Please I really do need matured advice on what to do.
I have been with my girl for over two years now.
So far, I would say its been going really smoothly, she's the best and I really love her.

But the issue now is, her parents are not in support of us. It has really been a thug of war between her and her parents.
The parents are not even ready to set their eyes on me. I really wish they give me a chance to say something.
The most confusing part right now is, my girl has refused to let go. My parents are in support of us. My mum love her much.
But our hands are tired because we can't do anything to change their mind or see them to avoid embarrassment as they insist she must marry her tribal person.

I really don't know what to do at this point.
I really wish I could confidently say I could give up on her.. But truth is, I can't as I really do care about her.
She's Edo and am Yoruba.

just give her belle. All their noise go calm down

konkonbilo:
just give her belle. All their noise go calm down

Lol. What if complications arise. See its not even an option

Ojb194616:
Please I really do need matured advice on what to do.
I have been with my girl for over two years now.
So far, I would say its been going really smoothly, she's the best and I really love her.

But the issue now is, her parents are not in support of us. It has really been a thug of war between her and her parents.
The parents are not even ready to set their eyes on me. I really wish they give me a chance to say something.
The most confusing part right now is, my girl has refused to let go. My parents are in support of us. My mum love her much.
But our hands are tired because we can't do anything to change their mind or see them to avoid embarrassment as they insist she must marry her tribal person.

I really don't know what to do at this point.
I really wish I could confidently say I could give up on her.. But truth is, I can't as I really do care about her.
She's Edo and am Yoruba.

Go and make money. When you are rich, you can marry from any tribe.

GreatResearcher:
Go and make money. When you are rich, you can marry from any tribe.

Am not broke.

Both of you should organise your court marriage.
Invite your parents.
Nobody can oppose the laws of the land.
From there, things will soften up.
Goodluck.

Lol.. Well keep the faith.

Ojb194616:


Lol. What if complications arise. See its not even an option

you never ready be that.

The situation is tough, she doesn't have siblings that you can use to access the parents?

...

konkonbilo:
you never ready be that.

Why you wan spend from cheque wey never clear?
Let them have a foundation first. Then, that one can take place.

ParpahSeventy:
The situation is tough, she doesn't have siblings that you can use to access the parents?

They have spoken to their parents. Still no hope

IbnBattuta1960:
Both of you should organise your court marriage.
Invite your parents.
Nobody can oppose the laws of the land.
From there, things will soften up.
Goodluck.

Lol. Awoo.
She can't.
If the reverse was the case.. I can.
But she's a woman.

IbnBattuta1960:

Why you wan spend from cheque wey never clear?
Let them have a foundation first. Then, that one can take place.

e get some kind situation wey be say ordinary eyes no fit solve, you sef go scatter am for them. Yoruba go say "oju lasan o se". Them no fit marry thier daughter, laslas them go calm down like that small boy wey tell him mama make hin calm down

Ojb194616:


They have spoken to their parents. Still no hope

For me whatever you want, go all out to get it, maybe you can use them to pay the parents a visit, nothing is impossible, just be careful while you visit.

They are not even happy that their daughter has found a responsible man willing to settle down. Foolish tribalistic parents!

When their daughter clocks 35 without a husband, maybe her father will impregnate her himself.

ParpahSeventy:

For me whatever you want, go all out to get it, maybe you can use them to pay the parents a visit, nothing is impossible, just be careful while you visit.

Parents that are not even ready to hear my name.?
Ha..i can't visit o.

Ojb194616:

Lol. Awoo.
She can't.
If the reverse was the case.. I can.
But she's a woman.

It's not your decision to make.
She should make the decision and let progress be made.
Abi, una two ready to stay like this till grey hair begin show?

IbnBattuta1960:

It's not your decision to make.
She should make the decision and let progress be made.
Abi, una two ready to stay like this till grey hair begin show?

I just weak.
Just confused.
At some point her phone was taken from her for talking to me.

Ojb194616:


Parents that are not even ready to hear my name.?
Ha..i can't visit o.

Maybe you are not ready, you can't negotiate standing far off, how can you convince them! ?

loneprof:
They are not even happy that their daughter has found a responsible man willing to settle down. Foolish tribalistic parents!

When their daughter clocks 35 without a husband, [b]maybe her father will impregnate her himsel[/b]f.

ParpahSeventy:

Maybe you are not ready, you can't negotiate standing far off, how can you convince them! ?

I am.
But I really don't like stress.

Ojb194616:


Am not broke.

and u are not rich either

Ojb194616:


I just weak.
Just confused.
At some point her phone was taken from her for talking to me.

she must be underage then.

GreatResearcher:
she must be underage then.

26..parents really stubborn.

GreatResearcher:
and u are not rich either

Lol.. Well life is life.
Am just very OK!

Ojb194616:

I am. But I really don't like stress.

You should go for another girl then.

The last time I checked, Edo and Yoruba have always inter married
So clear other things and make it known

Pray


Prayers Changes things, tell God to favour you before her parents if she's really the right choice for you.

Who ever findth a wife, find a good thing and obtain favour from the Lord.

Cheers

End the relationship and move on

Ojb194616:
Please I really do need matured advice on what to do.
I have been...

I really don't know what to do at this point.
I really wish I could confidently say I could give up on her.. But truth is, I can't as I really do care about her.
She's Edo and am Yoruba.

Do not marry this lady without the approval of her parents, ignore people telling you to elop with her and get married elsewhere