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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by biggy26: 9:06pm On Sep 16
Ghost8889:
Many people are addicted to masturbating, I am addicted to it also...

The whole masturbation thing started when I was around 10, I felt like it's some kind of terrible sin or disease the first time that I did it — and I promised God to never repeat it again, but no matter how I try, It never worked angry...

Now my problem is not only the masturbation stuff — but for the fact that I couldn't keep the promise I made to God...

I am so depressed now to the extent that if you are to give me a chance — I would choose to never been in existence undecided

If you have stopped masturbating, please tell me how you did it smiley, tell me what worked out for you please undecided
The best way is to first kill the guilt by knowing surely that Jesus loves you the way you are, and that He can help you. When you know this, you will be strong inside. The urge will come from time to time, but it will get weaker with time, then you will discover you can actually ignore it.
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Emmywealths01(m): 9:18pm On Sep 16
M a victim also; Try these

1. The thought comes directly from your mind righ? Remember for every thought human being undergoes it comes directly from your mind or u must have been thinking it. STOP IT FROM THERE.

2. Delete everything/anything relating/ resulting to Porn on your phone even anything that can make you remember there is something somewhere called “PORN”.

3. At your leisure/idle hour try and occupy that moment with something reasonable/ tangible stuffs to do.

4. Which suppose to be No. 1 (don’t mind me) TELL GOD ABOUT IT.

Note: every steps works gradually, please be consistent about it to help/ save your life.

God help us all.


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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Emyjeze(m): 10:04pm On Sep 16
properties4sale:
Mine is for the past 20 years, itself really a very big problem. It destroys your sex life.. like it kills it; poor erection. You cannot have normal sex with girls. It's bad.
good evening please have you overcome the addiction?? how did you go about it?
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Emyjeze(m): 10:06pm On Sep 16
lightangel65i:
How desperate are you for a cure, you have like 200k?
If you have go and use it to buy antitestereone pills from a good pharmacist, they cost much, take it for like six months and don't miss a single dose, that would kill your urges completely you will be innocent as a 5yrs old boy. Stop after six months

Its the same drug used to treat sex offenders in the US.
quite a huge sum though. how legit is this medicine please? am overcoming this addiction but I need more help. gone 2 months already
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Emyjeze(m): 10:08pm On Sep 16
Ghost8889:
Many people are addicted to masturbating, I am addicted to it also...

The whole masturbation thing started when I was around 10, I felt like it's some kind of terrible sin or disease the first time that I did it — and I promised God to never repeat it again, but no matter how I try, It never worked angry...

Now my problem is not only the masturbation stuff — but for the fact that I couldn't keep the promise I made to God...

I am so depressed now to the extent that if you are to give me a chance — I would choose to never been in existence undecided

If you have stopped masturbating, please tell me how you did it smiley, tell me what worked out for you please undecided
determination brother.. avoid anything porn, nude, or sexy pictures. avoid staying alone. this has help me a while now. I've gone 2months without it. so grateful and happy
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by AubreyFord: 10:09pm On Sep 16
i'll tell you what, 'relocate!'
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by lastchild: 10:09pm On Sep 16
your own na 9 years, some people reading this thread have masturbated for over 50 years
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Estherqueen50(f): 10:13pm On Sep 16
Good evening to you
Want to appreciate the fact that you realised that you need help and the boldness to take this step.
We have all made wrong choices in our lives but it takes the courageous to identify and try to correct them.

This is not a fight you can win on your own,you need someone who loves and cares about you to help you win and that person is Jesus. Go to Jesus,cry out to him (Hebrews 4:15) And to make this effective,pray with Bible passages related to sexual sin and ask him to help you.

Avoid any ponographic content.Download messages and Christian music and play them anytime you are alone.

Occupy your self;don't stay idle,meet up with friends attend church services.If you are not in any group in church,identify with atleast one.

When thought and urge for masturbation comes rebuke it not just in your mind but declare it bodly.

Be determined to stop.

Be consistent in praying and reading the word of God daily and I know you will be better.

N/B: Believe you me the devil will want to convince you that it is okay in as much as you are not hurting anybody but it is not and you are hurting yourself.
I believe in you that you can get past through this by the grace of God.Amen!

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Emyjeze(m): 10:14pm On Sep 16
lightangel65i:


You need to join my empowerment group, getting rid of your sexual urges as a man is a step towards a better life, it may be hard for you now, but when its gone its a blessing
good evening please I will like to join this group
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by evandez(m): 10:16pm On Sep 16
Fasting helps to cure masturbation, fast often, eat less, make your life productive and also get a girlfriend
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by shogsman(m): 10:24pm On Sep 16
Humanoid01:

Why should he accept your take on this matter? Something is obviously wrong with your conscience if you think masturbation isn't a bad thing. You need to do something about your mind bro, you're heading towards utter destruction.
Cut the crap bro,there ain't nothing wrong with masturbation,you guys are just too weak and you get addicted to almost anything,I've been masturbating for more than 20years now,I can easily decide to go months without it and the urge wouldn't be a,problem, I've got kids and a very good sex life.
The stigma is what is messing y'all up in the head

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Gentlebuka(m): 10:26pm On Sep 16
Ghost8889:
Many people are addicted to masturbating, I am addicted to it also...

The whole masturbation thing started when I was around 10, I felt like it's some kind of terrible sin or disease the first time that I did it — and I promised God to never repeat it again, but no matter how I try, It never worked angry...

Now my problem is not only the masturbation stuff — but for the fact that I couldn't keep the promise I made to God...

I am so depressed now to the extent that if you are to give me a chance — I would choose to never been in existence undecided

If you have stopped masturbating, please tell me how you did it smiley, tell me what worked out for you please undecided
Search and join Nofap
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by iamimohtal(m): 10:35pm On Sep 16
Blackurglyboi:

I'm desperate to get out of this soon ....I believe I would have to open up to my parents and let them know what I have been going through . cause this is getting me so depressed a lot , I'm still in my teenage age , I'm just 23 and I'm still young to face a this , is better I out a stop to it since I have come to realization.

Was a victim of same problem. Tried stopping more than 10 times but failed.
It takes concious effort on your part to stop masturbating, first and foremost, stay off those things that triggers u, mine was loneliness and pornography.
Then set a constant reminder in ursef not to do it, if u feel like , change ur location, go to a public place asap, do something, anything but masturbate.
It is not a one time process, after a while , say 2 weeks , the urge came, I succumbed, then tried beating the two weeks mark, I did a three week plus ...
This was two years ago, I still get urges, but I just have this knowledge that I am over and done with this shit.
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Chinex911: 10:35pm On Sep 16
Blackurglyboi:
Please don't laugh at my English and I'm not a good writer.

Now I have come to realization that truely masturbation is the greatest addiction ever. I wouldn't like to disclose my name cause of some reasons, I would like to keep my identity safe.

It all started far back In 2011 when I was in my jss3, I have been a pretty good boy who loves making friends, I was jovial. I interact with everyone around me and everybody loves my company.

I have lot of girls as my friends ..
One faithful Saturday morning I was having a stroll and I came across a pornography film pack and it has nudes content. It was lying by the road side, I'd picked it up and had a lot at it ..

My fellow nairalanders, that was how my journey started.

I started having the urge for sex. I felt so good giving myself self pleasure, I started masturbating once or twice a week, soon I started getting addicted, anytime I feel alone, the urge comes up and I must attend to it no matter where I am.

I started downloading phonography pictures on my phone. Fast forward to the time I finished my secondary school. It come to my observation I started pulling away from my female friends and I started keeping all to myself. I got some worst to the extent I can't talk to a woman. I started losing my friends. I only had mouth on social media .

Fast forward till today, masturbation have ruined my life totally now I have been so addicted that I get it done twice a day, sometimes I feel hurt and guilty, sometimes I asked myself i I would ever get married or if I can ever love a woman. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself. I do promise my self that I'm gonna leave it but the highest I could go was a week. I don't even have that urge of hitting a woman, in my area as low as 500 you can have sex with a LovePeddler, but even though it is cheap to that extent i Would rather satisfy my self.

Till this day I have been masturbating for 9 years and it's really tearing my life apart.
Now I keep all to myself .. The only two things you could find on my phone browser is narialand and different ponographic sites ...

It hurts me so much, sometimes my friends ask when would I have a girlfriend but I would reply (oboy leave that thing make we make money first woman go come ) but deep down I feel sorry for myself ...

For those who say masturbation isn't a sin, dear friends masturbation I'd a deep sin and when you're addicted to it is very difficult to overcome it .

Please I need your advice, a problem shared is a problem solved.
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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Gentlebuka(m): 10:39pm On Sep 16
CalebLebsco56:
Its really pathetic...i also Masturbate, since my secondary school days,but not constantly, there was a time i dont last long on girls..my babe was complaining.So during this lockdown i took a break, i started working and reduce the rate...i used garlic and ginger with some fruits...my sex life change i can go upto 3rounds i enjoy sex...
But i also find out that anytime i masturbate through out the week i feel weak and guilty of myself...my Penis will just be weak and it will prevent me from having sexual thoughts...
I am also praying to stop it, i dont like it, but when i am alone the urge always come....I have stayed upto a month without it but i am still feeling the Urge!!
I want to help as many people as I can out of this. U're already addicted even if you weren't doing it constantly like you said. Hence the urge. This is what it feels like in the beginning when you want to quit.... too much urge that you'd think you might run mad if you don't give in. But whatever you do, stay away from it. Eventually, the urge will subside and u'll be able to manage it with a lot less effort. If you go ahead and do it, trust me u'll find it 10x harder to get out of and the withdrawal effects will also be 10× more severe than it is now. Treat porn and masturbation like a very deadly virus. You've got to stay away as far as you can if you want to get rid of it. You can also join Nofap.

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Escobar98(m): 10:42pm On Sep 16
I started masturbation at 11. I'm 22 now. I'd been struggling to quit since I was 18. It's part of me. I gave in to the struggle. No cap I'm about masturbating now. I mean rn.
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Effizist(m): 10:48pm On Sep 16
op you can stop it only if your determined,since it's been 9 years it's not going to go away immediately cause it's already embedded in your brain...just try this first and foremost delete all porn from your phone,avoid being alone..find something doing maybe a job or focus more on your career,configure your mind in such a way that porn and masturbation would be something you really hate...see it as disgusting,
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Macsjebs(m): 11:12pm On Sep 16
Escobar98:
I started masturbation at 11. I'm 22 now. I'd been struggling to quit since I was 18. It's part of me. I gave in to the struggle. No cap I'm about masturbating now. I mean rn.
My guess is u probably don't have a GF and barely relate with female folks

I think that should be ur first step, be confidence about urself, u look good, just act like the Big guy u are, nothing special about them, ignore the high % of rudeness and don't feel sad when turned down

You could also wear a good fragrance that would make u absolutely irresistible, I gat u covered on that, do see my signature and feel free to buzz me on whatsapp for urs

Cheers

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Silas6(m): 11:16pm On Sep 16
Blackurglyboi:
Please don't laugh at my English and I'm not a good writer.

Now I have come to realization that truely masturbation is the greatest addiction ever. I wouldn't like to disclose my name cause of some reasons, I would like to keep my identity safe.

It all started far back In 2011 when I was in my jss3, I have been a pretty good boy who loves making friends, I was jovial. I interact with everyone around me and everybody loves my company.

I have lot of girls as my friends ..
One faithful Saturday morning I was having a stroll and I came across a pornography film pack and it has nudes content. It was lying by the road side, I'd picked it up and had a lot at it ..

My fellow nairalanders, that was how my journey started.

I started having the urge for sex. I felt so good giving myself self pleasure, I started masturbating once or twice a week, soon I started getting addicted, anytime I feel alone, the urge comes up and I must attend to it no matter where I am.

I started downloading phonography pictures on my phone. Fast forward to the time I finished my secondary school. It come to my observation I started pulling away from my female friends and I started keeping all to myself. I got some worst to the extent I can't talk to a woman. I started losing my friends. I only had mouth on social media .

Fast forward till today, masturbation have ruined my life totally now I have been so addicted that I get it done twice a day, sometimes I feel hurt and guilty, sometimes I asked myself i I would ever get married or if I can ever love a woman. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself. I do promise my self that I'm gonna leave it but the highest I could go was a week. I don't even have that urge of hitting a woman, in my area as low as 500 you can have sex with a LovePeddler, but even though it is cheap to that extent i Would rather satisfy my self.

Till this day I have been masturbating for 9 years and it's really tearing my life apart.
Now I keep all to myself .. The only two things you could find on my phone browser is narialand and different ponographic sites ...

It hurts me so much, sometimes my friends ask when would I have a girlfriend but I would reply (oboy leave that thing make we make money first woman go come ) but deep down I feel sorry for myself ...

For those who say masturbation isn't a sin, dear friends masturbation I'd a deep sin and when you're addicted to it is very difficult to overcome it .

Please I need your advice, a problem shared is a problem solved.

Read this book and thank me later
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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by zakkxx: 11:19pm On Sep 16
My brother the solution is not getting a girl friend; avoid watching porn that is step two, step one is to give your life to Christ geniuely, if not u will go back!!! Three, it will kill your joy stick; u will not be able to have normal erect... if you marry. Y not keep your self for you beautiful wife. E go pain u ooo when u marry cyam n u cannot chop it! Some of your evil friends will mock u for not having a girl friend!!! They will tell u u are missing!!! Don’t mine them yess you will miss HIV, syphilis, staphylococcus, yiest infection etc. A word is enough for the fool and non is required by the wise!!! Be wise my brother God bless you!!!

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Adebliss: 11:30pm On Sep 16
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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Ilenny9: 11:41pm On Sep 16
Ghost8889:
Many people are addicted to masturbating, I am addicted to it also...

The whole masturbation thing started when I was around 10, I felt like it's some kind of terrible sin or disease the first time that I did it — and I promised God to never repeat it again, but no matter how I try, It never worked angry...

Now my problem is not only the masturbation stuff — but for the fact that I couldn't keep the promise I made to God...

I am so depressed now to the extent that if you are to give me a chance — I would choose to never been in existence undecided

If you have stopped masturbating, please tell me how you did it smiley, tell me what worked out for you please undecided

First acknowledge you have a problem which you already have.
Get busy! Identify what triggers you and stay away from them
I started my journey a few months ago, I took note of what made me want to jerk off and avoided them, focused my attention on other things. I started doing strength training (this helps a lot), reading more, socializing, reducing internet time. I even started learning a new language, if your attention is focused on something else you won't have time, you will get urges like mad and the withdrawal symptoms are bad asf but never let your guard down. Don't count the days, think of it as improving yourself.

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Escobar98(m): 11:49pm On Sep 16
Macsjebs:

My guess is u probably don't have a GF and barely relate with female folks

I think that should be ur first step, be confidence about urself, u look good, just act like the Big guy u are, nothing special about them, ignore the high % of rudeness and don't feel sad when turned down

You could also wear a good fragrance that would make u absolutely irresistible, I gat u covered on that, do see my signature and feel free to buzz me on whatsapp for urs

Cheers
Like literally I've had relationships. Four. I have female friends. I've had sex thrice. Neither of the three impressed me no cap. I cut my relationship around March. The masturbation seems to have gotten much of me. It never satisfied me, but anytime I feel I need a woman the idea of the masturbation lurking at home drowns the need for sex.
I've dared myself with curses as a tactic to quit: I would literally place a curse on myself if I regressed into masturbation. The urge will descend like a rain and I'll capitulate. The feeling is stronger than anything. Funny that the sexes I had worsened the case.

I'm still studying and doing absolutely well, and I feel it's not time to address the hegemonic behemoth that has come to stay. It's basically being the only chink in the armor of my spiritual and Christian life. That apart, I'm good asf.
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Macsjebs(m): 12:13am On Sep 17
Escobar98:
It's basically being the only chink in the armor of my spiritual and Christian life. That apart, I'm good asf.
I think I get your point better now

Cheers

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by deleo16(m): 12:49am On Sep 17
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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Account2Many: 1:13am On Sep 17
Zane2point4:


That erection stuff is real,many masturbators suffers it alot that deh depend on viagra for sex.
properties4sale:
Mine is for the past 20 years, itself really a very big problem. It destroys your sex life.. like it kills it; poor erection. You cannot have normal sex with girls. It's bad.
I've masturbated for 13 years, I never had sex with a lady before.
So the the lady I'm about getting married to finally visited and we made out and when it came to sex i completely lost erection.
She was so disappointed and she thought I was nervous or something so the second time when she visited and we made out and I still lost erection again. I had to lie to her that I'm on a medication maybe that's why.
A week after she visited again and I greatly impressed her with a long lasting erection but deep down my heart I was shattered cos i took Viagra, now I have to be using Viagra to maintain an erection.
Even the sex wasn't enjoyable as her vagina walls were too soft and not as hard as my palms that my dicck has been used to
How long will I continue with this?
Masturbation is a killer.

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Humanoid01(m): 1:20am On Sep 17
shogsman:

Cut the crap bro,there ain't nothing wrong with masturbation,you guys are just too weak and you get addicted to almost anything,I've been masturbating for more than 20years now,I can easily decide to go months without it and the urge wouldn't be a,problem, I've got kids and a very good sex life.
The stigma is what is messing y'all up in the head

Congratulations on having kids, a good sex life and being able to control the urge to masturbate for months, but it doesn't change the fact that masturbation is evil. It is a very dirty act which stems from a mind that has no regard for God.

Your comment even suggests you're probably an atheist, so I am not surprised. I do not care what anyone says, for me, it is not the way God designed us to fulfil our sexual desires and it has ruined many lives. If anyone is feeling guilty about it, then it is what it is -- a habit that should be gotten rid of.

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by properties4sale: 2:38am On Sep 17
Account2Many:

I've masturbated for 13 years, I never had sex with a lady before.
So the the lady I'm about getting married to finally visited and we made out and when it came to sex i completely lost erection.
She was so disappointed and she thought I was nervous or something so the second time when she visited and we made out and I still lost erection again. I had to lie to her that I'm on a medication maybe that's why.
A week after she visited again and I greatly impressed her with a long lasting erection but deep down my heart I was shattered cos i took Viagra, now I have to be using Viagra to maintain an erection.
Even the sex wasn't enjoyable as her vagina walls were too soft and not as hard as my palms that my dicck has been used to
How long will I continue with this?
Masturbation is a killer.
It is bro; I'll advise you to try stopping, if u can... give it 1 to 2 months; you will have ur pride back, I can promise you that. Mansturbation kills...

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by properties4sale: 2:42am On Sep 17
Ilenny9:


First acknowledge you have a problem which you already have.
Get busy! Identify what triggers you and stay away from them
I started my journey a few months ago, I took note of what made me want to jerk off and avoided them, focused my attention on other things. I started doing strength training (this helps a lot), reading more, socializing, reducing internet time. I even started learning a new language, if your attention is focused on something else you won't have time, you will get urges like mad and the withdrawal symptoms are bad asf but never let your guard down. Don't count the days, think of it as improving yourself.

Words in marble bro, I'll try to keep to this. Thanks... this ideology will really help me. God bless

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by properties4sale: 2:46am On Sep 17
shogsman:

Cut the crap bro,there ain't nothing wrong with masturbation,you guys are just too weak and you get addicted to almost anything,I've been masturbating for more than 20years now,I can easily decide to go months without it and the urge wouldn't be a,problem, I've got kids and a very good sex life.
The stigma is what is messing y'all up in the head
Good for u bro, it isn't so for many of us, just try to be more sensitive with issues and do not use your standards to judge others.
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Virginpreek: 2:52am On Sep 17
CalebLebsco56:
Its really pathetic...i also Masturbate, since my secondary school days,but not constantly, there was a time i dont last long on girls..my babe was complaining.So during this lockdown i took a break, i started working and reduce the rate...i used garlic and ginger with some fruits...my sex life change i can go upto 3rounds i enjoy sex...
But i also find out that anytime i masturbate through out the week i feel weak and guilty of myself...my Penis will just be weak and it will prevent me from having sexual thoughts...
I am also praying to stop it, i dont like it, but when i am alone the urge always come....I have stayed upto a month without it but i am still feeling the Urge!!




Please can you please tell what are the things you use to boost ur ur sex life will really like to try it

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