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Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by Angelacruz: 10:19am On Oct 19, 2020
Too lazy to comment
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by Nobody: 10:32am On Oct 19, 2020
Okay.
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by Nobody: 12:07pm On Oct 19, 2020
Agbebakun22:




We both stay in Lagos and her place not too far but whenever I'm back from school we do see each others but that's on monthly basis because I'm a workaholic
You no dey hear word, you are taking relationship advise from a female.

Babe cheated on you, you still want to stay. how will she respect you. Well, I already told you then that you won’t take my advice.
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by Nobody: 12:13pm On Oct 19, 2020
gideonite98:
Kissed my close friend even though you claimed and showed she was crushing on me.
Then I asked her out and she did not stopped kissing my friend even while I was in the same room with both of them and baba even finger her.so I got mad but she try to put the blame on me and stuff but to cut the story short we sha made up.
She's too clingy to different guys including my friends and that makes me madder than a wet hen but she will be like "it's nothing"but I too love her back then sha.
Also whenever we fight or have a break she quickly moves on to have another bf and when we get back together she claims she have broken up with the guy.
Texting another guy and telling him "I love you" next to me and when i tried to talk she came with her defensive line of "what nau it is nothing" and I felt guilty and apologized.
Then I wooed her with a different account and she accepted so that made us broke up and that was when I started getting to know her secrets. I did not know I was dating a porn star for different niggers but still I tried to beg her but she refused saying I have know too much of her secret but months after ignoring me and embarrassing me she came back and mumu me still accepted her back because I loved her with my soul and strength until we finally broke up because of another stuff so I just decided even if the heart break will kill me I won't beg her and thank God the pain was too much to bare but here I am happy and sharing memes on social media grin grin.
So those red flags I ignored will be my next guide lines in my next relationship.
We are talking about red flags, yours is a case of extreme stupidity, you can open a thread for that.

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Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by Agbebakun22: 1:46pm On Oct 19, 2020
kokaneprodigy:

You no dey hear word, you are taking relationship advise from a female.

Babe cheated on you, you still want to stay. how will she respect you. Well, I already told you then that you won’t take my advice.


Thanks bro I'm already take a break further notice move on
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by NarutUzumaki7th: 2:53pm On Oct 19, 2020
Good morning
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by MagnumXL(m): 11:05am On Oct 20, 2020
WrittyWritter:


U can stay and see if she is sincere..but which distance is she talking about don't u stay in d same city..must u be seeing everyday ni..lyk I said I wish u luck but if she does it again with d same distance excuse..she is not worth

Agbebakun22 Avoid these kinds of females.

Never receive advice from them. I saw a comment from her where she was asking why another guy did not look for help for his Bi-polar Ex.

These kinds of females give you advice that benefits the girl that is hurting you. Whether they do it intentionally or not, I do not know. I assume they do it intentionally.

Avoid that your ex. She started dating someone else and did not tell you. She does not love you. Her bestie does not even like what she is doing and decided to tell you. Why? because she wants you to move on.

It is better to break your own heart by deleting everything that concerns the girl and block her everywhere than to stay and hope that things will work out.

Take it from me, it won't work out.

While you are recovering, take the following books and read.

The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi

The Manipulated Man by Esther Villar, they will sharpen your mind and help you to know how to weed girls better in the future.

All the best.

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Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by MagnumXL(m): 11:06am On Oct 20, 2020
kokaneprodigy:

We are talking about red flags, yours is a case of extreme stupidity, you can open a thread for that.


grin grin grin
You're mean
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by MagnumXL(m): 11:09am On Oct 20, 2020
Gideonite98

You need to work on your self-love bro.

What you had for her was not love but a case of codependence.

You might have been feeling that you might be the one that changes her.

You might be addicted to the kind of attention that she gives you when she is with you.

Whatever it is, it is not Love because Loving yourself will not allow you to put yourself in a position where someone is constantly hurting you even when you love them.

It is a good thing you have let her go.

Take time away from her and never forget what she is, a hoe, a LovePeddler.

You don't deserve such in your life.

She just uses you because you are the guy she knows she can always come back to.

Don't be that guy anymore.

Lose her number, block her everywhere.

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Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by MagnumXL(m): 11:11am On Oct 20, 2020
Angelacruz:
Too lazy to comment

Girls like you cannot handle cowgirl position for more than 30 seconds before your engine knock. undecided
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by Nobody: 11:15am On Oct 20, 2020
MagnumXL:
Gideonite98

You need to work on your self-love bro.

What you had for her was not love but a case of codependence.

You might have been feeling that you might be the one that changes her.

You might be addicted to the kind of attention that she gives you when she is with you.

Whatever it is, it is not Love because Loving yourself will not allow you to put yourself in a position where someone is constantly hurting you even when you love them.

It is a good thing you have let her go.

Take time away from her and never forget what she is, a hoe, a LovePeddler.

You don't deserve such in your life.

She just uses you because you are the guy she knows she can always come back to.

Don't be that guy anymore.

Lose her number, block her everywhere.
Thanks boss
Already decided to do that
I just feel people see me as this nice and too caring dude but I have decided to work on it and balance everything and I can say I'm not really that dude anymore though still working on it grin.
Thanks boss for the advice
Really appreciate it.
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by Nobody: 11:45am On Oct 20, 2020
MagnumXL:



grin grin grin
You're mean
I was disgusted reading that post
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by Martinez39s(m): 12:00pm On Oct 20, 2020
gideonite98:
Kissed my close friend even though you claimed and showed she was crushing on me.
Then I asked her out and she did not stopped kissing my friend even while I was in the same room with both of them and baba even finger her.so I got mad but she try to put the blame on me and stuff but to cut the story short we sha made up.
She's too clingy to different guys including my friends and that makes me madder than a wet hen but she will be like "it's nothing"but I too love her back then sha.
Also whenever we fight or have a break she quickly moves on to have another bf and when we get back together she claims she have broken up with the guy.
Texting another guy and telling him "I love you" next to me and when i tried to talk she came with her defensive line of "what nau it is nothing" and I felt guilty and apologized.
Then I wooed her with a different account and she accepted so that made us broke up and that was when I started getting to know her secrets. I did not know I was dating a porn star for different niggers but still I tried to beg her but she refused saying I have know too much of her secret but months after ignoring me and embarrassing me she came back and mumu me still accepted her back because I loved her with my soul and strength until we finally broke up because of another stuff so I just decided even if the heart break will kill me I won't beg her and thank God the pain was too much to bare but here I am happy and sharing memes on social media grin grin.
So those red flags I ignored will be my next guide lines in my next relationship.
Have your parents disowned you? grin

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Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by Martinez39s(m): 12:01pm On Oct 20, 2020
kokaneprodigy:

I was disgusted reading that post
That guy needs 41 hot slaps.
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by Nobody: 12:07pm On Oct 20, 2020
Martinez39s:
That guy needs 41 hot slaps.
The annoying part is, his type will carry this matter to a female for advice and would be told to “sit her down and talk to her” like his purpose in this life is to help groom someone else’s daughter

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Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by Angelacruz: 5:12pm On Oct 20, 2020
Ole
MagnumXL:


Girls like you cannot handle cowgirl position for more than 30 seconds before your engine knock. undecided
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by WrittyWritter(f): 6:37pm On Oct 20, 2020
MagnumXL:


Agbebakun22 Avoid these kinds of females.

Never receive advice from them. I saw a comment from her where she was asking why another guy did not look for help for his Bi-polar Ex.

These kinds of females give you advice that benefits the girl that is hurting you. Whether they do it intentionally or not, I do not know. I assume they do it intentionally.

Avoid that your ex. She started dating someone else and did not tell you. She does not love you. Her bestie does not even like what she is doing and decided to tell you. Why? because she wants you to move on.

It is better to break your own heart by deleting everything that concerns the girl and block her everywhere than to stay and hope that things will work out.

Take it from me, it won't work out.

While you are recovering, take the following books and read.

The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi

The Manipulated Man by Esther Villar, they will sharpen your mind and help you to know how to weed girls better in the future.

All the best.

I told him to leave her be4..go back nd read my previous comments..be4 typing rubbish..and for d bipolar case I did not tell him to stay with her..I told him to try to take her to a hospital and leave her in d care of a friend or a family member.D way he left her don't u know she may have still come back for him and hurt him..It like wen u read u read half way..try to read and to d end nd ubderstand be4 concluding.

How is wat I told him going to benefit d girl..so leaving her will benefit d girl
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by WrittyWritter(f): 6:37pm On Oct 20, 2020
MagnumXL:


Agbebakun22 Avoid these kinds of females.

Never receive advice from them. I saw a comment from her where she was asking why another guy did not look for help for his Bi-polar Ex.

These kinds of females give you advice that benefits the girl that is hurting you. Whether they do it intentionally or not, I do not know. I assume they do it intentionally.

Avoid that your ex. She started dating someone else and did not tell you. She does not love you. Her bestie does not even like what she is doing and decided to tell you. Why? because she wants you to move on.

It is better to break your own heart by deleting everything that concerns the girl and block her everywhere than to stay and hope that things will work out.

Take it from me, it won't work out.

While you are recovering, take the following books and read.

The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi

The Manipulated Man by Esther Villar, they will sharpen your mind and help you to know how to weed girls better in the future.

All the best.

I told him to leave her be4..go back nd read my previous comments..be4 typing rubbish..and for d bipolar case I did not tell him to stay with her..I told him to try to take her to a hospital and leave her in d care of a friend or a family member.D way he left her don't u know she may have still come back for him and hurt him..It like wen u read u read half way..try to read and to d end nd understand be4 concluding.

How is wat I told him going to benefit d girl..so leaving her will benefit d girl
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by WrittyWritter(f): 6:40pm On Oct 20, 2020
kokaneprodigy:

You no dey hear word, you are taking relationship advise from a female.

Babe cheated on you, you still want to stay. how will she respect you. Well, I already told you then that you won’t take my advice.

And taking advice from a female is bad ...even wen d female told him to leave
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by okpalaAnambra: 7:21pm On Oct 20, 2020
paulolee:
she always calling and chatting with "her uncle' each evening and I CNT complain because it was an early relationship, it moved to when she started visiting the uncle and spend weekends unlike before..
was finally freed from her shackles when she returned from d visit one weekend and I visited uninvited and saw dt she had slept off when chatting..
I jus took d phone, sat down with a chilled botlle water in her fridge and went tru all her chats n realized I was dating a classic runs gel..
when I was done, I dropped d phone n left a breakup note on her table and blocked her number, she visited to apologize BT my mind was made up, [s] almost took her bk for jus nacks n no feelings attached bcoz her she gat a sweet nunu, mad skills n entering dt nunu from d back door do gv me my best doggy ever bcoz of her nice ass[/s] BT as a proud member or #teamraw, I don't want to end up with h.I.v...
av really missed you kelisha...
Not needed.. Nice story though

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Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by okpalaAnambra: 7:28am On Oct 21, 2020
kokaneprodigy:

We are talking about red flags, yours is a case of extreme stupidity, you can open a thread for that.
Exactly.. His case is extreme stupidity
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by MagnumXL(m): 6:27pm On Oct 22, 2020
gideonite98:

Thanks boss
Already decided to do that
I just feel people see me as this nice and too caring dude but I have decided to work on it and balance everything and I can say I'm not really that dude anymore though still working on it grin.
Thanks boss for the advice
Really appreciate it.

There is a book called No more Mr Nice guy.

You can download anybooks from playstore and download that book inside after paying a small lifetime fee of less than five thousand naira.
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by MagnumXL(m): 6:29pm On Oct 22, 2020
WrittyWritter:


I told him to leave her be4..go back nd read my previous comments..be4 typing rubbish..and for d bipolar case I did not tell him to stay with her..I told him to try to take her to a hospital and leave her in d care of a friend or a family member.D way he left her don't u know she may have still come back for him and hurt him..It like wen u read u read half way..try to read and to d end nd understand be4 concluding.

How is wat I told him going to benefit d girl..so leaving her will benefit d girl

The Bi-polar case is not his responsibility.

No matter what you want to use to justify it, it is stupid advice.

I will not engage you further.

You are not worth my time.

I merely used you as an example of the kind of advise from females that the OP should avoid.

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Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by mizpearls: 10:49am On Feb 19, 2021
StacyO:
Greenkalada
hi greenkalada please i have a couple of questions to ask you how can i contact you
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by Saintmary(f): 5:34pm On Feb 19, 2021
Blackmoran:
help?!!!!!!!! are you kidding me? go and make your research about bipolar personal disorder.. and come and tell me to help her!!

majority of guys are dating such kind of girls and thinking they are in love.. until the lady stab him or kill herself then they will now blame it on the guy and call it domestic violence, not knowing the real cause...

This disorder is not gender-specific
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by Nobody: 9:24pm On Feb 19, 2021
mizpearls:
hi greenkalada please i have a couple of questions to ask you how can i contact you

No
I want to get across to greenkalada.
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by AlphaSoul: 3:15am On Feb 22, 2021
MagnumXL:
Hindsight they say is 20/20.

Whenever we have a breakup especially one where we are left hurt and broken, we sometimes look back and try to see where we missed a sign that could have told us that this was coming.

And there are usually signs and more often than we'd like to admit, we see them but we ignore them. When we look back at relationship with the rose-colored lenses off, we start seeing the signs that we should have bailed.

So what are the signs that you saw in your previous relationship that should have told you that this thing cannot last again and will soon end.

I'll go first.

I once dated this girl that slept with her ex few days before travelling down to see me.
How should I have known she was problematic?

She cut the call on me whenever we were having a disagreement over the phone.

Why is this a bad sign?

Any girl that cuts the call on you doesn't have respect for you.
She is naturally disrespectful.

She is also not emotionally intelligent. There are ways to say that you cannot continue with the conversation anymore. There are ways to say that you need a breather. A girl that cuts the call on you is not emotionally matured and that immaturity always results in some relationship (could even be just a friendship disaster along the way).

== == == == ==

Ladies I also want to hear from you.

What signs did you see during the relationship that told you the guy was no good, that you wish you had listened to then?
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Great topic.
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Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by AlphaSoul: 3:36am On Feb 22, 2021
LolaO:
They were plenty. I was so foolish, up till 3 months to my wedding, when I finally saw it.

1. Too ‘busy’ to show up at important events in my life - graduation, family dinners etc.
2. Delay in committing
3. No communication with me when he is upset or sad. Sometimes as long as 6 months-1 year
4. No visits all through the year until December (long-distance relationship, I’m in Lagos, he works in the East)

He came back suddenly after one of his long breaks and proposed and I was foolish to accept.
We had the introduction immediately early in the year but wedding was fixed for November. He wanted the wedding asap as well but my dad refused.

His lies finally came to light 2 months to the wedding, sometimes in October and it all made sense why those red flags were there.
He has someone else in Asaba and wanted to marry me to settle debts smiley

I called off the wedding and I’m glad I did.
@Lola
So he crawled back after
clamming up for months!

When I first read your profound
story in 2019, I knew full well
there was another girl in the
long-distance mix.

You've learned vital lessons
here... But you've also taught
people the power of discernment
and self-love.

You take care, and
Happy 2021.wink

Ciao!

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Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by AlphaSoul: 5:00am On Feb 22, 2021
Powerfly:
Fake life, lies and being overly materialistic and ever- demanding but never
willing to give made me give up on her, but she was a badass in
bed. after sex, we can't even hold a decent, intelligent
conversation, aside the latest hair-do, sneakers, make-up and parties. I just realised that we weren't
compatible on any
level.
Waoh! wink grin grin
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by mascot345: 7:39am On Feb 22, 2021
Powerfly:
Fake life, lies and being overly materialistic and ever- demanding but never
willing to give made me give up on her, but she was a badass in
bed. after sex, we can't even hold a decent, intelligent
conversation, aside the latest hair-do, sneakers, make-up and parties. I just realised that we weren't
compartible on any
level.

Lies and lies... female account...
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by Powerfly(f): 10:28am On Feb 22, 2021
mascot345:

Lies and lies... female account...

How does being ' a lesbian' sound to you?
Re: What Are The Red Flags You Regret You Ignored In Your Relationship. by Nobody: 10:14pm On Mar 08, 2022
That is not an reason to cheat what if in marriage you have to work (job) in a different state or place and she is in another place or state so that is she saying because you both are not seeing everyday or distance so he has to cheat with a close and available dick in her hood. That's nonsense I don't know why some guys Mumu I swear. You dey see big red flag you still won put head if you say is prophecy real and direct prophecy from God don't come with this kind of nonsense. If to say I hear the prophecy they gave me some years back I would have regret getting married to that man for life. You just have to be very on what you take from people as prophecy especially when it comes to you life and destiny. Pray to God he will also show and guild you. There are some nonsense you don't have to accept . I will just advice you to wake up bro. God will give you a better woman
Agbebakun22:


Okay thanks I asked her the reason when I find out she said that is because of the distance and besides we are not seeing each others everyday and there's one guy in their hood that has been disturbing her so she don't have option than to date him.. I can see their love is infatuation just a girl in her prime time

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