Rotjijatau:
I'm writing this piece with due permission because both parties involved are on nairaland. My friend & his wife had a small issue that made them to keep malice for more than a week. Then last Friday he went to work & she sent him a text message that read "I am going with our son, whenever you are calm & settled, come for us, the key is under the footmat in front of the door" to his greatest surprise he came back home later in the evening & didn't meet her. He didn't call her, next day Saturday no communication whatsoever from them, Sunday which was yesterday same & today too no communication. Everyone adviced him not call her since he didn't send her out of the house neither has he ever maltreated her. Maybe she's trying to show him that whatever happens she has a place to go. I think her mother is suppose to ask her why she came home or better still contact the husband to know why his wife came back but nobody from her family contacted him. On a second thought, the mother shouldn't be blamed since nobody knows what the wife told her mother, but this is not the first time the mother is acting in this manner. He has put all her belongings together in the house so that anytime she wants to come & pack, its fine by him & if she comes back its still fine by him. Anything she wants to do is very okay with him, he just want to keep his hands clean. What is your advice or take on this? One thing has been hindering him from making a move to call or look for settlement is PRIDE & EGO. They really love each other that they can die for each other but right now I don't know what the devil is doing.

Update: She has sent him a text this morning which read "i'll be coming tomorrow to pick some of our things & I'll also need money for our son's provision. hope you're fine? He hasn't replied her yet but this is what he intends to send her

"Your coming should very early in the morning before 7:30am or in the evening cos i'll be going to work & cannot drop my key, better still i'll help you put all your belongings together so you can pick up everything at once. It's gonna save you the stress & Tfare wastage of coming randomly for one thing or the other. Whenever you're finally ready to return, feel free! but if you're waiting or expecting me to come for you then i'm sorry ma'am, all i can say at this point is "ALL THE BEST'' as we call it ''QUIT'' because never will you see me nor will i do such follow up again, reason being that you chose your path & defined the fate of your child. I think at some point we've all tried in one way or the other. Sorry i don't have money right now for provisions, month end perhaps.


I told him to chill first & not send it or even if he'll send it let it be later in the evening. This issue has got everyone confused, to me I think one of them should just act the fool for peace to reign cos I don't see any issue that is worth all this. I bet you if you hear from both of them, you'll know that there's no problem at all warranting this, in fact its child's play. Its just the devil.

Question 1
Have ur friend been beating his wife
Question 2
Did ur friend sent his wife packing or She left own her own will
Question 3
Has ur friend been taking good care of the basic needs of his family

Answer this questions and i will know how best to advise ur friend.

infotainment:

Question 1
Have ur friend been beating his wife
Question 2
Did ur friend sent his wife packing or She left own her own will
Question 3
Has ur friend been taking good care of the basic needs of his family

Answer this questions and i will know how best to advise ur friend.

He has never raised his hands on her since they got married, he also didn't send her packing & he has been providing the basic needs of the family to his vest ability.

Why not tell us what led to the fight so that we can advice properly?
From all observations, the man holds the key to the survival of the relationship. A little communication (petting) is what the wife wants, and the husband don't want to do so for reasons best known to him.
They better put aside their ego and settle things now that it's early before bad advice tear them down

Rotjijatau:
He has never raised his hands on her since they got married, he also didn't send her packing & he has been providing the basic needs of the family to his vest ability.

You just created another thread again on this same issue. What's your stake in this couples marriage? Why can't you mind your business and allow them sort themselves out?

https://www.nairaland.com/6047116/going-friend-wife#92697586

UDUJ:


You just created another thread again on this same issue. What's your stake in this couples marriage? Why can't you mind your business and allow them sort themselves out?

https://www.nairaland.com/6047116/going-friend-wife#92697586

good afternoon boss waiting I do you nau?

Op you are either mean or wicked,you have no right whatsoever to bring their private issue to us here even to the extent of giving us details of their text message..You equally said they are nairalander's if they want their private issue to become public why didn't they do it themselves why send you, I think you are either trying to laugh at them or getting cheap score.. If you are married I don't think you will people meddling in your affair ,I don't get it you are not even related to them,its a privilege for you to access to this information
B. S - We all have our own problems and a lot to settle than your friend marriage
Modified -But wait you have created many thread on this same Topic, why do I have this feeling that this same friend is the same You,every questions asked here you answered pretty well like you live with them and even defended your so call friend...

ProtectMyMoney:


Very simple matter.

First report at the Police station to make an entry.
2ndly Call her mother to let them know that your wife has left home without any knowledge or information on her whereabout and you give them 24hrs to produce her.

3rdly Change the lock on your door so that only you control access to your house.

Her mum must beg on her behalf before she enters that house again since you didn't send her away.

If you don't hear from them, use the Police to storm her parents house to produce your wife and son.

Give us feed back on Nairaland.

Men are not the only ones that own the child(ren) in the family, I'm not in anyway supporting the actions of the woman, no one knows why she took such a decision but I strongly believe that the couple involved knows the reason why that woman decided to leave, even if they have decided not say. No woman loves to go back to her father's house, but be it as it may, time will tell. I dey suspect OP, he seems to know so much of wat is happening der, and he also was giving permission by the couple to publish their msges. OP check ursef.

bigpicture001:
Very hard to advice.. Without calming down first.....

It's toff, we need a bottle of origin.. To relax the brain

Come and take a chilled bottle of Orijin