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Please Read And Advice. by Biglittlelois(f): 8:47pm On Oct 17, 2020
I have a friend, she was introduced to a guy by her cousin, they both hit it off the very first time they talked on phone, according to her, seeing his picture made her fall the more, same with him, but there was a clause, this guy said he is a weird and complicated guy, he doesnt call, text or chat, yet he calls and chat with her, she tried to end/stop talking to him several times because of it, he refused, in fact he pushed for them to see several times, she refused cos she doesn't really like the connection thingy, to the extent that the guy became discouraged and didn't want to see her anymore, after much convincing, they finally get to see, the feelings they both had for each other never changed,

All of a sudden he changed, this is a guy that first professed love to her, tells her she has no other choice but to stay with him, always tell her she should hold on to him, he suddenly stopped calling, chating on whatsapp, she was always the one calling and chating up, she said she knew something was wrong, pressed him to talk about it several until he finally did, he said it was work issue, that she isn't his priority right now, but he still loves and respect her, and doesnt want anything to happen to what they have together, yet he refused to change,

She had to take the bull by the horn one day, she asked him if he will like her to move on from him, he didn't reply, she persisted, until he finally said, she is the one getting things wrong, that's when she realised that he really doesnt want a relationship with her, she had to delete his number from her phone and whatsapp, but didn't block him, it's been one week since then, she secretly wants him to reach out cos she really misses him terribly, to the extent that she came crying to my place this evening to tell me all these, and majorly because she doesn't know his number off hand so she can call him or text,

Some guys are low key emotionally manipulative, why collect the number of someone that wants a relationship that'll lead to the altar, then toil with her feelings?

P.s They never had sex because he didn't want a sexual relationship, in fact he insisted on it

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by moneyshop: 8:54pm On Oct 17, 2020
Ok. Forget all these she's this and that, I don't need a soothsayer to tell me you're the girl in this web of tears.

This type of story usually emanate from young girls between 18 and 22 years. I'll advice you face your studies and forget relationship now because, the taste of bitter kola is different from the sound it makes in the mouth.

Your type will suffer 10 heartbreaks before you learn. I'm working on a girl like you now. You're too emotional, stay clear from those boys because the best they can offer you is hit and run.

Let me stop here, this isi ewu is giving me tough time grin cheesy

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by kennethfranc(m): 8:56pm On Oct 17, 2020
My opinion...
Advice your friend that he (the guy in question) is not the right person. for example I don't call, text or chat often because for now relationship isn't a priority for me but I can't snubb someone whom I truly love not to talk of the one that could lead to the Altar
The guy is only wrong if he ever intended taking the girl to the Altar
With the way u narrated the story, it seems the relationship is less than 2months in other words your friend should let him go. I love her action of deleting the guys number

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by Nobody: 9:05pm On Oct 17, 2020
moneyshop:
Ok. Forget all these she's this and that, I don't need a soothsayer to tell me you're the girl in this web of tears.

This type of story usually emanate from young girls between 18 and 22 years. I'll advice you face your studies and forget relationship now because, the taste of bitter kola is different from the sound it makes in the mouth.

Your type will suffer 10 heartbreaks before you learn. I'm working on a girl like you now. You're too emotional, stay clear from those boys because the best they can offer you is hit and run.

Let me stop here, this is ewu is giving me tough time grin cheesy
This is off point sir.

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by moneyshop: 9:09pm On Oct 17, 2020
MhisTahrah:
This is off point sir.

Yeah, good advise is normally off point to emotional ladies.

I'll try hard next time to comment on point

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by MrCork: 9:14pm On Oct 17, 2020
Biglittlelois:
I have a friend, she was introduced to a guy by her cousin, they both hit it off the very first time they talked on phone, according to her, seeing his picture made her fall the more, same with him, but there was a clause, this guy said he is a weird and complicated guy, he doesnt call, text or chat, yet he calls and chat with her, she tried to end/stop talking to him several times because of it, he refused, in fact he pushed for them to see several times, she refused cos she doesn't really like the connection thingy, to the extent that the guy became discouraged and didn't want to see her anymore, after much convincing, they finally get to see, the feelings they both had for each other never changed,

All of a sudden he changed, this is a guy that first professed love to her, tells her she has no other choice but to stay with him, always tell her she should hold on to him, he suddenly stopped calling, chating on whatsapp, she was always the one calling and chating up, she said she knew something was wrong, pressed him to talk about it several until he finally did, he said it was work issue, that she isn't his priority right now, but he still loves and respect her, and doesnt want anything to happen to what they have together, yet he refused to change,

She had to take the bull by the horn one day, she asked him if he will like her to move on from him, he didn't reply, she persisted, until he finally said, she is the one getting things wrong, that's when she realised that he really doesnt want a relationship with her, she had to delete his number from her phone and whatsapp, but didn't block him, it's been one week since then, she secretly wants him to reach out cos she really misses him terribly, to the extent that she came crying to my place this evening to tell me all these, and majorly because she doesn't know his number off hand so she can call him or text,

Some guys are low key emotionally manipulative, why collect the number of someone that wants a relationship that'll lead to the altar, then toil with her feelings?


kaiii..I love yor name..bigtitees...please can I enjoy u & Nmezor please? cheesy

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by Slynation(m): 9:16pm On Oct 17, 2020
Biglittlelois:
I have a friend, she was introduced to a guy by her cousin, they both hit it off the very first time they talked on phone, according to her, seeing his picture made her fall the more, same with him, but there was a clause, this guy said he is a weird and complicated guy, he doesnt call, text or chat, yet he calls and chat with her, she tried to end/stop talking to him several times because of it, he refused, in fact he pushed for them to see several times, she refused cos she doesn't really like the connection thingy, to the extent that the guy became discouraged and didn't want to see her anymore, after much convincing, they finally get to see, the feelings they both had for each other never changed,

All of a sudden he changed, this is a guy that first professed love to her, tells her she has no other choice but to stay with him, always tell her she should hold on to him, he suddenly stopped calling, chating on whatsapp, she was always the one calling and chating up, she said she knew something was wrong, pressed him to talk about it several until he finally did, he said it was work issue, that she isn't his priority right now, but he still loves and respect her, and doesnt want anything to happen to what they have together, yet he refused to change,

She had to take the bull by the horn one day, she asked him if he will like her to move on from him, he didn't reply, she persisted, until he finally said, she is the one getting things wrong, that's when she realised that he really doesnt want a relationship with her, she had to delete his number from her phone and whatsapp, but didn't block him, it's been one week since then, she secretly wants him to reach out cos she really misses him terribly, to the extent that she came crying to my place this evening to tell me all these, and majorly because she doesn't know his number off hand so she can call him or text,

Some guys are low key emotionally manipulative, why collect the number of someone that wants a relationship that'll lead to the altar, then toil with her feelings?
I think the guy in question is in the best position to answer that last paragraph.....She deleted his number and she's crying she doesn't know it off hand, that point gat me LOL grin

But Iet her move on, the guy seems to be a coordinated player

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by Nobody: 9:25pm On Oct 17, 2020
moneyshop:


Yeah, good advise is normally off point to emotional ladies.

I'll try hard next time to comment on point
It's good advise but it's not related to the original post.
It isn't about females in a particular age range because anyone can fall victim to these kind of people who are some kind of emotional rollercoaster.They'll act so nice you'll think they're the word made flesh and make you fall for them.When you do, they'll become so cold and then you start thinking you did something wrong.Why lead someone on if you know you aren't interested?

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by moneyshop: 9:36pm On Oct 17, 2020
MhisTahrah:
It's good advise but it's not related to the original post.
It isn't about females in a particular age range because anyone can fall victim to these kind of people who are some kind of emotional rollercoaster.They'll act so nice you'll think they're the word made flesh and make you fall for them.When you do, they'll become so cold and then you start thinking you did something wrong.Why lead someone on if you know you aren't interested?

Ok, I understand where you are coming from...

Why I mentioned the age range is because, they have little experience with men. If you're 25 and above, then you should or must have gotten used to men leading ladies on. As such, you don't enter into any relationship with all your heart.

Some girls are too emotional that even when the guy is yet to shoot the shot, the girl is already famzing love and relationship.

What I have come to understand is that when a girl loves a man, she'll want the man to reciprocate with same tempo not considering if the man feel the same way for her.

To the OP, it boils down that the guys does not feel the same way the girl feel about him. You don't need him to say it before you know. Move on and take my first advise, it'll help you.

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by Homeboiy: 9:46pm On Oct 17, 2020
Mtcheew when una don de near 30 yrs, una go de find who to use love hook


It pains me a lot that the niggar never smashed her judging by your story

I don’t call but I chat , but if you’re not chatting positively I will stop chatting u also

I hate to hear have u eaten e every time I chat with girls

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by Biglittlelois(f): 9:54pm On Oct 17, 2020
moneyshop:
Ok. Forget all these she's this and that, I don't need a soothsayer to tell me you're the girl in this web of tears.

This type of story usually emanate from young girls between 18 and 22 years. I'll advice you face your studies and forget relationship now because, the taste of bitter kola is different from the sound it makes in the mouth.

Your type will suffer 10 heartbreaks before you learn. I'm working on a girl like you now. You're too emotional, stay clear from those boys because the best they can offer you is hit and run.

Let me stop here, this isi ewu is giving me tough time grin cheesy

Lol most folks who are familiar with my moniker/me will know it definitely is not me, and I'm very far from the age group in your comment.

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by Biglittlelois(f): 9:57pm On Oct 17, 2020
Homeboiy:
Mtcheew when una don de near 30 yrs, una go de find who to use love hook


It pains me a lot that the niggar never smashed her judging by your story

I don’t call but I chat , but if you’re not chatting positively I will stop chatting u also

I hate to hear have u eaten e every time I chat with girls


One of the reasons I am her friend is because she is intelligent and smart, topping it all is her beauty and curves,

Try and cleanse your mind from sex once in a while, it will do you a whole lot of good.

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by Homeboiy: 10:00pm On Oct 17, 2020
Biglittlelois:



One of the reasons I am her friend is because she is intelligent and smart, topping it all is her beauty and curves,

Try and cleanse your mind from sex once in a while, it will do you a whole lot of good.

kiss Can I have her number?

I will be calling her once in 3 days but I will be chatting her 3 times daily

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by Biglittlelois(f): 10:00pm On Oct 17, 2020
kennethfranc:
My opinion...
Advice your friend that he (the guy in question) is not the right person. for example I don't call, text or chat often because for now relationship isn't a priority for me but I can't snubb someone whom I truly love not to talk of the one that could lead to the Altar
The guy is only wrong if he ever intended taking the girl to the Altar
With the way u narrated the story, it seems the relationship is less than 2months in other words your friend should let him go. I love her action of deleting the guys number


Your 2 months analysis is correct, thanks for the advice.

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by dingbang(m): 10:06pm On Oct 17, 2020
undecided TF did I just read
Re: Please Read And Advice. by Richy4(m): 10:12pm On Oct 17, 2020
<<<< She knows his weak point that he doesn't call, send SMS or do stuffs on social media....She knew from the start and and still she wants to change him... if you change him, is he now original or fake based on his personality? smiley

<<<<she has discovered his weak point and couldn't cope with it... so it's good that she has shown herself to the exit door to avoid constant nagging/ preaching about him changing, vexation of spirit/ uncountable shouting matches!!!... Someone that can readily tolerate and accept his muteness will come his way.. Some one who will accept to be the second love after work will come.. but that person OP is not that your friend... so tell her to stay away..

<<<<<< But just incase she's feeling a bit confused, she should ask herself questions like... what am I with him in that relationship...( does he treat me right, does he make me happy anytime I'm with him etc) .....and what am I without him in that relationship...( is he a total A$$, full of himself, A total douchebag ETC)....let your friend weigh the pros and cons and choose the proper...

N.B: on a lighter note, Op you are not a good story teller.. U can easily confuse your readers. cheesy..
Re: Please Read And Advice. by Hathor5(f): 10:20pm On Oct 17, 2020
Deleting his number is a good decision. He has made it very clear that he does not want to continue so she should respect herself and leave him alone. The work issue thingy is an excuse. When a guy stops calling/texting, he is not that into you, it's always as simple as this. It's painful but she will get over it.

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by Biglittlelois(f): 10:32pm On Oct 17, 2020
Richy4:
<<<< She knows his weak point that he doesn't call, send SMS or do stuffs on social media....She knew from the start and and still she wants to change him... if you change him, is he now original or fake based on his personality? smiley

<<<<she has discovered his weak point and couldn't cope with it... so it's good that she has shown herself to the exit door to avoid constant nagging/ preaching about him changing, vexation of spirit/ uncountable shouting matches!!!... Someone that can readily tolerate and accept his muteness will come his way.. Some one who will accept to be the second love after work will come.. but that person OP is not that your friend... so tell her to stay away..

<<<<<< But just incase she's feeling a bit confused, she should ask herself questions like... what am I with him in that relationship...( does he treat me right, does he make me happy anytime I'm with him etc) .....and what am I without him in that relationship...( is he a total A$$, full of himself, A total douchebag ETC)....let your friend weigh the pros and cons and choose the proper...

N.B: on a lighter note, Op you are not a good story teller.. U can easily confuse your readers. cheesy..


Deep deep words Sir, I need to introduce her to nl so she can read your comment

@emboldened, I know what you mean, but it is very very negative cheesy

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by okoIYAyin(m): 11:20pm On Oct 17, 2020
You're the girl right? Say the truth and i'll advice you

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by Mindlog: 11:24pm On Oct 17, 2020
Every relationship must not lead to the altar,
Re: Please Read And Advice. by Elder0001(m): 11:51pm On Oct 17, 2020
Unnecessary shalaye. Everything ain't meant to be on social media, solve some riddles/mysteries by yourself!
Re: Please Read And Advice. by mfoniso67157: 5:11am On Oct 18, 2020
Every relationship must not lead to the altar,
Re: Please Read And Advice. by Nobody: 5:39am On Oct 18, 2020
Biglittlelois:
I have a friend, she was introduced to a guy by her cousin, they both hit it off the very first time they talked on phone, according to her, seeing his picture made her fall the more, same with him, but there was a clause, this guy said he is a weird and complicated guy, he doesnt call, text or chat, yet he calls and chat with her, she tried to end/stop talking to him several times because of it, he refused, in fact he pushed for them to see several times, she refused cos she doesn't really like the connection thingy, to the extent that the guy became discouraged and didn't want to see her anymore, after much convincing, they finally get to see, the feelings they both had for each other never changed,

All of a sudden he changed, this is a guy that first professed love to her, tells her she has no other choice but to stay with him, always tell her she should hold on to him, he suddenly stopped calling, chating on whatsapp, she was always the one calling and chating up, she said she knew something was wrong, pressed him to talk about it several until he finally did, he said it was work issue, that she isn't his priority right now, but he still loves and respect her, and doesnt want anything to happen to what they have together, yet he refused to change,

She had to take the bull by the horn one day, she asked him if he will like her to move on from him, he didn't reply, she persisted, until he finally said, she is the one getting things wrong, that's when she realised that he really doesnt want a relationship with her, she had to delete his number from her phone and whatsapp, but didn't block him, it's been one week since then, she secretly wants him to reach out cos she really misses him terribly, to the extent that she came crying to my place this evening to tell me all these, and majorly because she doesn't know his number off hand so she can call him or text,

Some guys are low key emotionally manipulative, why collect the number of someone that wants a relationship that'll lead to the altar, then toil with her feelings?

P.s They never had sex because he didn't want a sexual relationship, in fact he insisted on it
Your story? Jaks has been a bad boy grin
Re: Please Read And Advice. by Biglittlelois(f): 6:45am On Oct 18, 2020
0KNM:

Your story? Jaks has been a bad boy grin


Jaks ke? He's a married man o.

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by Nobody: 6:49am On Oct 18, 2020
Biglittlelois:



Jaks ke? He's a married man o.
Tell me about this... you almost denied him couple weeks ago
Re: Please Read And Advice. by Biglittlelois(f): 11:59am On Oct 18, 2020
0KNM:
Tell me about this... you almost denied him couple weeks ago


angry

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by Nobody: 4:17pm On Oct 18, 2020
Biglittlelois:



angry
Soro soke
Re: Please Read And Advice. by thorpido(m): 4:36pm On Oct 18, 2020
Someone told you from the get go that he's weird and you still think 'a good thing will come out of Nazareth'?

He's obviously confused about his life and what he wants.
She had better move on and find someone who isn't weird.

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Re: Please Read And Advice. by LilMissFavvy(f): 5:31pm On Oct 18, 2020
The guy is neither mature or interested in a relationship. Using his job as the reason behind his attitude is just an excuse. Better she moves on. He might reach out to her in future when she has moved on anyway, that's how confused some of these guys are.
Re: Please Read And Advice. by 10BabyApple: 5:49pm On Oct 18, 2020
LilMissFavvy:
The guy is neither mature or interested in a relationship. Using his job as the reason behind his attitude is just an excuse. Better she moves on. He might reach out to her in future when she has moved on anyway, that's how confused some of these guys are.
the thing is he isn't interested but doesn't want to hurt her ego so he's using all sort of excuses
Re: Please Read And Advice. by Nobody: 8:25pm On Oct 18, 2020
Biglittlelois:
I have a friend, she was introduced to a guy by her cousin, they both hit it off the very first time they talked on phone, according to her, seeing his picture made her fall the more, same with him, but there was a clause, this guy said he is a weird and complicated guy, he doesnt call, text or chat, yet he calls and chat with her, she tried to end/stop talking to him several times because of it, he refused, in fact he pushed for them to see several times, she refused cos she doesn't really like the connection thingy, to the extent that the guy became discouraged and didn't want to see her anymore, after much convincing, they finally get to see, the feelings they both had for each other never changed,

All of a sudden he changed, this is a guy that first professed love to her, tells her she has no other choice but to stay with him, always tell her she should hold on to him, he suddenly stopped calling, chating on whatsapp, she was always the one calling and chating up, she said she knew something was wrong, pressed him to talk about it several until he finally did, he said it was work issue, that she isn't his priority right now, but he still loves and respect her, and doesnt want anything to happen to what they have together, yet he refused to change,

She had to take the bull by the horn one day, she asked him if he will like her to move on from him, he didn't reply, she persisted, until he finally said, she is the one getting things wrong, that's when she realised that he really doesnt want a relationship with her, she had to delete his number from her phone and whatsapp, but didn't block him, it's been one week since then, she secretly wants him to reach out cos she really misses him terribly, to the extent that she came crying to my place this evening to tell me all these, and majorly because she doesn't know his number off hand so she can call him or text,

Some guys are low key emotionally manipulative, why collect the number of someone that wants a relationship that'll lead to the altar, then toil with her feelings?

P.s They never had sex because he didn't want a sexual relationship, in fact he insisted on it

Your friend don dey near menopause? grin hmm..... Marriage things.... expected to lead to the altar.
Re: Please Read And Advice. by Biglittlelois(f): 8:27pm On Oct 18, 2020
WORDWORLD:


Your friend don dey near menopause? grin



No,

Just go away.

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