phemmyfour:
OP didn't know the difference between "no job" and "low income earner". I stopped reading at " low key wedding". A man without a job cannot even afford a "low key wedding"

You're the ignorant one here. No job doesn't automatically mean no income and savings. So, a man without a job can afford a wedding.

Toks2008:
Well, the simple answer anybody will give is a resounding NO....but should a man marry a lady who has no job?... I guess that is a norm but wait for this...what if a lady marries a man with a job and then the man losses the job afterward?...will she leave him?.... Now you thinking...

Don't get it twisted...it makes no sense for any man to go into marriage without a job or a means of livelihood especially when a man’s potential is harder to see than the number of commas on his bank statement forgetting the fact that wealth acquisition is progressive, a continuum aided by hard work and determination...

I strongly believe that the reason why there is so much emphasis on a man's financial status as a criterion for marital suitability is because of the financial dependence mindset of many ladies on their men. In my opinion, when it comes to making money, there is no weaker sex hence I see nothing wrong with a lady who has a job or means of livelihood getting married to her man even if he has no job at that point in time...Job will always come and there is no guaranty that the one who has a job won't lose it.

A lady who finds it cool dating a man that has no job and happily performs wifely duties for him should not have issues with marrying the same man? Simply have a low key wedding and work hard together with him to build finances before making babies rather than allow yourself to be used as an intimacy gadget by the ''jobless guy''.

Ladies have equal opportunity to be financially independent just as the men and every lady must strive to be financially independent so that she can be with any man of her choice rather than marry a man simply because he is financially capable and also avoid using a job which can be there today and be gone tomorrow or financial status which is subject to change as a yardstick to being with any man.

I love how you raise issues that make people think. If you say a man should only date or marry when he has a job, then what happens when he loses the job as a married man? The wife should now leave him because he is jobless? Having a job for the man is not a prerequisite condition for marriage. It is a fallacy, invented by funny people!

A man or woman with no source of income has no business getting married. If you have stayed on your own before and taken care of your bills you would understand how important it is to have at least a trickle of income coming in.

Love is sweeter when everyone can hold their own. If I were a man, I would never even consider this.

Biglittlelois:
You like to dish out unnecessary banters waiting for war of words from both genders, then sit on the fence, watching and smiling as it happens, without choosing a side or a clear cut message.

Are you trying to say that it is better for a lady to marry a jobless man because he can get a job later, than marrying a man with a job who can also become jobless later?

Are you also trying to insinuate that marrying a jobless man who can also have a job later, can't also loose the same job

You confuse me

sexylassie2:
don't to listen to garbage. Dating is different from marriage.

A man without job that wants to marry is a foolish man and the religious books say we shouldn't associate ourselves with a foolish man.

What about a woman who gets married to a wealthy man but the woman lacks prudence...

What does your religious book say about her Go and read Proverbs 19:14.

Maobichek:
. Thank you for this thread, I want to have one-on-one chat with you, my mail is maobichek@yahoo.com.

olakoredey@gmail.com


thanks

LINTUNE:
let's be frank here..how can a right thinking man with no job or means of livelihood be thinking of marriage, imagine such insolence..even to date without getting income no matter how little, is bad enough let alone marriage..even as i am right now, it was my babe that forced relationship on me, coupled with love and other things,..i swear left for me i wont be in any fucking relationship till i make money!

Wait until you are an unmarried unemployed man at age 45.
Then, you will have the sense you don't have now.

This was exactly the same question that was asked on a Cool FM program yesterday, prior to the time you posted.

Although I didn't find your transition between colours cool, OP, I think you mentioned a point that reflected my view or thought regarding this. That is: the one with the job today can lose it tomorrow, and vice versa. Change is the one permanent thing in life; we only pray that it not be for the worse.

Most ladies are so fixated on jobs (9-5) and care less, or not at all, about what could be. Jobs are temporary. How about agreeing and working together to achieve something better? Perhaps, they are just too lazy for that.

And I think having no job is relative. Some people might not have a 9-5 job but still make enough or have more money than a number of others who do. Yet, they might be seen as jobless. A good example is someone that works online - he/she might make more money than another on a low-paying, regular job despite not working all the time.

LINTUNE:
let's be frank here..how can a right thinking man with no job or means of livelihood be thinking of marriage, imagine such insolence..even to date without getting income no matter how little, is bad enough let alone marriage..even as i am right now, it was my babe that forced relationship on me, coupled with love and other things,..i swear left for me i wont be in any fucking relationship till i make money!

Did you realise that no job is not necessarily equal to no income or no saving?

jaxxy:


I think what he’s trying to say or insinuate as u call it is marry a man for more than just because he has a job or the type of job he does. Why? Cos a lady isn’t ment to be 100% dependent on a guy, bf or husband.

A lady can and shud have a job too. So if the man suddenly has none she can stand as a support she was supposed and ment to be and not a total dependent. So he has a point.

However a man without a job shud not be getting married right then cos the 1st responsibility is on him and the woman supports which is also important and good and irrespective of who is richer of the two.

Toks2008

Affirmative.

To all the men here (married or single), this is an advice to you all:

"Hustle legitimately and make legitimate money make your gist no enter front page. Hustle make your woman no dey table your matter in your absence in the midst of her friends.
After you hustle and make money, double your hustle and keep making more money. After all, if king Solomon no get money, how would he have been able to keep 300 wives and 700 concubines?
Guys, just hustle make your money sef even dey respect you".

*Peace*

No job as in he doesn't have anything going on for himself no matter how small, he just sits at home hoping for a miracle to locate him on his couch.If that's what u mean then NO LADY SHOULD MARRY SUCH A BOY(I said boy cos such a person is not yet a man) Responsibilities are what make you a mature adult and only mature adults should go into marriage.
NB:THIS APPLIES TO BOTH GENDERS

vandp:


You're the ignorant one here. No job doesn't automatically mean no income and savings. So, a man without a job can afford a wedding.

Olodo

See the definition of income

income
/ˈɪnkʌm/
Learn to pronounce
noun
money received, especially on a regular basis, for work or through investments.

It's depends.
1)If the man is a lazy and only good at building castles in the air Run far away from him
2)If the man always feels insecure or has self esteem issues, please run away .He will make you life miserable and would always want to oppress becos of his supposed bruise ego becos you are the breadwinner.
3)If he is a jolly good fellow with a good heart that does not have chips on his shoulder .A hard worker that is trying out with other work option while looking for a better job ..Then you are good to go.

Job is not hustle vv. Dont base your requisite on Job which is not guaranteed.
Work on dreams...
Some fellows out there gat dreams but are not working.
As a girl, if you are looking for a jobber guy make sure you are jobbing too.

ucheoluwa:
Marriage should not be in the dictionary of a jobless lady ...talkless of relationship. She must find something doing and get busy. Must she be rely on a man? In this 21st century na 50-50 o

When she tells you she wants to hyphenate your name in the spirit of 50-50 hope you'll take it well

spiceadole:


The so-called jobless women are getting married everyday..
Even before their working class counterparts.


Many men even prefer to marry women who have no source of income..Some stop their working class wives from working and convert them to complete housewives.

When a woman has a job,business or a source of income,men feel insecure around her.
Some will boast that their wives must not have more money than them.
Some will say the woman is making it through sleeping around.

Society doesn't frown at a jobless woman.
Women are not providers by default.
Society frowns at unmarried women...and jobless men.

Shut da fuqup

It is the Nigerian society which is populated by insecure men that frowns at a working lady making higher than him or earning much millions. There are whites pornographers who are happily married so those men thinking she probly added whoredom to her job to be making such money should deal with their insecurities.

phemmyfour:
Olodo

See the definition of income

income
/ˈɪnkʌm/
Learn to pronounce
noun
money received, especially on a regular basis, for work or through investments.

Stop being stupid. With the word "especially" it means that it can be money received once in a while, like in the country where house rent is paid once in two years. Even some investments only brings yearly yields. Now run along, "Olodo."

humilitypays:
Na mostly foolish boys de marry them!!


Based on what is obtainable today, a guy should not marry a jobless lady who have no job, no business doing, no handwork or means of income, it is a very bad decision to marry such a jobless lady today!!


It is even worst for a jobless man who has no job, no personal business, no handwork or means of income to even think of getting married, it is absolutely bad for the man to think of!!


Before you start to think of getting married as a man, you need to have a job. If you lose your job then create a job for yourself through starting a business or something.


Stop crying no job, there are plenty jobs. Anywhere human beings are living have a job, don't look for honorable, white collar job, fold your trouser, fold the sleeve of your shirt and get to work with your hands.


Start food selling business, all human being want to eat. Start small chops, floor baking food selling, you must sell unless you are cooking poison and tasteless foods then people will run!


Be neat, cook good stuffs and people will come and you will grow from there.


You can sell food stuff items too.

There are jobs everywhere but our ladies and guys are forming big boys and girls, they are forming graduates with 2/1 looking for shell and chevron jobs so that they can start opressing their mates and friends the next month after they get a job...they want a big paying white collar job so that they will start earning fat salary and start driving Camry next 4 months and start carrying girls up and down, they are forming hot chicks and looking at people, hunger go finish all of una!!



Guys don't you ever marry a jobless lady today, it is risky and a wrong decision! Marry an industrious woman, even the Bible encouraged that. Go and read the book of Esther.


Marrying an idle lazy woman all because she has round big buttocks and standing breast is a mistake, you will get tired of the round buttocks and breast in highest 5 years of marriage. You will see the round buttocks naked and your dick won't rise!!



Marry with wisdom and God's guide and you will grow but marry with your dick and yeye eyes and you will suffer it later!!



Ladies don't even date a lazy, idle guy talk more of marriage don't try it! No industrious man stays jobless! If you lose your job, create a job for yourself, its simple! Unless there are no human being where you live then you are exempted, but wherever human beings are there is formal and informal job there, create one and work!


With the gift of internet technology, only lazy
people stay jobless and idle without income today!! You can create a job for yourself through the internet, not yahoo yahoo or scam, I mean sustainable business online. Guys and ladies engage your minds.



Its unfortunate if one decides to run a training to prepare the youths and show them how to create jobs, they won't attend, they will prefer to attend night of million laughs comedy show....they will prefer to attend gulder mega music festival to go and party and merry!


They will prefer to go 7 days night vigil but refuse to work with their hands.


God cannot bless you if you are not engaged in something. God will bless the works of your hands. You need to have something God will multiply for you to be blessed.


When Jesus Christ turned water to wine in Nineveh, He asked them to fill empty gallons with water and he turned the water to wine, that's how God works. He need you to be doing something so He can bless you from there no matter how small or how dishonorable the business is.


When God created man, He used sand to mould it first and then breathed into what He molded to start living. So He needed sand to create man.


When God created Eve, He removed Adam's rib to form woman, so He also used something.


When God empowered Moses to go and meet Pharaoh, He gave him a walking stick that Moses can turn to snake or anything, He didn't tell Moses to go empty handed.

When Jesus Christ wanted to pay tax, He didn't do magic so money will appear from heaven and land in His palms, He instructed his disciple Peter to go fishing. They caught a fish and opened the belly and saw some coins and He used it to pay tax. What Jesus was teaching us is that we need to work to be blessed. We need to also pay our tax to government.

So you need to be engaged in a legal business or handwork and then ask God to bless it for you and He will!

Lot of sensedeine in your post, but you dont get that capital no matter how small is required to start anything, a lot of niggers understands this and since no one to help they go into sport betting, unwisest thing is once that money comes in, the money get lavished off as was one dude who made N13M off bet9ja only to waste it back on more high stake betting till the money reduced and shamefully relocated away. The country is so messed up economically and its people mentally. So I say even in a penniless condition wisdom is all what a Nigerian needs as he struggles so even when the money comes, wisdom will guide him not to spend money on wrong decision like a bad investment or a round-ass pretending golddigger

it depends on the lady. some women are ok with it

Airforce1:
This thread isn't for me

This guy.... been a while

vandp:


Stop being stupid. With the word "especially" it means that it can be money received once in a while, like in the country where house rent is paid once in two years. Even some investments only brings yearly yields. Now run along, "Olodo."

Oponu! You need money to make money. That's what investment is all about.

No job = No income. Gifts or inheritance is not an INCOME. Get that into your skull

U1:


Did you realise that no job is not necessarily equal to no income or no saving?

dude we are saying this same thing..go back and read my comment again, this time slowly, i mentioned "without any means of livelihood", at least its a simple grammar na

Philadelphia:


Wait until you are an unmarried unemployed man at age 45.
Then, you will have the sense you don't have now.

that would be 21 years from now, higly impossible , lol..leave story oga..if u dont have anything bringing in money for ur as a man, u should never think of marriage..lets be frank here, unless ur said fiancee is ready to establish u, thats a different scenario..haba, can u allow ur sister to marry a man who has no means of livelihood, nothing at all?, lets be considerate here..abd if anyone calls me a simp, such person must be very stupid, cos this is just the obvious fact here..money success should be the numver 1 priority for any young man, u dont have to be a millionaire or billionaire before u marry, but atleast u should be able to afford the basic things of life easily without stress..

LINTUNE:
that would be 21 years from now, higly impossible , lol..leave story oga..if u dont have anything bringing in money for ur as a man, u should never think of marriage..lets be frank here, unless ur said fiancee is ready to establish u, thats a different scenario..haba, can u allow ur sister to marry a man who has no means of livelihood, nothing at all?, lets be considerate here..abd if anyone calls me a simp, such person must be very stupid, cos this is just the obvious fact here..money success should be the numver 1 priority for any young man, u dont have to be a millionaire or billionaire before u marry, but atleast u should be able to afford the basic things of life easily without stress..

Like I said earlier, wait until you're 45, (21 years from now) then you'll understand.

Philadelphia:


Like I said earlier, wait until you're 45, (21 years from now) then you'll understand.

the fact that uve remained stagnant all ur life, doesn't mean every guy has to be ...dont mention me again before thunder kee u there..pukes!

I strongly believe that the reason why there is so much emphasis on a man's financial status as a criterion for marital suitability is because of the financial dependence mindset of many ladies on their men

You were onto something until you started misyarning as usual.
Maybe the emphasis on his financial status is because providing is one of the few responsibilities that men actually have in marriage . Which by the way they also happen to share with women. But no complaints here from me about sharing this responsibility.

Now if you’re talking about them totally forgoing this responsibility rather than sharing it as they mostly have been doing, what would they be contributing in the marriage to make up for it?
Will they get pregnant , birth the babies, nurse the babies, perform all the emotional labor the woman does, make sure they over see the runnings of the home in total like their wives do when the men are sole breadwinners?

What’s does a man who doesn’t share in the the financial responsibility of his home bring to the home to ensure that his wife isn’t carrying 100% of the family load on her shoulders?

sexylassie2:
don't to listen to garbage. Dating is different from marriage.

A man without job that wants to marry is a foolish man and the religious books say we shouldn't associate ourselves with a foolish man.

babe you harsh o.. calm down nau..

Biglittlelois:



It seems you read the article not only slowly, but word for word, and letter by letter,

So tell me, what is the drift?

Thank God I didn't send you to schl for nothing..I beg help me ask o..

Jacqueline22:
Jobless and what comes to your mind is marriage. Instead of focusing on how to get yourself busy. I’m talking to both gender. As for me I can’t marry a jobless man.

kai.., all these ladies you pple shld try and give us small hope na...bcus u go for an interview or some pple will asked "r u married"? if you say no the next tin is " what r you waiting for? don't u kn you r mature for marriage? abi na until your strength finished"? so...seeing all your response simply means their is no hop for the jobless adult. I beg make una consider o..

LINTUNE:
let's be frank here..how can a right thinking man with no job or means of livelihood be thinking of marriage, imagine such insolence..even to date without getting income no matter how little, is bad enough let alone marriage..even as i am right now, it was my babe that forced relationship on me, coupled with love and other things,..i swear left for me i wont be in any fucking relationship till i make money!

fine nigga..your babe kn say you be hot cake, so she gat to grab you tight with her hands, legs and that btw her legs before she hear stories that touch the heart.

For this kind of marriage to work out, the lady must have been very sure that the guy has a potential of making way or means of financial break through after marriage. Moreover, the lady can as well help him up after marriage, ofcourse I will not advise she should do that before marriage. Aye le, eniyan soro.....