ethicallyright:


Your metaphor "life is suffering" appears to be truism but the claim is not entirely true. Life is not suffering but more people suffer in life while lesser people do not suffer. Stoicism claims that the good life is a virtuous life not a happy life. This means that a life of hedonism can bring happiness even though it is not the good life. There are people who have never suffered from birth till death and thus have never suffered in life.

The gulf princesses are examples.

DonTattaglia:


Very lame mentality..

witworth:
Yes for the children, No for the marriage.

hashtagged:


Do you know what liabilities are? Of course you do so you are also a liability to your parents no matter how sweet you try to paint it so fvck off

pansophist:
If you choose to marry, you will suffer. If you decide not to marry, you will also suffer. You cannot escape from suffering, you should choose a suffering that is worth it. And when it comes to choosing one, choose what is meaningful, not what is expedient.

To marry and bear forth children is a meaningful thing. It is how you contribute to the future and the continuity of humanity, and raising good kids is how you contribute in making society great again. Your parents, grandparents and all your ancestors that makes up the "you" all paid this price, the question now is, will you do the same ? If you decide not to marry, at least be as great as Albert Einstein, Elon Musk or Steve Jobs.

Just contribute to humanity in your own little way. Then that is a meaningful, and a well-lived life. All the great men without children such as Nikola Tesla all left a big remark on the planet and they will never be forgotten, meanwhile, the ordinary people are ancestors to the present generation, you just have to contribute to the growth of humanity, either by blood or by inventions, not otherwise.

Nihilism, vanity and hedonism is expedient, its temporarily fun but its not virtuous, and when one have no virtue, they suffer. Yes, humans are sick when they live without virtue. Every civilisation, species and religion that supports marriage and procreation can not be all wrong. Its not something you just decide because you feel, but because it is the right thing.

gunners160:
Marriage is an achievement to a Lady and to most men a liability. Whenever a man should propose to a lady, the first thing you see is she is crying or shouting out of excitement. She starts flaunting and making paparazzi out of the engagement ring because she has seen some one who has helped her in accomplishing a goal. Just like the feeling of building a house

in addition to this,marriage to a woman is like a childhood fantasy come true. Ever since she was little, she has been made to belief she is a Queen and special so there is a Mr Knight somewhere who will one day marry her and fulfill all her fantasy.
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A man looks for financial independence before getting married but a woman crave for good shape and a good dress sense before getting married. She knows all what she needs is a man who can shoulder her responsibilities. that is why men get married late while women get married so early. You hear words like " i need a rich man even though he is ugly"

Also, marriage to a woman is a respect on its own. She is given respect both in and outside her home. At church she is called madam, at work she is called a Mrs and at the society she is called a mother

Finally marriage can be an achievement and also a liability depending who u end up with. they either destroy you or makedo

useed:



Seems you are a fan of Jordan Peterson or you follow him...I can see his thought in this piece.... Beautiful bro

Please reply, I will love to hear from you

simplesearch:
@ [s]op you are evidence of the importance of marriage and fruitfulness. If linda ikeji could go any length to experience the joy of motherhood and still looking for a man to settle with and call her own, same goes for chimamanda and even Hillary Clinton who against glaring evidence of extramarital affair decide to forgive and stick with his husband. They all believed in the institution of marriage and will never trade it for anything or you think if it's not an achievement Linda will still be looking for an husband? People promoting that idea are actually frustrated with their lack of it, but refuse to be sincere with the public like Linda. If God said it's not good to be alone, and that children are his heritage and the fruit of the womb a reward. Infact aside obeying God the most important command giving to man in the garden of Eden is to be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth and subdue it.[/s]

pansophist:


''Choose what is meaningful, not what is expedient''

The above quote was the giveaway, I know I used it in verbatim, exactly how Jordan phrased it

Yes, I am a fan of him. I got that quote from his book ''12 rules for life, an antidote to chaos''. He is a great man. Our modern Socrates.

My regards.

pansophist:


''Choose what is meaningful, not what is expedient''

The above quote was the giveaway, I know I used it in verbatim, exactly how Jordan phrased it

Yes, I am a fan of him. I got that quote from his book ''12 rules for life, an antidote to chaos''. He is a great man. Our modern Socrates.

My regards.

internationalman:


That's how rotten the system has gotten.
And it's mainly because relationships nowadays set of on a foundation of sex..

When you are dating the right girl you hardly get tired of her let alone marriage..

You see that my babe I never get tired of her...

In fact the more I see her the stronger my hunger for her gets..

thesicilian:

Of course, but that's not an achievement, considering the fact that even a madman can impregnate a madwoman.

thesicilian:
For some women, yes.
One doesn't need any special credentials to be able to marry or have children. The true achievement comes from being able to raise up godly children

gunners160:
are u married? No. so chilax.
in every marriage dhr is always the fantasy stage, excitement stage, decline stage and Restoration stage. Don't conclude yet , you never start. It takes couple with a will to pass and conquer these stages not just by typing

internationalman:
After achieving everything in the world without a family, then you would know that kids are the biggest achievement of all...

Even though I'm scared of marriage but the feeling I get when my babe is sleeping over is enriching. I sometimes wonder how it would feel when this sleeping over happens everyday...

mariahAngel:


Everything depends on how many marriages you've wrecked with your tactlessness

Biglittlelois:
Marriage is one out of many achievements one can attain in this life.

lexy2014:


Does that mean marriage & having kids aren't achievements?

Cityqueengirl:
Even being able to drink water in a day is an achievement. Whatever you do is an achievement so far it makes you fulfilled

DexterousOne:

I disagree

Some of the greatest men ever, who changed the course of humanity FOREVER were childless and without family

Zeedarh:
Honestly, its an individual thing.
For some people, its an achievement. Some don't care.

BadRadio:
Some live to harness themselves for it.

Some would set no other goal & do nothing else but look forward to the excitement of being married.

For a man or a woman, Is marriage and having kids an achievement?

When a man or a woman decides by choice not to have kids or get married, does it in anyway affect them?

What are the core importance of being married or getting married.

Is having children paramount in marriage?

chinedumoooo:
If marriage is not achievement, what do we call achievement........
Is it going to club with chicks?
Is it having a cars?
Is it acquiring different certificates?
I was forced within to comment because this topic is completely senseless.

hashtagged:
No they are not achievements they are liabilities

Kestolove:
To us it is, but for some of dem ladies dat have crossed 30 ND know husband dey console demsefs by saying it's not an achievement, watch dem cum attack me now

internationalman:


Marriage just as every other thing in life don't come easy..But the unwavering strength to keep going despite the whatever is what pronounce you a man..