Sessanvandy:
Good evening Nairalanders, please i need your sincere opinion on this issue bothering me.

I have been dating this guy for 9 months and our relationship has been going well except for this issue.

My boyfriend or should i say fiancé ( he has introduced me to his family as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and my family is in support of the relationship) has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend who is married with a son.

My man spends 1-2hrs on phone with his ex girlfriend in my presence and when i confronted him, he told me to bear in mind that he can never stop talking to her because she didn't offend him and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help.

They have no intimate relationship maybe cus of distance, He agreed not to call her but promised to take her calls when she does and she calls frequently.

Her husband also warned him to stay away from his wife but he wouldn't listen.

He is a nice guy with a good heart and we are planning introduction by December

I told him that if he can't stop communicating with his ex girlfriend the relationship is over but he still insist on maintaining contact with her...

Pls am i overreacting, How do i handle this??....mature advice needed!

sorry for the long post.




Leave that relationship madam, leave! Leave!! leave!!!. A word is enough for a wise.

Sessanvandy:
Good evening Nairalanders, please i need your sincere opinion on this issue bothering me.

I have been dating this guy for 9 months and our relationship has been going well except for this issue.

My boyfriend or should i say fiancé ( he has introduced me to his family as the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with and my family is in support of the relationship) has been in contact with his ex-girlfriend who is married with a son.

My man spends 1-2hrs on phone with his ex girlfriend in my presence and when i confronted him, he told me to bear in mind that he can never stop talking to her because she didn't offend him and if she needs any monetary support, he won't hesitate to help.

They have no intimate relationship maybe cus of distance, He agreed not to call her but promised to take her calls when she does and she calls frequently.

Her husband also warned him to stay away from his wife but he wouldn't listen.

He is a nice guy with a good heart and we are planning introduction by December

I told him that if he can't stop communicating with his ex girlfriend the relationship is over but he still insist on maintaining contact with her...

Pls am i overreacting, How do i handle this??....mature advice needed!

sorry for the long post.

ABANGWABOI:
#ILMOVON
#Attitude
#Bliv

You deserve better..
Even when i was a chronic womanizer then.. i don't disrespect any of my babes to their own face like this..
Totally Appalling..

YemmyKamor:


stop telling people to end their relationship and move on... knowing fully well that you won't do same if you're in their position,, There is always a way to work things out,,

to the poster... we men got a very big heart that can accommodate as many as you can imagine when it comes to girls, especially pretty ones.. it's not necessarily out of love, might be because of respect, good cook, good voice, level of exposure or sexual prowess of such lady,, although most of us fail to admit this openly.. WE STILL miss our ex .. but few of us wake up to reality so early that, our ex are gone for good__ and that this beautiful and amazing woman we married or about to marry if the perfect lady for us, so we've got to zip the fuch up and focus on our woman... for example__i and one of my ex have our favourite song.. so anytime I heard this song BN played I kind of revert back to the old me..and I think of kofoworola... so that's the fact.. but I don't get carried away,, that's how we are wired,,, don't wanna bored you with my long store.. I'd say you sit your man down ,talk,plead threat if possible, let him know what and how you're feeling... also try to learn what he love about that lady and replicate it.. (also pray that the woman stay at where she is. i.e far away, at least for social and emotional distance sake)..
but if you think your heart can't handle it,, don't think of hurting him or urself o. thanks

akpota:

bros i sent you a email message. Pls reply so we can connect.

RealTrump:
Sessanvandy

I hv to comment because this one is personal to me.

The first problem is that most of us hv a misconception about relationships.

My ex was d first girl to be genuinely nice to me n our breakup was neither our faults. As a Nigerian girl, u might not realize how much ur fellow sisters scar most young men 25 n below. When a guy finally found d first girl who is truly different, he just locks in.

Even if I am married after 50 years, I will still talk to my ex. I am just telling u that if boy is not alone in this. For my case, I hv a soft spot for her, not love. And yes, I will always pick d call. Do u want him to start going to d toilet to pick a call? This dude is even open more than me.

See it this way. Most of these guys appear good to their gf but they have all sorts of hidden girls. At least in your case, u know d girl in question n to d best of ur knowledge, they are not seeing. Who do u want to leave him for? A player who u think is a good guy because he is expert at hiding his side chics?

u might even be nicer than d girl but because she was d first, she always have d edge.

These guys were probably talking for 4 hours per day while dating. If it now reduces to 1 hr per week; that's progress. Give him time, don't fight him, he is a good guy. Don't nag too, or give an attitude when he is calling. Give him time. Make him jealous without making it obvious. Lastly make him know that u can genuinely hv ur own fun too without him.

if it's hard for him to betray or forget his ex, that's exactly how hard it will be hard for him to betray u. 9 months is nothing . Time

Kdon2:

You are a complete liar

Oiza131:

Lmao.... This one don't even have sense.... "stoop so low"? At what cost?

maasoap:


Can't you give your own advice without insulting another person? Looks like you want chop ban. Now look at your own advice, telling someone to pretend to be someone she's not!

HabaHaba:


But why call an innocent guy a fool?!!!

I don't understand how you would feel very comfortable to refer to someone as a fool at the slightest opportunity.

You had a point in mind against his advice, simply mention it to him BUT NOT CALL HIM A FOOL!

Haba haba, would you enjoy being referred to as such?!!!

LadyTianna:

Lmao you're the fool here oga
A foolish man who is eagerly blaming a woman for her man's fault. Do you lack comprehension skills? You didn't read the part where the op said she has tried talking to her man more than once? What stops the man from telling his woman the thing that the ex gives him that he enjoys so much? Even when the husband of the ex has warned him. Such a disgusting habit. Na your type go expect your wife to clean house n take care of kids while you're screwing one small girl in a hotel in the name of "keeping the peace as a woman" . Ode

LadyTianna:

Lmao you're the fool here oga
Do you lack comprehension skills?Na your type go expect your wife to clean house n take care of kids while you're screwing one small girl in a hotel in the name of "keeping the peace as a woman" . Ode