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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by odinson1(m): 3:13pm On Dec 10, 2020
Sixfeetbelle:


Someone that helped him get to where he is right now is who you're advising him to betray like this?



Seriously, some of you men deserve everything and anything bad the women you meet do to you.

Kindly Tell me how she "Helped him get to where he is right now"
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by godforus(m): 3:13pm On Dec 10, 2020
Blackpearlous:


If I know the lady I will advise her to leave him.

I can't imagine someone I'm in a relationship with, I live you so much that I applied for 5months for you to get a job in Scotland.

You are now discussing what will happen to us when you leave. Are you mad no? I didn't think of that while applying.

I will just dump you that your re a waste of my time.

For the begging sef If I see your sacrifice is not matching mine I will walk away.

Not talking about the amount of money but the amount of effort you put just to be with me, with or without money.
it feels so sad. The guy doesn't appreciate the lady. A woman who has done all these for you truly loves you and has no intention to hurt you by cheating in your absence. Sure it can still happen due to mistake or sort of in the midst of long-time-no-see. But she loves him a great deal no doubt, and that is all that should matter.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by doayt09: 3:13pm On Dec 10, 2020
tobechi74:
Pursue your dream, forget the hoes
Hahahaha.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by doayt09: 3:15pm On Dec 10, 2020
Honestly, if I were your cousin, I would stick with the girl.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Sixfeetbelle: 3:15pm On Dec 10, 2020
odinson1:


Kindly Tell me how she "Helped him get to where he is right now"

Are you the one that kept applying for his Scotland job when he stopped as well as also praying for his application to be successful?

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Dreciousoreva01(f): 3:17pm On Dec 10, 2020
yo cousin is finna be wicked and ungrateful or what?
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Legalese(m): 3:20pm On Dec 10, 2020
Pay bride price.
Do a simple court wedding.
Get her pregnant if you want.
Keep yourself for her and pray she does same.
Hustle and get shit popping.
Come back and do a nice cosy wedding.
Get your beautiful family to join you outta of this country.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Lamanii22(f): 3:24pm On Dec 10, 2020
BaddieFreak:
Judging by your write up, if anybody is going to Bleep up along the line, it is going to be your cousin


You're so right....

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Blackpearlous(f): 3:38pm On Dec 10, 2020
godforus:
it feels so sad. The guy doesn't appreciate the lady. A woman who has done all these for you truly loves you and has no intention to hurt you by cheating in your absence. Sure it can still happen due to mistake or sort of in the midst of long-time-no-see. But she loves him a great deal no doubt, and that is all that should matter.

Yea.. he is the one not in love.

It's their life Sha.. few minutes ago I was very upset.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Coinbased: 3:45pm On Dec 10, 2020
hmmm
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by dominique(f): 3:46pm On Dec 10, 2020
And yet another "I was with him when he had nothing..." Lady has been made, she just doesn't know it yet. This is why it is very dangerous for a lady to support these struggling men. Majority of them eventually disappoint once they start making money.

Your cousin has achieved what he wants to achieve through her and no longer has use for her. For him to be having misgivings about the relationship shows he is losing interest in her.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by frozen70(f): 3:48pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.

This is a very simple case, it's your cousin that is making it complex

They both love them selves, he is relocating and he doesn't know how to handle it

What stops him from going to the girl's family to introduce himself and make his intentions known to her family

That he is relocating doesn't mean he can't come back in six months time or a year time if he wishes

That girl can't wait for him forever, what if he gets there to get hooked to another woman

What you will understand is that whatever you do to people will either hunt your or favour you in life
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by godforus(m): 3:51pm On Dec 10, 2020
Blackpearlous:


Yea.. he is the one not in love.

It's their life Sha.. few minutes ago I was very upset.
about what dear
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Firefox01: 3:55pm On Dec 10, 2020
Don't be selfish, your cousin should not only maintain that relationship but ALSO marry her! It seems the thought of white girls is already making your cousin so excited, he's willing to Bleep up a good things. If your cousin hurts that girl in anyway, just know that things will take a downwards turn for him. He can't escape it.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Aarenasbaba(m): 4:03pm On Dec 10, 2020
Your cousin should continue with her since the lady has not defied any means of breaking up with her.... One of our bro left for America 10 years ago and come back to pick her girlfriend. He even bought her car before processing her passport. Now they are married with a boy and they are doing fine. Tell your friend not to reciprocate good intention with bad and he should should stay positive... During our last discussion with the brother I mentioned earlier...

"Nas, I think it's high time I tell my wife to bring 10m so that she can be part of this real estate investment". He said
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Melonny(m): 4:04pm On Dec 10, 2020
Your cousin should marry that girl.. this kind girl still dey? At least, do introduction before he relocates, then, make he give am Belle.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by ibietela2(m): 4:05pm On Dec 10, 2020
They both should discuss and give a 12 months Gao with constant communication.

After 12 months they will decide
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by bluefilm: 4:06pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.Yours opinions are very much needed.Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.

Nonsense. sad

Tell your cousin I said that.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Nimrod81: 4:07pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.
Your cousin is obviously trying very hard to prove to the heavens that he doesn't deserve a good woman in his life. He can mumu himself and break up with her... But he will never have it that good again... It's not his fault.. Seriously you mean she applied for the job for him, prayed and fasted for him, he got the job and wants to break up? And she was employed before him and stuck by him? Please when he breaks up with her kindly give me her details. Even if she doesn't like me I will introduce her to people that have sense in my extended family. THAT KIND WOMAN NA ASSET.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Whoknowsme: 4:11pm On Dec 10, 2020
odinson1:


You ladies never disappoint!



@Op Pls I will advice you not to Ever Take Relationship Advice from women because the don't really care about you bro,They are only interested in what will benefit Their Fellow woman so they will give you any advice that suits their Selfish narrative,so long as it Is in favour of A woman.

Now bro Pls Don't make the mistake of Marrying or Impregnating that girl because she will become a burden to you in the future if you are not Financially stable yet! Leave relationships now, pursue your dreams,make money first because a woman will only slow you down(The only exception here is if she Is an Independent working class lady who doesn't make Stupid and Unnecessary demands)
. When your sister or any female loved one finds herself in this kind of situation, then u'll go back to ur vomit post and modify it
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by SirBunky85(m): 4:13pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.
very silly question.what do want us to tell ur so called cousin now?some posts on this forum just dey vex me
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Lewandoski20(m): 4:26pm On Dec 10, 2020
Nazgul:
It's not easy to get a girl who will sacrifice so much for you. If he looses her, he might not find someone of her caliber.

My advice? Tell him to marry her, impregnate her, then move to Scotland. Within the 9 months of the pregnancy and the 16 months of weaning the child, (which should make it over two years in total) he should be able to get her to join him in Scotland. That way he can be rest assured that she wouldn't be cheat cos she would be very busy taking care of their child.

Best Advice on this issue.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by linearity: 4:32pm On Dec 10, 2020
She looks like a good girl and they are hard to find.

Your cousin will even have harder time now that he have seen some measure of success to meet a girl that would truly love him for who he is and not for his success, money or abroad based status, either with a foreign based girl or 9ja.

The Bible say, we should not forget the days of our little beginnings. It is hard to find a soulmate out there and a sincere love.

I would say he should wify her before leaving, this way he will have some level of commitment while away, same with her.

Yes, while apart both of them will face serious temptations, but the commitment will serve as an opposing force, but no one truly know how long that force will hold, but it will be there.

Even if one or both of them went astray, they will have something that may pull them back together.

He should not leave that girl, he may regret it in future. Money, fame and success can not buy or get you a good wife.

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by sola12(m): 4:34pm On Dec 10, 2020
Nazgul:
It's not easy to get a girl who will sacrifice so much for you. If he looses her, he might not find someone of her caliber.

My advice? Tell him to marry her, impregnate her, then move to Scotland. Within the 9 months of the pregnancy and the 16 months of weaning the child, (which should make it over two years in total) he should be able to get her to join him in Scotland. That way he can be rest assured that she wouldn't be cheat cos she would be very busy taking care of their child.

U got it right..... I swear selfless woman hard as in very hard to see ooooo
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Arabs999: 4:41pm On Dec 10, 2020
Let our men with female monikers offer advice
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Depressed101: 4:56pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:
Dear Nairalanders,

This post was made by me on behalf of my cousin concerning a current situation he is in and would really love to get the much advice he can about this.

My cousin met this girl 3 years ago when he just finished Youth service and of course, didn't have much financially. He asked her out and the girl readily agreed. Ever since then, it has been a wonderful relationship for the both of them. This girl tolerates my cousin's flaws even when he might be in a bad mood. This girl landed a job before my cousin and through out the 8 months he was jobless, she always stood by him and never cheated once on him. She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.

After my cousin finally landed his first job here in Nigeria, he started applying for jobs in Scotland cos he really had the intention of relocating. He got frustrated after he couldn't land the Scotland jobs after 2 years and gave up. His girl always cheered him up and told him not to give up. She immediately took over the job applications for him which she made every single day from her place of work on her office computer. She, in addition, fasted and prayed for my cousin without his knowledge for him to land his dream job in Scotland.

5 months later, my cousin got an interview and landed the job. He is about relocating.

Now, my cousin is in a dilemma. He has strong intentions about marrying this girl but doesn't know what his moving to the Scotland may result. He can't marry her right now not make arrangements to relocate with her due to the high financial cost. So he intends on leaving first to later come back for her. However, he is absolutely oblivious of what being away from her for too long may cause and would not wish to stay away too long, get entwined with too much work that he forgets about her which will break the girl's heart. Although he and the girl has talked about this, she has said she would wait for him no matter how long it took but has said that the ball is in the court of cousin to decide.

So, my cousin came to me and I have come to you dear Nairalanders.

He is asking if there is a greater advantage in him continuing with the girl all the way from Scotland, defying a long distance relationship or if he should simply end the relationship by the simple reason of not breaking the girl's heart in the long run.

Note: My cousin lives this girl sooo much but wouldn't want to see her get hurt by him.

Yours opinions are very much needed.

Opinions can be given without need for sentimental insults please. Thank you.
your cousin obviously doesn't like her. He's just catching cruise with the innocent girl. If he did he would never contemplate such idea, because girls like that are hard to come by

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Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by VanillaIyce(f): 5:16pm On Dec 10, 2020
[quote author=jagaban002 post=96909947]This deep but this for their better future .

The girl will wait and she will be applying also at least she apply for him so what u can do for another u can surely do it for yourself .

If this story is true and she’s applying everyday for 5month for him so she can apply for herself latest 1year she will land her own job too at Scotland for wherever the bobo Dey.
�I like this but if the cost of relocation is something they can bear..like if the money is there,they should just relocate together..I will hate for any of them to be apart.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by davide470(m): 5:32pm On Dec 10, 2020
dominique:
And yet another "I was with him when he had nothing..." Lady has been made, she just doesn't know it yet. This is why it is very dangerous for a lady to support these struggling men. Majority of them eventually disappoint once they start making money.

Your cousin has achieved what he wants to achieve through her and no longer has use for her. For him to be having misgivings about the relationship shows he is losing interest in her.
Lol. Calm down na
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by DeOTR: 5:48pm On Dec 10, 2020
godforus:
did you regret taking her there? Too much stories of women misbehaving when they are taken to abroad, because they feel empowered.
No regrets. No untoward behavior.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Slynation(m): 5:59pm On Dec 10, 2020
Imagine question?? The kinda woman I'm looking for, This ain't something to deliberate on, he should wife her asap!!
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by solonubinho(m): 5:59pm On Dec 10, 2020
no1concept:


She loves my cousin to the Moon and back.


It takes just 3 days to get to the moon. 6 days from earth to moon and back. Nothing special in that.
Re: Should My Cousin Continue With Her Or End It Mutually Right Now? by Blackpearlous(f): 6:04pm On Dec 10, 2020
godforus:
about what dear

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