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Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by streetsoldier1(m): 9:21am On Jan 02, 2021 |
chii8: I'm also a child trainer , I'm friendly with kids and employ that method too. I will stop teaching this January to focus on Biz, educators dey suffer for this Una kantry. oya finish the gist joorr 2 Likes |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by chii8(f): 10:06am On Jan 02, 2021 |
streetsoldier1: Yeah!!! I agree with the suffering part! Just look for another side hustle, although the area where you work determines your pay,an educator at Ajangbadi,Surulere and Lekki or Ikoyi don't earn same oooo |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by ipobarethieves: 7:19pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
Kip koboko/pankere in Ur house.if u spare Ur kids,dem go spoil. 1 Like |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Omezif(m): 7:21pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
It's good to beat a child in a moderate and educating ways. 1 Like |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by simplepee(f): 7:22pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
Yes. Best training method, forget these modern parenting 2 Likes |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by kingxsamz(m): 7:23pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
Lol, and one would wonder why most Nigerians are aggressive in nature. Always quick to resort to violence. What'd you expect when you flogged a child into thinking that the only way to make something right or make correction is through violence and beating? Most of us were flogged during childhood, but in what way has such method of discipline impacted our society collectively? They'll say "spare the rod and spoil the child", yet we're being governed and ruled by criminals. The average Nigerian is corrupt... 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Hardeybahyour: 7:25pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
yes, beating z d way children can be disciplined once they've not matured, but wen such child insist , one should try another of disciplining 1 Like |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by GboyegaD(m): 7:25pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
When necessary, I will spank to help the child remember not to do what s/he has been forewarned not to a couple of times. It doesn't have to be more than 2-3 strokes. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Adakintroy: 7:27pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
It not about the child, Rather it's about understanding the utility or functionality of pain. Pain is like salt..right dosage will give proper taste. Too much will ruined the stew. Dont be blinded by love in any context. 1 Like |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by being(m): 7:27pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
Yes. Children should be beaten with cane. Foolishness is bound in d heart of a child but the ROD of correction drives it far!! For all the caning we received as children- did it kill us, do we feel abused having grown up now? Don't we just make stories of them now? So I wonder what's all these caning being child abuse narrative came from. Of course a child also needs to be shown lots of love not just discipline but discipline by caning is quite important 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Griffon(m): 7:29pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
A few spanking does it. I'm an African man! 4 Likes |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by silverkings: 7:29pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
You must chop beating oh. Know when to flog, when to advise, when to use eye contact to pass a message and when to keep silent. We are Africans 2 Likes |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Dollanaira: 7:31pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
Oh |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Trustedpro: 7:32pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
I beat when it's necessary and not all the time. After they finished crying... I usually explain to them why I gave them such discipline. I do give them free slap at times when I'm broke when they insist on disturbing my relaxation. 2 Likes |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by deekseen(m): 7:32pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
chii8: Same for my 5 year old son too. That isolation gets to him more than anything else. |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by mywells: 7:33pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
Every son wants to be mentored by his father. He wants to
have a special place in his father’s heart. He wants to respect
and emulate him. Down deep, he wants to know his father and
be as close to him as possible. S. D. Gilbert said it well: “It may
be hard on some fathers not to have a son, but it is much
harder on a boy not to have a father.” 2 Likes |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by sammy329(m): 7:34pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
Yes, but it must be done moderately. There are lot of excessive beatings out there and it has not produce any results in our society. I was telling someone that if beating is the main requirement for raising a child, our society will be better for it. What we have is excessive spanking which leads to rebellion. |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by skentelelady(f): 7:34pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
I believe so much in spanking. Atimes back-hand and hand beating. It formats brain. I will warn you like several times about that bad thing but once I make up my mind to pounce on you, you must chop that beating before my body calms down. It works. It makes them run away from that bad thing they are being corrected for because they cant bear the pains from the cane Everyone shouting no beating here are either forming if they mean it, then most times those kids turn out to be mannerless in their behaviour to their parents and outsiders. They are the type that talk back at people or respond with their rude body language. 5 Likes |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by femi4: 7:35pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
bizme:You correct with the rod or any other means but most people only flog/beat kids with the rod. Flogging is not the same as correcting with the rod |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by donMIG(m): 7:36pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
Beat bastard komot from him/her body sef |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by kingxsamz(m): 7:37pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
CalliDora1: So in summary, if your Parents didn't flog you after skipping school lessons to watch Robin hood, your life would have been wayward by now. Ok. 2 Likes |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by A305: 7:38pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
No! Do you beat Dog (an animal) to train it? The way to train a child is Reward good behavior and Punish (non-corporal punishment) for bad behavior. For the punishment: Deny them of whatever give them pleasure. Deny them of their freedom Deny them of thier rights, benefits and allowance Ground them Give them some speech after scolding etc 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by SpartanJ: 7:40pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
bizme: Valid point. It scares the hell out of me too. I have 9, 7 and 2 years old kids at home. I need to get close to make the right impression before they clock 12. May God help me. Amen 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by 900warriorz: 7:41pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
Frequently shouting at a child is even worse...many people don't know it 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by SocialJustice: 7:41pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
No, for how long will you beat especially after they become adults? Parents must learn to get to their kids with words alone. Nigerian parents are terrible at non violent correction communication. You must take knock or slap or belt or wire but for how long? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by mywells: 7:43pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
My big study Bible is almost two inches thick and it has print
that I can actually still read. The publisher laid it out so that the
New Testament has 405 pages. The Old Testament comes out
to 1344 pages. 936 of those pages relate to the kings. That’s
nearly an inch out of my two-inch-thick Bible!
Think about this. With the exception of Job (who was
actually a king-type, a ruler over his own large and influential
family clan), every book from chapter 8 of 1 Samuel until the
end of the Old Testament is either about the kings (1 and 2
Samuel, 1 and 2 Kings, 1 and 2 Chronicles), written by a king
(Psalms—mostly written by David, Proverbs, Ecclesiastes,
Song of Solomon—written by Solomon), remembering the
judgment that came on the nation because of the kings (Ezra,
Nehemiah, Esther, Daniel), or the actual judgments of the
prophets spoken to or during the time of the kings (Isaiah,
Jeremiah, Lamentations, Ezekiel, Hosea, Joel, Amos, Obadiah,
Jonah, Micah, Nahum, Habakkuk, Zephaniah, Haggai,
Zechariah, Malachi).
In other words, these kings were important.
The King of Kings put these guys in there on purpose. |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 7:43pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
skentelelady:Person wey no best him pikin when it's necessary, police go best am for cell when him go wild. Children should be applied the reward and punishment principle. Punishment should be by talking, isolation, and if necessary beating. Just make sure the child knows why he or she is being punished. And also when they do something good, appreciate them so that when you punish them for doing bad, they will understand too. |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Fiscus105(m): 7:44pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
CalliDora1: You don't need to answer foolish post from stupid moderator No wonder society is decaying on hourly basis Any parents that spares cane for child below age 12, even during youthful excubirant stages, he will die of attacks from such child wen he/she grows older. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Clicked: 7:44pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
The excuse Nigerians give to justify hitting their children is that beating them is the only way to make them morally upright individuals. But take a look at our society and you will see that it is the exact opposite. I believe the most you should ever do is spanking, and after the age of five, there shouldn't be any need for that. My mum was the cane handler while my dad used his words. I remember my siblings and I telling ourselves, "Is it not just flogging that mummy will flog us?", if we wanted to do something wrong. The only thing that ever made me pause was my dad's disappointment and inevitable lecture. He will tell you why what you did was wrong and how disappointed he was with you. By the time he was done talking to you, you'll be crying even without any cane touching you. We need to learn to use our words. Children are human, not animals. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by Nobody: 7:44pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
Children understand three languages; the official language, the mother tongue and cane. If you tried the first two and they don't learn, the third one will surely make them do what the fire two required of them. But if the third one didn't work take them for deliverance. Note: Learning is permanent change in behavior 2 Likes |
Re: Child Discipline: Do You Believe In Beating Your Child? by gmaribel(m): 7:44pm On Jan 02, 2021 |
Children need to learn that there are consequences for bad conduct. Canning should be the very last resort. And it's not suitable for all children Because different children respond differently to different types of discipline. 1 Like |
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