tellwisdom:


U enter into unplanned fasting because your business de on suspense. Now guy man wan weigh all the circumstances behind your business and connect am with your present hunger situation.. And I sure say the guy will not just wake up one morning and be asking you all these questions if something didn’t trigger it. Ogbeni, u de vex becos guy man don unlock u before u lock am. Try another person for Anambra.

CalliDora1:



Helloooo.. what do you mean by did she ask? Ask for what exactly? All I want to know is why he stopped calling and chatting and not why he didn't offer to help or not. Please!

Ishilove:

Okay, understood.

Switch to the below when responding to his messages-

aiit
kk
kkk
Cool
Lol
Tenks

Etc. I believe that is diplomatic and polite enough. Hin body go tell am.

Chiquitq:
He is not an all weather friend but kindly note that telling someone that you've not eaten more than once also sends wrong signals. Except it is obvious that you are too busy to eat. Forget about this guy, he doesn't mean well at all. If you really lost your job and you were good friends, he might have offered a token to cushion the effect but then again, some girls would turn such nice gesture into an opportunity to take a man for granted and milk him. Just forget about this guy.

CalliDora1:


Exactly how I've been replying his text since last night. the next thing was "are you angry at me? Why are you responding like this? . Imagine.. I just replied, nothing.

SupBruh:


Smh... I reckon you are a lot more intelligent than this. Maybe giving advice is not your strong suit.. Use to have plenty of respect for you but this is typical "slay girl" advice.. Maybe I'm missing the point but this looks like you're a taking a feministic view of the situation or it could be that I'm giving you too much credit and you are just as plain as the statement you made.. Either way.. Do better.

CalliDora1:


Exactly how I've been replying his text since last night. the next thing was "are you angry at me? Why are you responding like this? . Imagine.. I just replied, nothing.

nenyewrites:


You should change this attitude in your next relationship. Else you’ll be hurting your partner unintentionally.

Sarita01:
I really can't relate to the unnecessary fuss,I think high expectations is the reason you're hurt,you might not have asked him for stuff but you were expecting him to offer cos if he had offered I'm very sure you would'nt have refused. Why must you test him? How are you sure his questions isn't even a test?cos all I see is 2 pple trying to outsmart the other. There are subtle ways you can tell someone you've not eaten,it's either you tell half truths or you evade the question but you continuously saying no,sent the wrong message across, your outright NO seemed like coded begging.
Am I the only one who thinks asking if someone has eaten is plain annoying and stupid cos I don't see the essence,what if I haven't eaten would you come and feed me,I seriously hate that question and I detest when guys ask such. The guy's continuous asking is enough to put you off. The nigga mAh sef get zero chills,sharp sharp him jakpa,he no want turn pesin papa,just tell him what he did to you that you don't like and then you guys can go ya seperate ways amicably. And babe stop putting people on high pedestal so that when they disappoint you you wouldn't get hurt unnecessarily.

CalliDora1:


My dear, my dear hm.

Now imagine if I marry such a man, when there's little challenge in biz, he'll blank me? These thoughts have been rioting in my heart since our last contact.

Yeah sure we don't need such in our lives.

pocohantas:


People ask that question out of concern, not because they want to open a fast food kitchen for you. Just good ol concern. If you don’t like it, open your mouth and tell him to stop asking you.

We are here to talk about what he thinks, which prompted his actions- not what I think.

Once again, I never said you are guilty. I said you are a victim of stereotyping. You are quite presumptuous...

Gracias

Ishilove:

You can liberally anoint my ass with your lips.

CalliDora1:



Helloooo.. what do you mean by did she ask? Ask for what exactly? All I want to know is why he stopped calling and chatting and not why he didn't offer to help or not. Please!

pocohantas:
You are overthinking things.

How can you keep saying you haven’t eaten for 3days without any explanation? Haba! Don’t you know that is Naija babes intro to ask for urgent 2k?

The guy is not psychic to know you were fasting. Whenever I tell a man I haven’t eaten, I always make sure I add the reason (e.g) Busy day, I am trying to watch my intake/weight...etc.

While it wasn’t so nice of him to disappear, we should remember that building relationships is hard in Nigeria because we suspect ourselves too much. Imagine if he kept telling you he is lonely.

It is okay if you want to block him, I just want you to know you are not entirely blameless. It takes time and trust to unlock certain aspects of a friendship...

Sarita01:
I really can't relate to the unnecessary fuss, I think high expectations is the reason you're hurt,you might not have asked him for stuff but you were expecting him to offer cos if he had offered I'm very sure you would'nt have refused. Why must you test him? How are you sure his questions isn't even a test?cos all I see is 2 pple trying to outsmart the other. There are subtle ways you can tell someone you've not eaten,it's either you tell half truths or you evade the question but you continuously saying no,sent the wrong message across,your outright no seemed like coded begging.
Am I the only one who thinks asking if someone has eaten is plain annoying and stupid cos I don't see the essence,what if I haven't eaten would you come and feed me,I seriously hate that question and I detest when guys ask such. The guy's continuous asking is enough to put you off. The nigga mAh sef get zero chills,sharp sharp him jakpa,he no want turn pesin papa,just tell him what he did to you that you don't like and then you guys can go ya seperate ways amicably. And babe stop putting people on high pedestal so that when they disappoint you you wouldn't get hurt unnecessarily.

Ladycewhy:
But how can anyone be fine without money? . Even Fg has money as their problem hence the borrowing even from Brazil.

Michdaf:
If you want to know why I stopped chatting and calling you, why didn't you tell me yesterday. why did you have to bring it here. I don't know what you wanted me to do then. I ask why haven't you eaten and you said you don't have much. And I was not that buoyant then. And I explained everything to you. Then you start giving me attitude. that period, I was invited to court and you know the reason. I was face with the court issue for six weeks. At first I was arrested and my phone was taken from me. All this period you didn't call. and the best thing you could do is to bring it up here. Am very disappointed

pocohantas:
You are overthinking things.

How can you keep saying you haven’t eaten for 3days without any explanation? Haba! Don’t you know that is Naija babes intro to ask for urgent 2k?

The guy is not psychic to know you were fasting. Whenever I tell a man I haven’t eaten, I always make sure I add the reason (e.g) Busy day, I am trying to watch my intake/weight...etc.

While it wasn’t so nice of him to disappear, we should remember that building relationships is hard in Nigeria because we suspect ourselves too much. Imagine if he kept telling you he is lonely.

It is okay if you want to block him, I just want you to know you are not entirely blameless. It takes time and trust to unlock certain aspects of a friendship...

Michdaf:
If you want to know why I stopped chatting and calling you, why didn't you tell me yesterday. why did you have to bring it here. I don't know what you wanted me to do then. I ask why haven't you eaten and you said you don't have much. And I was not that buoyant then. And I explained everything to you. Then you start giving me attitude. that period, I was invited to court and you know the reason. I was face with the court issue for six weeks. At first I was arrested and my phone was taken from me. All this period you didn't call. and the best thing you could do is to bring it up here. Am very disappointed

crackhaus:

Lmao, so on point...

If you go through a previous topic of this same chic, you will notice this same pattern of behaviour.
Babe has an unusually high sense of entitlement and expectation from guys who are interested in her...but unfortunately for her, she keeps meeting men who simply don't have the patience to impress her. LOL

https://www.nairaland.com/6215804/life-no-balance

CalliDora1, you want to remain single for a long time with all this your yeye attitude abi. Hopefully, you'll be lucky enough to meet a man whose brain is not developed enough to detect your type of person from a distance...
Don't worry, there are still men like that for you. All hope is not lost.

Like I noted on your previous thread, women like yourself are usually easy to spot by men like me – this particular guy you're complaining about here is obviously one of us.

CalliDora1:


My dear. @bolded is my thoughts because he resumed the question this morning again.

Sugar what?.. this person I'm telling you is a MAN as in very mature guy and from all indications he's not a play boy. But why he pulled that stunt at the last minute was what got me upset and worried.

I'm thinking whether to download all he did to him and how I see it or just block him.

I don't want to appear wicked or rude but my interest is no longer there.

ford101:
you can't give what you truly don't have.the man doesn't have money.

Michdaf:
If you want to know why I stopped chatting and calling you, why didn't you tell me yesterday. why did you have to bring it here. I don't know what you wanted me to do then. I ask why haven't you eaten and you said you don't have much. And I was not that buoyant then. And I explained everything to you. Then you start giving me attitude. that period, I was invited to court and you know the reason. I was face with the court issue for six weeks. At first I was arrested and my phone was taken from me. All this period you didn't call. and the best thing you could do is to bring it up here. Am very disappointed

harmony75:
why will anyone ask me if I have eaten? I pity this generation o � what a very dumb question to ask, have you eaten?!?! it's just like saying have I had my bath? is only a dummy that could ask such question so unnecessary � and irritating.if you don't know what to say when you call friends or someone don't waste your time naw you asked the silly question and if no will you buy the food for them?

CalliDora1:


Just let me be.
That's why I said it's typical if most nairaland guys to always assume someone wants to beg them for favor.

pocohantas:
You are overthinking things.

How can you keep saying you haven’t eaten for 3days without any explanation? Haba! Don’t you know that is Naija babes intro to ask for urgent 2k?

The guy is not psychic to know you were fasting. Whenever I tell a man I haven’t eaten, I always make sure I add the reason (e.g) Busy day, I am trying to watch my intake/weight...etc.

While it wasn’t so nice of him to disappear, we should remember that building relationships is hard in Nigeria because we suspect ourselves too much. Imagine if he kept telling you he is lonely.

It is okay if you want to block him, I just want you to know you are not entirely blameless. It takes time and trust to unlock certain aspects of a friendship...