BigSarah:

Talking about food in dates, who declared that dates must happen at fast-food or grillers? No one!, if as a man you're not spontaneous enough to pick a non-food related venue for the date that's on you!

If a girl wants to pay for her own meal guess what she'd be doing? EATING IT ALONE!... Not having some guy giving interviews over lunch.
Sure some girls might take a date as a possible meal ticket, but if you can't bring up sharing of the bills before the date then you shouldn't complain, if you did the asking out.. I never get critical or judgmental about dates etiquette but this section of nairaland never hides it's gross misogyny.

lograr:
I don't like the gender wars but the truth must be spoken. Its only girls that bring their friends to a date so that their gluttonous appetite can be satisfied

CosmicPhoenix:

research has proven women only go on dates because of food,tell a naija girl that you guys wont hang out where food is sold and she will cancel any appointment with you.

mosdii:



Anang abi ibibio girl, I don't look for trouble and I have never looked for anyone's trouble before and I will never do.
I can't do anything but don't ascribe that name to me again.
Take your granny behavior somewhere else.

lograr:
I don't like the gender wars but the truth must be spoken. Its only girls that bring their friends to a date so that their gluttonous appetite can be satisfied

Zzor:
small boy aka Mr blackie,i don't belong to any of those tribes,you have been insulting people up and down and here you are denying it,oya run along before I carry my cane.Mr blackie

mosdii:


Who are the "people" I have been insulting?
I have never insulted anybody here and can never do that.

Your fingers dey fast to type 'small boy' & 'mr blackie'.

I don tell you but you don't want to take it, no qualms.

BigSarah:

Talking about food in dates, who declared that dates must happen at fast-food or grillers? No one!, if as a man you're not spontaneous enough to pick a non-food related venue for the date that's on you!

If a girl wants to pay for her own meal guess what she'd be doing? EATING IT ALONE!... Not having some guy giving interviews over lunch.
Sure some girls might take a date as a possible meal ticket, but if you can't bring up sharing of the bills before the date then you shouldn't complain, if you did the asking out.. I never get critical or judgmental about dates etiquette but this section of nairaland never hides it's gross misogyny.

Zzor:
go and check your posts and see how you sprung up from nowhere to unleash heavy insults on me and the other lady.Are you not a small boy? and are you not a blackie? your blackie is a very fine one,just go and stop fighting people up and down Mr blackie

mosdii:


Rose I am not a small boy and I am not a blackie.

I've never fought anybody here and I can never do that to anyone.
Not my thing... this Mr blackie go put you for trouble oh, I don't like the name.

Truvel:
Girls Dat Brings Their Friends To A Date 4 Their Gluttonous Appetites Are Thieves & Prostitutes. Dey Are Not Worth Dating.

cooooooks:
While some NLers do dabble in overt misogyny, I fail to see the problem in someone sharing and wailing about their experience.

Personally, the women and girls I've gone on dates with in Nigeria have never used me as a meal ticket. I think that is because we were both interested in each other.

There was no pestering or begging involved.

Let us not however act as though it is not on this same NL that some women are advising others to avoid 'broke' men. And some of these NL 'FINO' (Feminists In Name Only) define broke as not able to spend 10k on a date.


We are 200 MILLION people in Nigeria, there is no need to dwell on someone that is not pushing your buttons or whose demands are unreasonable to you.

baralatie:

you have people who literarily find themselves financially not capable to sustain their ego and pseudo status( impression at first sight) and their approach on get laid mentality

Amarabae:
I find it weird seeing people eating during a date , a glass of wine is OK to keep the conversation going.

i926:
Tell a Nigerian girl, let's split the bill before the date, just won't work. She would flee, hate you, even call you not man enough


This is exactly what I was talking about

IamLEGEND1:
This is true. But splitting the bill should be the norm, not an outlier. This way no one feels hard done by if things don't work out.
Thhis type of statements are part of the reasonthe guys here are the way they are. If, like you're suggesting, I am paying for your time, then obviously I should expect you to make it worth my while.

Zzor:
you have been insulting virginprincess and I and here you are boldly denying it haaaaaaaaaa smh

BigSarah:

Talking about food in dates, who declared that dates must happen at fast-food or grillers? No one!, if as a man you're not spontaneous enough to pick a non-food related venue for the date that's on you!

If a girl wants to pay for her own meal guess what she'd be doing? EATING IT ALONE!... Not having some guy giving interviews over lunch.
Sure some girls might take a date as a possible meal ticket, but if you can't bring up sharing of the bills before the date then you shouldn't complain, if you did the asking out.. I never get critical or judgmental about dates etiquette but this section of nairaland never hides it's gross misogyny.

Zzor:
if a man dare ask me to share the bills,i will frustrate him till he gets the picture of what I'm up to and leave,you can't pay bills and you are asking for a date.Let me be the one to offer to share the bills and not him demanding that.Its a red flag for me if a man demands we share the bills on a date

2dice01:
>@ Bolded

Pick 15 girls and tell them you guys are sharing the Bill before the date

You will hardly see 1 girl agreeing to this

BigSarah:


Then look elsewhere obv

proclinician:


It's simple. Before you come out to run your filthy mouth, tell your brothers to practice what you've preached and see how far it gets them. For Nigerian ladies, a date is an opportunity to eat those things she ordinarily can't afford because a guy is taking the whole bill. Use your brothers to run a simple social experiment then you can share your results on nairaland. Telling any of these gluttons that the bill will be split is interpreted as red flag. "He is poor or stingy and can't run a home".

BigSarah:


People get laid without even going on dates, just straight up sheet rocking...

BigSarah:


Lmao see the way you angled my talk... Paying for ones time isn't that what you do to a hookah... Taking a girl out isnt paying for her time the very moment you've that impression you've played yourself!... In my opinion

DrFunmisticGlow:
I disagree.

IamLEGEND1:
You said if you wanted to pay for your meal, you'd be alone at home away from the noise. I don't see how else a sentence like that can be interpreted.
Him paying is the only reason you'd subject yourself to the "interrogation" of a date. In other words, he's paying for your time & presence with food.

That said, I feel there is a valid point buried somewhere deep in some of your oddly phrased words. But it's a point that hasn't been made here before. You should know that by now. you're trying to feed hay to jackals. It's pointless.

Zzor:
you have been insulting virginprincess and I and here you are boldly denying it haaaaaaaaaa smh

mosdii:


Ama since Truth become insult?

IamLEGEND1:
You said if you wanted to pay for your meal, you'd be alone at home away from the noise. I don't see how else a sentence like that can be interpreted.
Him paying is the only reason you'd subject yourself to the "interrogation" of a date. In other words, he's paying for your time & presence with food.

That said, I feel there is a valid point buried somewhere deep in some of your oddly phrased words. But it's a point that hasn't been made here before. You should know that by now. you're trying to feed hay to jackals. It's pointless.

Amarabae:
I find it weird seeing people eating during a date , a glass of wine is OK to keep the conversation going.