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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Joshmuch: 7:04pm On Jul 29, 2020
When we tell guys , it is not all about money, Dem go dey say, have money and babes go rush you. Now, our simp brother get money and babes dey misbehave

Guys, learn game before you marry. It helps you go for what you want, date and marry a girl that love you in return not that tolerate you. Most men marry women that loathe and women can't help it since they need marriage the most. The women will be managing girls. That you had relationships in the past, doesn't mean you've learned anything from them. You may be repeating the same mistakes all over. You may still be a learner.
A little I learned from women is that, no matter a woman status, trigger before anything at all. Whether collecting her number, dates, etc. No feeling,no f**k

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by deltateam: 7:05pm On Jul 29, 2020
AfroKnight:
You do not feel anything for him but you love how he takes you out and spends money on you.

cheesy

You are tying this man down. Release him. Let him find the woman who feels something for him.

Don’t be an enemy of progress.
l

Imagine saying she will fight if she sees another woman besides him.

Some women are wicked o.

Go. You say NO.

Oya stay. You say NO again.

You be witch?

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Nobody: 7:07pm On Jul 29, 2020
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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by AlphaStorm: 7:09pm On Jul 29, 2020
May BOKO HARAM Thunder Fire you for Friend zoning the guy. PERIOD......!!!!!!! grin

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by deltateam: 7:11pm On Jul 29, 2020
NNU0000:
Hahahahaha Chillax nah grin

E dey pain sha.

I have fallen to such charms before but babe started forming innocentia.

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by googi: 7:11pm On Jul 29, 2020
If this story is true or not, it happens in real life.

She longed for the guy but found out he was too kind, successful and she succeeded in driving him to love her.

The game here is love me love me not. She now plays hard to get. He chases her to satisfy his wishes and she teased him a little bit more.

The day he finds out she is telling everyone she does not love him, ime eye go open wide. The game will be reversed. But it might be too late.

Na babalawo dey deceive am and she is getting a good kick out of it. Her eye go clear soon.
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by TheKingIsHere: 7:12pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:

I was playing with him, like a sister
Never mentioned I love him


Thunder solder that your mouth.

You were calling him "boyfriend", "husband", telling him "I hope no other girl is coming for you", bla bla bla, yet now claiming "sister" after playing with his emotions and driving other ladies that would have bettered his life? angry angry

Na God go punish you.

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by deltateam: 7:13pm On Jul 29, 2020
Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
You don't need to feel anything

Love is not all about feelings
It is a choice and decision


Loving someone is about taking a decision that you want to love a particular person and in a couple of days or months you will realize you are madly in love with the person already
So take a decision to love him

First time you truly said something sensible.
Maybe you are sober today.
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by kowalsky: 7:15pm On Jul 29, 2020
ethicallyright:




"A strong man doesn't have to be dominant toward a woman. He doesn't match his strength against a woman weak with love for him. He matches it against the world." - Marilyn Monroe.





Norma Jean, also Marilyn Monroe , was the Kardashian of the 60s. A sex figure she was - an innocent fine face, endowed with curly blonde hair and the slim figure 8 which were in Vogue few decades past. Many men who we would later define as simps ,fell at her feet and wished they could have just a night with the late thespian.

The quote above suggests that women do not love men who beg them for love. If he walked your flat ass out of his office and saw you as the flirt you are, you'd fall for him. If he didn't convert his job hours at the mall to a honey moon, the title of this thread could have been :

"I love my boss but he doesn't care"

or
" My boss is rich but doesn't love women. How do I make him notice and fall in love with me?"

We've warned these weak men consistently but they care little. Tell him to give you 5 million naira and thereafter tell him that he is " emotionally assaulting" you. Maybe he will learn this precious lesson the hard way.

Lucky lady, I give you my blessings!




Look at this smart man!

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by deltateam: 7:15pm On Jul 29, 2020
SavageMaster:



How can you be playing with the emotions of an almost 40 year old, never married, well-to-do gentleman? You just want him to be your bestie and you hanging around him. SMH.

Aunty, he wants MARRIAGE. He will not settle for anything less. If you don't want, cut off from him COMPLETELY. Desist from hanging around him and playing with his emotions again.

I don't know where you people learn all these from

ishilove come and answer this one. Where do you people learn deception from, abi na follow come? grin
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by skukz(m): 7:19pm On Jul 29, 2020
my dear Watch Nollywood & learn how to love him and not like him Thank me later
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by deltateam: 7:19pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:

I was playing with him, like a sister
Never mentioned I love him

He is not your brother. Why play with a full grown man's feelings?

It's totally wrong. You even wrapped him around your fingers by making yourself indispensable to him.

He can't breathe without you. cry
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by skukz(m): 7:20pm On Jul 29, 2020
my dear Watch Nollywood & learn how to love him and not like him Thank me later
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Okuda(m): 7:29pm On Jul 29, 2020
this one na mumu o grin
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by CsRockefeller(m): 7:35pm On Jul 29, 2020
A successful man at 40 yet single.




That's a cause for worry.

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by greggng: 7:35pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.

You wanna use your God given husband as boy friend? Go ahead if that is how you want your life .
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Liebin: 7:41pm On Jul 29, 2020
litigator:

God bless u...

Just copy this thing , edit it and send to him as WhatsApp message.

This is straight from the heart. You don't force love, so I will advice you take it slow.

Love might grow from taking it slow and you might actually start missing him.

There is also a possibility you love him dearly, but you are living in self denial because you are not even sure of what you want in a man.

You didn't say no to his request, you only don't feel that butterfly. You may not feel it until you stop seeing him regularly, and then you start missing him.

You can actually do that to test your feelings for him.
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by thecommunist(m): 7:43pm On Jul 29, 2020
Mhen! That guy is smooth...lol
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Xinox: 7:46pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:

Lol
More problems
your service dear.
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Nobody: 7:48pm On Jul 29, 2020
dairykidd:
Just imagine.. after setting him up to fall u want let am knack face fo tarred road. Teasing and playing with a grown man's emotions just for fun. Now him done finally fall u dey ask advise undecided

Is this not harassment... non physical harassment in a place of work. That guy should sue for damages

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by zakkxx: 7:48pm On Jul 29, 2020
You c young lady, take your short but test him first. Tell him you believe in no sex till marriage; mean it oo. I am tell you if it is infatuation time will tell him go jappa. But if he truly love you, he will wait for you and marry you. But if you refuse to hear my word hand it over to him like Buhari second term Oyo is your case oooo.
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by robosky02(m): 7:49pm On Jul 29, 2020
Babe



CALM DOWN





The love will soon swallow you

Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Unconquerable: 7:55pm On Jul 29, 2020
Leave it to women when it comes to drama.
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Toks2008(m): 7:56pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.

Good relationships often start without deep feelings, it grows with time. And the most important thing is how the man feels about you. If you have strong feelings fpr a guy who has no feling for you, my sister, you are finished.

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Aadeyinka(m): 7:56pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.
i blamed the guy for not have been giving you nice banging, this will bring out real love in the scienerio , sex bring love /intimacy you won't want to miss him. You toy with his emotions anfd now the poor guy in love with you, you should not have gone far before cut off
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Strech(m): 7:59pm On Jul 29, 2020
You don't feel any thing for him, yet you always want to hang out with him? it's either you are naive or you just want to form shakara for us.. okay let me just be straight with you..you have already fallen for the guy.. make this guy just ignore you for just 1 week, and see if you no go comit suicide.
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Ishilove: 8:01pm On Jul 29, 2020
deltateam:


ishilove come and answer this one. Where do you people learn deception from, abi na follow come? grin
My brother, na follow come oooooooooo cheesy

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by darediamond(m): 8:01pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.
You appear to be a PLAYGIRL who thinks she knows her Rigth from Left but alas, you don't!!!

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Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by Jaqenhghar: 8:05pm On Jul 29, 2020
Chinkos99:
Our company recently employed this guy, we worked in the same company before, then he was a manager and i was a junior staff.

I left the company years ago and joined another, so few months ago he got employed in my new office as a Director.

When he resumed, being that i knew him before, i started playing around with him, like when he was introduced to us, i was like oo, common, i hug him tightly and people were surprise at our closeness before i informed them that we have worked together before.

I am a jovial person, so each time i go around his office, i will call him boyfriend, my love, hope no girl is trespassing cos i will fight o and his subordinates will laugh and say you are not serious.

On the job, we get to work together at times cos i am a Manager now, we go for meetings etc, then some of his job includes doing some short production, even though i am not employed as a video producer, i told him i can do those for him personally, cos i recently learn those, he was surprise before but he decided to give me a try, i did it for him and he liked it, he became close and said i was helping him solve alot of problems.

Recently when he comes to my office, he will ask my PA where is my woman and that one will laugh knowing i started it but i just thought that was it though.

So last month when we went to the Palms Mall, to seek for permission to film their facilities in the short production work we had, we were together then he decided to do some shopping, i helped him carry the things he bought and just had fun, he took me to shoprite and ask me to shop, i just pick two things, drink and rice and he said is that all i said yes, he started showing me things, take this, take that i said i was okay, that it wasnt appropriate to come here and start shopping like its month end. So we left, in the car he said, you do have some very good attribute girl, i said like what, he said never mind and we drove off.

After that he started asking if we can have lunch but most time our lunch time dont sync, so i told him not to worry, then he asked for a dinner, i close late, im a workaholic, so most times i will agree but i will work till 9pm and he would have waited and get tired and left.

Finally i get to have a dinner date with him and he ask if we could do this more often, i said why not boyfriend jokingly, the next time we were having dinner, I said boyfriend let me greet that guy there, i really needed to meet him, he has a contact i need for work, he held me and said you call me boyfriend jokingly, i want you to mean it lol.

After i met with the guy, he started telling me how he loved me and how he will really love us to be in a relationship, he doesnt expect a yes and he knows its so wrong on all level because we work in the same place, but i can think about it and give him a response later that he will respect any decision i make.

I said thank you o, but since then, dude is so soft and nervous when he sees me, i can see the butterflies even when we are in a client meeting.

Even though he tries not to make it obvious at work, after work he is all over me

Last night we were together, i told him i am scared as he is almost 40 and not married, that i believe any guy who gets to that age, with enough money but has not married is a play boy lol. He couldn't say a word for like some minutes then he said, yes i am old enough to have been married and i had relationships, beautiful relationships with wonderful women, some didn't work because of my mistakes and because of things i neglected and some didn't work because it was not meant to work, but above all have learnt alot to be at least a better man and i am ready to make it work this time i promise, i have no doubt if you are the right girl because have known you for long and have never had a second thought about my woman, so forgive me for not making it work all these while, i want to make it right this time - MEHN THOSE WORDS RINGS IN MY HEAD LIKE KILODE, i loved the fact that he didnt put the blame on the ladies he's dated.

Now on my own side, I do not feel anything for him but i like him alot, i like that we should be hanging out, go out, do dinner and talk from morning tonight but i do not feel anything aside that. What do you guys advise.
Continue hanging out and take it from there. He seems ready to wait so be friends and get to know each other but please dont touch his money. You know how Niggerian men and their money are
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by frozen70(f): 8:09pm On Jul 29, 2020
SirMichael1:
How do you think she'll allow a man whom she doesn't love to see her uncloth and then have sex and also make it PASSIONATE?

If you read well, you will see where I said that love and affection grows with time

Don't be surprise if it happens this public holidays
Re: Resurfaced: I Don't Love Him But This Is Happening, Advice Needed. by CapitalBank: 8:11pm On Jul 29, 2020
SavageMaster:



How can you be playing with the emotions of an almost 40 year old, never married, well-to-do gentleman? You just want him to be your bestie and you hanging around him. SMH.

Aunty, he wants MARRIAGE. He will not settle for anything less. If you don't want, cut off from him COMPLETELY. Desist from hanging around him and playing with his emotions again.

I don't know where you people learn all these from
She should also stop playing such nonsense around men... haba...

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