I once was in such entanglement with my ex. In my church mind, there couldn't be anything in between us anymore. But in other mind, if we ever meet again by chance then, something could go down.

Her husband picked her call someday and transferred the call to her. Later that day, she texted me that her husband was so angry that we have to stop talking. It's 5years now, I never talk to her anymore. I'm not even in any serious relationship yet.

If he really mean business with you, he will definitely stop. Its not that hard.

Chii59:

Stop trying to be smart. You get my point already.

i did and I'm sure you got mine

Sessanvandy:
Good evening Nairalanders, please i need your sincere opinion on this issue bothering me.

I have been dating this guy for 9 months and our relationship has been going well except for this issue.

My boyfriend or should i say fiancé ( he has introduced me to his family as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and my family is in support of the relationship) has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend who is married with a son.

My man spends 1-2hrs on phone with his ex girlfriend in my presence and when i confronted him, he told me to bear in mind that he can never stop talking to her because she didn't offend him and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help.

They have no intimate relationship maybe cus of distance, He agreed not to call her but promised to take her calls when she does and she calls frequently.

Her husband also warned him to stay away from his wife but he wouldn't listen.

He is a nice guy with a good heart and we are planning introduction by December

I told him that if he can't stop communicating with his ex girlfriend the relationship is over but he still insist on maintaining contact with her...

Pls am i overreacting, How do i handle this??....mature advice needed!

sorry for the long post.

That is a danger signal,kindly examine the journey critically !

Sessanvandy:
Good evening Nairalanders, please i need your sincere opinion on this issue bothering me.

I have been dating this guy for 9 months and our relationship has been going well except for this issue.

My boyfriend or should i say fiancé ( he has introduced me to his family as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and my family is in support of the relationship) has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend who is married with a son.

My man spends 1-2hrs on phone with his ex girlfriend in my presence and when i confronted him, he told me to bear in mind that he can never stop talking to her because she didn't offend him and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help.

They have no intimate relationship maybe cus of distance, He agreed not to call her but promised to take her calls when she does and she calls frequently.

Her husband also warned him to stay away from his wife but he wouldn't listen.

He is a nice guy with a good heart and we are planning introduction by December

I told him that if he can't stop communicating with his ex girlfriend the relationship is over but he still insist on maintaining contact with her...

Pls am i overreacting, How do i handle this??....mature advice needed!

sorry for the long post.

No wonder so many women end up single.... The man already told you that she is dear to him and will always be there for her. Instead of swallowing your misplaced jealous ego, you are here making threats. Then when you are back on the market, you will be crying rivers.
You can accept this man fully or start making plans for your single life, but don't ever try to change a man.... Many have tried, all have failed!

kaywhy09:
I once was in such entanglement with my ex. In my church mind, there couldn't be anything in between us anymore. But in other mind, if we ever meet again by chance then, something could go down.

Her husband picked her call someday and transferred the call to her. Later that day, she texted me that her husband was so angry that we have to stop talking. It's 5years now, I never talk to her anymore. I'm not even in any serious relationship yet.

If he really mean business with you, he will definitely stop. Its not that hard.

Forcing your partner to change because You are jealous and don't trust her, is not only wrong, but also a sure way to fail.
No wonder so many fail in marriage when they are shacked up with people who don't have any trust for them and/orthink so little of them

can you become friends with the woman's husband?
if possible, please do.
Your man needs to get a taste of what he thought is right and he's proudly doing it to you.
Rubbish.

To me I don't see much wrongs on this. Wives should learn to believe their husbands in everything. Since her husband had the guts to warn your husband about it, why not call her number and warn her too? Don't mind some women here giving silly advice, I don't know about your husband o, but it's a taboo in my place having sex with a married woman. Its only yoruba land I have seen such. My dear focus on what focus you. Find something doing, you can't stop a man. He may decide not to call her in your presence but still calls her outside.

The dude is a step close to his grave. Someone's wife. He should watch out for his public disgrace.. P*n*s captivus is very very real. Run for your life......[color=#000099][/color]

Once your guy is still receiving those calls from his ex girlfriend, it means he still loves the woman and something can still happen between them when they see each other. If he really loves you, he wouldn’t receive such calls in your presence. I’m afraid you may not enjoy your marriage with him. Think twice!!!!!!

Sessanvandy:
Good evening Nairalanders, please i need your sincere opinion on this issue bothering me.

I have been dating this guy for 9 months and our relationship has been going well except for this issue.

My boyfriend or should i say fiancé ( he has introduced me to his family as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and my family is in support of the relationship) has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend who is married with a son.

My man spends 1-2hrs on phone with his ex girlfriend in my presence and when i confronted him, he told me to bear in mind that he can never stop talking to her because she didn't offend him and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help.

They have no intimate relationship maybe cus of distance, He agreed not to call her but promised to take her calls when she does and she calls frequently.

Her husband also warned him to stay away from his wife but he wouldn't listen.

He is a nice guy with a good heart and we are planning introduction by December

I told him that if he can't stop communicating with his ex girlfriend the relationship is over but he still insist on maintaining contact with her...

Pls am i overreacting, How do i handle this??....mature advice needed!

sorry for the long post.

This is a very serious red flag! If you still have some self respect and integrity in you, dump his as*s as quickly as possible while you can!

He chose his ex over you! The guy isn't for you. Knowing his parents means nothing. Need I say more?

It's obvious your feelings doesn't count here. Stay away from him to avoid story that touches the heart. There's no reason whatsoever for a man to be keeping contact with an ex especially a married one for that matter.

And trust me, he will come home with broken head one day since he's been warned to stay away from somebody's wife! He's got zero respect for you by doing all that in your presence.

You know what? Give him a taste of his own medicine... Try calling one of your brothers in his presence and pretend he's an ex let's see his reaction to that

4 get dat ur fiancé give me ur digit let start all over

It seems you’re forcing yourself on him. What are you still doing there. Pls waka. What other sign do you need.

Sessanvandy:
Good evening Nairalanders, please i need your sincere opinion on this issue bothering me.

I have been dating this guy for 9 months and our relationship has been going well except for this issue.

My boyfriend or should i say fiancé ( he has introduced me to his family as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and my family is in support of the relationship) has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend who is married with a son.

My man spends 1-2hrs on phone with his ex girlfriend in my presence and when i confronted him, he told me to bear in mind that he can never stop talking to her because she didn't offend him and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help.

They have no intimate relationship maybe cus of distance, He agreed not to call her but promised to take her calls when she does and she calls frequently.

Her husband also warned him to stay away from his wife but he wouldn't listen.

He is a nice guy with a good heart and we are planning introduction by December

I told him that if he can't stop communicating with his ex girlfriend the relationship is over but he still insist on maintaining contact with her...

Pls am i overreacting, How do i handle this??....mature advice needed!

sorry for the long post.

Since she is married and he intended marrying you pls let them be

One day they will get tired of themselves and the good thing is that they are far from each other

You don't know how close they are before you came into them despite they are no more dating

You want all these kids on NL to lecture you about relationships? You're on your own

Why is nobody talking about the sure solution to this issue: Woman, PRAY PRAY PRAY!!! If you can't win this in a place of prayer now, how will you take hold of your family when married? Please where is Rigteousness89?

One thing is sure, the man doesn't respect u. But before u take any action, try to find out much about how and why they broke up. There u will find clues if not answers. But never marry a man that is dat connected to his ex unless he repent and willingly blocks every form of connection with her.

My sister chill. I had this experience with my wife when we were about to marry cos I was still very much attached to then my single ex. D story of her being ex is story for another day. Calm down. Give him time and win ur hubby's heart with love and understanding. Ur soo lucky she's married and stay in distance place. so u have less fight to fight. Do not loose ur forever happy home cos of temporary situation. D most important thing is to be sure he loves u. He will come back to u with time. Try to replace his ex and when u do, u will give God praise always.

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Zzor:
it made sense but you can't decode it with your art brain, I don't know how to explain things in details.The truth is how many sensible and responsible ones do we have around these days?

I’m one , a sensible and responsible single man

Sessanvandy:
Good evening Nairalanders, please i need your sincere opinion on this issue bothering me.

I have been dating this guy for 9 months and our relationship has been going well except for this issue.

My boyfriend or should i say fiancé ( he has introduced me to his family as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and my family is in support of the relationship) has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend who is married with a son.

My man spends 1-2hrs on phone with his ex girlfriend in my presence and when i confronted him, he told me to bear in mind that he can never stop talking to her because she didn't offend him and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help.

They have no intimate relationship maybe cus of distance, He agreed not to call her but promised to take her calls when she does and she calls frequently.

Her husband also warned him to stay away from his wife but he wouldn't listen.

He is a nice guy with a good heart and we are planning introduction by December

I told him that if he can't stop communicating with his ex girlfriend the relationship is over but he still insist on maintaining contact with her...

Pls am i overreacting, How do i handle this??....mature advice needed!

sorry for the long post.

9months in a relationship and you want to do marriage.
Ok kwantinu.

Naira land is the worst place to come for advice

Sister you are not in a relationship with your fiance's ex but him.it is your relationship with your fiance that really matter build on it and stop disturbing yourself about your fiance relationship with others. Don't you also speak to your ex Oj phone with string attach to it.

Sessanvandy:
Good evening Nairalanders, please i need your sincere opinion on this issue bothering me.

I have been dating this guy for 9 months and our relationship has been going well except for this issue.

My boyfriend or should i say fiancé ( he has introduced me to his family as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and my family is in support of the relationship) has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend who is married with a son.

My man spends 1-2hrs on phone with his ex girlfriend in my presence and when i confronted him, he told me to bear in mind that he can never stop talking to her because she didn't offend him and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help.

They have no intimate relationship maybe cus of distance, He agreed not to call her but promised to take her calls when she does and she calls frequently.

Her husband also warned him to stay away from his wife but he wouldn't listen.

He is a nice guy with a good heart and we are planning introduction by December

I told him that if he can't stop communicating with his ex girlfriend the relationship is over but he still insist on maintaining contact with her...

Pls am i overreacting, How do i handle this??....mature advice needed!

sorry for the long post.

Sessanvandy:
Good evening Nairalanders, please i need your sincere opinion on this issue bothering me.

I have been dating this guy for 9 months and our relationship has been going well except for this issue.

My boyfriend or should i say fiancé ( he has introduced me to his family as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and my family is in support of the relationship) has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend who is married with a son.

My man spends 1-2hrs on phone with his ex girlfriend in my presence and when i confronted him, he told me to bear in mind that he can never stop talking to her because she didn't offend him and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help.

They have no intimate relationship maybe cus of distance, He agreed not to call her but promised to take her calls when she does and she calls frequently.

Her husband also warned him to stay away from his wife but he wouldn't listen.

He is a nice guy with a good heart and we are planning introduction by December

I told him that if he can't stop communicating with his ex girlfriend the relationship is over but he still insist on maintaining contact with her...

Pls am i overreacting, How do i handle this??....mature advice needed!

sorry for the long post.

You just registered yesterday and now you want to disturb us with kpekus and Dickson wahala

cicodeblazzer:
u are a big fool and a deceiver. Its ur type that uses your demonic advice to destroy the families and relationships of vulnerable others seeking advice. So u are advicing the op to go on war of will with her man? I was thinking u are going to tell her to stoop so low and conquer whatever the devil is trying to do to break she and her man wit gud qualitiz (THAT IS CALLED KEEPING/STICKING TO HER MAN AND SAVING HER RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE @ ALL COST....which is one quality and duty of every mature and sensible woman). The op should re-examine herself(there must be sometin she lacks which he gets when talking with the ex) and use her onions to replace the ex.

Stop the bullshit. Nobody has monopoly over these things.

Why would he be disrespecting a woman he hopes to marry?

I usually stay away from my friends as soon as they get married, either male or female.

Kingscee:


You just registered yesterday and now you want to disturb us with kpekus and Dickson wahala

only people with popular handle and trying to hide does that.

So it might be that she is a very popular person here and she needs to hide her ID to get reviews.

"and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help." ....This is a pointer to why their calls usually take up to 1-2 hrs...You need to let your fiance know that your reaction is to his own benefit...Firstly, his pocket and most importantly, his life as the husband of his ex-girlfriend can go extra mile to hurt him (Men jealousy no be here at all)....Just advise him but do not over react.

Sessanvandy:
Good evening Nairalanders, please i need your sincere opinion on this issue bothering me.

I have been dating this guy for 9 months and our relationship has been going well except for this issue.

My boyfriend or should i say fiancé ( he has introduced me to his family as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and my family is in support of the relationship) has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend who is married with a son.

My man spends 1-2hrs on phone with his ex girlfriend in my presence and when i confronted him, he told me to bear in mind that he can never stop talking to her because she didn't offend him and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help.

They have no intimate relationship maybe cus of distance, He agreed not to call her but promised to take her calls when she does and she calls frequently.

Her husband also warned him to stay away from his wife but he wouldn't listen.

He is a nice guy with a good heart and we are planning introduction by December

I told him that if he can't stop communicating with his ex girlfriend the relationship is over but he still insist on maintaining contact with her...

Pls am i overreacting, How do i handle this??....mature advice needed!

sorry for the long post.

CapitalBank:
only people with popular handle and trying to hide does that.

So it might be that she is a very popular person here and she needs to hide her ID to get reviews.

you're right my dear

@OP

Try praying together with your fiance, include it as a prayer point.

While doing it, be passionate with the prayer

michlins:
They're one step away from bedding. You have every right to be worried. Bear in mind that soon,he will start comparing you with her.

But some guys eh. Your fellow man already warned you to stay away from his wife and you no hear. Na this thing dey kill person

the bro code na for mouth

He’s ready to marry you only to appease his family, but he’s not ready to move on from his ex.

Why, you say?

Because when a man is in love with a woman, she totally occupies his every free moment to the extent that all thoughts of others become secondary.

You my dear, are a secondary thought compared to her. He’s not even bothered if he offends you or her husband by the phone calls between them.

Marry him if you’re that desperate, but know that you’ll never live up to the ideal of her in his mind. You’ll never be enough for him.

When it comes to love, we men usually think one way. Hence the term "the one that got away".