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Woundedlamb, Help this beardlessdude.

Lol... what qualifies me to advise him?

There are no details so it would be difficult to chip in any useful opinion except I work with assumptions. The OP is a guy and the other party is a guy, the first assumption is that the OP is gay. The second assumption is that they're both in Nigeria. The third and most important assumption is that the second party is gay too.

If the above assumptions are correct, then I'd say the OP needs to deal with his indecision internally first before approaching the second party so that he will not disturb the poor guy's peace with his own internal conflict. What does he mean by "I'm not sure I will like him"? Then why does he want to ask him out in the first place? I assume you don't just see someone and decide to ask them out except you like them and want to give your feelings a chance. It's understandable if he just wants to hook up with a handsome guy but asking someone out is the first step into a relationship and you don't get into that with someone "you don't even know if you'd like". Jumping into a relationship with someone you hardly know cause he's cute and seemingly nice is the reason most relationships only last for a couple of months.

So oga, beardlessdude, it's obvious you haven't gotten to the 'asking out' stage yet. You are jumping stages and that is why you are asking this question. You have to first be friends with the person and get to know him better. When you do, you wouldn't be wondering if or how to ask him out cause everything will be clear. I don't see how money is a problem but if you think it is, it's probably a red signal.

First it was a pro-abortionist then an intersex, now it's gays.

Leftists have massive invaded Nairaland seeking for people to capture and feed with their immoralities.

WoundedLamb:


Lol... what qualifies me to advise him?

There are no details so it would be difficult to chip in any useful opinion except I work with assumptions. The OP is a guy and the other party is a guy, the first assumption is that the OP is gay. The second assumption is that they're both in Nigeria. The third and most important assumption is that the second party is gay too.

If the above assumptions are correct, then I'd say the OP needs to deal with his indecision internally first before approaching the second party so that he will not disturb the poor guy's peace with his own internal conflict. What does he mean by "I'm not sure I will like him"? Then why does he want to ask him out in the first place? I assume you don't just see someone and decide to ask them out except you like them and want to give your feelings a chance. It's understandable if he just wants to hook up with a handsome guy but asking someone out is the first step into a relationship and you don't get into that with someone "you don't even know if you'd like". Jumping into a relationship with someone you hardly know cause he's cute and seemingly nice is the reason most relationships only last for a couple of months.

So oga, beardlessdude, it's obvious you haven't gotten to the 'asking out' stage yet. You are jumping stages and that is why you are asking this question. You have to first be friends with the person and get to know him better. When you do, you wouldn't be wondering if or how to ask him out cause everything will be clear. I don't see how money is a problem but if you think it is, it's probably a red signal.

thanks

WoundedLamb:


Lol... what qualifies me to advise him?

There are no details so it would be difficult to chip in any useful opinion except I work with assumptions. The OP is a guy and the other party is a guy, the first assumption is that the OP is gay. The second assumption is that they're both in Nigeria. The third and most important assumption is that the second party is gay too.

If the above assumptions are correct, then I'd say the OP needs to deal with his indecision internally first before approaching the second party so that he will not disturb the poor guy's peace with his own internal conflict. What does he mean by "I'm not sure I will like him"? Then why does he want to ask him out in the first place? I assume you don't just see someone and decide to ask them out except you like them and want to give your feelings a chance. It's understandable if he just wants to hook up with a handsome guy but asking someone out is the first step into a relationship and you don't get into that with someone "you don't even know if you'd like". Jumping into a relationship with someone you hardly know cause he's cute and seemingly nice is the reason most relationships only last for a couple of months.

So oga, beardlessdude, it's obvious you haven't gotten to the 'asking out' stage yet. You are jumping stages and that is why you are asking this question. You have to first be friends with the person and get to know him better. When you do, you wouldn't be wondering if or how to ask him out cause everything will be clear. I don't see how money is a problem but if you think it is, it's probably a red signal.

Tank u baby
He doesn't know what he want from his crush

karkinase:
omo e be like say Gays don they fall in this thread to support their own..

Yea baby

choblak:


Yea baby

Baby ke

Deffjam:
I just dae wait for the day gay go seduce or approach me......i go too ......

bro mehn I have been approached by many .... most of them are shy and always and introvert .... the think dey always shock me like “ not you too “

ABCthings:
First it was a pro-abortionist then an intersex, now it's gays.

Leftists have massive invaded Nairaland seeking for people to capture and feed with their immoralities.

You missed Gender Identity and other woke madness.

Gayson.

I wonder how you all claim to hate gays but see how una body dey sweet una for here
Una don full here already dey talk about prick and nyash even b4 the actual gay people arrived.

To the op beardlessdude pls elaborate more

Op.
I understand your problem.
You see.. What most people fail to acknowledge is that..
85% of people you come across are either broke,poor,not-well-to-do etc.
Now that's bcus more than 40% of the population is living in abject poverty.
then the rest are jurst managing to survive.. The rich and well to do..do not make up to 20% of the total populatim and this is really affecting relationships and friendships, as everyone is looking out for a more financialy stabled partner.
But then., you can decide to work on yourself, invest more m yourself, have a different sense of dressing, and try to find matured gay people around and make friends with them.
I know lots of gay people in calabar, both married and singles.. We know ourselves. lastly.. Talk to the guy, how sure are u that he's into men? If yes.. You can offer to be just friends, so as to get familiar and form a friendly close bond.
Then, try and be nice, little gifts once in a while and study his reactions.. Then u can know if to hit or not.cheers!

Powerfly:
Op.
I understand your problem.
You see.. What most people fail to acknowledge is that..
85% of people you come across are either broke,poor,not-well-to-do etc.
Now that's bcus more than 40% of the population is living in abject poverty.
then the rest are jurst managing to survive.. The rich and well to do..do not make up to 20% of the total populatim and this is really affecting relationships and friendships, as everyone is looking out for a more financialy stabled partner.
But then., you can decide to work on yourself, invest more m yourself, have a different sense of dressing, and try to find matured gay people around and make friends with them.
I know lots of gay people in calabar, both married and singles.. We know ourselves. lastly.. Talk to the guy, how sure are u that he's into men? If yes.. You can offer to be just friends, so as to get familiar and form a friendly close bond.
Then, try and be nice, little gifts once in a while and study his reactions.. Then u can know if to hit or not.cheers!

powerfly thanks for the input.

Durentt:
powerfly thanks for the input.

you're welcome brother.

AyarmBoye:
bro mehn I have been approached by many .... most of them are shy and always and introvert .... the think dey always shock me like “ not you too “

many?
how many exactly?
and what words did they use to proposition you?
because I know homosexual men go for really good looking men!

Durentt:
many?
how many exactly?
and what words did they use to proposition you?
because I know homosexual men go for really good looking men!

lolz .... let’s say about 8 in my school days And just 2 randomly.... not that they directly told me but the way most touché me ( normal thing when we dey play) but it was getting out of hands and it became irritating to me ...nah later others go gist me .... but like two came straight.. and even propose financial remuneration older ones with the cash

Bro I’m not good looking o but I’m not bad either

AyarmBoye:
lolz .... let’s say about 8 in my school days And just 2 randomly.... not that they directly told me but the way most touché me ( normal thing when we dey play) but it was getting out of hands and it became irritating to me ...nah later others go gist me .... but like two came straight.. and even propose financial remuneration older ones with the cash

Bro I’m not good looking o but I’m not bad either

touching you doesnt make them homosexual unless they tried to touch your private parts.

Homosexual men (to my experience) are very classy and go for the best unlike straight men that hit on literally every woman.
They know they are taking a huge risk by approaching another man randomly and want it to be worth the try.
Try harder in your lies.

Durentt:
touching you doesnt make them homosexual unless they tried to touch your private parts.

Homosexual men (to my experience) are very classy and go for the best unlike straight men that hit on literally every woman.
They know they are taking a huge risk by approaching another man randomly and want it to be worth the try.
Try harder in your lies.

lolz are u one? ...... lolz.... I don’t wana argue .. did u read where I wrote it was normal to me and den it touching den became irritating which means where I didn’t like ... well watin concern me ...... I’m classy in my own way too ... okay what about this ,, I went for post utme sometimes in 2010 and this guy on my street who had always tried to be intimate volunteered I came to his place .... in the midnight he started touching me sexually ... I was scared as hell and he began explaining things ... bro see I have seen o.... and yes I’m feminine in nature call me and hear my voice u will think I’m a woman and yea facially I’m very attractive.. so I ain’t lying but who cares ....

karkinase:

Baby ke

Yeah dear

I've been approached by gays on so many occasions but I've never been rude to them, I always turn them down politely.. I let them know that I'm straight and love women. I do not see any need to be rude and hateful towards people who have chosen to live their life as it pleases them without harming me or influencing me.