ekevwe:




The last time she flogged me was when I was in JSS 3. As I held her hand she knew I am now a man. Since then she no try me again. Lol.

officialfestus:
2017 when I was 19,but as at today I'm the alpha male at home.....height favour me as I be 6ft 6inches tall and they exercise most times,guyman be Wan try himself last year I just tell am say I go beat am like my age mate.... Since then he dey salute me like military man

NewDelhi:
When it comes to use of cane, belt, etc, they stopped when I was 12-13.

But physical fight continued till 19-20. Generally when a child clocks 14 and above or when puberty sets in he begins to feel he's above flogging. That's why you try to flog some kids and they hold the cane or restrict you from flogging then.. . I don follow my papa fight gidigbo before... E stubborn with him outdated mentality me sef I stubborn with my newage mentality.

From 21 to over 30 years now we just shout at each other on the phone when there's any disagreement.

Generally I think this African idea of flogging or physically assaulting a child is pure stupidity and inhumane. If you raise a child like an animal, then expect him to behave like an animal. Children like that end up being child abusers and wife beaters. There are different ways to correct a child, physical assault shouldn't be an option.

Stop promoting abusive parenting, kids that went through such will also want to use same method on their own kids too and the cycle continues.

Cc stonemasonn

magicminister:
With due respect to everyone's opinions; i think whipping a child is tantamount to child abuse and a centimetre shy of slavery.

The average Nigerian child experience their first abuse in the hands of those that should protect them. I might get insulted for this but ever wondered why the average Nigerian is so aggressive? If you disagree with them, they retort to insults? Even wondered why the average Nigerian is very afraid of telling the truth?

It all boils down to upbringing like the one we saw in the video posted earlier. Children are individuals with minds of their own and the best way to raise a child is to win that mind over with any means but intimidation and force.

We have to break the cycle of Abuse!!
We must evolve to a better and greater society!
When you flog a child, you are not teaching them to not repeat same mistake, you are teaching them to make sure they don't get caught!


I challenge every Nairalander to take a different discipline approach this week! If your child mess up, call him or sit, sit them down and explain to them why what they did is wrong and why they must never do it again!! Give them one week punishment of dish washing and take away their phone or game or whatever they really enjoy with the promise to return when they behave better!!

NewDelhi:

Lol when growing up, they believed they were always right and my ideas were wrong. Before I left their house at 21, I made them realize I wasn't a kid anymore. If you see the way they always talked to me infront of my siblings, visitors and strangers ehn , u self no go gree that kind thing..

Saw your post , you said they still flog you at 30 years old? That's ridiculous

NewDelhi:


Cc TonyeBarcanista this is exactly what I was saying. A certain age will come when you try to flog a child and he'll hold your hands or hold the cane. As a parent, you should realize such child is already getting mature and he/she feels he shouldn't still be beaten like a kid.

NewDelhi:


Cc TonyeBarcanista this is exactly what I was saying. A certain age will come when you try to flog a child and he'll hold your hands or hold the cane. As a parent, you should realize such child is already getting mature and he/she feels he shouldn't still be beaten like a kid.

Sparro:

We are talking of discipline as a growing up child. Whatever anyone chose to do as an adult is a different thing entirely.

The generation running our government today were highly disciplined or they are highly disciplined in terms of proper upbringing.

Instead of blaming the people, blame your system. Even at age 90, you are still not above discipline. But the system provides cover and immunity for corruption.

luminouz:


Easy tiger!!!


Who drank your zobo this morning?

jaeyking:


now read your quote again.
and ask yourself with all the highly discipline. where did it all end.. A highly disciplined govt running a corrupt system

Sparro:

Point of correction, a highly disciplined people running a corrupt system. The system is corrupt and that is it. Change the system and see the people change

TonyeBarcanista:

You threatened to beat your father?

MichaelBlake40:
omo 2nd year?

Bonatheripper:
My grandma aim or Throw me pisu

Like pounding pisu at age 24

After I carried her N3000 to play bet9ja

jaeyking:



so a HIGHLY DISCIPLINED people are running a corrupt system..

Abeg oo. nairalanders can someone who is highly disciplined run a corrupt system. lol.
mtschew yeye dey smell

Stephenomozzy:
Can't really piece the age together.....roughly around 12-14. And it was mainly because of the youngest sibling causing wahala for everybody.

My wonderful Mum still promises to "beat" any one of us if we mess up even when we're married. LMAO

Mikkymilli:
In light of a recent trending video of a father flogging his daughter, a lot of people were of the opinion that she wasn't supposed to be flogged since she is 18 while majority (on twitter and nairaland) were in support of the father disciplining his daughter for going against his order.

On this note, I'll like to ask 'What age were you when your parents stopped flogging you?'
And also, 'What age do you think is the right age for a parent to stop flogging the child?'

As for me, I think i was 12 then. My mom would use different tools like garri turner, slippers, cane, etc. Looking back now, I know it was all to mould me into the gentleman I am today.
As for the second question, I think the flogging should stop before the child gets to senior secondary level so he/she won't develop an everlasting hatred for you (the parent) cos that teenage age can make or mar your relationship with your child. The child can be disciplined via other means, but not necessarily flogging.

The floor is open guys. What's your take on it?

marriagebyigbo:


Good morning sir... Anytin for me sir??

TonyeBarcanista:

This one na ajebutter lol

SonofLincoln:
Whooping a child can have a negative effect.

while majority (on twitter and nairaland) were in support of the father disciplining his daughter

ndiuelish:
seems like we have the same mum

Goloinu:
I’m 24, my mom still beats me whenever I misbehave. I remember 2 months ago when she gave me a hot slap and followed up with cane not minding the engagement ring on my finger.