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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 11:53am On Aug 01, 2020
Toks2008:


Are you sure you are responding to this thread?
yep. Responding to hashtagged's comment.
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 11:56am On Aug 01, 2020
Dew04:
Exactly, they are so narrow minded. They use that "bread winner" phrase to exonerate themselves. As if women aren't earning nowadays.
Some even take over completely when their husbands lose their job.
Sometimes I get confused over this "breadwinner" thing. Is it that the husband will provide for everything while the wife will keep her money if she's working. Hardly will you see a woman who doesn't work these days,and with the economy situation it is very rare to see Men providing for all needs. Lol.

When both husband and wife are still struggling to live comfortably by hustling together, someone will think of doing that alone because he doesn't want to share chores? Him grave go deep pass 6 feet. grin cheesy. It takes both couples nothing work together to make their home great. People should do away with egos and insensitivity.

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 12:04pm On Aug 01, 2020
Toks2008:


As they say, ''If you want to hide vital info from a typical African, hide it in a book and they will never find it''

Cos they are too lazy to read.


If this short thing is too long for you then you wont even read it if i is shortened.

No need to be all sensitive bros, it's just a little act of courtesy to your esteemed readers.

I greet you.
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by reservd(m): 12:26pm On Aug 01, 2020
Most male children were brought up by the parents especially the moms not to do domestic chores, the believe that it's the wives that will be doing such, reason why girls were trained how to keep a home, they were never taught anything. They grow and marry with this orientation and believe it's normal. Absolute fault shouldn't go to this kinds of husbands, couples of now should endeavour to teach both gender home chores so the males when grown won't see any biggie in helping out their wives at anytime irrespective of financial status

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by LordKO(m): 12:34pm On Aug 01, 2020
You've just been hypocritically disingenuous, even if your erroneous submission is from the place of ignorance, after all, ignorance of the law excuses no one.

Your wittingly or unwittingly erroneous interpretation of "wife material" can never be a standard, because it's a colloquial word; in order words, those who identify with the word justly aren't neither evil nor small-minded as your submission connotes/represents. Personally, when I use or see someone uses the word, a virtuous woman is what I mean.

I, however, have to agree with you that a virtuous woman/wife isn't a servile woman or shouldn't be expected to take to servility to prove that she's a virtuous woman. Wherever I see a conscientious woman automatically, I see a virtuous woman.

Love renews energy, and it never drains it. So, as a man, a sane man, it behooves on you to make sure you don't drain your partner's energy, unless she isn't a virtuous woman, because love remains the greatest refreshment in life.

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by babakb: 12:35pm On Aug 01, 2020
If she doesn't want to do house chores just add second wife...

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 12:42pm On Aug 01, 2020
babakb:
If she doesn't want to do house chores just add second wife...
Lol... Very Intelligent! And if that second wife refuse to do house chores, add another one! grin keep adding until you find the one "Made to do house chores" grin grin

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by AfroKnight: 12:48pm On Aug 01, 2020
Palema007:
grin grin grin grin grin

Na your type go dey demand make wife use grinding stone over blender. grin grin

Our ancestors used grinding stone so why not? Is she greater than her fore-mothers?

Anyway, I’m only building her character. grin
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 12:53pm On Aug 01, 2020
AfroKnight:


Our ancestors used grinding stone so why not? Is she greater than her fore-mothers?

Anyway, I’m only building her character. grin
You are not a husband material at all angry. Well I don't expect much from one with potbelly in this century grin grin

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by hashtagged(m): 12:57pm On Aug 01, 2020
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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Jeffyblaq(m): 12:59pm On Aug 01, 2020
UDUJ:


This will be interesting cheesy

I'll park my car here

Toks be ready for some serious bashing cheesy
There's no bashing here..

He's said it all 100 % pure.

Only slow pokes would wanna counter this

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:06pm On Aug 01, 2020
.....So the meaning of a good and virtuous wife is now a slave? .

Make Una continue dey break Una homes feeling woke.

Waiting for the day my wife will say so rubbish to my hearing.

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by UDUJ(m): 1:16pm On Aug 01, 2020
Jeffyblaq:

There's no bashing here..

He's said it all 100 % pure.

Only slow pokes would wanna counter this

I have no issues with his post. Cheers cool

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 1:18pm On Aug 01, 2020
hashtagged:


Treat with respect is not a gender issue, have you not seen wives that disrespect their husbands despite what the husband has done for the family.
And are you in the lives of those women to know where the money goes, but i can bet 70% of those women dont spend that money on breadwinning
Neither are you. If a woman spends her money on foodstuffs, or paying the school fees of at least one child, isn't she breadwinning? undecided
No matter how meagre, the money is still used in the family. Most men depend on their wives to handle the several minor expenses. While they source for the house rent and others.
So why can't the man assist a little in the home?

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Martinez39s(m): 1:29pm On Aug 01, 2020
JONNYSPUTE:
.....So the meaning of a good and virtuous wife is now a slave? .

Make Una continue dey break Una homes feeling woke.

Waiting for the day my wife will say so rubbish to my hearing.
The OP made some exaggerations and disingenuous statements. He was basically strawmanning.

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 1:38pm On Aug 01, 2020
reservd:
Most male children were brought up by the parents especially the moms not to do domestic chores, the believe that it's the wives that will be doing such, reason why girls were trained how to keep a home, they were never taught anything. They grow and marry with this orientation and believe it's normal. Absolute fault shouldn't go to this kinds of husbands, couples of now should endeavour to teach both gender home chores so the males when grown won't see any biggie in helping out their wives at anytime irrespective of financial status

Bless you.
Upbringing is a major culprit in this issue.

Most male kids aren't taught how to cook and do other domestic chores at home so they grow up with this mentality and when they get married they expect only their wives do the domestic chores.

Also, they never saw their fathers cooking so they think it's stupid for them to cook while they have a wife.

We need to change the way we do things in the family for the betterment of everybody.

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 1:41pm On Aug 01, 2020
LordKO:
[s] You're just being hypocritically disingenuous, even if your erroneous submission is from the place of ignorance, after all, ignorance of the law excuses no one.

Your wittingly or unwittingly erroneous interpretation of "wife material" can never be a standard, because it's a colloquial word; in order words, those who identify with the word justly aren't neither evil nor small-minded as your submission connotes/represents. Personally, when I use, or see someone uses, the word, a virtuous woman is what I mean.

I, however, have to agree with you that a virtuous woman/wife isn't a servile woman or shouldn't be expected to take to servility to prove that she's a virtuous woman. Wherever I see a conscientious woman automatically I see a virtuous woman.

Love renews energy, it never drains it. So, as a man, a sane man, it behooves on you to make sure you don't drain your partner's energy, unless she isn't a virtuous woman, because love remains the greatest refreshment in life.
[/s]

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 1:41pm On Aug 01, 2020
babakb:
If she doesn't want to do house chores just add second wife...

Are you okay?

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 1:43pm On Aug 01, 2020
Jeffyblaq:
There's no bashing here..
He's said it all 100 % pure.
Only slow pokes would wanna counter this
Exactly bruv.
Only misogynists and archaic slow pokes will have a problem with what toks said

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 1:44pm On Aug 01, 2020
JONNYSPUTE:
.[s] ....So the meaning of a good and virtuous wife is now a slave? .

Make Una continue dey break Una homes feeling woke.

Waiting for the day my wife will say so rubbish to my hearing[/s] .

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by potbelly(m): 1:46pm On Aug 01, 2020
shocked embarassed
Palema007:
You are not a husband material at all angry. Well I don't expect much from one with potbelly in this century grin grin
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 1:48pm On Aug 01, 2020
potbelly:
shocked embarassed
Lol. grin
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by LadySarah: 1:50pm On Aug 01, 2020
It is only a heartless man that'd watch his wife slave in the name of being a wife material.
The women are even the most to be blamed. When your bf or fiance gives you his spare keys and your lil mind advises you to make sure all his chores are done once you visit. Then marriage time, you come here to disturb us. You have to finish what you strtrd.

When our mothers allow the boys to play or do nothing while the girl child is slaving in the home. A grown ass man won't change in his home cos he has been spoilt from cradle.

The narrative starts with us. If you start early with them, they'll learn.

I have only males and they are doing their age appropriate chores. Their father is 100 percent hands on too when around

. No help whatsoever and we rock.

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 1:52pm On Aug 01, 2020
potbelly:
shocked embarassed
Lol... You always get entangled with our chats. grin grin . Sorry, not sorry about that.tongue
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 1:56pm On Aug 01, 2020
except u want ur wife to look old before her time i dont see why u cant have a nanny to help in some of the home chorus.having said that its not bad wanting your wife to cook your meals cos when she does that and u two eat together it brings the family closer.most times family issues are discussed more in family dinners than in other times.But then if ur wife is the very busy type u can have a nanny to do ur meals while once in a while she can cook for u.i depends on the family though cos i know there are wives who dont cook or do anything for their husbands but u can bet ur life such men have side chics that care for them.

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by hashtagged(m): 1:58pm On Aug 01, 2020
Dew04:
Neither are you. If a woman spends her money on foodstuffs, or paying the school fees of at least one child, isn't she breadwinning? undecided
No matter how meagre, the money is still used in the family. Most men depend on their wives to handle the several minor expenses. While they source for the house rent and others.
So why can't the man assist a little in the home?

Who told you they dont?, And securing rent paying fees and expenses is a lot more compared to what ever the woman assists with like 9:1
Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 2:02pm On Aug 01, 2020
LadySarah:
It is only a heartless man that'd watch his wife slave in the name of being a wife material.
The women are even the most to be blamed. When your bf or fiance gives you his spare keys and your lil mind advises you to make sure all his chores are done once you visit. Then marriage time, you come here to disturb us. You have to finish what you strtrd.

When our mothers allow the boys to play or do nothing while the girl child is slaving in the home. A grown ass man won't change in his home cos he has been spoilt from cradle.

The narrative starts with us. If you start early with them, they'll learn.

I have only males and they are doing their age appropriate chores. Their father is 100 percent hands on too when around

. No help whatsoever and we rock.
This is the main reason I focused on women alone in my post. Some ladies don't have sense.! They will do anything just to bag that Mrs title and when they finally do, they expect to be treated like queens. Some will go as far as going to boyfriend's parents house to wash, cook, clean and slave away just to be accepted as a house wife material. Lol grin . Those that attend every events taking place in boyfriend's family house irk me the most, some will go there days before the main event to prepare for it. grin . Let me not talk about those that are already "unmarried wives" cohabiting with guys. Lol. grin grin grin I wonder how these women demand queen treatment when they have already given themselves off as slaves. Desperate slaves whose lives and being revolves around Men.

Seriously some women can do better!

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 2:02pm On Aug 01, 2020
Palema007:
Lol.... I'm very Lazy oooo. 1/2 yard is too much, them never see raw resources to produce my own material. cry
so anytime u visit ur boyfriend u no dey gree cook for am?
be honest oo?
even girls dat are just normal friends to some guys wen they visit such guys jump into the kitchen and start preparing meals
some do this just to show to the guy that they are potential wife material and dat the guy should see what he is missing cheesy
and i know when a lady starts looking for a husband thats the most time she starts showing her techniques in the kitchen cheesy
i pray say a lady that is marriage due will just portray to a guy that she is the lazy type and cant do anything in the kitchen cheesy
except maybe if u are from a very wealthy family then the guy wont mind if u lazy and cant do anything but be rest assured wen una marry he will look for a side chick to look after him cheesy cheesy
na normal tin cheesy

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Rilwayne001: 2:03pm On Aug 01, 2020
Marriage, in the true sense of union, should never be a slavery business whereby one works his/her ass for the benefit of the other partner. However in a marriage setting, I do believe both parties in the union must bring something tangible to the table to make things balance. Also it's important that in a situation whereby things are not generally as balance as we'd want them to be, that love fills such void for it to be absolutely balance subjectively.

In my opinion, I believe, the man, aside being a natural provider of the family is also a natural protector of it. There are situation whereby the woman can take the former position, but can never take the latter position. The more reason why the man is very important leading wherever the boat of the marriage is going.

I believe a marriage whereby the man provides over 80% needs of the family, it is only logical that the woman provides something else in proper amount to complement the man's effort. For example, if the man pays the normal bills, house rent, foods, children fees etc, then it is pertinent on the woman to do something in proportion of what the man is doing. Of course you don't expect me to be carrying all these financial burdens and when the time to rest comes, I should start going about with kitchen duties or other house chores. Objectively it's not balance. And if the wife takes the position of doing all these house chores and taking care of the kids, that's not slavery but rather helping the husband.

But then a situation whereby the wife pays bills as much as the man, maybe splitting it or something, then of course, the whole burden of house duties cannot be rested on the woman, but an important point to note is that, she still has to do more of home duties than the husband, because already the husband is taking care of the family's protection, something the woman can never do.

Meanwhile, we don't expect all these to be balance, one way or the other it'll always be lopsided. What makes marriage fruitful and lasting is LOVE and RESPECT. If the love and respect are there, nothing will look like a burden on either part of the parties. However if one of these two things is missing, forget it, even if the wife turns a slave to the husband or the husband turns to satisfy his wife, the marriage would, Sooner rather than later, crash or be painful for both parties.

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Timi141: 2:05pm On Aug 01, 2020
J111333:
Marriages of old were stable because our grandmothers accepted the roles of slaves and it was very easy for them to do that. They were mostly what Oyibos call home makers but this is unacceptable and overwhelming to today's wives who equally work hard to put food on the table just like the men.
In my opinion, men should sit and live up to the expectations of today's world.
How can a pregnant woman be cleaning and washing while her husband sits and watch tv?
How can a man not help out in the kitchen when his wife is overwhelmed cooking several dishes at a time?
How can a man sit and watch while his wife bathes the kids, dresses them and takes them to school?
These things can be done and they won't make someone less a man, it's all about common sense.
Those marriages were stable because the women had no recourse or choice in the matter.

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by Nobody: 2:08pm On Aug 01, 2020
LadySarah:


When our mothers allow the boys to play or do nothing while the girl child is slaving in the home. A grown ass man won't change in his home cos he has been spoilt from cradle.

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come on all this is complete bs.there many nigerian guys who can cook much much better than the average nigerian girl of today.,Many guys of today are familiar with cooking stuff and many learnt from their moms.Fastfood has made many young ladies disregard how to cook.Go to campuses and see female hostels.most of them prefer sharwarma and indomie cos that one is easier to buy than do than to enter the kithen and prepare a nutritious meal..but if u go to guy hostels u see them preparing home cooked meals.Who frequent fastfoods more? is it not ladies? the only time we guys even go to fastfood joints is when we want to take a girl along cheesy.Go to sheraton and chevron.how many of the chefs are females?

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Re: When you want a Slave In The Name Of Wife Material. by LadySarah: 2:11pm On Aug 01, 2020
Palema007:
This is the main reason I focused on women alone in my post. Some ladies don't have sense.! They will do anything just to bag that Mrs title and when they finally do, they expect to be treated like queens. Some will go as far as going to boyfriend's parents house to wash, cook, clean and slave away just to be accepted as a house wife material. Lol grin . Those that attend every events taking place in boyfriend's family house irk me the most, some will go there days before the main event to prepare for it. grin . Let me not talk about those that are already "unmarried wives" cohabiting with guys. Lol. grin grin grin I wonder how these women demand queen treatment when they have already given themselves off as slaves. Desperate slaves whose lives and being revolves around Men.

Seriously some women can do better!

My bestie is suffering it right now. She's on Nl sef. The once bubbly lady has become a shadow of herself.
But I warned her. When she'd tell me how her husband would praise her and tell her she doesn't behave like a last born. I told her to tone down cos later she will suffer it.
3 kids down the line she has been shedding tears s each time she calls me.Oga can't lift his boxer shorts from the floor to save his life. Won't even go to fill the gas cylinder with his caroo while his wife will be jumping kekec with 12.5kg cylinder,or minor repairs at home. Just drop money and face front. Fresh food tinz.

Me I will just say sorry. E no concern me.

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