jurjes:
Hello xxlmandigo

XXLMANDIGO:
I woke up feeling awful, uneasy, bland and depressed. I am overwhelmed despite having a seemingly good Career, a daughter I love and cherish, I still feel some emptiness. Life appears static and uneventful for me and my bottled up feelings and emotions is at its brim. I am not proud of myself and I feel like I have reached the threshold of pain. I am very depressed.

To say I am sad is only but an understatement. I need to talk to someone mature, someone that has gone through this phase before and survived. I used to think I am strong but guess in my years of being around this terrestrial plain I have never felt this way before.

I was in the hospital for 7 weeks battling my life and ever since then my life has never remained the same again. I am going through trauma. I am alone and fighting off suicidal thoughts. I have paid my dues yet it seems never to be enough
Life is not treating me fairly one bit. So many things I wish I could share but I am pushed to the world,and to make matters worse I am alone and lonely.

I need someone to talk my plight to, before I finally lose it
0 814 601 53.47

This is deep. Thank you

Amya:


Hi. How are feeling now?

I've noticed that people that are introspective and overthink tend to fall into depression more easily. Everything has to make sense and any slight clog in the wheel lead them spiralling down.

I was like that as teenager and was in a search fior meaning. Everything looked meaningless and there's nothing more depressing than finding out early-on the meaninglessness of it all. I was able to defeat it by just living. Not thinking too much and not caring. Ingrained in me from that time was the fraility of man. We'll all go. We'll all die. We'll lose those we love and they'll lose us too. That's us what it all comes to eventually

Death doesn't scare me. I've embraced my fraility and the fact that life is a journey that moves so fast.

My advice, don't spend so much time thinking but spend so much time living. For example. If you live your life in a foreign country with no access to the native food you love. The day you eventually come across it, you'll savour and eat it with reckless abandon. You're not worried on whether or not you'll see that meal again. You just throughly enjoy your meal without much thought. That's how you should enjoy life my friend. Do all the fun things you've always wanted to do. Make friends and just live. Having great finances is good but to me, it's only secondary to the most important things.

XXLMANDIGO:




This is deep. Thank you

Amya:


You're welcome. I tried chatting you up on WhatsApp but it seems the line isn't registered to WhatsApp.

XXLMANDIGO:
This is my WhatsApp # 0706136.5018

GboyegaD:
Hope you are much better.

XXLMANDIGO:
I am bit more relieved than the last 24 hours

GboyegaD:



0706136.5018

Nice to know. Is this number on what's app?

XXLMANDIGO:
I woke up feeling awful, uneasy, bland and depressed. I am overwhelmed despite having a seemingly good Career, a daughter I love and cherish, I still feel some emptiness. Life appears static and uneventful for me and my bottled up feelings and emotions is at its brim. I am not proud of myself and I feel like I have reached the threshold of pain. I am very depressed.

To say I am sad is only but an understatement. I need to talk to someone mature, someone that has gone through this phase before and survived. I used to think I am strong but guess in my years of being around this terrestrial plain I have never felt this way before.

I was in the hospital for 7 weeks battling my life and ever since then my life has never remained the same again. I am going through trauma. I am alone and fighting off suicidal thoughts. I have paid my dues yet it seems never to be enough
Life is not treating me fairly one bit. So many things I wish I could share but I am pushed to the world,and to make matters worse I am alone and lonely.

I need someone to talk my plight to, before I finally lose it
0 814 601 53.47

Theyoungmatron:

What will get you out of a depressive state is in you sir, just like peak milk.
Exercise to get the blood pumping if your health can allow it.
Maybe you haven't had a good sex in a while or do you think your XXXX stuff can't handle it or it has been reduced to XX or even X size.
You need to increase your endorphin, dopamines and the oxytocins with a nice sex romps, sir. Sex can be therapeutic, you know. If you still needs your babymama then be the bigger person.
Facetime your family members and friends.
Go to social media and create controversial topics that you are familiar with. Arguments you have won over and over again in the past. It will keep you busy until this wave of depressive state passes.
Go online, facebook precisely and search for Dave Chapelle shows, Kevin Harts, Trevor Noahs etc and have a good laugh.
Take a trip if you can afford it.
Visit friends and let them do the talking.
If you are a catholic or moslem or whatever, i'd suggest you go to the chapel or mosque and sleep for an hour. The tranquility, the silence and including the perceived feeling that a supreme being knew you are there is kinda reassuring and uplifting.

If it becomes so overwhelming, you can seek out the helps of professionals. I wish you well.

frozen70:


The truth is that you are the one fighting yourself

Your mind and brain are playing game with your whole body and your emotional being and you allowed it to happen

Take your child to your parents if she is not living with the mum or you, this period to look after for you so that you can be free from that end and concentrate on yourself

Get yourself a girl friend, start a relationship with her and make her a friend not really a sex partner

People are into relationships to have a friend and a companion

This life is full of troubles and loneliness so don't wallow your self into it even married couples are lonely in their world of marriage

If you can't open up and tell us exactly what is wrong with you then follow the above advice

Peace666:
There was a time i felt depressed to the point I got used to it.


Though na dry pocket cause am. But then it was as if i was cursed, nothing seem to be working. I kept pushing yet nothing.

Three people dreamt that i committed suicide so when i get to the point of breaking, I'll just remember the dream they had and smile. (I go shame u satan) was my every day confession.


One day God proved to me that i wasn't cursed. Just a period of trial.

XXLMANDIGO:

delugadou:

by this time next year, you go laugh this posts for nairaland. if u hang in there, Oluwa go surprise you when u least expect am. right now my shoes bad pass ur own sef

XXLMANDIGO:

SweetCunt97:
most cause of depression in 9ja is simply money related. I'm yet to see a wealthy person who's depressed here.

Simply look to the light, be positive. Bad times never last.

XXLMANDIGO:

SweetCunt97:
Our Learned colleague but that's the truth.

XXLMANDIGO:
Indeed , I appreciate calls and concerns from this community. I have communicated with godly and matured folks here on Nairaland and they have helped me identify, highlight and downplay the issues that was gradually eating me up and drifting me towards depression, and now I believe those issues are surmountable.

My health issues (Surgery and hospitalization) for several weeks has made me redundant and I couldn't get a single brief or earn a penny this year as a Professional that I am. I am in better shape now but the Covid 19 has affected me so much that I can barely survive, not to talk about renewing my legal license or taking care of my daughter the way i should.

I want kind people with empathy on this forum to help and support me in getting my license renewed, especially for the sake of my daughter. It cost 40k per annum but I am going to appreciate every goodwill and any help or support that comes my way .


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Ishilove:

I guessed as much. I'm depressed when I'm broke