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As a girl caught up in the circles of getting married, you must train yourself. Here are few things you should know and avoid.
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1. Sex and sleeping over is not a marriage certification. Rather a sin because of what it begets. Engaging in pre-marital sex is like opening a surprise bag before it is being delivered to you. No matter how you sugarclothe it, whether you call it 'dating,' 'fianceship,' 'betrothedness' or all what not, it is wrong and it is very wrong to start living with the opposite sex before marriage; you pose yourself to be a toy to be played with then discarded when a new catch comes. By the way, whoever likes an old, overused stuff that came free! Dear singles, don't let anyone deceive you. Some married lady may be telling you to also do it, saying that's how she got hers. One question: with how many men was she this cheap before one unfortunate one was deceived?
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2. Cooking, sweeping and laundry. You saw 'cooking' right? You must feel it's a misplaced priority, but I'll prove you wrong. The African man will always stress on this wife-to-be being a good cook who can bring out his best meals palatable. Come to think of it, do many of them not cheat after all and choose another girl -- probably sb who hasn't even cooked for him once? Whoever told you food restrain cheats! If you like, wash his dirty undies as well as his lineage's dump, mob the whole stair case from his house to the express, do the dishes, or sweep his house even to the next three streets, he'll marry the person he'll still marry. Sorry to poke your bubble. Many who did all these ended up in Titanic tears. In fact, I advise you to be you: let him know the boundaries of a wife and a girlfriend. As you yourself keep numerous male friends trying to sift the best option, guys also keep a handy of female friends till the 'heavenly' match is ascertained. Don't come and nanny another woman's husband for free!
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3. Avoid the 'sex before marriage' crew.
I have little to say. Just realize that many perverts are finding the nearest gullible one to use this ancient trick on. What actually are they testing? If they don't believe you are the marriage type, why don't the choose another? Truth is if you accidentally get pregnant, there is still no guaranty of marriage. You have your permission to try it; it'll end in tears.
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4. Take care of your body. Taking care does not mean you have to fix hawk feathers as eye-lashes, expose cleavages or wear mini-skirt, it actually means being responsible. Go easy on the make-up, it actually doesn't get anything positive, but sexually negative. Second, if you have a bump on your belly that protrudes, try treat it. Over 98% of guys alive will actually take it for what it commonly is: THAT YOU DON BORN BEFORE! Funnily, if that is the case, you cannot hide it, almost all guys are specially gifted in discovering this. You see why you shouldn't even have pre-marital sex in the first place, let alone an abortion?
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5. Always say the truth about your details. Rather than lying, it's better you tell sb that a particular request is confidential. Remember, one lie must need more lies to keep the lie young. One thing is you can freely lie about your age, certification or any other thing and get married (a trophy you think) but believe you me, the day your partner discovers you fooled him all along, that is the day you pause the love, trust and peace forever, and start enjoy Buchi Emecheta's joy of motherhood.
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Conclusion: It's not about looking beautiful or less beautiful that determines the speed, it's about discovering who you shouldn't be. It's about not following the worldly course of fashion. Most times, we are the reason why our relationSHIPS sail for the rift. Remember, not all engagement rings are an Alice-in-wonderland world, some are suffeRINGS.

nice mr o.p... pls include
6..always try be supportive to him financially when courting and even married no matter how much he earns...that small support give him, do matters....
i remember female co worker telling us her story that she do send 10k airtime monthly to her richer fiancee that do work in an oil company,
said she remembers how the guy do complain that she should keep her "change" and use it on herself and that she should "stop disturbing his phone with such peanuts"
but she kept sending the airtime as soon as she gets her monthly alert,
and a year after the guy proposed to her with a sweet ride just last year,
and also told her that what won his heart isn't about the small money she do send, but its her CONSISTENCY AND her PERSEVERANCE that always kept him surprised whenever he gets that crazy alert
because he keeps playing down the airtime and telling her to stop but she kept sending,
saying that such wife would always be there even when he goes broke...

7. Go through this thread and compare with number 3. It's d woman asking for it seriously here.

https://www.nairaland.com/5932584/please-us-solve-matter#90770014

paulolee:
nice post...include
6..always try be supportive to him financially when dating or married no matter how much he earns...that small support you can offer do matters..

That's true. It also awards you some extra bars of respect.

Oluromantic:
7. Go through this thread and compare with number 3.

https://www.nairaland.com/5932584/please-us-solve-matter#90770014

I read both the OP's post and your comment. I still stand with no pre-marital sex. Thank you and have a nice day.

chatinent:


I read both the OP's post and your comment. I still stand with no pre-marital sex. Thank you and have a nice day.

It's not about you, it's about d woman

dis got me " suffeRINGS" lol

Only one thing to learn: be his peace. Let him happily come home to you instead of staying at a bar before going home because he's trying to avoid your nagging.








Meanwhile, we're buying Cashapp funds hot hot. WhatsApp link in signature.

no 4 is it for me.... take care of yourself both male and female....


a lot of guys cant stand a young lady with a potruding stomach.... i don't even care if you don born before, i nor go even wait ask... i see big belle, i "gbera" asap...

List again! E no dey tire una ni?!

In all these REAL recognizes REAL.... What will work will surely work and What won't will definitely not work. Just pray to God to give you your own husband/wife and not someone else's. #Peace

(6) A Man that trully have plans for you will not pester you with sex

Read it again.

You guys have started with all these rubbish Rules.

Ladies don't give another man's child to your fiance or husband
Don't try to use pregnancy to tie any man.
Be ready to forgive your husband countlessly
Don't try to control him even if your are more financially stable.
Never check his phone
Be loyal. Don't cheat. Don't make him suspect you

Am so proud of my virginity

Again

Una no the tire? Marriage this, marriage that, boyfriend this, girlfriend that. Haba na

If you like, wash his dirty undies as well as his lineage's dump, mob the whole stair case from his house to the express, do the dishes, or sweep his house even to the next three streets, he'll marry the person he'll still marry.

Preach

Kkk

OP is that all?

This is nice coming from a man.

Lost a potential relationship because of no 1. He doesn't want a no sex relationship

Interesting..

She must have sense
She must be working
She must be independent
She must have her own money
She must love and respect my mother

Dudotessy21:
Am so proud of my virginity

what is your former moniker. how can you just tell us that you are a virgin when you just registered today

Well,let me add this.
Be Independent.....You don't have to depend on your man for everything,he's not your atm.

Dudotessy21:
Am so proud of my virginity

Guard it jealously too.... And make sure you also marry a virgin too. if you decide to keep it till marriage. E get Y

pretydiva:
Lost a potential relationship because of no 1. He doesn't want a no sex relationship

He wasn't serious and didn't love you truly as you thought .Dont bother as the right person will stay with or without no 1