lefulefu:
pls how many ppl are commited in their marriage .Is it the married man that has numerous sidechicks or the married woman who still goes to ex to collect levels .

That narrative is more true with marriages of couples based in Nigeria rather than them ones who's partner are abroad!

It's eazy for you guys to blame the man because you are not in his shoes. You'll understand when there's no other alternative but to move abroad illegally just to provide for your family. The man cannot come home because he's undocumented thus he won't be able to go back. it's easy to talk here, in reality, things aren't that straightforward. The man does not think about the possibility of his wife cheating, he just wants to provide for his family. give him a good job and he'll be back in naija the next day

erico2k2:

SO if the plan fails God forbid, what happens? he returns or ring the woman to divorce??

what works best for them

MrBrownJay1:


Lol, if I meet the babe for road and she invites me for some "fun time", would it be written on her forehead that she is married? Or better yet, as the dude is about to mount her, do you think he will ask:" are you married, because if you are I no wan do again?!"



That's the African men misplaced ego's double standard hypocrisy... A man can fukc around all he wants (even while living with wifey) but if wifey dares to look at another man (let alone fukc him), that's an abomination. Lol!

the privilege is because the man does everything, from wooing you, taking care of you and your family, marrying you which he paid singlehandedly without your Kobo, paying your dowry and still take care of you and the family. If he does all these and you can't respect him by honoring him with your body then switch roles then

MrBrownJay1:


If you don't mount her, someone in the area eventually will. Body no be firewood. Only a foolish man would go at the other side of the world for years and expect his wife to patiently wait. What kind of evil man would even expect that of a wife?

are you a Yoruba man ?

Konji na bastard

lefulefu:
gbam!..this is what i know married who care for their wives do.When they travel they make plans for their wives to join them as soon as possible.Only men who genuinly love their wives do this..the rest who use abroad as excuse to escape from their wives will be given 1 and 100 reasons why its impossible for a married man to bring his wife over .[s]When a man start giving u excuse know for sure he now has another new partner where has travelled to[/s]

complete hogwash!!


99.99% of Nigerian men who left Nigeria left out of no other choice to make it like they wished in Nigeria, some left out of failure to even earn a living in Nigeria.


Most left in tears and with their last savings or borrowed money.


Most left without any other choice. Majority left Nigeria with temporary visa and a plan to overstay their visa..and many don't get lucky converting their temporary stay to PR or green card so they resign to fate, hoping to make money and send back home to their wife and kids to ensure family is well catered for, and even though they wish to bring their wife and kids over, the odds are against them paper wise.


You are assuming too much even though you seem to know about all these, is it a deliberate act to entertain the audience or what


Aside children of politicians and the few privileged rich kids and those from financially stable family in igeria who travel out of Nigeria to study, and few to work legally as medics, nurses, etc, tell me how many Nigerians who left the country happily


Most it's because of financial difficulties in Nigeria that made them to travel abroad for greener pasture, even on visitors visa, how do you expect them to bring their wife over

lefulefu:
what works best for them

Exactly hence we must not judge cos we aint in their shoe and more importantly one should not paint everybody with same paintbrush . Individuals and cases and circumstances differ

solasoulmusic:
I’m serious it’s meant to be slow and passionate not Rushed and devoid of emotions

sometimes meals are sweeter when served hot hot like tsushi

Samakus:
I have one that is my neighbour currently. Moved into my apartment in January this year and my next flat neighbour is a pretty young woman with very young female twins. They were about 9 months old when I moved in. God knows I love pretty children. These kids have not seen their father before.

There's no amount of temptation I have not faced from this woman. But i have always had a principle of not touching another man's wife. Her twin kids thinks I'm their father cos I buy them things almost on a daily basis while returning from work. Sometimes I pity the young pretty woman. It's not easy for her but I can't help.

Anytime she sees a lady visit me, if you see her face eh lolz. But, it is what it is

are you an igbo or Urhobo man

franchasng:
complete hogwash!!


99.99% of Nigerian men who left Nigeria left out of no other chance to make it like they wished in Nigeria, some left out of failure to even earn a living in Nigeria.


Most left in tears.


Most left without any other choice. Majority left Nigeria with temporary visa and a plan to overstay their visa..and many don't get lucky converting their temporary stay to PR or green card so they resign to fate, hoping to make money and send back home to their wife and kids to ensure family is well catered for, and even though they wish to bring their wife and kids over, the odds are against them paper wise.


You are assuming too much even though you seem to know about all these, is it a deliberate act to entertain the audience or what


Aside children of politicians and the few privileged rich kids and those from financially stable family in igeria who travel out of Nigeria to study, and few to work legally as medics, nurses, etc, tell me how many Nigerians who left the country happily


Most it's because of financial difficulties in Nigeria that made them to travel abroad for greener pasture, even on visitors visa, how do you expect them to bring their wife over

Well said, like I have been trying to tell him, he has no clue,

[quote author=Chino4NAUTH post=94237946]I have been hearing about women who married their husbands and the man happens to be staying in overseas or moves to overseas thereafter for economic reasons to Carter for the welfare of his family.. Why it is good and fine economically it has left a deficient emotional vacuum for the wife and children esp if it's a young family.

I have a woman in our building whose husband stays abroad but she's always looking forward to talking with me and even trying to make me her confidant but I know the risk associated and had to find my away not to get more closer to her.she has only 2 kids fresh and cute.. Mind you she's still very much pretty and young.. I never knew she was married till I saw her fine kids

Similar situation both kids are girls

Me wey be man self can survive without a woman in my room 247.

God bless you, for no reason shld you leave your wife for one year...

bolousadex:
It's eazy for you guys to blame the man because you are not in his shoes. You'll understand when there's no other alternative but to move abroad illegally just to provide for your family. The man cannot come home because he's undocumented thus he won't be able to go back. it's easy to talk here, in reality, things aren't that straightforward. The man does not think about the possibility of his wife cheating, he just wants to provide for his family. give him a good job and he'll be back in naija the next day

thats why most times if u want to do such parole its easier doing it as a single man

erico2k2:

Well said, like I have been trying to tell him, he has no clue,

he knows all that, he's trying to entertain his audience.


I have met Nigerian men in some countries stuck with no way to even go back to Nigeria.


For instance in South Korea, if you overstay, whenever you want to leave SK, you must pay a fine for overstaying your visa...which may run into millions depending on how long you overstayed and most Nigerians in SK cannot bring their wife or kids cos no matter who you be, they consider you as alien.


Go to Europe, we have so many Nigerians stuck there..no legal paper to even get a decent job talk more of filing for a wife to join you. Same thing is applicable to US.


Many Nigerian men that abandoned their wife in Nigeria are helpless, they wish to bring their wife and kids over where they are, but due to paper issue they cannot.


But with what they are posting here, wives of such men working extremely hard abroad to ensure their wife and kids in Nigeria are well taken care of could pick offense and believe their husband is married over there and intentionally don't wanna bring them over, it's not a cool thing to generalise such sensitive topic

ariklawani:
God bless you, for no reason shld you leave your wife for one year...

pray make owu (financial lack) no catch you and your husband or future husband, you will even encourage him to forget you for life if that would end the sufferings you guys are passing through

franchasng:
sometimes meals are sweeter when served hot hot like tsushi

it’s a cold meal the last time I checked besides not every woman wants to rush the moment some of you we know watch porn and that’s all you guys do sometimes not every woman should be bleeped like a hoe

franchasng:
he knows all that, he's trying to entertain his audience.


I have met Nigerian men in some countries stuck with no way to even go back to Nigeria.


For instance in South Korea, if you overstay, whenever you want to leave SK, you must pay a fine for overstaying your visa...which may run into millions depending on how long you overstayed and most Nigerians in SK cannot bring their wife or kids cos no matter who you be, they consider you as alien.


Go to Europe, we have so many Nigerians stuck there..no legal paper to even get a decent job talk more of filing for a wife to join you. Same thing is applicable to US.


Many Nigerian men that abandoned their wife in Nigeria are helpless, they wish to bring their wife and kids over where they are, but due to paper issue they cannot.


But with what they are posting here, wives of such men working extremely hard abroad to ensure their wife and kids in Nigeria are well taken care of could pick offense and believe their husband is married over there and intentionally don't wanna bring them over, it's not a cool thing to generalise such sensitive topic

True but i do believe wives know the worth of thier husbands and that he is doing a good job looking after them,Cos 9ja noer easy most of thos talking trassshhhhh here still live with Mum Dad.Dem no know how far

I have several examples whereby the wife couldn’t qualify for a visa.

Stop painting with a wide brush.

I see it as nothing but punishment, why leave your wife in Nigeria, if a man that wants to marry me won't do my visa for us to leave together, then no marriage will take place.

franchasng:
pray make owu (financial lack) no catch you and your husband or future husband, you will even encourage him to forget you for life if that would end the sufferings you guys are passing through

Hunger nah Sickness!

MrBrownJay1:


That's because you failed to understand what I wrote... If wifey is already h0rny and willing to offer the toto, then we have to be honest about the situation, instead of pretending that she won't give up the toto to the 1st available Mandingo warrior.

If you believe that this is a bad advice, then so be it.



How can a man start a family then abandon the poor wife back home? I understand why many are losing their minds.

chai..

Nuttella:
I see it as nothing but punishment, why leave your wife in Nigeria, if a man that wants to marry me won't do my visa for us to leave together, then no marriage will take place.

And wen u are married for 10 years with two kids and he lost his Job and he gets the option to go hustle in London where you can at least get feeding money of 200K per month what would you say??

erico2k2:

True but i do believe wives know the worth of thier husbands and that he is doing a good job looking after them,Cos 9ja noer easy most of thos talking trassshhhhh here still live with Mum Dad.Dem no know how far

yeah but women are easily convinced and even deceived, their false generalisation can convince many ladies in such position honestly.


It's all good

virginprincess:
I have been noticing how you give bad advice on this forum,why you advice him to sleep with someone else wife, very bad.

Don't mind the goat,nah so person go sleep with hin own wife too

franchasng:
yeah but women are easily convinced and even deceived, their false generalisation can convince many ladies in such position honestly.


It's all good

Its all good bro hence the best way is to Engage the woman and show commitment on one's part.and Idle mind is a devils workshop!

Princessbettyj:


Don't mind the goat,nah so person go sleep with hin own wife too

Sister u harsh ohhhh

Nuttella:
I see it as nothing but punishment, why leave your wife in Nigeria, if a man that wants to marry me won't do my visa for us to leave together, then no marriage will take place.

easier said than done, just pray to your God for mercy and grace, stop talking with girlie emotion...life is deeper than our wishes and if wishes were horses, OBJ and Buhari for turn to 20yr old Military Generals

These things are really happening, many of these women are struggling.

Real life experience, a few years back a neighbor husband left her and the kid to spain. this lady was tall and beautiful, she just turned 30. Guys actually used to eye her and approach, but she never gave them a listening ear. The man comes in onces in 2yrs.

From hi's, to small talks, to how was your day, to small small you are so funny body touch, to bringing over dinner, to gifts the husby sent, naso e start o.

she hated anytime i had female company, changing her demeanor. she even told her sister who came to spend one of their ASUU strike, straight to keep off or she would send her away.

She gave me signals though, but i always acted blind. The day i knew water pass garri was when she came knocking at 1AM, as i opened, she ducked under me straight to the room. met her on my bed, but i kept to myself and rejected her advances that night. oh lord did she try.

She hated me for a while, but later came around sha but this time she voiced out.

One day while watching a movie she started getting all touchy as usual and voiced out she needed the D. said if it was pregnancy i was scared of she's a big girl, and she was sure her husband was with someone there. That was when we really now talked and i told her she is another mans property, i cant do it no matter how tempted i am, and yes man was real tempted.

But its all about the mindset and who you are. Put yourself in the man shoes, if you traveled out to hustle and another man was servicing one of the reasons you are hustling.

I have always lived by the golden rule

MrBrownJay1:


If you don't mount her, someone in the area eventually will. Body no be firewood. Only a foolish man would go at the other side of the world for years and expect his wife to patiently wait. What kind of evil man would even expect that of a wife?

Marriage is more than amu na toto.