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Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by martius101(m): 6:42am On Dec 06, 2020
I have been trying to get my life back since I left my ex in 2007/08.i have been stucked with the memories.....I masturbate all the time.i have been doing this for at least 15 years.i can't even talk to any woman and I always have the feeling that they can't date me.i don't even have a life,I smoke all the time.....I don't have a friend,I don't know what my problem is exactly....I dress well ,no job tho...I'm scared AF and don't know what my future looks like.

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by Cutehector(m): 6:45am On Dec 06, 2020
grin

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by Bensonezege: 6:48am On Dec 06, 2020
Guy stop Masturbating for a start and get ur priorities straight like getting a job,leave woman mata for now

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by Davash222(m): 6:49am On Dec 06, 2020
Your utmost concern should be how to get a job and limit your weed consumption not how to ask a woman out.

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by UniqRight: 6:50am On Dec 06, 2020
cool shocked
Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by Worldwise(m): 6:50am On Dec 06, 2020
You have self identified your problem. Get your self a job! Ode

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by Sundrus: 6:52am On Dec 06, 2020
Stop to watch porn... E go help u stop masturbation. Remove ur mind from woman, channel the energy take look for work. Once life dey, hope dey. Atleast u still get good health.

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by khingTony(m): 6:52am On Dec 06, 2020
martius101:
I have been trying to get my life back since I left my ex in 2007/08.i have been stucked with the memories.....


First, you have to free yourself of the memory of your ex, but you've tried to do so for years and you still can't, maybe because there is no body else to replace her, so you need to replace her before you can get free

I masturbate all the time.i have been doing this for at least 15 years.


this is your undoing, masturbation gives you that sense that you don't need any lady in your life, because, why should you settle for an average Nigerian girl while you can pull up a video or photo of your favorite celebrity and have her be in your bed, in your mind.

So you should learn to stop masturbating, It's not easy, but you can. Avoid being alone, Avoid porn, avoid erotic images, read books, watch YouTube videos, do anything to keep you from it smiley
i can't even talk to any woman and I always have the feeling that they can't date me.

Here is where you should work on your confidence and discard fear

What can possibly go wrong if you walk up to a lady and start talking to her? she will ignore you? Maybe. But there are so many things that can go right, you know

A wise man once said, "To deal with fear, you have to place yourself in the situation that triggers and arises anxiety every time smiley "

i don't even have a life,I smoke all the time.....I don't have a friend,I don't know what my problem is exactly....
Smoking is a hard addiction to deal with, Reduce your smoking, go out, to anywhere you can think of, meet people, have fun.


I dress well ,no job tho...I'm scared AF and don't know what my future looks like.

You can still have a bright future which you never expected if you act now. You can't continue doing the same thing and expect a different outcome

But you have to know that you can be a good conversationalist, talk to girls all you like, know new people and still won't have a fulfilled life, that's why you need the Redpill, go to Google search for redpilled an self development books, books written by Rollo Tomasi, Robert greene, etc download them, read them and act immediately.



Peace smiley

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by ojun50(m): 6:55am On Dec 06, 2020
Then start askin men out

At 29 I started planning my marriage even when there was no job, no family and friends support but I got God beside me.
At 31 I did my marriage and we are leaving happily.

Mistake most youth make is not starting life with a little job... don't wait till you get a bigger boy.

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by walepackage(m): 6:55am On Dec 06, 2020
I think the problem here first is to get engaged in a meaningful endeavors, like a job or skill.it will reduce the rate in which you think of sex man.

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by martius101(m): 6:55am On Dec 06, 2020
Worldwise:
You have self identified your problem. Get your self a job! Ode



bros no abuse me.....do you know how many jobs I have done in recent times?...plus I lost it due to the pandemic
Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by Shortyy(f): 6:55am On Dec 06, 2020
Hmmm the ending of your last relationship rendered you useless.

You can only know peace when you let go of the past. Forget about your last relationship. Get your self esteem back.

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by Shortyy(f): 6:59am On Dec 06, 2020
walepackage:
I think the problem here first is to get engaged in a meaningful endeavors, like a job or skill.it will reduce the rate in which you think of sex man.

See, it's not always about getting a job here. He's suffering from PTSD and he either talks to a therapist to cure himself or work it out himself. It will take time, but he'll pull through.

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by majamajic(m): 7:07am On Dec 06, 2020
Leave woman matter for now

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by Godada(m): 7:11am On Dec 06, 2020
Shortyy:


See, it's not always about getting a job here. He's suffering from PTSD and he either talks to a therapist to cure himself or work it out himself. It will take time, but he'll pull through.




You are probably right. The society today focuses so much on results that nothing else matter. But still the question that requires introspection is how did he let himself fall so low?

It's terrifying to be in relationships these days with girls and guys been woke. Trust is but a pawn, used to gain an edge and disposed like a worthless sanitary pad.

He should first of all focus on little steps to get himself out of the rut he has found himself. Build himself as a man. Heal. Get his confidence back. Get a hustle that pays. Only then, would having a woman matter.

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by adewumiopeyemi(m): 7:16am On Dec 06, 2020
You need Jesus in your life

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by Acjohn(m): 7:33am On Dec 06, 2020
martius101:
I have been trying to get my life back since I left my ex in 2007/08.i have been stucked with the memories.....I masturbate all the time.i have been doing this for at least 15 years.i can't even talk to any woman and I always have the feeling that they can't date me.i don't even have a life,I smoke all the time.....I don't have a friend,I don't know what my problem is exactly....I dress well ,no job tho...I'm scared AF and don't know what my future looks like.

Make a good pastor your friend and follow everything he says, then watch your life for three months

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by AuntRose(f): 7:44am On Dec 06, 2020
martius101:
I have been trying to get my life back since I left my ex in 2007/08.i have been stucked with the memories.....I masturbate all the time.i have been doing this for at least 15 years.i can't even talk to any woman and I always have the feeling that they can't date me.i don't even have a life,I smoke all the time.....I don't have a friend,I don't know what my problem is exactly....I dress well ,no job tho...I'm scared AF and don't know what my future looks like.
But you'll be the first to call a lady 'olosho' if she shows interest in you. Typical Nigerian Man.
Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by austine4real(m): 7:46am On Dec 06, 2020
U need to believe in ursef first


Boost ur self esteem


Make friends with men who good with women

Stop masturbating

Stop staying indoors

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by uchman(m): 7:49am On Dec 06, 2020
martius101:
I have been trying to get my life back since I left my ex in 2007/08.i have been stucked with the memories.....I masturbate all the time.i have been doing this for at least 15 years.i can't even talk to any woman and I always have the feeling that they can't date me.i don't even have a life,I smoke all the time.....I don't have a friend,I don't know what my problem is exactly....I dress well ,no job tho...I'm scared AF and don't know what my future looks like.

Bros limit your weed intake.

Weed will make you a loner.
It will make you to be procrastinating...
Weed is a jealous lover, when taken in excess, it doesn't permit one to go after woman because you will not have the time for women initial Gra Gra...

You will rarely have friends too except you are not living alone.

As you have not talked to any woman this years,
haven't they talked to you too?

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by Shortyy(f): 8:00am On Dec 06, 2020
Godada:





You are probably right. The society today focuses so much on results that nothing else matter. But still the question that requires introspection is how did he let himself fall so low?

It's terrifying to be in relationships these days with girls and guys been woke. Trust is but a pawn, used to gain an edge and disposed like a worthless sanitary pad.

He should first of all focus on little steps to get himself out of the rut he has found himself. Build himself as a man. Heal. Get his confidence back. Get a hustle that pays. Only then, would having a woman matter.


It's not that easy Bros. A lot of things will trigger whatever he went through. Thereby, frustrating any efforts he tries to move further.

It takes a lot of strength and courage to overcome PTSD.

For example now, he might be at a work place and see someone that looks like his ex pass, he'll become depressed immediately, and whatever zeal he had at that moment will die.
Insomnia, emotional stress, fear, low self-esteem, are just some of the things he'd be battling.

I get your point though, he had to move on nonetheless, but it's not gonna be easy. For some it'll take them years to get over it.

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by walepackage(m): 8:13am On Dec 06, 2020
Shortyy:


See, it's not always about getting a job here. He's suffering from PTSD and he either talks to a therapist to cure himself or work it out himself. It will take time, but he'll pull through.
yes, you are right.its more of psychological.all in all it depends on how ready is he in getting out of this.
Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by officialfestus(m): 8:33am On Dec 06, 2020
martius101:
I have been trying to get my life back since I left my ex in 2007/08.i have been stucked with the memories.....I masturbate all the time.i have been doing this for at least 15 years.i can't even talk to any woman and I always have the feeling that they can't date me.i don't even have a life,I smoke all the time.....I don't have a friend,I don't know what my problem is exactly....I dress well ,no job tho...I'm scared AF and don't know what my future looks like.
https://www.nairaland.com/5223408/masturbation-quitting-challenge-thread/495#96719082
Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by Uyi168: 8:48am On Dec 06, 2020
ojun50:
Then start askin men out

At 29 I started planning my marriage even when there was no job, no family and friends support but I got God beside me.
At 31 I did my marriage and we are leaving happily.

Mistake most youth make is not starting life with a little job... don't wait till you get a bigger boy.
.
Not everyone will end up like u.
All these nonsense about starting small seff

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by meobizy(f): 8:49am On Dec 06, 2020
I wish the courage to approach women was my only problem in life. OP is here complaining over a luxury.

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by paulolee(m): 9:04am On Dec 06, 2020
op calm down...DTS not a problem bt seems more like a curse bcox dt soo called courage don ruin so many people career n marriage

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by Craig24: 9:04am On Dec 06, 2020
martius101:
I have been trying to get my life back since I left my ex in 2007/08.i have been stucked with the memories.....I masturbate all the time.i have been doing this for at least 15 years.i can't even talk to any woman and I always have the feeling that they can't date me.i don't even have a life,I smoke all the time.....I don't have a friend,I don't know what my problem is exactly....I dress well ,no job tho...I'm scared AF and don't know what my future looks like.



What's your destiny in life?

At 31, you ought to have known why you were born n your reason 4 being alive till today.

When you've found your destined call n begin to practice it then life will be very easy 4 you.
Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by Dreyton36: 9:08am On Dec 06, 2020
Come make I teach you Yahoo
Women go woo you , no be you go woo them


Lights up my kpoli in peace

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by Godada(m): 9:37am On Dec 06, 2020
Shortyy:


It's not that easy Bros. A lot of things will trigger whatever he went through. Thereby, frustrating any efforts he tries to move further.

It takes a lot of strength and courage to overcome PTSD.

For example now, he might be at a work place and see someone that looks like his ex pass, he'll become depressed immediately, and whatever zeal he had at that moment will die.
Insomnia, emotional stress, fear, low self-esteem, are just some of the things he'd be battling.

I get your point though, he had to move on nonetheless, but it's not gonna be easy. For some it'll take them years to get over it.



That's deep. You speak from experience though.

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by martius101(m): 9:40am On Dec 06, 2020
AuntRose:

But you'll be the first to call a lady 'olosho' if she shows interest in you. Typical Nigerian Man.




bro that's not the issue here.....shey if she gimme sign....I still have the feeling that I am still ok..... nobody gives me sign.
Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by martius101(m): 9:43am On Dec 06, 2020
Dreyton36:
Come make I teach you Yahoo
Women go woo you , no be you go woo them


Lights up my kpoli in peace





bros...lemme tell more about me...I started Yahoo...2005 in SS2.....bro no place wey I no go still have no way forward....I am here on NL because I can stay anonymous....I have done a lot of things ......make I no just dey talk...

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Re: Pls Help Me...i Can't Ask A Woman Out At 31 by martius101(m): 9:45am On Dec 06, 2020
Dreyton36:
Come make I teach you Yahoo
Women go woo you , no be you go woo them


Lights up my kpoli in peace







bro you don't know my story......lemme tell you a little about me.


I started doing Yahoo 2005 and till now...no way forward....I am saying this because I can stay anonymous....I have been to places...I have had obstacles,but still no way forward...chop this and that.

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