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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Judolisco(m): 12:33pm On Sep 16, 2020
Blackurglyboi:
Please don't laugh at my English and I'm not a good writer.

Now I have come to realization that truely masturbation is the greatest addiction ever. I wouldn't like to disclose my name cause of some reasons, I would like to keep my identity safe.

It all started far back In 2011 when I was in my jss3, I have been a pretty good boy who loves making friends, I was jovial. I interact with everyone around me and everybody loves my company.

I have lot of girls as my friends ..
One faithful Saturday morning I was having a stroll and I came across a pornography film pack and it has nudes content. It was lying by the road side, I'd picked it up and had a lot at it ..

My fellow nairalanders, that was how my journey started.

I started having the urge for sex. I felt so good giving myself self pleasure, I started masturbating once or twice a week, soon I started getting addicted, anytime I feel alone, the urge comes up and I must attend to it no matter where I am.

I started downloading phonography pictures on my phone. Fast forward to the time I finished my secondary school. It come to my observation I started pulling away from my female friends and I started keeping all to myself. I got some worst to the extent I can't talk to a woman. I started losing my friends. I only had mouth on social media .

Fast forward till today, masturbation have ruined my life totally now I have been so addicted that I get it done twice a day, sometimes I feel hurt and guilty, sometimes I asked myself i I would ever get married or if I can ever love a woman. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself. I do promise my self that I'm gonna leave it but the highest I could go was a week. I don't even have that urge of hitting a woman, in my area as low as 500 you can have sex with a LovePeddler, but even though it is cheap to that extent i Would rather satisfy my self.

Till this day I have been masturbating for 9 years and it's really tearing my life apart.
Now I keep all to myself .. The only two things you could find on my phone browser is narialand and different ponographic sites ...

It hurts me so much, sometimes my friends ask when would I have a girlfriend but I would reply (oboy leave that thing make we make money first woman go come ) but deep down I feel sorry for myself ...

For those who say masturbation isn't a sin, dear friends masturbation I'd a deep sin and when you're addicted to it is very difficult to overcome it .

Please I need your advice, a problem shared is a problem solved.
if you are still staying with ur parents tell them about it and you'll be free trust me
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Hezmatosky: 12:33pm On Sep 16, 2020
From ur story, you were in JSS3 9yrs ago, probably at the age 12. That means 9+12=21. You're now 21yrs of age. Now masturbation has saved u from from hitting sex paddlers, and contacting HIV, STDS etc. Also, it has saved you from distractions from female folks and becoming an early father. My guy everything has time ok, don't feel you're already condemned in life. Be focus ok, when it's time for marriage, you will marry and have kids. Masturbation is a habit just like smoking, alcoholism, flirting, going to have time with wayward girls, drugs etc. Everyone has one or two of the habits depending the one that you were thought with. Masturbation is not a killer. You will stop when it's time.

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by harmargedon: 12:34pm On Sep 16, 2020
you see, masturbation isn't the cause for you not having a girlfriend, even if you didn't masturbation, by nature you're a shy person. I know people who masturbate still they have numerous girlfriends. do not stress yourself trying to stop it, try hard to get a girlfriend and when you do you will automatically stop masturbation. you have a high sex drive that's why your body is searching for a way of satisfying itself. I'm saying this from experience. Find a girl with high sex drive too. trust me by the time she drains all your juice, you wouldn't even remember the last time you masturbate.

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Kingpele(m): 12:34pm On Sep 16, 2020
It is good u see it is evil, this is the beginning of your redemption... Secondly do u know that the semen u waste is a potential human being, this thought will help you beat it, that is how I quit my own, then I started sleeping with women, I still realize I was wasting my semen with this girls, then I realized that sex was ordained by God within the protection of holy matrimony, I knew I had to quit every dirty immoral life.. U see sex is a noble process a human being will be born on earth but Satan has corrupted man to see it as vain pleasures of life and we begin to belittle the process we all came through the earth and by so doing we don't value ourselves as God desired of us

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Hardeysolution(m): 12:34pm On Sep 16, 2020
ACCEPT JESUS

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Mornikar: 12:35pm On Sep 16, 2020
Here's what worked for me.
1. You need to realize this is a problem.
2. Be determined.
3. Get busy. Very important!!
4. You'll relapse, trust me you will!! But don't beat yourself up about it. You've been masturbating for 9 years, your brain simply won't shut down that euphoric feeling.
5. Remember it's a marathon from 100 - 0. It's not a race.
6.Don't ever think you're sinning Against anybody other than yourself. Remove religion outta the equation else you'll feel worse.
7. Do I still masturbate? Yes I do. Once or twice a week. Down from twice a day.
REMEMBER!! IT'S A MARATHON. NOT A RACE!
You gat this bro.

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by adexking119(m): 12:35pm On Sep 16, 2020
Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr

Masturbating is good....it is not a bad thing....

First of all....you need to stop thinking it is a bad thing....so you won't be feeling guilty after masturbating.....

You know the funny thing son.....
When you stop feeling guilty about masturbations and stop seeing it as a bad thing that is the time you start to limit it without you knowing....
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Saao(m): 12:36pm On Sep 16, 2020
Blackurglyboi:

I have been following up cases like this for over the years here in nairialand ....most people would say masturbation is healthy and it isn't a since ..for me that's a big lie , masturbation can destroy someone pemenetly .....its a big sin...
bro I feel your pain. The first thing to do is to deal with the trigger. What trigger you doing it. First trigger is watching pornography films, get ride of all the pornography films u have and replace it with other gospel movies or decent movie u can watch. Secondly avoid being alone, from your write up, u usually do it when alone, avoid staying alone. Thirdly, pray about it. Forthly get a partner, lastly discipline yourself not to do it anymore. With these 5 points, u will handle it effectively.
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by ialadega(m): 12:36pm On Sep 16, 2020
I will advise as a Christian. 1. You need to repent from such act. 2. Trust in God and power of Holy spirit to rescue you from the situation. 3. Abstain from pornographic materials. 4. engage yourself in more spiritual activities like reading your bible, praying and fasting, listening to Gospel music, engage in Church activities. 5. If you are mature enough to get marry, start preparing towards it.

Do all these, Holy spirit will help you.
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by SocialJustice: 12:37pm On Sep 16, 2020
Blackurglyboi:

I'm desperate to get out of this soon ....I believe I would have to open up to my parents and let them know what I have been going through . cause this is getting me so depressed a lot , I'm still in my teenage age , I'm just 23 and I'm still young to face a this , is better I out a stop to it since I have come to realization.
2 and you think you're a teenager. I feel very sorry for you. Go get a job to distract yourself and start having sex with humans and not your hand. You can't tame testosterone. Don't be deceived. Almost every guy has mastirbated at one point in their lives. Don't be weak and make it all you do. Get productive and start doing other things with your life.

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Codedlyon: 12:37pm On Sep 16, 2020
Masturbation is not a bad thing. If it was it would have never existed. It's self satisfactory whenever you have a urge you don't owe anybody or offend anybody. No body expect more than you can do. No grudges no arguments child birth control. Ity still a better option than those rapists. Almost everyday news about raping. But masturbate. No one really cares about you. Just do your thing.

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by RTSC: 12:38pm On Sep 16, 2020
Personally, I feel there is time for everything.
I don't masturbate, but I can see the usefulness.

It saves you from a lot of diseases.

By the time you get married and you are ejaculating atleast three to four times a week, masturbation will fade away.

The problem is when it is affecting your productive life as a single.

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Blackurglyboi(m): 12:38pm On Sep 16, 2020
I was so shocked to login and saw my post made tge front page ....definitely I would take to the positive advice of everyone who advice me out here and I would do m best in putting a final full stop to it.Masturbation is truly evil .thank you all nairialanders for your advice .....I'm forever gratefull to you all.

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by seunak2016: 12:38pm On Sep 16, 2020
Blackurglyboi:
I can't even talk to a girl anymore I feel I'm not man enough , its a big problem . I do pray I get out of it soon before I took late
have a girlfriend for a start . the first time you attempt to have sex with her, you might not penetrate cos your dick might not rise but finger her and do other stuff as well. the following time you want to have sex with her, you will penetrate but in the meantime time don't masturbate again ooo...

ps: don't have a girlfriend who will manipulate you with sex ooo, because if she does then you will masturbate immediately she is playing stupid games with you

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Ogdiamond123(m): 12:39pm On Sep 16, 2020
Pray to God about it
Rather meet your pastor he shud put you on prayers
Then whenever you get that urge my brother run outside and look for where people are gathered
Stop staying alone at home
With this few tricks I have been able to go 2 months without doing that shit
Its demonic, it causes downfall in ur life
Just try these easy steps
The one you should focus more on is always be around people stop staying alone all by yourself in ur house
Always go outside and b in the midst of people
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by ezugwubb: 12:40pm On Sep 16, 2020
Try and visit one of the branches of the Lord's Chosen Church and table your matter before GOD, Your problem will be solved. simple!
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by ugbede69(m): 12:40pm On Sep 16, 2020
izuswift:

Masturbation is demonic.
This three videos will help you break free. Trust me!
The videos helped me.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gN3yrv-fIII


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-3Vdg7oIg4A


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ocB-npVNjs
I would be very grateful if I get the videos via WhatsApp. my phone does not support YouTube ...thanks in addy
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by AngelicBeing: 12:41pm On Sep 16, 2020
Masturbation is a demonic monster that has rendered several destinies useless sad

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by AreaFada2: 12:41pm On Sep 16, 2020
IkwerrePikin:
Do females who are addicted to masturbation also have this issue of sexual satisfaction when with a man?

Is it only the males who masturbate alot that suffer from poor erection and inability to release and have complete pleasure with a woman?
Women even use vibrator and all kinds of toys. Seems its a problem for only men. Never seen women lament how vibrator and Love Machine are ruining their lives.

More ammunition for women who say men can't do without women.

Maybe not fulfilling male desire to spread seed if the real biological reason behind the guilt men feel. If you look at their post most complaining of not able to toast babes anymore, poor erection, etc. The religious aspect seems a smokescreen or finding an acceptable or understandable reason for their guilt.

I may be wrong though.
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by bluefilm: 12:42pm On Sep 16, 2020
Masturbation has saved me a lot of money I could have been spending on girlfriends and oloshos.

Thank you Jesus for giving humans the ability to self pleasure

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by ityP(m): 12:42pm On Sep 16, 2020
Ghost8889:


Masturbating has nothing to do with poor erection or inability to release and have complete pleasure with a woman



It actually does. Go to the masturbation thread here and ask around

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by hayodejipop: 12:42pm On Sep 16, 2020
make I no lie for u
nah serious problem u Dy oo
mine is started in 2015 and last for like 2-3yrs
but within that yrs I lost my life..I felt drained, depressed, some thing like brain damages cos ur brain can't stores properly,u might also feels dirty after that even many thing I can't explain that u might av experienced also,cos this addiction is very addictive....it requires a lot of commitment and sacrifice with the grace of God to overcome it....first quit anything abt movie,even sell ur phone just gt like touch light phone first after u stop this masturbating u will now face with d consequence of it which is now frequently wet dream cos of d hormones producing sperm will work very active and can't be able to store sperm as it's again so since u refuse to masturbate and av sex then it has to come,mind u anyone telling u masturbation is good is because some of them don't want to feel alone doing it,they are also battling with it ..........check my signature if I can put u Tru

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Angelfrost(m): 12:42pm On Sep 16, 2020
The only reason you masturbate this often is simply because you have too much spare time on your hands...

The urge for sex is natural, and you shouldn't go all desperate trying to suppress it! Some men later in life started trying to get that insane libido back!

What you need now is basic conditioning of your mind, and attitude towards sex... You can actually train and tame your libido without going all extreme. Please, ignore all these religious and superstitious liars here! Most of those so called "spiritual exercises" don't work jack!.. It's funny how a lot of people confuse mental conditioning as "Spiritual Deliverance"! grin grin grin

You need to spend far less time around sex-inspiring or libido-aggravating objects, places, and scenarios like movies, books, parties, etc...
Spend more time pursuing your passion (Find it if you don't already have or know it)!
Indulge in more mentally uplifting activities like reading, researching, exercising (Time to earn that model physique), religion, etc...

The urge will never fully die till you have a permanent sex partner (Especially in marriage), so don't pressure yourself unduly... The aim is to keep it at the barest minimum. Simple as that!!! Hell, a lot of married people still masturbate from time to time. Believe that!!! cool

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by sonofthunder: 12:42pm On Sep 16, 2020
Blackurglyboi:
I don't even listen to such. No one can come up and tell me mastubation is not a problem .its demonic and its evil

I can help you a bit with direction to valuable information that will guide you to become the man you want to be. Are you interested?
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by LadySarah: 12:43pm On Sep 16, 2020
madampresident:
The only reason you're struggling with masturbation is because you see it as a very big deal. You masturbate and the devil sells you guilt.

This is not God now. Take away the guilt. Enjoy your masturbation and watch yourself lose memory to masturbation.

Mechionu!

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Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by aikyg(m): 12:44pm On Sep 16, 2020
Blackurglyboi:

I'm desperate to get out of this soon ....I believe I would have to open up to my parents and let them know what I have been going through . cause this is getting me so depressed a lot , I'm still in my teenage age , I'm just 23 and I'm still young to face a this , is better I out a stop to it since I have come to realization.

Please don't use any drug that has not been prescribed by your doctor. Possible side effects of anti-androgens include:

increased risk of depression
hepatitis
liver injury
diarrhea
hot flashes
anti-androgen resistance

Talk to a clinical psychologist or doctor about your condition.
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Dizzyrascal(m): 12:44pm On Sep 16, 2020
lightangel65i:
How desperate are you for a cure, you have like 200k?
If you have go and use it to buy antitestereone pills from a good pharmacist, they cost much, take it for like six months and don't miss a single dose, that would kill your urges completely you will be innocent as a 5yrs old boy. Stop after six months

Its the same drug used to treat sex offenders in the US.
wow!!! shocked shocked
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Pilot007: 12:45pm On Sep 16, 2020
Blackurglyboi:
Please don't laugh at my English and I'm not a good writer.

Now I have come to realization that truely masturbation is the greatest addiction ever. I wouldn't like to disclose my name cause of some reasons, I would like to keep my identity safe.

It all started far back In 2011 when I was in my jss3, I have been a pretty good boy who loves making friends, I was jovial. I interact with everyone around me and everybody loves my company.

I have lot of girls as my friends ..
One faithful Saturday morning I was having a stroll and I came across a pornography film pack and it has nudes content. It was lying by the road side, I'd picked it up and had a lot at it ..

My fellow nairalanders, that was how my journey started.

I started having the urge for sex. I felt so good giving myself self pleasure, I started masturbating once or twice a week, soon I started getting addicted, anytime I feel alone, the urge comes up and I must attend to it no matter where I am.

I started downloading phonography pictures on my phone. Fast forward to the time I finished my secondary school. It come to my observation I started pulling away from my female friends and I started keeping all to myself. I got some worst to the extent I can't talk to a woman. I started losing my friends. I only had mouth on social media .

Fast forward till today, masturbation have ruined my life totally now I have been so addicted that I get it done twice a day, sometimes I feel hurt and guilty, sometimes I asked myself i I would ever get married or if I can ever love a woman. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself. I do promise my self that I'm gonna leave it but the highest I could go was a week. I don't even have that urge of hitting a woman, in my area as low as 500 you can have sex with a LovePeddler, but even though it is cheap to that extent i Would rather satisfy my self.

Till this day I have been masturbating for 9 years and it's really tearing my life apart.
Now I keep all to myself .. The only two things you could find on my phone browser is narialand and different ponographic sites ...

It hurts me so much, sometimes my friends ask when would I have a girlfriend but I would reply (oboy leave that thing make we make money first woman go come ) but deep down I feel sorry for myself ...

For those who say masturbation isn't a sin, dear friends masturbation I'd a deep sin and when you're addicted to it is very difficult to overcome it .

Please I need your advice, a problem shared is a problem solved.
My dear brother, anointing breaks every yoke. Accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and saviour and he will make your life new. But the blood of Jesus, that yoke is broken In Jesus name.
Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by Elsueno: 12:46pm On Sep 16, 2020
sigh......too much free time.

Re: Help!! I Have Been Masturbating For 9 Years Now by jubrilELsudan: 12:48pm On Sep 16, 2020
I HAVE BEEN MASTURBATING FOR OVER 30 YEARS AND I STILL FVCK WOMEN AND SHOOT MY HOT CUM IN THEIR MOUTH AND I HAVEN'T DIED NOR HAVE MY LIFE BEEN FILLED WITH BAD LUCK.


IT'S ALL IN THE MIND AND MENTALITY OF YOUR THINKING AND BELIEVING THE THRASH PEOPLE SAY.

FALSE CHRISTIANITY DOCTRINES MAKES EVERYTHING A SIN YET SAME CHRISTIANS AND PASTORS WILL SAY IT'S BETTER TO FORNICATE OR COMMIT ADULTERY THAN TO MASTURBATE.

SAME PRESENT DAY CHRISTIAN DOCTRINE THAT IS TODAY PREACHED THAT A MAN MUST ONLY MARRY JUST ONE WIFE BUT THERE'S NOWHERE IN THE BIBLE WHERE JESUS PREACHED THAT A MAN MUST ONLY MARRY ONE WIFE.

IT'S ALL IN YOUR MIND MENTALITY THINKING. IF YOU BELIEVE YOU MASTURBATING BRINGS YOU BAD LUCK THEN SO SHALL IT MANIFEST.




IT'S BETTER TO MASTURBATE THAN TO GO RAPE A WOMAN BECAUSE OF KONJI THEN WHEN YOU ARE CAUGHT YOU WILL THEN BLAME IT ON THE DEVIL.

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