kenwills:
Hello Nairalanders,
Ever since I came back from school due to the pandemic and ASUU's strike, my younger brother has never shown me an iota of respect. I discovered he is into internet scam, and I cautioned him seriously to desist from such but he never listened.

He mocks me indirectly to my hearing, gathers little children in the neighborhood, tells them all sorts of defamatory things to say about me. Whenever this children see me around the compound, they start making jest of me and calling me all sort of unprintable names.
I warned him sternly to stop all of that else he would regret it. But the more I speak the worse he becomes in disrespecting and defaming my personality in the neighborhood.

I have been emotionally down for some days now due to this issue, but I refused to use violence on him out of anger.

Pls help me what can I do?

Dont beg for respect, earn it.
But if he keeps disrespecting you beat the hell out of him

I don't have nonsense brother

I come beat ham to stupor, him mama go pity ham

kenwills:
Hello Nairalanders,
Ever since I came back from school due to the pandemic and ASUU's strike, my younger brother has never shown me an iota of respect. I discovered he is into internet scam, and I cautioned him seriously to desist from such but he never listened.

He mocks me indirectly to my hearing, gathers little children in the neighborhood, tells them all sorts of defamatory things to say about me. Whenever this children see me around the compound, they start making jest of me and calling me all sort of unprintable names.
I warned him sternly to stop all of that else he would regret it. But the more I speak the worse he becomes in disrespecting and defaming my personality in the neighborhood.

I have been emotionally down for some days now due to this issue, but I refused to use violence on him out of anger.

Pls help me what can I do?

Arrange for a time when your parents won't be around. Lock him in the house, use cane and beat him very well. The summary of the beating is that you make him kneel down and raise up his hand.
You will only need to do it once and that will be it. He will begin to respect.

Myhusband:




your post was becoming interesting until you mention buy him drinks, go to supermarket bla bla, did the op tell you his brother is doing birthday?


op, e be like say you no get anything wey dey bothered you, if you get you no go dey monitor someone that have his life to live


abeg give the dude freedom and mind your business, minding your business will give you your respect back, no be everything elderly people dey do cho cho to if you don't want to lose ya respect


mind your fúcking business and learn to overlook things that are not dangerous around him

Na wa ooo...

Tony142:





u are mad, who told u na who get money be senior? idiot



my father is the richest in his family, my father is also the last born out of 7 children, if there is a family meeting if the elder ones are talking my father dare not open his mouth to talk, it is what ever the senior ones said that he will agree on, he did not have his one say.

You're a fool.. Who asked you ,if your father that gave birth to a FOOL like you is rich?
Wild animal!

cynthia500:
Mods please make this a new rule,
we hate it when someone who should have been banned since will still be teaching our children on how to use the F words,

Please share this everywhere so this can go round,
that moniker called slawormiir needs to be banned,
how can you keep using the F WORD on a public forum?
The F word is niggar,
for those that are also copying him and be shouting damn niggar
up and down should please take note and desist from this,
damn niggar is an insult to the black mans race but we just dont
know of it.
Thats what the whites uses to insult blacks there in the U.S
WHY ARE WE THIS IGNORANT AND REFUSED TO KNOW THE
TRUTH!
He keeps advertising to us he smokes and drinks and do a lot of
bombings in his laptop,
please is this the life we should be celebrating in this country,
we need good morals of youths that can show signs of leadership
and strenghts and not all this nonsense damn niggar we keep
seeing up and down our front pages,
please mods ban this slawormiir of a guy too,
he is adding nuisance to our beloved forum nairaland and also
teaching some peacefull youths on how to smoke and live the
nonsense niggar life,
i pray we all have sense to reject this damn niggar guy and
embrace the truth.
Damn niggar can never help us,
i repeat this damn niggar can never help us,
i drop my case,
(mods please take note,
for we can only celebrate heroes that adds meaninful things to our
lives and our environment and not this useless damn nigga we all
see on our front pages)
inshort make this a rule if any account is found wanting of ever
mentioning that F word called damn nigga again should be given
the heavy harmmer of ban straight away,
i dont want a situation whereby little children can now use this
damn niggar as their daily mantra,
we need to stop all this right now.
thanks.

Complete nonsense


Smelly pant

DoubleEngine007:
You're a fool.. Who asked you ,if your father that gave birth to a FOOL like you is rich?
Wild animal!

I know your problem bro, it is frustration caused by hunger, as a good Nigerian that I am drop your account number let me bless your small life with some cash #wink

cynthia500:
Mods please make this a new rule,
we hate it when someone who should have been banned since will still be teaching our children on how to use the F words,

Please share this everywhere so this can go round,
that moniker called slawormiir needs to be banned,
how can you keep using the F WORD on a public forum?
The F word is niggar,
for those that are also copying him and be shouting damn niggar
up and down should please take note and desist from this,
damn niggar is an insult to the black mans race but we just dont
know of it.
Thats what the whites uses to insult blacks there in the U.S
WHY ARE WE THIS IGNORANT AND REFUSED TO KNOW THE
TRUTH!
He keeps advertising to us he smokes and drinks and do a lot of
bombings in his laptop,
please is this the life we should be celebrating in this country,
we need good morals of youths that can show signs of leadership
and strenghts and not all this nonsense damn niggar we keep
seeing up and down our front pages,
please mods ban this slawormiir of a guy too,
he is adding nuisance to our beloved forum nairaland and also
teaching some peacefull youths on how to smoke and live the
nonsense niggar life,
i pray we all have sense to reject this damn niggar guy and
embrace the truth.
Damn niggar can never help us,
i repeat this damn niggar can never help us,
i drop my case,
(mods please take note,
for we can only celebrate heroes that adds meaninful things to our
lives and our environment and not this useless damn nigga we all
see on our front pages)
inshort make this a rule if any account is found wanting of ever
mentioning that F word called damn nigga again should be given
the heavy harmmer of ban straight away,
i dont want a situation whereby little children can now use this
damn niggar as their daily mantra,
we need to stop all this right now.
thanks.

Why don't you simply mind your business,, this a public forum and everyone is entitled to his or her opinion.

Nazgul:
Beat hell out of him. How can your younger brother openly disrespect you? As long as you keep quiet he'll continue deal with him by teaching him a lesson he'll never forget in his life.

Pls don't follow this advice... But go with the writer above him.

cynthia500:
Mods please make this a new rule,
we hate it when someone who should have been banned since will still be teaching our children on how to use the F words,

Please share this everywhere so this can go round,
that moniker called slawormiir needs to be banned,
how can you keep using the F WORD on a public forum?
The F word is niggar,
for those that are also copying him and be shouting damn niggar
up and down should please take note and desist from this,
damn niggar is an insult to the black mans race but we just dont
know of it.
Thats what the whites uses to insult blacks there in the U.S
WHY ARE WE THIS IGNORANT AND REFUSED TO KNOW THE
TRUTH!
He keeps advertising to us he smokes and drinks and do a lot of
bombings in his laptop,
please is this the life we should be celebrating in this country,
we need good morals of youths that can show signs of leadership
and strenghts and not all this nonsense damn niggar we keep
seeing up and down our front pages,
please mods ban this slawormiir of a guy too,
he is adding nuisance to our beloved forum nairaland and also
teaching some peacefull youths on how to smoke and live the
nonsense niggar life,
i pray we all have sense to reject this damn niggar guy and
embrace the truth.
Damn niggar can never help us,
i repeat this damn niggar can never help us,
i drop my case,
(mods please take note,
for we can only celebrate heroes that adds meaninful things to our
lives and our environment and not this useless damn nigga we all
see on our front pages)
inshort make this a rule if any account is found wanting of ever
mentioning that F word called damn nigga again should be given
the heavy harmmer of ban straight away,
i dont want a situation whereby little children can now use this
damn niggar as their daily mantra,
we need to stop all this right now.
thanks.

Why don't you simply mind your business,, this a public forum and everyone is entitled to his or her opinion.

How old are you my brother

You are focusing your attention on irrelevant things. If your mind and metals powers are properly engaged on productive things, you won't have time to focus on what your brother says about you.

Your value has drastically reduced before your brother. Maybe he has money more than you, etc. So insulting and talking down on you is the way he's using to pass the message to you.

Go back to the drawing board and meditate where you failed it and please leave him to live his life.

kenwills:


He is 17yrs old and I'm 26yrs.
Whenever I caution him he looks for another way to make fun of me.
I do give him money sometimes.

Almost 10yrs differences and he disrespect you.
If he grwo up and live with your parents, they spiilo him. I'm A year and 5months older than my sister and she doesn't disrespect me. Of you see us you will think we are twins. My younger brother is 6yrs and some months younger than me and he dares not disrespect any of us openly. My grandma pull your teeth and give you to swallow. While me being the elder one don't disrespect them either. My younger brother as a child would prefer o beat her than report him to my mom or my granny for talking back at me. I can't bully them either cos it's not allowed in my house.
My advice to you is to ignore your brother and mind yourself. Of he notice that you don't have his time, he will atty using his head.

kenwills:


He is 17yrs old and I'm 26yrs.
Whenever I caution him he looks for another way to make fun of me.
I do give him money sometimes.

Is he physically bigger or stronger?
Do you do your pushups regularly?
Start the gym. Learn boxing. You will tire your body out so much that you won't even have time for anyone. Engage yourself in strenuous physical activities. You won't notice him and you won't feel little.

I think u should stay away from him , before small boy go beat old man , behave as if u don't know him , i think if u do this he won't respect or disrespect u . Your value will remain with u and when u resume school , don't go home when ever u have holiday , stay away from home for a long time let your brother and parents miss your presence.

What ur parents reaction 2 dat?

Most times, mothers tend 2 b in support cos of d little change she collects from him.

kenwills:

He is 17yrs old and I'm 26yrs. Whenever I caution him he looks for another way to make fun of me. I do give him money sometimes.

chaiiiiii u cold sha

use belt on him. chickina

Starboytwo:
He is 17(Big boy)

He is into G( hotel life, drinks, drugs, clique already)

He dosent respect you( honestly I don't know how that happens How will your 17 year old bro not respect you) don't you guys play football together, Pes, Fifa, chill ? You suppose to be his role model man?

conclusion beating him is a waste of time and a wrong move. My young bro sometimes do wahrah, some times I change it for them, and whenever we play Pes, I beat him silly, like 5-1 6-0 7-1, once I did him 11-2, he wan cry...

If we play football, I mark him out, dribble him, beat his every move I know for sure I'm his role model when it comes to football so i know his game.and that's when he gets mad most, i can anticipate all his move I most definitely always win his set.

But we cool, we vibe, we work together, I give them OT, update etc...

Just chill with your bro, and don't look age at all, you won't believe "updates these boys got"... Chill with your bro manh...

Not all brothers are "chillable" with.

What works with you might not work with another because of circumstances tied to upbringing.

Let him avoid and ignore his brother until the devil that has possessed him will either leave or destroy him.

I may be wrong,I don't know your relationship with him.
But,
Such things are called rebellion, rebellion comes from oppression.
You may have treated him really bad when u guys where still little. You are 9years older than him,so let me say if he was 5 u where 14,u where a Teen and he was a kid. He might have looked up to u then but u shoved,now he is a teen and no more a kid and he remembers and he resents you, it hurts him whenever he remembers how you treated him,so the only way to pay u back is to ridicule you.

I am speaking from experience.
So now be humble enough to bring him closer and ask for his forgiveness, if he persists then free him.

But for those telling you go and beat him up,be very very careful.
U never see where younger brother embarrass him elder b4 abi? OK
Don't even try it,because the anger in him is beyond your physical strength.
I rest my case.

kenwills:


He is 17yrs old and I'm 26yrs.
Whenever I caution him he looks for another way to make fun of me.
I do give him money sometimes.

Go and focus on your runs and stop demanding respect.
You students carry education on top of you head. Can't you learn another thing from internet and make way forward?
Anybody 18 years and above is a FULL BLOWN adult. You are eligible to marry, get passport, driving licence, drink, born children, anything!!!
You shouldn't even be in that house complaining about who respect you or not.
What if ASUU never calls off their strike? Will you die because of that?
Your brother is looking up to you and you are messing up. That's why he's making fun of you.
Focus on your runs he will respect you

it is not because he has not made money as some people re saying here, cos at this stage now both of them re growing and in school, someth factors i consider responsible for this is first, what is the family up bringing and training like? are both parents living? if yes, what do they say wen ur younger brother disrespect u? I say this cos in my family where i grow up, my parents inforce discipline, they sternly resist any of the younger ones disrespecting their seniors, infact u earn serious punishment if u do. Another thing i think lead to this is like the guy in question is too quiet, even in his submitions here, u can vividly notice that frm his writeup, and because of being too cold, the small younger brother, he seniors with oclose to 10yrs want to over shadow him. Who does that in my family? i have 4 junior brothers following me and we even give only 2 yrs gap and they re way taller and bigger than me, yet i command their respest till tommorow, 3 of them re even married and even their wifes follow suit in that respect, so i guess u sowed this seed u re reaping now....and most, importantly, its obvious that guy has joined bad gangs, u can see that even in ur neighborhood, with even the age difference, he commands much respect than u, thats why, he could influence younger guys there to insult u, cos those guys too dnt have respect for u, not just ur younger brother. To tackle this, one, using for or beating him like some people re saying will not help, it will worsen the already bad situation, u re going to use diplomacy here, by first working on ur own self confidence that is already shaltered, then u re going to give him some distance, pay less attention on what he does, focus more on u, talk less to him, by this i dont mean keep malice with him, no, but only talk wit him wen neccessary. then stamp ur authority as the senior, this u do intelligently, wen issues arises that demands u to show up as the senior, take responsibilities, stop being too cold, be the man. I hope this helps...

pafo:
My immediate elder bro is 9yrs older than I am and never have I disrespected him even til now that I am an adult. The fear of his back-hand slap alone don reach to fear me.

If you cannot deal with your little brother at home, there is nothing we can do about it here.

mine is even just 3 years, though I call him by his name and we talk like mate,because dat is d way we are from d begining, we drink, play do all things together, dat ppl even our set use to call us twins
but wen he vex,I know better Dan to face him
though we play like mate but still got a lot of respect for him, he treat me like his mate hence why we r best of friends till date
love u bro

kenwills:


He is 17yrs old and I'm 26yrs.
Whenever I caution him he looks for another way to make fun of me.
I do give him money sometimes.

Get physical with him. Kick his black ass.

To me the fault is from the parents, because from the beginning if your parents did not bring you up in a discipline way it always result in that way. I will like you to table this matter before your parents thank you.

lol go and have money

Touch him small in the presence of those kids, so those silly kids will be scared of you.

Infact, beat him very well.

kenwills:
Hello Nairalanders,
Ever since I came back from school due to the pandemic and ASUU's strike, my younger brother has never shown me an iota of respect. I discovered he is into internet scam, and I cautioned him seriously to desist from such but he never listened.

He mocks me indirectly to my hearing, gathers little children in the neighborhood, tells them all sorts of defamatory things to say about me. Whenever this children see me around the compound, they start making jest of me and calling me all sort of unprintable names.
I warned him sternly to stop all of that else he would regret it. But the more I speak the worse he becomes in disrespecting and defaming my personality in the neighborhood.

I have been emotionally down for some days now due to this issue, but I refused to use violence on him out of anger.

Pls help me what can I do?

Instead of you to man up and travel to impact the World, you are under same roof whining like a shameless Bitch about you lil' Brother. Respect is not to be demanded but earned! Focus on benefitting Humanity with you Life, respecting and famzing you would be automatic when he sees the World celebrate you! Don't be stupid forever by trying to force forever by trying to force him, rather, let his behavior towards you motivate you to Greatness! The World has so much Problems, solve one and watch the World enthrone you!

am 4years older dan my brother..he be army sef ,we reason like friend,but d respect is still dere ..if you want respect you have to earn it.not by forcing him to do so

Just follow these steps, 1. don't advise him again 2. reduce the way to communicate with him. 3. make a way that he hardly see you, because when he sees you always and you not making money like him he will always disrespect you. 4. report the case to some one older than both of you who he also respect. 5. Pray to God that your ways should be open, when things better for you na uncle him go they call you. 6. remove age from respect deeds bring respect. thanks

No wonder certain comments are made on this forum and you wonder. In this same forum you see people easily insult folks so casually.
Look deeper and you will find out 90% of members are kids.