don't want to marry and older lady.....

You're subconsciously looking for your mother in other women. Blame it on emotional bonding.

It's a sign of immaturity. It'll wane as you grow.

u will outgrow ur infatuation

You don't need any help, just work on your self esteem and man up in every area possible. It never a bad thing dating someone older than you.

Nothing wrong with dating/marrying an older lady. All that matters is your happiness.

Learn to see people for what they are; their character, habits,personality etc. Age is only a number.

ANIEXTY:
I grew up in a compound where there were no kids, everyone was Physically and mentally mature and I was the youngest in the whole yard.... at about 13, I started seeing some things my mates did (Like playing football, or games) as childish, I was very close to the adults that I started talking, behaving and even thinking like them.

I'm 23 now and a 400L student in the University, I also have a skill which I'm making little money from while still in school.

Almost all my friends are older than me, people don't believe me when I tell them my age, they say I don't look or act my age..

I have never been in a relationship before but each time I see someone I like and start getting close I realize along the line that she's either 4 or 5 years older than I am(this has happened for about 4 times now)

Now the problem is; I only get attracted to older women who act mature, I don't want to marry and older lady.....
But this thing is getting deeper
I don't know if it's normal,
How do I control this before it gets out of hand ?

I need your opinion please

No go marry woman wey don get menopause all in the name of “age is just a number”

ANIEXTY:


So what do you suggest I do ?
go for the older women ?

There is nothing wrong with it

Just be patient Bro.

Very soon you'll find a younger lady who has the same upbringing and has acts older than her age.
I was also like you, but recently got a 23yrs old calm, intelligent and focused girl.
It's my first relationship after 8yrs, so your patience would be very important.

ANIEXTY:
I grew up in a compound where there were no kids, everyone was Physically and mentally mature and I was the youngest in the whole yard.... at about 13, I started seeing some things my mates did (Like playing football, or games) as childish, I was very close to the adults that I started talking, behaving and even thinking like them.

I'm 23 now and a 400L student in the University, I also have a skill which I'm making little money from while still in school.

Almost all my friends are older than me, people don't believe me when I tell them my age, they say I don't look or act my age..

I have never been in a relationship before but each time I see someone I like and start getting close I realize along the line that she's either 4 or 5 years older than I am(this has happened for about 4 times now)

Now the problem is; I only get attracted to older women who act mature, I don't want to marry and older lady.....
But this thing is getting deeper
I don't know if it's normal,
How do I control this before it gets out of hand ?

I need your opinion please

it's not a problem for me, nothing wrong with you. What kind of skill is that?

Damnnnnn niggarrr
Your self-esteem is gone