AnonymousRebec:


My dear, my value matches yours. I'm below 26 and my portfolio is good enough for my age. I'm an igbo girl who prays to marry an igbo man. I am open to having a conversation with you if it's ok with you.

ThaThinka:


Open am make we see.

GuyInTheMirror:

Thanks .

GuyInTheMirror:

Thanks .

DAramis:
It was an interesting read from the first page though the thread was derailed at some point. The beauty of a forum is the ability to see things from different perspectives of individuals rather than one perspective.

I wish the Op well in his quest and may it be easy for him as in seeks out that which his heart seeks. As for the West, time shall come they will simply move back to stone age but they should be kind enough to keep other continent out of it.

My only advice is this: Everyone has standards classified into Major and minor ones but there may be a situation where you will need to chip off one or two things from the minor list and work towards actualizing his or her aim without losing out entirely.

GuyInTheMirror:

Thanks for your suggestions, would you mind being more explicit ?

GuyInTheMirror:
MODS PLEASE NO FRONT PAGE!!!

Hi everyone, so I am not a new member of Nairaland.
I decided to create this new profile so that I can be annonymous.
I was hoping to speak with some matured people here about the issue of marriage.

I am a 34 year old man who happened to immigrate about 2 years ago, I am a very gentle and highly ambitious person and God has blessed me.
I work for one of the biggest firms here in North America , I used to work in a great firm too back in Naija before immigrating.

Now to the issue of marriage, I am in a kind of dilemna.
I am the type of person that values marriage and a quiet life.
I do not smoke, drink or womanise. I am actually the type you'd call a church boy. I dream for a respectful wife whom I can love and adore and build a family with.

But it seems being in North America makes that complicated.
1. Majority of the women that surrounds me are in their 30s. I personally would prefer to marry someone not older than 26 years for personal reasons.
2. Many of these women are closet feminists and they tend to be much louder than the personality I am looking for in a woman I'd like to settle with.

I have attempted to start relationships with ladies that tend to meet my description back in Nigeria, but I became shocked cos it seems once a lady knows a man is abroad they become lovey dovey. They start to pretend like they are saints so that has put me off as I do not want a lady to pretend for me.

The options before me are :
1. Look for someone that is close to my requirement here and marry her and hope for the best.
2. Look for someone back in naija and marry and sponsor her to North America.
3. Wait for 2 more years, get my citizenship, come back to naija and blend in like a regular guy and try to meet a lady that does not know I am an abroad person to avoid pretense then try to get a babe. (In 2 years time I will be 36 years old, is this not too old ?)

I would like people with a lot of insight to educate me on what appears to be the best option.

Boss13:


Unfortunately, men in the western world don't have rights anymore. Attention is paid more in the follow category

Men's rights < women's rights < LGBTQ rights < Animal rights < Children & vulnerable people's rights.

As you can see animals have more rights than men and men do not really have a say, but do all the biddings for other advocacy groups. As a result, a lot of western men are not considering marriage. Many are going their own way (MGTOW). This is what feminists caused. That's why I laugh at many African women claiming to be feminists. These women have more rights and are still screaming for more because they don't know what to do with the rights they already have.

The LGBTQ movement is getting more attention than the feminist advocacy group and these feminists don't like it. Anyways, feminists have destroyed traditional values and responsible for the breakdown of the family structure. Hence, I laugh again at African women claiming to be feminists. They clearly do not know what they are doing. There are some feminist group in America calling for the death of men just because they are men.

Young men who are unmarried, one of the first conversation to ask your date should include if she is a feminist. If she says yes, whether she understands what it means or not - abeg waka peacefully.

ecolime:
@OP

Being abroad shouldn't be your sole selling point. What type of person are you? What is your faith, tribe and value system?

Justkatty:
Seeing this post made me realize that, there are still men who look beyond the physical appearance before approaching a lady, though my advice maybe coming late but notwithstanding I'll still chip in my little advice. [b]Don't allow that mind set of I'm established already to make you lost your ordain spouse [/b]think about it. Obrigado

Jotrade:
My guy the best advice I can give to you is to look for a very nice girl in which country you are base. I am a Nigerian living in Canada am talking from experience. Ninety percent of the people I know who went back home to get married later regrets that decision.

elektra:
If you don’t care about race/nationality then I recommend joining a church in the US where you live.
There are some churches here that operate like cults (not trying to be mean just saying the truth). Everyone in the church marries within the church and live church-approved lifestyles.
It is usually a small-medium sized church where everyone knows everyone and the women are extremely conservative (something you seem to prefer). The rate of divorce in those churches are 0%.
I doubt this suggestion with help with your age stipulation though, cos even conservative <26year old girls in US will prefer to marry someone in their age group. Good luck.

GuyInTheMirror:


I am the type of person that values marriage and a quiet life.
I do not smoke, drink or womanise. I am actually the type you'd call a church boy. I dream for a respectful wife whom I can love and adore and build a family with.

GuyInTheMirror:
MODS PLEASE NO FRONT PAGE!!!

Hi everyone, so I am not a new member of Nairaland.
I decided to create this new profile so that I can be annonymous.
I was hoping to speak with some matured people here about the issue of marriage.

I am a 34 year old man who happened to immigrate about 2 years ago, I am a very gentle and highly ambitious person and God has blessed me.
I work for one of the biggest firms here in North America , I used to work in a great firm too back in Naija before immigrating.

Now to the issue of marriage, I am in a kind of dilemna.
I am the type of person that values marriage and a quiet life.
I do not smoke, drink or womanise. I am actually the type you'd call a church boy. I dream for a respectful wife whom I can love and adore and build a family with.

But it seems being in North America makes that complicated.
1. Majority of the women that surrounds me are in their 30s. I personally would prefer to marry someone not older than 26 years for personal reasons.
2. Many of these women are closet feminists and they tend to be much louder than the personality I am looking for in a woman I'd like to settle with.

I have attempted to start relationships with ladies that tend to meet my description back in Nigeria, but I became shocked cos it seems once a lady knows a man is abroad they become lovey dovey. They start to pretend like they are saints so that has put me off as I do not want a lady to pretend for me.

The options before me are :
1. Look for someone that is close to my requirement here and marry her and hope for the best.
2. Look for someone back in naija and marry and sponsor her to North America.
3. Wait for 2 more years, get my citizenship, come back to naija and blend in like a regular guy and try to meet a lady that does not know I am an abroad person to avoid pretense then try to get a babe. (In 2 years time I will be 36 years old, is this not too old?)

I would like people with a lot of insight to educate me on what appears to be the best option.

GuyInTheMirror:

Kindly explain the bolded .