BRATISLAVA:


You want love, but you are actually there for a transaction. It won't work.

In Nigeria, the laws are designed to frustrate women, so why does it pain when you finally are at the receiving end abroad?

Most Nigerian men are only married to have a child rearer,a person who will follow their dreams (forget if she has her own personal one, it doesn't matter, you bought her like cattle) and roll over for them. That is what a good wife is. Nobody knows what a good husband should be, it's never discussed.

We should all simply respect each other and treat ourselves right. Nobody is superior or dominant over another one. It will always lead to rebellion if we feel more entitled to things.

jajeri3216:



Thank goodness I'm not with a black woman(original preference is black) , my oyinbo partner is home doing the laundry and cooking as we speak, she doesn't see herself a slave but a trad,(Type trad Western women into twitter.) , I'll gladly do the same for her.

Bills are equal, everything is based on reciprocity not abuse of power.

Like other couples, we argue but no violence or police troubles.

Gifts fly both ways and lastly the relationship isn't based on our rich or poor status.


Compare the aforementioned attributes to an egotistical maniac from one village in Nigeria, wastes all the household funds on useless thing's, hates house choirs, love's collecting without giving, irresponsible child like baboon behaviour , who will call the police on you at the slightest provocation.

All these equality fights is only going to damage the black family as we see in black American.

Now tell me how I'm mentally damaged?

Mikehot:
you don't get my point, I have no business with whatever my wife wants to pursue as a dream, many African men are like this.

I don't mind sweeping, doing chores (did i not do them in my father's house) unless we are beyond that level we can employ house help.

I never for once have like the idea of someone doing my laundry for me (it's like my privacy)

Child rearing is for both parties.

I would support my wife on her dreams when i know she is with me with all her heart.

However i would file the documents so i don't get my heart shattered after everything (both parents should have equal custody of children not the loopsided justice to the woman).

My money is my money, the woman money is her money, i am the one to decide who takes it.

This isn't using the woman, we already shared responsibility 50/50, as you know a man responsibility exceeds the 50% sef.

ndindiatu:



Nigerian men too lie. All is rosy. Make I hear word. After come carry pikin fo Niger. All una dey do na to donate sperm. Go listen to white women .go check their discussions A black man devalues them. If u no know no. Na ones wey their fellow men ;o dey razzle una dey carry. Keep deceiving una selves. At old age una go cry

JovialJune:
In Nigeria, men are kings because the law favours you all, In the abroad, equality is king, and our women use it to their advantage.


The problem you guys have with wives from naija who went to the abroad is your failure to lord over her as it was in naija, y'all still want a lady of servitude who will abide by your rules and wishes cos of what you're used to forgetting obodo oyibo nor send you

It's simple, when you bring your wife over there, just know it is no longer a master slave norm but an equality, relinquish your right as being the head, you'll live your life peacefully,

I have peeps over there, and they're doing just fine.

Princedapace:


lol, not as u have painted it. And also, these ladies should start hustling to go out too!

If anyone picks u up from poverty, clean u up, and brush u up to a better life, u owe that person loyalty. That is the least thing u owe the person. If u cant be loyal, forget about the brush up he is doing on u.

See eh, it is simple law! He who brings you out of poverty and struggle and present u with a better life lords over u. If u cant be loyal to this simple sacrifice, pls, refuse accepting the help and help ur own self by ur own self and lift ur self out of struggle by ur own self.

It is madness and deceptive for a lady to pretend to be loyal and all submissive just to attract a man who will brush her up and lift her out of hell called Nigeria, take her to a better society, then she brings out her demon. That is deception and should be met with brutal force.

If u dont want submission, hustle like men and make ur own money and ur own life. Then marry and the man will know that he added nothing to ur life financially. U guys will truly be equal.

In that western worlds, their women hustle like men, and their women dont rate men mainly based on the size of their pockets. Their women dont see men as means to escape struggle.

U cant eat ur cake and have it!

If i have to sponsor ur university from my hard earned sweat, help u open a business, marry, pay ur bills until u can take care of ur self. U owe me loyalty. I did that becus u were loyal. If when u arrive, u suddenly stop being loyal, it means u deceived me and it should be met with brutal force.

I know ladies who hate to be lord over, they refused any form of help from men o. They hustled and got to the position they wanted all by them selves like men do. They got married and are quite fine.

When most women start running the home financially, they also exhibit the lord character on the man too. It is a natural force. To solve the problem. Both genders should work hard.

DEMZEE:


Relationship is subtly transactional sex

Cocao:


What you just typed has no relationship with what she said. Let me help you. Once you decide to take your wife abroad, you have to leave behind all traces of domineering attitude as the society there frowns on it. What usually causes friction is that Nigerian men think it is going to be business as sual even abroad.[b] They expect the women to remain as the slaves they were in Nigeria [/b]which is not possible in a land of opportunity. It threatens them that their women are now free to hustle and make their own choices. So, maybe begin to see your wife as an equal partner and record less frictions.

BRATISLAVA:


Please, dominate her, treat her exactly the way you've been programmed to treat Nigerian women. Exactly the way gay Martin prescribed. Don't go out of your way because she's white. Be exactly as you are, and if she's not emotionally damaged, or into BDSM, or happy playing mom like the usual fetishes, she will leave. There's the possibility you give her money to sedate her.

vivsravine:
ABROAD SISTERS, STOP SHAMING US

How do I start this write up without offending those involved?

Trust me I don't care, because enough is enough of the nonsence you ladies portray over there and forget so soon how you started.

It's no longer news what most of our sisters do to our brothers in the name of marriage overseas is quite alarming.

The news is so hard to bear and you start to wonder who actual birth these type of women, who forget humble beginning.

A man leaves all the ladies in the countries they reside and comes home to pick you as a wife, sometimes they even forget about those good girls they had a life with before they left the country.

He sponsors everyting about you, gets married to you and starts a life with you over there, in less than five years you become wiser than the devil and you begin to act like assistant devil.

Many will have the nerve to call the cops on their husband's in the slightest provacations some of these men go to jail because of martial issues while some of these women become as selfish as cain and they won't give a hoot and many of our brothers lose all their properties over there.

You easily become authoritative because you feel you have arrived and you can't be talked to, many go to the extent of sponsoring their exes to their country of abode, others would build houses here in the country without the consent of their husbands, some will even buy cars and other properties without letting their husbands be in the know.

The records of domestic violence has increased amongst ladies who were picked from here to such civilised countries, they go there and feel they are now wild and cling to have ample rights to discern what happens and nobody can dare them.

Many of our brothers has been deported, some have lost their chances of ever going back to that country and even other countries, many deny them access to their children and finally others go about killing their husbands because of inheritance.

Stop this show of shame and retrace your steps home, stop this abuse you know you can never do back home, in as much as I don't support injustice of any kind, lets stop this bad behaviour and guard your homes.

So many brothers no longer value Nigerian women because of this act that has eaten into them negatively, its a dent on all ladies because even the good ones are now affected badly.

It's another season for them to come back home and pick a wife, you will be with him soon and you will be excited of relocating but immediately you get there, you become as wild as a cat and hunt like a leopard.

So sad, because of this acidious acts, our brothers now come home, marry us and leave us here to take care of the kids while they go hustle and come back intermittently.

Remember karma is a bitch you can win but you won't always win, the repercussions are always closer, nemesis doesn't miss its address and certainly vengeance is of God .

Make ammends now and retrace your steps, don't forget humble beginnings your character is your voice even in your absence it would speak for you.

Ahudiya speaks ©

jajeri3216:


Only in Nigeria are things like bdsm taking seriously, for most European's (real life), bdsm is for the unhinged, another reason i stress why you folks should stop copying.

As far has being myself, you're spot on, imagine having a partner that doesn't care about your money, car and what she gets from you?

That's the missing link in the black female brain because our environment raised us to have a poverty mindset.

BRATISLAVA:


Not everyone is poor.

OchoL:


I'm a woman that fears my own gender.

I pity all the young men in my family.. girls of nowadays are worse than Jezebel

jajeri3216:


Poverty of the mind.

BRATISLAVA:


Not everyone is poor.

And no, BDSM isn't for the unhinged. You meet them everyday doing regular things, but that's who they are at home.

Cocao:


What you just typed has no relationship with what she said. Let me help you. Once you decide to take your wife abroad, you have to leave behind all traces of domineering attitude as the society there frowns on it. What usually causes friction is that Nigerian men think it is going to be business as sual even abroad. They expect the women to remain as the slaves they were in Nigeria which is not possible in a land of opportunity. It threatens them that their women are now free to hustle and make their own choices. So, maybe begin to see your wife as an equal partner and record less frictions.

jajeri3216:


See what I meant. Low iq means easy to indoctrinate.

You gulp up everything you see as fact's.

I'm done, you can't educate ignorance.

BRATISLAVA:


Not everyone is poor. But most men need mental rejuvenation. They only act nice when dating whites. With black, especially Nigerians, they are in beast mode.

jajeri3216:



Y'all need Jesus, watch less porn, listen less to liberal news.

Read history books, watch documentaries less Netflix.

Have a nice day

I'm done..........

CalliDora1:
A God-fearing woman will never do such.

Marry a born-again Christan.
Marry a virtuous woman.
Marry the will of God not oustside His will.

Hathor5:


Keep boycotting. The capable men are enjoying their wives and the cosy, loving homes they create for them.

jajeri3216:



Thank goodness I'm not with a black woman(original preference is black) , my oyinbo partner is home doing the laundry and cooking as we speak, she doesn't see herself a slave but a trad,(Type trad Western women into twitter.) , I'll gladly do the same for her.

Bills are equal, everything is based on reciprocity not abuse of power.

Like other couples, we argue but no violence or police troubles.

Gifts fly both ways and lastly the relationship isn't based on our rich or poor status.


Compare the aforementioned attributes to an egotistical maniac from one village in Nigeria, wastes all the household funds on useless thing's, hates house choirs, love's collecting without giving, irresponsible child like baboon behaviour , who will call the police on you at the slightest provocation.

All these equality fights is only going to damage the black family as we see in black American.

Now tell me how I'm mentally damaged?

Sarita01:


I truly love what you wrote here, you're being more logical than emotional, most of the comments I've read on this topic was written out of emotions and not simple logic.

it's said "he who pays the piper dictates the tune" and also "To whom much is given,much is expected" These quotes summarizes this topic.

Mikehot:
For me alot of men abroad comply to the culture of equal rights, equal works.

For me i don't have problem with ditches, cleaning the house where i live.

If my wife comes up with a better argument why resist it?

If she wants to work better because i only respect you when you bring something to the table.

But you have evaded the main issue raised by op that their are higher percentage of men with the characters above.

They are good to women and respect them, they probably do odd jobs for a living (so no reason to form big at home).

They just looking to go home and find a decent wife that to start a stable family free from the chaos of western women.

Only for such women to come over and take opportunity not necessarily because the man did wrong but because she want to be free off marriage (come home when they like, have nobody to explain to etc).

The man is bound to be on the wrong end of this decision.

The man would naturally want to question the moves, his physiology may be hurt, he takes decision and every justice cripples him the more

JovialJune:



But Alas, I am married, so don't kill yourself over my matter.

bluskyee:
Nice points! But how can we be equal when I bankrolled your travel expenses, paid your tuition, fed and housed you during your training period? Then few months after earning peanuts you want to 50%-50%? Even in corporate organisations, the holder with the greatest stock controls the direction of the company. If you want 50% bring 50% from the onset. Thank you