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My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by 30naira: 4:50pm On Jul 25
Today, I attended a wedding ceremony. At the reception, the couple tried to maintain social distancing inside the reception hall, so there were limited seats. Most of the guests were in the open field outside. I sat behind two ladies, who should be in their mid or late twenties. I wasn't really paying much attention to them.

After a while, they left their seat and went out. After about 5 minutes two guys came, and sat down in the empty seats the ladies left. These guy are obviously in their early twenties.

About 30 minutes later, the two girls came back inside, I noticed that one of them has had a change of cloths. So obviously they went home and returned.

The girls demanded that the guys should leave the seat, because they got there first. It is their seat. As expected the guys bluntly refused. The girls started raising their voice and cursing. No one really cared to listen to them, the boys were busy consuming the drinks on the table.

One of the ladies got frustrated by the indifference of the boys, grabbed a glass of juice from the table and threw the content at the guy's face. The guy in turn opened the entire can, got up and started pouring it on the girl's head, ruining her make up and soaking her weavon.

Next thing we saw, the girl grabbed him by the collar with both hands, tearing at his skin with her nails. Before you could say Jack, the guy started raining down slaps on her face, she fought back too.

Before we could rush down, the girl had a bleeding nose and a red swollen face.

Now this is the part that particular offended me. Everyone that gathered round started heaping insult on the boy for beating up a girl, despite the fact that she initiated physical contact. Some women even went as far as threatening to arrest the boy. The entire narrative changed quickly. Some stupid men even tried to beat up the boys. I stood my ground and insisted that if anybody lays a finger on the boy, I ll see to it that everybody is kicked out of the reception.

It took the intervention of the officiating minister to calm the crowd. Everyone was insisting that he would pay for the girl's medical bills. Funny thing is that the guy had finger marks all over his neck. She was sobbing and attracting sympathy left and right, as if she was not the one barking like an animal moments earlier. In the end, it was the guys that were kicked out, the girls had the seat.

I get confused about this gender equality stuff, women want to be treated like men and treated differently at the same time. You can't claim equality only when it suits you. If it were two guys fighting, I'm sure they ll both be kicked out and nobody will spare a thought for the injured, there ll be no sobbing or comforting, it ll just be seen as two people disturbing the peace. But everyone is suddenly acting up to protect an equal specie, who is also the offender, and the females see nothing wrong in this inequality

Do you want equality or not?
Personally I respect and treat everyone equally, but if you initiate physical contact, male or female I will retaliate with the same ferocity.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by ademasta(m): 4:51pm On Jul 25
Hmmm undecided

Just consider yourself fighting with Yusuf Buhari, whether you are right or not, you will be dealt with by strong forces. That's how it plays out usually.

However, women are weaker vessels, no matter what transpires between you both, it will be perceived as if you are intentionally using naked powers on them. They will surely be listened to.

Have you considered great men that were thoroughly dealt with by women? Just because the man has bluntly refused her sex, probably in the office, and the next thing the woman would do is tear her own clothes to project rape. On this, never expect the man to be listened to. Both men and women will gather to condemn him.

The point is, women are stronger. Take it and be a man, or you leave it and be dealt with.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by NockMedia: 4:57pm On Jul 25
30naira:
Today, I attended a wedding ceremony. At the reception, the couple tried to maintain social distancing inside the reception hall, so there were limited seats. Most of the guests were in the open field outside. I sat behind two ladies, who should be in their mid or late twenties. I wasn't really paying much attention to them.

After a while, they left their seat and went out. After about 5 minutes two guys came, and sat down in the empty seats the ladies left. These guy are obviously in their early twenties.

About 30 minutes later, the two girls came back inside, I noticed that one of them has had a change of cloths. So obviously they went home and returned.

The girls demanded that the guys should leave the seat, because they got there first. It is their seat. As expected the guys bluntly refused. The girls started raising their voice and cursing. No one really cared to listen to them, the boys were busy consuming the drinks on the table.

One of the ladies got frustrated by the indifference of the boys, grabbed a glass of juice from the table and threw the content at the guy's face. The guy in turn opened the entire can, got up and started pouring it on the girl's head, ruining her make up and soaking her weavon.

Next thing we saw, the girl grabbed him by the collar with both hands, tearing at his skin with her nails. Before you could say Jack, the guy started raining down slaps on her face, she fought back too.

Before we could rush down, the girl had a bleeding nose and a red swollen face.

Now this is the part that particular offended me. Everyone that gathered round started heaping insult on the boy for beating up a girl, despite the fact that she initiated physical contact. Some women even went as far as threatening to arrest the boy. The entire narrative changed quickly. Some stupid men even tried to beat up the boys. I stood my ground and insisted that if anybody lays a finger on the boy, I ll see to it that everybody is kicked out of the reception.

It took the intervention of the officiating minister to calm the crowd. Everyone was insisting that he would pay for the girl's medical bills. Funny thing is that the guy had finger marks all over his neck. She was sobbing and attracting sympathy left and right, as if she was not the one barking like an animal moments earlier. In the end, it was the guys that were kicked out, the girls had the seat.

I get confused about this gender equality stuff, women want to be treated like men and treated differently at the same time. You can't claim equality only when it suits you. If it were two guys fighting, I'm sure they ll both be kicked out and nobody will spare a thought for the injured, there ll be no sobbing or comforting, it ll just be seen as two people disturbing the peace. But everyone is suddenly acting up to protect an equal specie, who is also the offender, and the females see nothing wrong in this inequality

Do you want equality or not?
I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by 30naira: 4:58pm On Jul 25
NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.

But ladies can raise their hands on a man?

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by xperiencelove(m): 4:59pm On Jul 25
That is women my brother. They claim gender equality when the situation suits them and play the weaker being to gather sympathy when they have messed up. Even house wives are worse.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Pierce008: 5:00pm On Jul 25
True gender equality can never exist between a man and woman

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by purpinkx(m): 5:05pm On Jul 25
NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.

A woman should never incite violence if she can't bear the backlash.


I don't go to challenge a taekwondo fighter to a fight when I don't have a chance of beating him or can't bear the beating he'll dish.


Shey the guy should have just stood there smiling, until she breaks a bottle and stab him?


The woman's emotions drove her to slap the guy, at that point she automatically becomes a man too.

USA slap China, China revenge. No harsh feelings


Modified for errors

Modified again


In the military, they are trained not to shoot at civilians (don't know about our naija militia)

However, when those civilians are armed and are out to kill you (the military man) the narrative changes to defend yourself.

I love women, really I do. But the thing is, if one stands behind me, I'll defend her (anyone that stands behind me). If one stands against me (anyone that stands against me) will get it as hot as they serve.


I'm a strong proponent of responsible tit for tat.


For all those saying walk away when a woman hits you, but will hit a man back. You are a sexist.




Thanks for the upvotes

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by J111333(m): 5:07pm On Jul 25
This is the sorry state of the world we live in today and it can only get worse.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by nexta007(m): 5:07pm On Jul 25
Frankly, I don't support violence of any kind. I don't also condone taking advantage of one's gender (particularly being female) to win cheap points and sympathy. If your narrative is true, then it's unfortunate. All this feminism rubbish with the advent of social media and a collapsing foundation of true Value, I don't see a way out yet. Our parents have failed woefully. If our parents'focused more on raising balanced kids who knw their place and worth and are disciplined, we won't have such issues. Well, let the gentleman always be it. Seek ways to ward off such ladies without a physical confrontation.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by traware(m): 5:11pm On Jul 25
NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man Don't.
If any of the ladies in the OPs story ever behaves towards me the way the OP described,Insha Allah I shall beat her to death cool

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by NockMedia: 5:12pm On Jul 25
purpinkx:


A woman should never incite violence if she can't bear the backlash.


I don't go to challenge a taekwondo fighter to a fight when I don't have a chance of beating him or can't bear the beating he'll dish.


The guy should have just stood there smiling, until she breaks bottle and stabs him.


The woman's emotions drive her to slap the guy, at that point she automatically becomes a man too.

USA slap China, China revenge. No harsh feelings


Walkaway from any and every potential confrontation with a lady.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by NockMedia: 5:14pm On Jul 25
30naira:


But ladies can raise their hands on a man?
Whenever a lady tries to get violent with you as a guy, the best thing to do is to walk away from the heat of the moment.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by GboyegaD(m): 5:15pm On Jul 25
Our ladies are impatient and act the way they do because the society will back them up. They are guest like the guys and if they left 30minutes, someone else should take up the vacant seat. She could have called witness in the least instead of act foolishly.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by NockMedia: 5:16pm On Jul 25
traware:

If any of the ladies in the OPs story ever behaves towards me the way the OP described,Insha Allah I shall beat her to death cool

That's your business and not mine.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by purpinkx(m): 5:19pm On Jul 25
NockMedia:

Whenever a lady tries to get violent with you as a guy, the best thing to do is to walk away from the heat of the moment.


BS.

Why didn't she go off and explain to the organizer of the occasion?

Maybe she would have gotten another chair?

No, she decided to humiliate the guy, and here you are saying the guy should have walked away and bear the emotional trauma for life.

He should walk away and cower whenever a woman challenges him.

He should happily accept being oppressed.

That's a pathetic life bro.


Modified.


When I was young, I'd beat my immediate elder sister, and she'll beat me back harder.

I cried to mummy and you know what she always told me?

“Don’t carry a small hand to go and beat someone with a big hand”

Only then will she tell my sister to beat me small small, to which my sister would reply “if he doesn't want to receive big, let him not beat me”

I learned to measure my opponent.

If I no go fit beat you equally or more, I won't start the attack.

If you start first, I can cry all I want and hustle beating back for you.


Ladies need to learn!

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by bigpicture001: 5:20pm On Jul 25
NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.

Plz say where u stand and stop deceptive statements...

I ask again.. Where do u stand on this..?

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by bigpicture001: 5:21pm On Jul 25
NockMedia:


Walkaway from any and every potential confrontation with a lady.

You are a sucker!

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Cowbell521: 5:23pm On Jul 25
NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.
See another pussy worshipper

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Cowbell521: 5:24pm On Jul 25
xperiencelove:
That is women my brother. They claim gender equality when the situation suits them and play the weaker being to gather sympathy when they have messed up. Even house wives are worse.
Ayam telling you

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by purpinkx(m): 5:24pm On Jul 25
GboyegaD:
Our ladies are impatient and act the way they do because the society will back them up. They are guest like the guys and if they left 30minutes, someone else should take up the vacant seat. She could have called witness in the least instead of act foolishly.

Don't mind them.

And NockMedia is here saying he should have walked away, with juice in his clothes.

And when the same guy meets another woman at the ATM claiming she came before him, he should make way.

And then at the filling station, the supermarket.

Men should always walk away.

Untill women start feeling entitled, every “Good’ man should walk away when a woman start nonsense

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by NockMedia: 5:24pm On Jul 25
Cowbell521:
See another pussy worshipper
LOL I just see things differently.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Cowbell521: 5:26pm On Jul 25
traware:

If any of the ladies in the OPs story ever behaves towards me the way the OP described,Insha Allah I shall beat her to death cool
Na so! That's the standard!

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by ABANGWABOI(m): 5:28pm On Jul 25
#ILMOVON cry cry
#Attitude
#Bliv


Tales of what Men go thru on a dialy in the hands of this confused and ill mannered lots.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by internationalman(m): 5:29pm On Jul 25
30naira:


But ladies can raise their hands on a man?

A Potential simp..

I slapped my girl back the day she slapped me first... Now imagine what would happen if a total stranger girl slaps me..

The only women I don't touch no matter what are pregnant women and very old women..

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Shedrack777: 5:33pm On Jul 25
NockMedia:

Whenever a lady tries to get violent with you as a guy, the best thing to do is to walk away from the heat of the moment.
you be woman wrapper aswear

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by NerdyRudeGyal: 5:37pm On Jul 25
The girls were at fault. I'm not going to take their side b/c they're females. They were 100% in the wrong.

1. Them leaving their seats made them available to anyone else, which is what happens in public settings involving seatings. Unless their names were on the chairs, they should've accepted that the seats were no longer theirs once they got up.

2. The physical assault [which is what it is] was started by one of them who threw juice on his face. I don't blame him for retaliating by pouring a can of whatever on her b/c anyone would've done the same thing in that moment. In fact, another dude would've likely hit her after this but he simply did the same thing she did to him, which I'm not going to blame him for at all.

3. The physical assault was further continued by her when she grabbed him and tore his skin w/ her nails, which again, made him retaliate and which I can't blame him for b/c she had gone too far.


Clearly, the girls felt somewhat entitled and Idk why. They were wrong on all three counts.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Humanoid01(m): 5:43pm On Jul 25
NockMedia:

LOL I just see things differently.
I see things the way you do too, but some guys nor get joy oo. It only takes a hard experience for some ladies to learn that they should never raise their voices or hands on men if they don't want to get beaten up. It takes a high level of self control for a man to resist hitting a woman, and I don't really blame guys who do.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Anny505(m): 5:52pm On Jul 25
NockMedia:

Walkaway from any and every potential confrontation with a lady.
Fucking SIMP!!!

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by AfroKnight: 5:56pm On Jul 25
I’m glad more people are beginning to recognise the FEMALE PRIVILEGE these women have always enjoyed in the guise of being the weaker (or fairer) sex.


That guy needs to be applauded for choosing to pour juice on the idîot of a woman instead of landing her a well deserved slap. He waited until she assaulted him before returning the favour.

Anyway, society has been manipulated into expecting simp behaviour from men. I am not surprised that those other male guests were flexing useless muscles because of a stûpid damsel in distress.

One thing is sure.

She would never in her life raise her hand at any man without counting the cost. I still don’t understand why women would harm a man and be surprised or outraged when he retaliates. I mean! It should be expected. There is an equal and opposite reaction for every action.


Women should pick a struggle. Equal responsibilities or the present preferential treatment they enjoy because of chivalry.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Yinkstar1: 5:58pm On Jul 25
NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.
But the lady get violent first, so she get what she deserves

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by AfroKnight: 6:01pm On Jul 25
NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.

Because the lady is a child or invalid or because men are natural punching bags?

Every human being reserves the right to defend himself until the danger passes. That lady probably shared your thoughts once upon a time, but thankfully, she has been disabused by that young man.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Meeyankee(m): 6:02pm On Jul 25
NockMedia:

Whenever a lady tries to get violent with you as a guy, the best thing to do is to walk away from the heat of the moment.
Swear you are a weak man .. so I should be running away because one stupid lady ? Las las Na faint she go faint.
Don’t worry I know what you are looking for, nairaland ladies come soon give you their ambassador.

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