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Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by maasoap(m): 1:23pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
eejo: Nobody is blaming anyone, just that something may eventually give. 1 Like |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by virginprincess(f): 1:25pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
yaki84:Anyway sorry about that. |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by maasoap(m): 1:29pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
BKsoul: BKsoul: Why contradicting yourself? spiralwedge:Thanks |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Nobody: 1:29pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
cocolacec:Even as a foreign student at least ur wife would be patient to wait cos it wont be forever.It would just be for 2 or 3 yrs while u do ur programme.Thats not too much.If she is reasonable she can wait.We are talking of married guys who just migrate like that and just stay there for donkey years .No matter how trusting your wife her patience will break down eventually and she will start suspecting you if ur worsen it by avoiding her calls and we shouldnt shy away from the fact too that a number of married nigerian men also get married to european and american women to survive in their host country..this is a fact even if we hate to hear it.If a woman is in such situation i wont blame her if she makes her own decision. |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by flyingpig: 1:32pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
ednut1:Very very true |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by maasoap(m): 1:41pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
Mrscarter: So, you didn't see the other partner being used by you? You are funny |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Nobody: 1:41pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
Peacefullove:many of them here dont what to speak what they experience ..they speak what they fantasize of and when someone says the truth here they great angry.Agreed that many married men have genuine reasons to migrate just like the rest of us have the same reasons to migrate but along the line things will occur.In places like uk,america where it might be beneficial to u to marry one of their citizens u go dey tempted to do am weda u have a wife at home .Imagine not paying monthly rent again or gettting free food tell me wich guy no go fall.Then apart from that u will still be tempted to explore their women.When the women will be throwing themselves at you u will crack.This is why i said most times if u want to travel it is better u just dont rush and marry and if u have a girlfriend its better to break up with her.i know its not easy but it would be for ur own good and that of the other person.And if u married then try ur best as much as possible to communicate back home.make a time to communicate with her and quit bringing up the excuse of being to busy.Always make sure u try as much as possible to do a video call with her and the children.If u read op"s post he said the married woman who is hitting on him her children are begining to look on him as their daddy.I take it that the woman"s husband overseas hardly communicate with his wife and children back home and that is the reason the children are begining to look at a stranger as their daddy.Too bad. |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by maasoap(m): 1:49pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
virginprincess: He didn't give any advice up to the point where you posted this. You might have been reading his posts here with a predetermined mindset |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by flyingpig: 1:51pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
lefulefu:That is a huge factor |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Nobody: 1:51pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
emkz:u no lie guy...sometime ago i was attending a language school there was this young lady also attending.She would tell us that her husband is in Germany doing a student programme and he wants her to join him but she has no desire to join him.that she prefers that he stays there while he sends money to her to run her hairdressing and resturant business.If a woman starts sounding like that the man go know say something dey watsap.nothing good comes from a long distance relationship that is on a permanent basis.See the way Pastor Chris own long distance marriage end up. |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Nobody: 1:52pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
flyingpig:yea for woman wey u no trust or if na ppl arrange the woman give u as wife |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by flyingpig: 1:54pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
lefulefu:If a man gets wedded in Nigeria, moves to the west and brings the wife over, things go south and divorce papers are filed, will he lose his assets despite not been a signatory to court marriage or even getting wedded in the west? |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by flyingpig: 1:55pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
lefulefu:my predicament |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by ibedun: 1:59pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
steeltrust: No Sir, they will definitely love you but they will get married to a spouse you didn’t raise, start their own family and have to face the challenges of raising their own children. They may travel far and wide to greener pastures far away from where you are....... And please don’t raise any kids to look after you after retirement. You should take care of that. 2 Likes |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by ibedun: 2:00pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
flyingpig: Capital YES! |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by flyingpig: 2:02pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
ibedun:That is our problem Before you bring your wife overseas, just be mentally ready for a divorce. So that it won't appear as a shock to you. |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Nobody: 2:07pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
samsolite:guy oo i am an edo guy...when it comes to traveling we dey do am well hence we all know everything about it.Weda documented or an undocumented migrant we all know what a traveler goes through.There are benefits u might get in some country if u marry their women so tell me why would the average nigerian guy let such an opportunity pass him by even if he has a wife in naija .We are known to be go getters so make we no pretend here .There even guys when they get married to their oyibo wives or foreign wives and the woman insist on coming to africa to know his ppl the man will tell his naija based wife to pose as his younger sister when he brings his oyibo wife to naija.Such a story occured some time ago which i read on instagram and i believe it was put here too.the young man affected is even from my hometown in edo state.His parents pressurised his naija wife to allow him to marry a yankee woman.The yankee woman helped over to yankee but the main wife in naija couldnt take it anymore and had to expose him,She sent a threatning mail to the american woman to leave her husband alone and that she is the rightly wife.Such things happen on a daily basis..we read about it and we see it..so i dont understand which one u now saying hasty generaliztion . |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by larryking540: 2:08pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
Mrscarter: really ,I hardly get Influenced ,I don't kw if I have been in this life before ,so I don't get freaked by sociality material |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Nobody: 2:08pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
flyingpig:if its a woman who started with u and have ur interest at heart i dont see a reason why she would want to fuk up the marriage over money and assets 1 Like |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by flyingpig: 2:09pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
lefulefu:I hope so oo |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Nobody: 2:14pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
flyingpig:my aunty friend"s.she has a young dauther who finished from the higher instituition.This girl was lucky to see a uk based naija guy on facebook that she started an online relationship with.D guy has carried her back with him to the uk now.Though when i saw the man physically the time he came to do what was required of him na very advanced man sha oo.He would be like he is in his late 60s or probably early 70s and he's bald but then na uk base guy.The girl on the other hand is tall,fair beautiful and very young.me just wonder how such a girl will be able to stay faithful when over there in the uk with his man .so for trust the man must have a really strong trust to just see someone on the internet and bring her over with him to uk . |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by dingbang(m): 2:16pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
lefulefu:he has underlying health issues and want to enjoy his remaining years on earth being taken care of. 1 Like |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Nobody: 2:18pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
flyingpig:most of the stories we hear about women taking of men"s assets na mostly women wey dem arrange for such men or they just met them on the internet.The regular stories u hear of nigerian women enrolled in medical schools by their husbands in the US and uk and the women suing for divorce after graduation do u think such women started with the men? These are quite young girls imported from naija by these men or by their parents nau.How love wan take dey in such type of a union. 2 Likes |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Nobody: 2:20pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
dingbang:now u brought this up it could be a very valid reason.At the time my aunty and her friend were talking about the man i was thinking na one swaggalicious looking young dude .Imagine my shock when i see the man finally and i shock say na one advanced looking man.But this babe dingbang..if u see her ehn .maybe she would be faithful sha |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by streamsofjoy(f): 2:29pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
Chino4NAUTH: Thank you sir! Respect |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Lucas4903: 2:33pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
eejo: We like blaming everything on the country when we ourselves have a choice to make. I left my wife and kids in Naija and will be joining me February of next year after I filed for their residency. A Lot depends on the partners and how they want the relationship to be. As for those saying wives of abroad residents are interested in them, becareful not all of them are interested in you but because you think everything a lady think of is sex is your own undoing. They have other things on their mind. I wouldn't blame the country one bit, it is a choice I made. |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by dingbang(m): 2:34pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
lefulefu:she will be faithful until he dies. She is just marrying for the money which is the contract between two of them. I have a friend who is late now who wanted to marry a woman from my family. He had health issues, I guess he knew he had little time to live on earth so he just wanted to get married. This your niece that you know just saw an opportunity and cashed into it, she is a very smart lady. 1 Like |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by showafrica(m): 2:36pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
Chino4NAUTH: I was searching for houses to rent once upon a time and a woman was the landlady whose hubby was leaving abroad and wanted to rent part of her flat. The agent told me she is selective and only wants a single guy. I wondered and decided to try, got there she said she said i an ok that i can pay but she does not like someone who gets female visitors anyhow that i can only have one babe. I said ok, left and never came back. I think the orders, rules and regulations is too much for me also, I think she is looking for male company. Abroad husband no be am. |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Nobody: 2:41pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
dingbang:seems she took a better chance..at least its better than getting nacked by a young guy who has no future ambition than to be wearing a sagged jeans trousers and making noise all over the place.She is one of the dauthers of my aunty"s friend.I think the woman's first dauther.Since when i witnessed that incident i always tell any naija girl who complains about not seeing husband to try and log into facebook and search for overasea based naija guys.I bet there very advanced naija men in their 70s and 80s who are look got young maidens as wives to look after them at their old age.It wont be much of a stress cos he wont be banging u dat much like a young dude and besides u will have comfort. |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by dingbang(m): 2:41pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
samsolite:this your grammar sef |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by Nobody: 2:43pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
showafrica:my landlord does not mind if i have a female visitor..but wetin im no like is if u camp her for a long time.she can spend one or two nights or even a week but he will frown if u are keeping her for months.Landladies tend to have more issues than landlords |
Re: Wives Living In Nigeria And Husbands Abroad: My Encounter by dingbang(m): 2:43pm On Sep 25, 2020 |
lefulefu:that is why I want to go abroad so I can take uyaiincomparabl along with me |
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