It is not every time that a woman says YES after a man bends his knees, pointing the ring and asking her the big question

"Will You Marry Me?!"

Yes! Some men have walked that path of public rejection and agonising heart break.

You on the other hand can avoid it. If you have a public proposal in mind, try to start by asking these questions.

DISCLAIMER:

I am not writing this post to force anyone into marriage. If you don't want to settle down, keep it to yourself and stop preaching the gospel of 'forever single' to others.

To the 'go and make money' and 'i don't need a woman' crew, this post was not created for you.


Now that that's cleared, let's go!



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1. How long have we been dating/courting?!

If you have not been with her for that 6 months - 1 year window, please have a rethink.

You may just be rushing things and moving too fast. Proposal rejection often happens when the relationship is still very young and you don't know enough of one another.

2. Is She Timid And Shy?!

Not every woman is comfortable with proposals open for the world to see. If she is very reserved, everything may seem too overwhelming.

Some may be speechless for minutes, panic or even develop a flight response to bail the scene.

You may not end up getting that sweet and adorable moment you hoped for.

3. Is There A Good Chance She Will Say 'NO' Or 'LET ME THINK ABOUT IT'?!

You have to be honest so you don't disgrace yourself in public.

The chances she will not say YES depends on a lot of things. Be real and weigh things out before wasting time, money, and energy.

Make sure of five things b4 u propose to her
1. She is interested in marraige
2. She is interested in marrying U
3. She is financially capable
4. She loves u alot
5.;u are financially and spiritually ready for that responsibility

4. Have You Ever Talked About Marriage?!

This is meant to be obvious, but surprisingly many guys prefer to assume things than to talk it out.

Proposals can get embarrassing if you've never talked about settling down and the relationship lacks a solid direction.

5. Are You On The Same Page With Her?!

Yes! You may love her and want to take things to another gear - but she may not be feeling the same way.

If you skip these cues and assume she's ready to accept your ring, a public show of love may turn to a public show of shame.

Kneeling down in the midst of strangers may not change anything.

Spot on! Bonus points

HRHQueenPhil:
Make sure of five things b4 u propose to her
1. She is interested in marraige
2. She is interested in marrying U
3. She is financially capable
4. She loves u alot
5.;u are financially and spiritually ready for that responsibility

6. Will I Cope Well If She Says NO?!

That's right! If you don't handle rejection well, do not take proposing to a public setting.

Whether she says YES or NO, it should not break you anyway.

Don't be like those guys that will sob on their knees or go ahead to attack the woman for turning them down. Keep it together.

Hope this made some sense? Thanks for reading!

HRHQueenPhil:
Make sure of five things b4 u propose to her
1. She is interested in marraige
2. She is interested in marrying U
3. She is financially capable
4. She loves u alot
5.;u are financially and spiritually ready for that responsibility

5 ; both d male nd female are financially nd spiritually ready for that responsibility.

better nw

Yeah, I'm sure she will agree with this.

Silentgroper:


5 ; both d male nd female are financially nd spiritually ready for that responsibility.

better nw

Silentgroper:


5 ; both d male nd female are financially nd spiritually ready for that responsibility.

better nw

u are d one asking her, she did not ask u..so get ready to make it work..if you marry d sensible one that knows she is a helpmeet,how lucky and blessed u are then

nwaezeemmanuel:
Yeah, I'm sure she will agree with this.

She must

HRHQueenPhil:
u are d one asking her, she did not ask u..so get ready to make it work..if you marry d sensible one that knows she is a helpmeet,how lucky and blessed u are then

that is archaic. Dz is d 21st century. D responsibility doesnt falls on who ask

A funny proposal rejection here in Nigeria. She said NO, he did not take it well.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zotApahj70I

I agree with this. Both the man and woman should be ready for commitments.

Silentgroper:
that is archaic. Dz is d 21st century. D responsibility doesnt falls on who ask

This was sad, particularly for the man. But somehow it cracked me up

nwaezeemmanuel:
A funny proposal rejection here in Nigeria. She said NO, he did not take it well.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zotApahj70I

Silentgroper:
that is archaic. Dz is d 21st century. D responsibility doesnt falls on who ask

make sure u marry d one with ur 21 century mentality

No na, no man should bear responsibilities on his own. That's what he meant.

HRHQueenPhil:
make sure u marry d one with ur 21 century mentality

nwaezeemmanuel:
No na, no man should bear responsibilities on his own. That's what he meant.

if he looks up to GOD, I know GOD will help him do it successfully and sustain his new family but to trust in his woman or mentor, he may fall like a. Pack of cards

Help me ask this OP dat wetin him write,,,,☹️

Kini nwi?,,☹️,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,


Abeg real nigga in the house let us smoke harder in order to think,,,,,,,,


Btw ,,,nwaezeemmanuel!!!!

The nonsense you wrote in the thread that you created please tell me now,,,


Make i give you yaa response,,,,,

Aswear i can't view or comment in dat thread,,,,,, and the thing dey pain me,,,,,,,

I called out one of your posts, it did not make any sense - in my opinion.

No grudge held please, don't be personal

Fact1:
Help me ask this OP dat wetin him write,,,,☹️

Kini nwi?,,☹️,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,


Abeg real nigga in the house let us smoke harder in order to think,,,,,,,,


Btw ,,,nwaezeemmanuel!!!!

The nonsense you wrote in the thread that you created please tell me now,,,


Make i give you yaa response,,,,,

Aswear i can't view or comment in dat thread,,,,,, and the thing dey pain me,,,,,,,

Adding you to the favorite list

nwaezeemmanuel:
I called out one of your posts, it did not make any sense - in my opinion.

No grudge held please, don't be personal

Just tell me,,,,, which post,?,,,,,,,,



Tell me before I vex finish oo,,, this cigaa dey enter my brain,,,,,,,,

This!

Fact1:



Just tell me,,,,, which post,?,,,,,,,,



Tell me before I vex finish oo,,, this cigaa dey enter my brain,,,,,,,,

HRHQueenPhil:
Make sure of five things b4 u propose to her
1. She is interested in marraige
2. She is interested in marrying U
3. She is financially capable
4. She loves u alot
5.;u are financially and spiritually ready for that responsibility

Nice set of questions. But you can do better than this

HRHQueenPhil:
make sure u marry d one with ur 21 century mentality

Ok.

although it wont be lyk a 50 50 thing.

highest a 60 40

anything otherwise 4rm dz, den she should marry herself.

StacyO:
Adding you to the favorite list

what favourite list?

nwaezeemmanuel:
This!

Hmmmm,,,

This life learn to ask first before jugding,,,,,, okay?


If you see a mad man if possible ask him why him dey do like dat before concluding dat he's a mad man,,,,,,,,,,


What happened is this,,,,,,,

I created the thread but me and ZINI derailed the thread by discussing another thing,,,,,,,,


So to me it doesn't make sense at all if someone else open the thread and the op post didn't tally with the comments,,,,,,,,,,,

So i have to erase the content because there's no delete bottom for nairaland,,,,,,,,,,and you know the nature of nairaland once you drop a comment in an old thread the thread may move to the front page,,,,,,,,

So that is what happened sir,,,,,,,

Don't judge things by what you see or think,,,,,, judge by what you hear(from the person whom it may concern) before judging,,,,,,,,,

You sha don talk say ano get sense,,,,,,,,,, no problem nigga don move on,,,,,,,

Lemme light up this weed because imma hit you if you dey my front,,,,,,

Alright.

Fact1:


Hmmmm,,,

This life learn to ask first before jugding,,,,,, okay?


If you see a mad man if possible ask him why him dey do like dat before concluding dat he's a mad man,,,,,,,,,,


What happened is this,,,,,,,

I created the thread but me and ZINI derailed the thread by discussing another thing,,,,,,,,


So to me it doesn't make sense at all if someone else open the thread and the op post didn't tally with the comments,,,,,,,,,,,

So i have to erase the content because there's no delete bottom for nairaland,,,,,,,,,,and you know the nature of nairaland once you drop a comment in an old thread the thread may move to the front page,,,,,,,,

So that is what happened sir,,,,,,,

Don't judge things by what you see or think,,,,,, judge by what you hear(from the person whom it may concern) before judging,,,,,,,,,

You sha don talk say ano get sense,,,,,,,,,, no problem nigga don move on,,,,,,,

Lemme light up this weed because imma hit you if you dey my front,,,,,,

nwaezeemmanuel:
Alright.

Issokay,,,,,,,