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Why I Have Decided To Marry An Uneducated Woman When I'm Ready / (part Two) Traits A WOMAN Should Observe In A MAN When Considering Commitment / Finding The Right Woman When You Are Broke Is A Romantic Scam (2) (3) (4)
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by GidiCars: 6:58pm On Nov 13, 2020|
You're mouthed. Saving this in my words archive.
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Magnoliaa(f): 7:07pm On Nov 13, 2020|
Lol... So love can fully thrive in lack/poverty? And there's the possibility of those lower class couples who truly love each other in the sense that you say moving up the social ladder. I do not think material acquistions can change that base.
That women can love men for who they are in an ideal world does not preclude the idea of women being drawn to certain kinds of men. Which woman doesn't want a strong, intelligent, rich, confident man?
I think exceptions do apply in some cases. Exceptions. I can't tell how common... There are women who aren't about all those qualities (I'm not one). And depending on other qualities of his... A man might just be all that and yet be a beast or an empath that is emotionally intelligent in his private dealings.
This takes me back to my earlier post wherein I said, the thread is about finding the woman worth committing to. A woman knows what she wants in a man and some qualities rank higher than others. A woman's personality will inform her choice of who her ideal man is. Her love language and a man's ability to speak it well can rock her world. Her previous experiences also plays a role etc.
No p. We agree that different women and different men can find love, irrespective of labels and societal classifications sometimes.
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by CaveAdullam: 7:09pm On Nov 13, 2020|
realtalk19:Nothing is 100% perfect. I burst your bubbles right?
Mistakes, flaws, errors, glitches are part of life, they make life worth living, and makes interesting; the story of how we achieve our individual success above all odds.
However, there are silly mistakes: the ones young women engaged in as a result of so called independence, and full scale liberality. Take for example, the corollary effect of debauchery, lasciviousness, juvenile exuberance is; pain, depression, low quality and value, incurable sicknesses and a host of other psychological and emotional disorders all because of a reckless lifestyle. These are silly mistakes because you engaged in it to gratify your sensual pleasures and not on the road to success.
Like I said before, those qualities are inherent in women. Men of old knew this and how invaluable it is for women, and made them almost secluded women from the outside world. If women are not seriously under control and under the auspices of real masculine men, the result is: what we see daily on instagram, facebook, youtube and the mother of them all; feminism. Our progenitors were not stupid, but because of a change in the sexual market place, government and social policies, women became untamed, left to decide for themselves, not surrounded by protectors any longer but now exposed to predators. Women only come to the knowledge of this fact when they are close to the wall, but by then, it is too late.
So, the qualities pansophist listed are as easy as feeding yourself, except you've veered far from it. However, there's always a second chance, use the knowledge to correct your foibles, and fortify yourself against future errors. The knowledge is not for yourself only, but for every young female around you, and most especially your daughters.
Jostling to become a paragon of perfection is ridiculous, as no one can become it. Be the best you can by:
1. Becoming analytical and logical and observatory,
2. Lovely, humble, gracious, conservative and kind,
3. Ruthless against stupidity, ignorance, procrastination, laziness, temptations, low quality things, arrogance,
4. Ready to learn, unlearn and relearn,
5. Understanding the basic principle of important matters before attacking anyone.
Nevertheless, move towards perfection.
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|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by 21cents: 7:09pm On Nov 13, 2020|
Shortyy:Seeking an intact hymen is one of the paramount qualities of a virtuous and morally upright woman for marriage. that hymen is not only physical but its needed to cement bonding within spouses. don't get disturbed when men are seeking for it.
Settling with a perforated hymen is disastrous. her spirit is tied to that first man forever, reason why God in his infinite wisdom placed it there as part of "pair-bonding mechanism" for whom it is meant for -(husband).
sorry if you've given out yours for coke and indomie, but na you Sabi as God cannot be mocked. Wahala for whatever man that marries those non virgins. they can never love another man wholeheartedly no matter how much they deceive you with their fake love. they only love what you're providing and seeking a better future for their unborn kids.
Any man that doesn't agree with the last paragraph is free to delude himself. time will tell.
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by philosophy25: 7:30pm On Nov 13, 2020|
Wow. Dis exactly wats happening in my current relationship wit ma girl.. She actually chooses me ryt frm wen she saw me back den in nysc camp.. Am telling u guys up to dis day, she was so submitted n treated me like a king.. She actually calls me king
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by DirtyGold: 7:37pm On Nov 13, 2020|
Magnoliaa:See yourself? I never said poverty. People working low end jobs still have families, they have roof over their heads and can afford food and even dare to have multiple kids. Their happiness is tied to basic thing, simple pleasures... content and happiness are things of the mind. They don't know or care about iPhones and shits the woke generation hinge "living the life" on.
I think exceptions do apply in some cases. Exceptions. I can't tell how common... There are women who aren't about all those qualities (I'm not one). And depending on other qualities of his... A man might just be all that and yet be a beast or an empath that is emotionally intelligent in his private dealings.Like I said, a woman's choice of a man depends on her internal wants, needs, desires and experiences. And a man's job is to like a girl, approach and see if she likes him enough on her own without trying so hard to 'win' her.
No p. We agree that different women and different men can find love, irrespective of labels and societal classifications sometimes.Sure! There are always exceptions to every rule because we are human beings - not robots. But, there are better easier ways of achieving fantastic results and as far as the topic of the OP is concerned, the author is right.
What's tha business?
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Magnoliaa(f): 8:00pm On Nov 13, 2020|
This. Has he said anything about "her" or her background before? I'm thinking she just might be like the kind of person he says he is. Equally beautiful, intelligent, came from wealth and status, can afford to treat herself and a man, too. You are seeing it from a parasite-on-a-host way, unless he's revealed that she's lacking in those things, then yeah, this could be valid... If you aren't basing any of it on what you can -see- on NL's e-life.
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|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Sundrus: 8:03pm On Nov 13, 2020|
philosophy25:treat her well u go enjoy more of her. The thing be say na human thing, no be gender thing. Once humans dey deeply inlove with u. Them fit do anything for ur sake. I don get my own first hand share for this love syndrome from different ladies....
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Magnoliaa(f): 8:13pm On Nov 13, 2020|
Pfft. What you said was opened to interpretations. There's a limit to which a paltry sum can sustain a family. That's reality, no matter what their values are on, and it could cause frictions from time to time that'll threaten their stability and love.
I'm literally not on about this. Never been.
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by CaveAdullam: 8:22pm On Nov 13, 2020|
MhisTahrah:From our evolutionary days, women were nurturers, took care of their children and the weak people among them, while the men were hunters, protectors and major providers for the family. Even from the Christian Bible, men were assigned to till the ground, and women to experience labour pain yearly or as the case maybe. Men and women of old were capable of performing their activities and carrying out their responsibilities, and still able to love each other. Men proved to be men by leading, women by submitting, children by living according to their parents instructions and lifestyle. This was a very balanced equation.
However, there was a shift in this balanced equation because of different revolutionary phase humans encountered; Agricultural revolution, industrial revolution, technological revolution, and sexual revolution. These revolutions in themselves are good but they come with inevitable unintended consequences. For example:
1. Men were no longer close to their wives and children as a result of office works,
2. Women neglected their innate and biological desires: to raise children and have a wonderful family, and seek full scale independence,
3. Children became liberal and degenerated because they lack proper parental guidance.
4. The government rewarded anyone who will work for them without no care for the nuclear family,
5. Introduction of birth control pills which is messing a lot females without them being aware of it, etc.
A high quality man who can provide for and protect his family does not require his wife to work, and will not see her as a liability, because a woman cannot serve two masters at the same time. It is either her husband or her boss. This is not a free ride to gossiping, laziness, nonchalant behaviours. There are many ways a man can engage a full time house wife;
1. Open a business for her so that she can be able to device proper time allocation for her husband and children, because for her they must come first.
2. Assign minor works to her e.g she can help you to do minor office works at home like typing, arranging files, sending emails, writing etc.
3. If you're an entrepreneur, give her some roles to play e.g analysis of goods, accounting details, taking inventory etc.
4. Encourage her to start writing novels, books, articles etc.
5. Begin to think about other sources of income and how to established and start it running. Use her brain.
There are not too many differences between the male and female brain, but I think if women are conditioned to act according to their brain capacity, they will do fine in their own suit.
No man want a full time zombie housewife.
MhisTahrah:Career women are masculine. They exhibit masculine traits because they want to climb to the top by wrestling with men and other females. Aggression is for the male, and when a woman suppresses her feminine traits, she becomes aggressive and seen as a man. And as you know, men don't get attracted to---masculine women---men.
Career women have sacrificed their biology for wages, and cannot really perform like real feminine women. They don't have respect for men below them, and always seek to become like the men on top. They are unattractive!
This should not be confused with independent women(entrepreneurs) that make good cash for themselves, do not leverage their body for money and gifts, and of course, they are very few in numbers.
Independence is not the ideal state for a woman, If a woman sacrifices her career in becoming a scientist, she can raise many scientists among her children. But because of the revolutions I mentioned before, women are forced to work. If she can't serve her boss more than her husband, she gets sacked, and if she serve her boss more; her family is neglected.
So, to at least maneuver this problem: become independent for the main time, get engaged to a high quality man by maintaining your femininity, and dump your career for family when fully married. You cannot serve two matters synchronously.
MhisTahrah:Life is a game full of manipulations here and there. You either shield yourself or learn the game to win or learn how to counter the game to not become a victim.
Sexual intercourse above age 18 is consensual my dear. A woman ought to know the man who is ready for marriage or not. If she fails the test, become enthralled by his seductive tongue, no one is to be blamed. I'm not a partner of hypocrisy, but this is life, nobody cares about your morality. If you're ignorant of the game it is your fault.
It is not a crime to desire and want anything for yourself, if you work for it, you will get it. Men must beware of women who has come to parasitize on them, and women must beware of men who just want a taste of their flesh.
Nonetheless, the foolish and ignorant dwells among us, they will be leveraged, used and dumped: this is the very core of the game.
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|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by DirtyGold: 8:52pm On Nov 13, 2020|
Magnoliaa:Madam, everything isn't about money! Anything (including intangible things) can cause friction in any relationship
I'm literally not on about this. Never been.Okay.
What's tha business?
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Fountainofyouth(f): 9:00pm On Nov 13, 2020|
@bolded disqualified the rest of what you typed, or better yet, direct your assumptions in form of questions to him if you're really curious to know what or how his gf is, its his thread, he is right here.
And I wonder what my comment has to do with nl e-life, the Op concerned didn't even bother to quote that part cos he knows I'm right, so keep your funny thoughts to yourself.
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|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by angelfallz(m): 9:04pm On Nov 13, 2020|
CaveAdullam:I am saving this.
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|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Evolutionlove: 9:09pm On Nov 13, 2020|
I seems not to understand why you are this pained though. You sounded too pained. Well whatever floats your boat. Au Revoir.......
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Shortyy(f): 9:21pm On Nov 13, 2020|
21cents:And I'm sorry too you gave out yours for nothing. yours was absolutely nothing, and I bet you begged on top, just to shag a woman.
God cannot be mocked right? While you are sticking your third leg Inside every hole I wonder who you're mocking.
You want a virgin but you can't keep yourself pure. Ain't you mocking God too?
Shameless bunch of people, I've left Internet bashing behind, but I hate double standards.
And I'm sorry no one is deceiving me with fake love. I'm a woman who knows what I want and I go for it. I'm not like those women you lie to just to cum within one second. Yet you sit there in your rickety home and talk about God. You are the one God will judge for all the lies and evil you did just to be a one second man.
Talking about God just to suit your own narrative. You should be ashamed of yourself.
I bet you're in your rickety apartment now promising a virgin girl love, just to cum. Shame on you man.
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Magnoliaa(f): 9:55pm On Nov 13, 2020|
The same bolded is proof I was not making assertions.
You seem defensive. I don't know where you're coming from but I clearly stated that IF you weren't saying that from what you could tell on NL, then it's valid.
(And you do say stuff about women staying for materialistic gains). So, there's that.
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Magnoliaa(f): 10:02pm On Nov 13, 2020|
Enjoy your night!
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by BabbanBura(m): 11:11pm On Nov 13, 2020|
Shey bad boys no dey ya village ni?
Abi City boys no dey runaway go back village ni? - na dem be rhe baddest sef!!!
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by pansophist(m): 11:31pm On Nov 13, 2020|
Bad boys full Lagos, but guys from abroad de come back and collect them for una hand. Na lie? Even yahoo boys sef, guys de collect their babe steady. So you see, class pass class. And wetin stop you from being a bad boy sef, abi bad boys de get two head ni? level up ma guy.
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|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by BabbanBura(m): 11:34pm On Nov 13, 2020|
Okay, feedback taken. Thanks
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Axmondthuglife: 11:46pm On Nov 13, 2020|
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by sirjamesjnr(m): 1:35am On Nov 14, 2020|
I can relate. Some months back, I was on a video call with my fiancée, in a hotel room. In the middle of our conversation, I order for food. The lady in the kitchen assured me of ten minutes. 20-minute food was not served, so when they finally brought the food, I raise my voice on the innocent girl. My babe became so cold and disconnect our line of communication. After some minute, she requested that I apologise to the girl, pay for her meal only then we will continue our conversation. Menh I didn't have a choice. I just did as I was told but I got the mental picture of what she stands for.
, DrFunmisticGlowf If you read this. For treating people that are beneath you with dignity and respect, I make a vow to treat you like a Queen. Ladies with zero character are turn off to any responsible man.
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by sirjamesjnr(m): 1:41am On Nov 14, 2020|
Raalsalghul:.Change your circle of girls. My woman tick 99% of those dots. I am truly blessed maybe because I am her first love.
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by BennyDGreat: 3:56am On Nov 14, 2020|
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Esetobore(f): 4:02am On Nov 14, 2020|
Do you really need all this long assessments and evaluation to know if a lady truly loves you and can stand by you in hard times? Some ladies will do well in these test and still make a terrible partner.
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Fountainofyouth(f): 7:04am On Nov 14, 2020|
You are funny, why are you taking what I said about pansophist personal? If you want to ask if his gf falls under the materialistic women, ask him, not me, what I said of him is facts, and he knows it,
Next time go through my comments to know why I arrived at that before throwing tantrums about.
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|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by k4kings(m): 7:05am On Nov 14, 2020|
I have found a wife then..
Oya say congratulations to me
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Palema007: 9:16am On Nov 14, 2020|
Pansophist is Magnolia our new wife?
Me, I'm noticing something and I want to know
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by SpeciMental: 10:04am On Nov 14, 2020|
Palema007:Seriously, join the mgtow movement just for these natural virtues of true love.
The point to glean is: study her behaviour in these situations as they come up even if not necessarily creating them and only when she's been proven in these should a man be ready to commit to and invest in her, commensurately, of course.
The truth is if you as a lady already see these natural consequences of love as too much of a burden, then it shows you never seek a person you'd love but only one you'd use.
@pansophist, the financial test is bae.
A woman will only be willing to invest financially and in every way you listed here if she actually loves you but men of these days keep letting them off the hook, thanks to the brainwashing by society. She would even do all these naturally.
Men should only invest the least emotionally and financially in a woman until she's proven worthy. Be ready to present yourself in your barest minimum, and just as who you are (personality, vision, goals, skills, knowledge) without revealing your financial capacity. If she loves you for just your person, she's more likely worthy. After wedding night, you can begin to reveal more of your capacity.
But when you're showing off your financial capacity, any lady will fake all the angelic traits to tie you down.
Any lady who can't appreciate me(not my money), for just what I'm worth as to my persona alone and my goals is not worth sharing a future with.
Shortyy:What a disconnected summation @ the bolded. Now just slow down and reread for yourself.
If all your coursemates who got married, were runs girls, how does that prove that their marriage would be successful, or that they won't cheat or they'd cheat and not get caught when the opportunity comes?
Y'all men better be going for virgins and have assurance.
Again, miss, if all those coursemates were runs girls, it shows once again that we live in an era of hoes, damn! Further confirmed by a lady herself!
Will the chaste women, please stand up?
Shortyy:The way you're just defending non-virginity, calm down na, non virgins still get married but not to wise men, lol.
This standard of virginity test is for the upcoming generation of young ladies and will benefit of the whole society and save the future from current society's sexual recklessness. Once ladies are kept in check, men are kept in check. That's the way it works. Ladies' looseness is to blame for society's sexual recklessness.
And sister, any lady that allowed me to break her hymen without tying me down to marriage, when I was neither armed nor violent, will bear all the blame o. If you say no and stand by it, I can't force it. Just sayin'
#Unemotional, purely Mental from the unapologetic SpeciMen#
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|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by pansophist(m): 10:11am On Nov 14, 2020|
The truth is if you as a lady already see these natural consequences of love as too much of a burden, then it shows you never seek a person you'd love but only one you'd use.
This is dope. Palerma007, now go save this quote in the museum.
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Palema007: 10:15am On Nov 14, 2020|
SpeciMental I don't have issues with op's standard, and I do more than op's lists in love. My problem is the deliberate intentions, energy and time placed in the tests. To me, it's offensive, and total waste of time!
|Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by pansophist(m): 10:17am On Nov 14, 2020|
Feel free to enter a relationship without deliberately vetting out if he is a good man. Then come back later and cry how he treats you bad and sleep around. Why you think arrange marriage was a thing and stipp culture in many parts of the world ?
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