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Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by no1concept: 10:50pm On Dec 09, 2020
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by KinzyeWriter(m): 10:51pm On Dec 09, 2020
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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nobody: 10:51pm On Dec 09, 2020
Bro, kindly tell your cousin to wife that lady ASAP [No jokes], else he might regret it in future.


God when..

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Disappointed: 10:52pm On Dec 09, 2020
Yapa!
Come on! Let's tear it off!
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Disappointed: 10:53pm On Dec 09, 2020
Sure bro.



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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Disappointed: 10:53pm On Dec 09, 2020
Ntor
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nobody: 10:53pm On Dec 09, 2020
Ain't reading shii. grin

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by jagaban002(m): 10:54pm On Dec 09, 2020
This deep but this for their better future .

The girl will wait and she will be applying also at least she apply for him so what u can do for another u can surely do it for yourself .

If this story is true and she’s applying everyday for 5month for him so she can apply for herself latest 1year she will land her own job too at Scotland for wherever the bobo Dey.

Next

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by BaddieFreak(f): 10:54pm On Dec 09, 2020
Judging by your write up, if anybody is going to Bleep up along the line, it is going to be your cousin

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Vikkoh(m): 10:55pm On Dec 09, 2020
Tell your cousin that a Representative of the Council of Elders; Nairaland branch, told you to tell him that wetin go be, go be. Having said that, It's left for the both of them to plan how things will go during his sojourn to the White Man's land. If they're meant to be, it'll be so. Just let fate do it's work.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nobody: 10:57pm On Dec 09, 2020
BaddieFreak:
Judging by your write up, if anybody is going to Bleep up along the line, it is going to be your cousin


I expected this but you were too fast.


Try to be calming down ma'am.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nazgul: 11:00pm On Dec 09, 2020
It's not easy to get a girl who will sacrifice so much for you. If he looses her, he might not find someone of her caliber.

My advice? Tell him to marry her, impregnate her, then move to Scotland. Within the 9 months of the pregnancy and the 16 months of weaning the child, (which should make it over two years in total) he should be able to get her to join him in Scotland. That way he can be rest assured that she wouldn't be cheat cos she would be very busy taking care of their child.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Vikkoh(m): 11:03pm On Dec 09, 2020
Nazgul:
It's not easy to get a girl who will sacrifice so much for you. If he looses her, he might not find someone of her caliber.

My advice? Tell him to marry her, impregnate her, then move to Scotland. Within the 9 months of the pregnancy and the 16 months of weaning the child, (which should make it over two years in total) he should be able to get her to join him in Scotland. That way he can be rest assured that she wouldn't be cheat cos she would be very busy taking care of their child.

Nice advice.
I thought they said Pregnant women usually have sexual urges than when they're not pregnant.
Who wan dey satisfy her konji during that time?

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Jodha(f): 11:05pm On Dec 09, 2020
Her type is rare o...if yhur cousin faqks this up... that's he's loss seriously...

To avoid stories that touch... I'll advice him to do the needful by paying her brideprice... nothing elaborate but just to mark his territory....

So that when he comes back...the full wedding procedures may commence..

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by tobechi74: 11:07pm On Dec 09, 2020
Pursue your dream, forget the hoes

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Jodha(f): 11:07pm On Dec 09, 2020
Nazgul:
It's not easy to get a girl who will sacrifice so much for you. If he looses her, he might not find someone of her caliber.

My advice? Tell him to marry her, impregnate her, then move to Scotland. Within the 9 months of the pregnancy and the 16 months of weaning the child, (which should make it over two years in total) he should be able to get her to join him in Scotland. That way he can be rest assured that she wouldn't be cheat cos she would be very busy taking care of their child.

Impregnate her because she doesn't have plans for herself ??

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nazgul: 11:08pm On Dec 09, 2020
Jodha:


Impregnate her because she doesn't have plans for herself ??
She will be married to him, or has it become a crime for a married woman to get pregnant?

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Jodha(f): 11:11pm On Dec 09, 2020
Nazgul:

She will be married to him, or has it become a crime for a married woman to get pregnant?

She's also working and pursuing her career....how do yhu expect her to leave all that and single handedly take care of a baby in the absence of it's father..

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Dissap: 11:12pm On Dec 09, 2020

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by UndauntedYOCA(f): 11:13pm On Dec 09, 2020
Who finds a good, supportive and loving person and still asks questions? The answer is obvious.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nazgul: 11:18pm On Dec 09, 2020
Jodha:


She's also working and pursuing her career....how do yhu expect her to leave all that and single handedly take care of a baby in the absence of it's father..
She supported and contributed greatly his journey to Scotland according to the op, it's not like he just woke up one morning and decided to leave the country.

He can be supporting her financially, and maintain constant communication with her pending when she'll join him over there.

As for her career, she can apply for maternity leave in her place of work, and look for a family relative who can help with the domestic work in the house while she weans the baby.

In less than 2 years, she'll be reunited with him... and they can both live happily ever.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Jodha(f): 11:21pm On Dec 09, 2020
Nazgul:

She supported and contributed greatly his journey to Scotland according to the op, it's not like he just woke up one morning and decided to leave the country.

He can be supporting her financially, and maintain constant communication with her pending when she'll join him over there.

As for her career, she can apply for maternity leave in her place of work, and look for a family relative who can help with the domestic work in the house while she weans the baby.

In less than 2 years, she'll be reunited with him... and they can both live happily ever.

Just marrying her will equally do the trick don't yhu think so?

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nazgul: 11:23pm On Dec 09, 2020
Jodha:


Just marrying her will equally do the trick don't yhu think so?
Lol...that's exactly what I said in my first post. You obviously didn't read it.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Jodha(f): 11:26pm On Dec 09, 2020
Nazgul:

Lol...that's exactly what I said in my first post. You obviously didn't read it.

Yhu said marry her and get her pregnant..

I'm saying it's not necessary for her to get pregnant....at least not until he's back...he can pay her brides price and travel

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by odinson1(m): 11:28pm On Dec 09, 2020
Jodha:
Her type is rare o...if yhur cousin faqks this up... that's he's loss seriously...

To avoid stories that touch... I'll advice him to do the needful by paying her brideprice... nothing elaborate but just to mark his territory....

So that when he comes back...the full wedding procedures may commence..

You ladies never disappoint!



@Op Pls I will advice you not to Ever Take Relationship Advice from women because the don't really care about you bro,They are only interested in what will benefit Their Fellow woman so they will give you any advice that suits their Selfish narrative,so long as it Is in favour of A woman.

Now bro Pls Don't make the mistake of Marrying or Impregnating that girl because she will become a burden to you in the future if you are not Financially stable yet! Leave relationships now, pursue your dreams,make money first because a woman will only slow you down(The only exception here is if she Is an Independent working class lady who doesn't make Stupid and Unnecessary demands)

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