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Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by taskcompleteng: 6:49am On Aug 01, 2020
Research has revealed that some single women are now complaining due to over scarcity of suitors in the country. It is the desire of most ladies to get hooked to a man at certain age brackets for support, procreation and affection. But all around today, we have many single ladies with no suitors. There are many single ladies and as well as bachelors who would want to get married, but the fear of uncertainty of the future of the union have really prevented many from doing so owing to unpredicatable economic situation.

Reports showed that there were enough women and men who really wanted to get married but it appeared both sides do not want to gamble into it to avoid devastating consequences and regrets in the future. One of the ladies, who preferred to be simply called Titi said she had taken the issue of marriage as a do-or-die affair due to “internal pressure” but that as much as she had tried, frustration had often been the result. At 37, the businesswoman who sells clothes in Ikeja, the Lagos State capital in western Nigeria, disclosed that she is not finding life easy.

“What is happiness without a man in a woman’s life?”she asked our correspondent during a chat. She had dated several men with some promising marriage, but without fulfilling the promise.

“You can’t imagine that in the last three years, I have dated about eight men, but the relationship was often short-lived simply because I ask for their commitment.I am not getting any younger and I cry every time I see my mates with their husbands and children.If at 37 I don’t have a child or a permanent man, when would I have them? Is it when my skin has wrinkled? she asked our correspondent

Miss Karia Anumba, 41, lamented that she had lived and changed many cities in Nigeria looking for suitors but those she met were afraid because they were not sure of the future of the marriage. She revealed that she tried to convince and persuade the men she had contact with to make the move and even assured them that she would manage no matter the condition, but regretted that none of them agreed to marry her. Anumba said she quickly relocated to Lagos from Abuja when she realized that she was gradually turning into prostitute because of the drive for marriage.

She explained that since she came to Lagos, she had engaged herself with a work and was still searching for interested men but yet to get one. She narrated that some men who were above 40 years still roamed about and do not want to get married; attributing it to fear and economic condition as most of them were jobless.

Bose (surname withheld), 37, has found herself patronising many of the social interaction sites on the internet.The banker told our correspondent that she is on Eskimi, 2go, Badoo, Whatsapp, Facebook, Twitter as well as 4clique and Instagram just to look for life partner.

“We can’t tell the particular broom in the bunch that kills a fly,” she said on why she patronises such number of social interaction sites. “I always change my name in the different sites but the ultimate goal is to get a husband,” she added. Bose reveals that she is really worried about the situation, adding that she lives comfortably (in a mini-flat and has a car), “but who do I have to enjoy this comfort with me?

“I have tried a hook up programme on a Lagos-based radio station, but my age is now a major factor hindering my dream of being married,” she lamented pleading with our married correspondent, who she considered a bachelor, to “help dry my tears.”

A married woman, who gave her name as Mrs. Blessing Aguebor and resident in Oshodi, confirmed that the issue of lack of serious men for marriage is giving many ladies sleepless nights. She narrated the touching story of her friend who was disappointed by her boyfriend of five years when it was time to “settle down”.

“My friend was 29 when he met this man in Benin and they dated for five years. The man was always giving the lady hope without her knowing the man had other plans. The year he fixed for their marriage was the year he travelled abroad without even informing my friend. It was later he called her and asked her to find another man because he still had many more years to hustle. My friend almost went mad. She is 36 now without a man. I had to convince her to relocate to Lagos so that possibly out of the population here, she would find someone. It is pathetic,” she said.

A 38-year old business woman in Ketu, narrated how she lost her first husband to a friend, Idayat, who was desperate for a husband. According to Mrs. Adewunmi who remarried last year, Idayat was 36 and needed a husband but her search was endless.

“I was always encouraging her and made her a part of my family. She would always help me take care of the kids when I go to the market. With time, she took over my husband without my knowledge until the day I caught them red-handed and that was the end of my marriage. Ladies are like hunters these days,” she said.

Asked why she was not married at 34, Blessing, a nurse with a private hospital in Abuja, retorted: “that is why I’m on this social site. Why are you asking? Is it a bad idea if you propose to me?”

She explained that life was becoming unbearable without a husband.

“My friends and family members are aways asking when they would come and ‘chop’ rice, and I keep hoping,” she added.

A marriage counsellor in Lagos, Mrs. Victoria Aliu, told P.M.NEWS that scarcity of ‘real men’ is becoming a terrible condition for women ready for marriage. She blamed the problem partly on the Nigerian economy, confusion among the bachelors on their choices of the women they want as wives and the attitudes of the spinsters.

“Many women, whether consciously or not, behave irritably sometimes, forgetting that the man just beside them at every point in time may just have been nursing how to start a conversation that could lead to marriage. Some other ladies are very choosy and unserious at their early stages of adulthood. They only open their eyes to discover that their friends are all married and that they are the only ones left at the bus stop. Then it becomes a terrible case for them,” she explained.

With the above examples, do you sincerely think that there is scarcity of men for ladied in Nigeria?…..kindly share your opinion with us below

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Nobody: 6:50am On Aug 01, 2020
cry me a river

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by MajesticKris: 6:59am On Aug 01, 2020
Nope... when we tell them to marry on time they will be busy jumping from one man to another...

Men start life at the age of 30,while women at the age of 16.. so if you're not married at 30 grin

No man will take you serious especially when you are Rich

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Nobody: 6:59am On Aug 01, 2020
There is no job out there like that, plus the man is most likely going to be the sole provider. No man wants to marry knowing he will slave himself and still wallow in poverty because of dependencies. It is well. Plus I don't think this generation value marriage, I have heard so many people expressing their displeasure in marriage as an institution more in this generation than the previous.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Nobody: 7:00am On Aug 01, 2020
MajesticKris:
Nope... when we tell them to marry on time they will be busy jumping from one man to another...

Men start life at the age of 30,while women at the age of 16.. so if you're not married at 30 grin

No man will take you serious especially when you are Rich
i don't get this part

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by MajesticKris: 7:10am On Aug 01, 2020
you don't get the part where ,men won't take them serious , Have you tried talking to a girl Driving in a Benz before, Maybe when you do, you'll know how Rude 80% of them are..
pcguru1:
i don't get this part

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by LoudlyMouthed: 7:18am On Aug 01, 2020
Only if those everly rude, nagging & stubborn wives giving dir (Mr Nice Guy) husbands heartattack would listen n learn

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Stephenomozzy(m): 7:19am On Aug 01, 2020
The poor ones have a leech mentality,

The rich ones feel they don't really need a man if he's not 10x richer than herself - they start acting fake feminism

The Middle class one are still trying to decide

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by gungab(m): 7:27am On Aug 01, 2020
Common Meenh!

Men no scarce , na ladies dey find CBN director to marry

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Talknochip(m): 7:28am On Aug 01, 2020
Fp material.. Coming back to comment my comment



Many are just not lucky
Things just don't want to work for them regarding marriage!

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by dangermouse(m): 7:34am On Aug 01, 2020
The quest to marry an already made man is what is keeping many of them from being married. QED

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by MajesticKris: 7:38am On Aug 01, 2020
true talk...

dangermouse:
The quest to marry an already made man is what is keeping many of them from being married. QED

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by vikithor(m): 7:44am On Aug 01, 2020
Get a skill,add value to your self learn how to drive better than you thought, heard or were shown in few weeks time.Learn how to drive manual or automatic car, also to learn basic vehicle checks.
You will to drive like a civilized person not like danfo or molue drivers of Lagos roads.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by DaddyRochie1642: 7:55am On Aug 01, 2020
It has Ended In WEEPING and Sincere WAILING and gnashing of Teeth for those Women with their Tired KPEKUS grin grin

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by UDUJ(m): 7:58am On Aug 01, 2020
DaddyRochie1642:


It has Ended In WEEPING and Sincere WAILING and gnashing of Teeth for those Women with their Tired KPEKUS grin grin

cheesy grin cheesy Una go just dey confuse all these nairaland perverts with your female status cheesy

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by simplepee(f): 8:02am On Aug 01, 2020
Very funny. I know Nl guys will have full erection over this post.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Nobody: 8:04am On Aug 01, 2020
The point exactly is men are getting wise they will rather prefer the baby mama stuff than to wed you
They already know the marriage is not favouring men again, and worst part of it our economy is not helping cause many graduate are jobless
Person wey no get job tell am say make he go marry he go bang something for your head grin
And besides when they marry you, you will definitely change in your ways and behaviour

I heard a programm on radio where they match make people for marriage and believe me the numbers of Ladies that called is more plenty than men I was like WTF angry
Funniest part they were asked of their age some were even mentioning 43,42,35,32 was just laughing at them cause they ought to peg their age down a bit no man will want to marry ladies with those age they will prefer those young girls
I pray they all find their soulmate
Cause being single ain't easy at all
Seeing your mate's carrying their baby and you are still in the single zone
That Shit hurt like a motherfucker

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Tallesty1(m): 8:14am On Aug 01, 2020
MajesticKris:
you don't get the part where ,men won't take them serious , Have you tried talking to a girl Driving in a Benz before, Maybe when you do, you'll know how Rude 80% of them are..
And how did you approach them?

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Trizyd(m): 8:16am On Aug 01, 2020
simplepee:
Very funny. I know Nl guys will have full erection over this post.
Very senseless. Imagine what's coming out of your brain. undecided

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Nobody: 8:17am On Aug 01, 2020
MajesticKris:
Nope... when we tell them to marry on time they will be busy jumping from one man to another...

Men start life at the age of 30,while women at the age of 16.. so if you're not married at 30 grin

No man will take you serious especially when you are Rich
You're right bro
A woman of 42 still looking forward to meet a man
Tell me who will want to marry her
Men will rather go for young chap

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Nobody: 8:20am On Aug 01, 2020
MajesticKris:
you don't get the part where ,men won't take them serious , Have you tried talking to a girl Driving in a Benz before, Maybe when you do, you'll know how Rude 80% of them are..

Oh I won't lie , not a woman person or someone who cares about meeting women, but i can understand what you mean. Money get spirit

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Nobody: 8:21am On Aug 01, 2020
gungab:
Common Meenh!

Men no scarce , na ladies dey find CBN director to marry
Lol mad man grin
You dis guy don craze walai always savage grin
But Na true you talk they're looking for Rich men to marry

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Nobody: 8:24am On Aug 01, 2020
dangermouse:
The quest to marry an already made man is what is keeping many of them from being married. QED
Edu na Malaysia and Obaino na China haff enjoyed all the ingredients in their youthful bodies. Now at 37 and 41, they are looking for young men as retirement benefits eekwa.
Biko they should go to Chiefs and Alhajis to see if there are vacancies for second wives. undecided

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by chubinwa(m): 8:36am On Aug 01, 2020
They should go and tell their kinsmen to reduce their cost price

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Amotekun777: 8:36am On Aug 01, 2020
grin

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Nobody: 8:37am On Aug 01, 2020
MajesticKris:
Nope... when we tell them to marry on time they will be busy jumping from one man to another...

Men start life at the age of 30,while women at the age of 16.. so if you're not married at 30 grin

No man will take you serious especially when you are Rich

You're not making sense.

Next time say "I" , don't speak for all men.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Amotekun777: 8:39am On Aug 01, 2020
Elder0001:


You're not making sense.

Next time say "I" , don't speak for all men.

But, he's right na. angry

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by GOFRONT(m): 8:39am On Aug 01, 2020
Pls and pls house, I want to seize this opportunity to notify you all about my Niece who is still single....Tho she just celebrated her 36th birthday but time is really telling on my niece......

She is vey beautiful, Well educated...Chocolatey in color...Pls i need her a God fearing husband...

Pls Go ahead and Pm me.....Thanks and God bless.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by bossvinqualad25(m): 8:42am On Aug 01, 2020
So many jobs that men are suppose to do ,the ladies are the one doing it,so many private companies,the ladies are in majority ,u can do ur findings

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by loomer: 8:43am On Aug 01, 2020
Men dey run from bride price these days.

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Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by Karlifate: 8:57am On Aug 01, 2020
taskcompleteng:
Research has revealed that some single women are now complaining due to over scarcity of suitors in the country. It is the desire of most ladies to get hooked to a man at certain age brackets for support, procreation and affection. But all around today, we have many single ladies with no suitors. There are many single ladies and as well as bachelors who would want to get married, but the fear of uncertainty of the future of the union have really prevented many from doing so owing to unpredicatable economic situation.

Reports showed that there were enough women and men who really wanted to get married but it appeared both sides do not want to gamble into it to avoid devastating consequences and regrets in the future. One of the ladies, who preferred to be simply called Titi said she had taken the issue of marriage as a do-or-die affair due to “internal pressure” but that as much as she had tried, frustration had often been the result. At 37, the businesswoman who sells clothes in Ikeja, the Lagos State capital in western Nigeria, disclosed that she is not finding life easy.

“What is happiness without a man in a woman’s life?”she asked our correspondent during a chat. She had dated several men with some promising marriage, but without fulfilling the promise.

“You can’t imagine that in the last three years, I have dated about eight men, but the relationship was often short-lived simply because I ask for their commitment.I am not getting any younger and I cry every time I see my mates with their husbands and children.If at 37 I don’t have a child or a permanent man, when would I have them? Is it when my skin has wrinkled? she asked our correspondent

Miss Karia Anumba, 41, lamented that she had lived and changed many cities in Nigeria looking for suitors but those she met were afraid because they were not sure of the future of the marriage. She revealed that she tried to convince and persuade the men she had contact with to make the move and even assured them that she would manage no matter the condition, but regretted that none of them agreed to marry her. Anumba said she quickly relocated to Lagos from Abuja when she realized that she was gradually turning into prostitute because of the drive for marriage.

She explained that since she came to Lagos, she had engaged herself with a work and was still searching for interested men but yet to get one. She narrated that some men who were above 40 years still roamed about and do not want to get married; attributing it to fear and economic condition as most of them were jobless.

Bose (surname withheld), 37, has found herself patronising many of the social interaction sites on the internet.The banker told our correspondent that she is on Eskimi, 2go, Badoo, Whatsapp, Facebook, Twitter as well as 4clique and Instagram just to look for life partner.

“We can’t tell the particular broom in the bunch that kills a fly,” she said on why she patronises such number of social interaction sites. “I always change my name in the different sites but the ultimate goal is to get a husband,” she added. Bose reveals that she is really worried about the situation, adding that she lives comfortably (in a mini-flat and has a car), “but who do I have to enjoy this comfort with me?

“I have tried a hook up programme on a Lagos-based radio station, but my age is now a major factor hindering my dream of being married,” she lamented pleading with our married correspondent, who she considered a bachelor, to “help dry my tears.”

A married woman, who gave her name as Mrs. Blessing Aguebor and resident in Oshodi, confirmed that the issue of lack of serious men for marriage is giving many ladies sleepless nights. She narrated the touching story of her friend who was disappointed by her boyfriend of five years when it was time to “settle down”.

“My friend was 29 when he met this man in Benin and they dated for five years. The man was always giving the lady hope without her knowing the man had other plans. The year he fixed for their marriage was the year he travelled abroad without even informing my friend. It was later he called her and asked her to find another man because he still had many more years to hustle. My friend almost went mad. She is 36 now without a man. I had to convince her to relocate to Lagos so that possibly out of the population here, she would find someone. It is pathetic,” she said.

A 38-year old business woman in Ketu, narrated how she lost her first husband to a friend, Idayat, who was desperate for a husband. According to Mrs. Adewunmi who remarried last year, Idayat was 36 and needed a husband but her search was endless.

“I was always encouraging her and made her a part of my family. She would always help me take care of the kids when I go to the market. With time, she took over my husband without my knowledge until the day I caught them red-handed and that was the end of my marriage. Ladies are like hunters these days,” she said.

Asked why she was not married at 34, Blessing, a nurse with a private hospital in Abuja, retorted: “that is why I’m on this social site. Why are you asking? Is it a bad idea if you propose to me?”

She explained that life was becoming unbearable without a husband.

“My friends and family members are aways asking when they would come and ‘chop’ rice, and I keep hoping,” she added.

A marriage counsellor in Lagos, Mrs. Victoria Aliu, told P.M.NEWS that scarcity of ‘real men’ is becoming a terrible condition for women ready for marriage. She blamed the problem partly on the Nigerian economy, confusion among the bachelors on their choices of the women they want as wives and the attitudes of the spinsters.

“Many women, whether consciously or not, behave irritably sometimes, forgetting that the man just beside them at every point in time may just have been nursing how to start a conversation that could lead to marriage. Some other ladies are very choosy and unserious at their early stages of adulthood. They only open their eyes to discover that their friends are all married and that they are the only ones left at the bus stop. Then it becomes a terrible case for them,” she explained.

With the above examples, do you sincerely think that there is scarcity of men for ladied in Nigeria?…..kindly share your opinion with us below

Re: Nigerian Ladies Cry Out Over Scarcity Of Men To Marry Them by UDUJ(m): 8:57am On Aug 01, 2020
bossvinqualad25:
So many jobs that men are suppose to do ,the ladies are the one doing it,so many private companies,the ladies are in majority ,u can do ur findings

Very dull post. You made no sense

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