I’m a bit tired and getting ready to sleep so won’t write much. I am one of those guys they could describe as, late flowers. Those are flowers that bloom late, that is they bring out those beautiful colours late compared to others flowers . I have shared some of my stories in the past. Like many Nigerian guys, I didn’t get a job after graduation for many years but kept developing myself sha. Due to financial instability, I didn’t get married and of course no woman will date you for long in that state. Good job came around 36 or so, few years later things are a lot better & more stable. It’s time to get married but all the girls I keep running into are indomie and egg girls (21 -25) can barely have a proper conversation apart from “have you eaten etc.” I feel the older girls are either married or at work so one can’t see them whereas these younger slayers/students are jobless especially with COVID and ASUU so spend all day on the streets, hence, easy to find some of them are decent though but I prefer age difference of around 4 to 9 years not 15/16 . I will advise younger guys not wait cos from my experience, if you want to get married as a 40 yr old man, most ladies you will be seeing will likely be much younger. Relatives will also keep shouting and warning you to avoid 32 - 40 year old girls due to pregnancy issues . That leaves you with only 22 to 31 years old ladies. if you don’t work in the bank or civil service, you may not see late twenties ladies. Hence you will end up with indomie girls that were in primary school while you were rounding up university . Hopefully the economy get better so that upcoming guys find their footing early.

Questions:

Has anyone experience marriage with huge age gap?
Are they advisable?

I do ask myself sometimes, is our First Lady and Melania Trump happy?

Do such relationships work out well?

How do one cope with their sexual prowess later in life?

Will they eventually be able to hold proper conversations?

Hmmmmmmm

Freelane33:
Hmmmmmmm

Yeah

Wahala for who wan marry

Your age is quite okay and you will easily find a younger girl of 24/25 for marriage, maybe youre in the wrong city

Uncle93:
Your age is quite okay and you will easily find a younger girl of 24/25 for marriage, maybe youre in the wrong city

I am in the right city but those 24/5 girls are too young for late 30s, in my opinion

Impostor:


I am in the right city but those 24/5 girls are too young for late 30s, in my opinion

They are not, you just don't get it. Normally girls dont marry guys thier age, they go for older guys for marriage.

Yeah but not far far older with 15 years, that’s a lot

So everybody de dere lane for this mata

Look for one on the same path with you. What buisness are you into or would you like to venture into. Look for a girl with the same ambition. Then you both can embark on same journey. She can grow with you.

I explained it here

https://tobechispeaks./2020/11/16/relate-dont-marry/

What city are you in?

Impostor:


I am in the right city but those 24/5 girls are too young for late 30s, in my opinion

What city are you in?

MacMkboy:


What city are you in?

Lag

They are still good ladies in lag... The area you are matter a lot. Why don't you go to those area you have business and office for working class girls between 25-30... Especially from 27 to 30 though... Girls this age are ready too but be careful and observe. Don't make your intentions of marriage known to any of them.. infact form you are a broke nigger and watch how you'll discover humble girls from oloshos.

Reasonable girls i have dated so far are from 25 - 35.