My fellow nairalanders.
I am 25years old and a virgin and also a novice in love. I don’t have the confidence in approaching females (getting anxious) though sometimes i get confidence but after I make the move and collected a lady’s number, to keep the relationship is hard for me.

I recently approach a lady that was given me green light since, but after i escorted her with some gist I asked her for her number which she says she doesn’t have phone, and i told her that she doesn’t want to give me her number, she said no. After some days she is passing-by and pressing phone. I just burn face.

I believe all this Is happening due to the kind pf background i came from i.e I spent most of my times alone, my schooling days in boarding skul where there are no females; we relocated to a quite place. So relating with women is hard for me.
NB: many females do give me green light, but after approaching/chatting with them, they will start acting funny.

What advice can you give me?

Dpsychologist

Keep approaching,u will be a pro very soon.Don't give up

It's not about confidence.

It's about self respect.

How can you be using talking to random girls as experiment or training for your seemingly (as you think) low esteem?

Try this bro: just don't talk to anyone.

With time, many irrelevant ladies will yearn to talk to you and not just talking, they'll want a relationship.

Don't push it.

Entrepreneurrr:
My fellow nairalanders.
I am 25years old and a virgin and also a novice in love.

There is more story to this.
Lemme ask you this question, Has any girl ever approach you or woo you?

I don’t have the confidence in approaching females (getting anxious) though sometimes i get confidence but after I make the move and collected a lady’s number, to keep the relationship is hard for me.

I feel your pain bro. However, you need to know that it is a woman who chooses you not the other way round. In essence you are the Price not the other way round. You need to work on your Confidence.

I recently approach a lady that was given me green light since, but after i escorted her with some gist I asked her for her number which she says she doesn’t have phone, and i told her that she doesn’t want to give me her number, she said no. After some days she is passing-by and pressing phone. I just burn face.

Your low self esteem could be a contributing factor. You were probably behaving weird. This is due to your lack of experience with ladies.

I believe all this Is happening due to the kind pf background i came from i.e I spent most of my times alone, my schooling days in boarding skul where there are no females; we relocated to a quite place. So relating with women is hard for me.

This confirms my say on lack of experience.
No man is born a simp, your environment makes you a simp.
You need serious drilling to understand the ways of women.

NB: many females do give me green light, but after approaching/chatting with them, they will start acting funny.

What kind of greenlight do they give you and what do you mean by acting funny? Your story is not detailed.

What advice can you give me?

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Focus on building your dream, find a girl who is passionate in a similar or same dream, work together as friends or partners in achieving that dream . As time goes on,you will be free around each other. If conpartiable,you will know,she will give you all the green light. Propose marriage.

Dating is a scam.
Be friends, pursue a definite goal together,
In the process, you will know each other better

Yeah a lady woo me during my university’s days when I am in 100level though I didn’t give her much attention then because I believed she is a gold digger and i am not financially bouyant but from my looks u will think i am stable. So uptil my final year she is giving me some attention.

Dpsychologist:
There is more story to this.
Lemme ask you this question, Has any girl ever approach you or woo you?

Dpyschologist:

Whatat kind of greenlight do they give you and what do you mean by acting funny? Your story is not detailed.

They used to stares me in the eye with some smiles, if I am with people they will come and join our conversation and from there they will start saying Hi anytime we meet.

Funny response are they will stopped responding to my calls or chats.

The story is not detailed because i don’t want to make the thread long.

Dpsychologist:

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I have followed u, and I used to read most of ur post.

Entrepreneurrr:
My fellow nairalanders.
I am 25years old and a virgin and also a novice in love. I don’t have the confidence in approaching females (getting anxious) though sometimes i get confidence but after I make the move and collected a lady’s number, to keep the relationship is hard for me.

I recently approach a lady that was given me green light since, but after i escorted her with some gist I asked her for her number which she says she doesn’t have phone, and i told her that she doesn’t want to give me her number, she said no. After some days she is passing-by and pressing phone. I just burn face.

I believe all this Is happening due to the kind pf background i came from i.e I spent most of my times alone, my schooling days in boarding skul where there are no females; we relocated to a quite place. So relating with women is hard for me.
NB: many females do give me green light, but after approaching/chatting with them, they will start acting funny.

What advice can you give me?

Dpsychologist

Your problem is you have not discovered your worth, and you'll end up seeking acceptance from ladies, which will ruin your relationships with them. You discover this when you work towards and begin to achieve your dreams.
Oga, you're 25, forget ladies, you have a bright future ahead of you which they will add no value to but will only waste your time, focus, mental strength, emotional balance and cash. Funny enough, what you learn building your own life will not only end up attracting them to you like a magnet but will teach you what kind of ladies to accept and how.
I agree with Dpsychologist, no man is born weak, our modern environment programs the masses of men to be so weak. Rebel against the system.

#Unemotional, purely Mental from the unapologetic SpeciMen#