leksite120:
And so?
So if the wife's mother slap her no matter what, would she retaliate?

Teaveapoet:



My mother can't hit me cos she doesn't pry in my marital affairs.
I stand against violence, abuse or whatever from anyone. I'm an adult you can hit an adult over a mistake.

Romanoff:
Your mum has and had no right to slap your wife.

Whatever your wife did, she meant well, even though it's bad she collected items on credit.

Your mum should count on you to address the issue, if your mum slapped your wife, she prolly did it cause she didn't think you can handle matters in your home.

If I was your wife, how you set your mother straight will determine if I'll let you continue to lead me as a husband.

Cause a lot of women have been led astray cause the man leading them lacks the capacity to do so.

NiRfreak:
Your mum may be wrong, but your wife is like a child compare to your mom..and your mom must have been fed up of her disrespect and frustration on you. That's why she slapped her.

If she slapped my mummy in my presence after all her role in the birthday debt stuff, I will lay my hand on her to appease my mother. I won't throw her bag out just yet and won't file for divorce just yet, that will be impulsive...
I will just beat her on the spot for slapping my mom. And live with the malice that will ensue.Till she's ready to make peace and apologize, I won't care. I can't live with the idea that my wife slapped my mother without doing anything.That's disrespect to both me and my mother....And such wife will hardly respect me. And depending on her attitude after that incident, that will determine how long we will be together.

Bennysam:

This your comment is reason men die first in marriage

Bennysam:

If you’re a man you will die young in marriage because las las your wife will take advantage of your stupidity and kill you

Bennysam:

Tomorrow people like you will claim they’re red pill

tnerro1:
If my mom slap my wife, I will beg my wife and tell my mom not to do it again. If my wife slaps my mom, I go beat shege comot for her body.

cooooooks:
It is absolutely not normal for mother's to slap their grown, working, independent children. Not in this Nigeria.

leksite120:
Yes, it may not be okay, but we're in Nigeria.
so u mean if your mother slaps u, you'll retaliate

Anfield247:

But don't you think his mom over-reacted?

Godoverevery:
Sometimes I just wonder if most women were created to be trouble in a man Life..... Men are passing through alot ooo.


Your mum was wrong
Your wife was wrong
All of you were wrong

You made a big mistake marrying a materialistic woman and one whom you can't control due to lack of finance.

I wouldn't have divorce her but she stops to be my wife that day.

Freestainworld:
Guys let's hear your opinion, from the story Bellow.


My name is Chidi-ebere Lewis, I have an issue on my mind which I really need your opinions and not insults. I am a teacher in one of the private schools in my area in Isefun and my wife is a Secretary/PA in a big company and her salary a month is like four times what I receive. We have a daughter of two years old and on the day of her second birthday my wife and I decided to throw her a birthday party because on her first birthday we didn’t do much, we just marked the birthday with family members only since I was not buoyant enough to throw an elaborate party for her so for some weeks my wife was very angry with me and when the issue got to my mum she was furious that she was inconsiderate and heartless.

Now the 2nd birthday was at the corner so she began the preparation without my knowledge, buying things for the celebration and keeping them in her friend’s place. Later, she came and told me our child’s birthday was just a week away what was the plan. In response, I said you know, I haven’t been paid for two months now and you have been given me transport to go to work, so, what is on your mind. She gave me a paper with a list of items needed for the party summing up to N105,000 approximately; I was alarmed. ‘Are we throwing a party for the whole community or what, where do you want me to get such an amount from?’ I yelled at her. That’s how trouble started again? I spoke to her mum about it who told her to cut her coat according to her cloth; likewise my mum was.

Unknown to me, some of the things she bought were on credit from her friend who owns a super-market in our area. After the party, some weeks later, her friend, the owner of the super-market, came to the house on a Sunday evening to ask for her money and my mum came to visit us that same day. As we were seeing my mum off, we met her friend coming in from the gate. She started shouting that we have been avoiding her and that we were not coming to her shop to buy things since then. She also said she has seen my wife go to other shops to buy. I was lost in words and I advised her to calm down so that we could talk. We all went back inside the house to listen to her. She narrated to us the whole story and I asked my wife if what she was saying was true and to my greatest surprise she confirmed. In anger, my mum stood up and slapped her and immediately she slapped my mum back and I was so disappointed with her to the extent that I threw all her belongings out and told her to leave my house without touching her. This led to me filing for divorce, ever since the incidence, I have not had peace of mind because I miss my family but if you were in my shoes; what would you do?

BlueAir:
Op mother was not wrong for what she did.chances are high the stupid woman's mother would have done the same .. and op mother didn't slap her because of her son! She slapped the stupid wife because the idiott disgraced the family and marriage.big difference! That wife deserves all blames from all corners. She's a insatiable woman with no sense of contention!she wanted to blackmail the husband into paying for what she had taken on credit without telling him regardless of wether he'll break his legs to pay.shes a dirty player and op is shooting himself more to say he misses her or if he takes it any easy with her!

cooooooks:
Did you forget that OP is currently being owed salary? It is only OP's wife who is bringing in money currently.

spice123:

I like saying the truth without missing words. Oga you need to double your hustle. I was once in your shoes as a Teacher when I got married to my wife. She was earning more than double of my salary until I had to change jobs to a higher pay coupled with home lesson. Believe it or not, man's responsibility is a man's responsibility. If a woman earns higher than you no matter how handsome or the status of a man, he will always be insulted.

cooooooks:
My mom does not slap me. Her mom did not slap her as an adult either. I'm not 10 years old oga.

BlueAir:
Just imagine. And some half wits, are talking of taking the crap

BlueAir:
And so damn what! Because she's feeding and buying him clothes and feeding his family at worse means she should disregard him to a good extent?And he should take any crap from her!? If it's the other way round and the op is the one spending on her ,would u commentors advice her to endure any crrap from him? Hypocrisy of the world mehn

leksite120:
No one mum slaps him. .
What I'm asking is that, if she lose temper one day and she does, would u?

spice123:

I never insulted you Mr. I said the bitter truth. Men need to double their hustle if they want to earn a woman's respect. I am saying this out of experience. These days a lot of men even abandon their basic responsibility like house rent, food and school fees to their wives.
How do you gain respect?

cooooooks:
Where is the crap that OP endured from his wife?

OP's wife was somehow expected to endure an unprovoked slap. Na magic?

OP's mum should not be going around slapping people anyhow. That is the main lesson here.

OP should stop being a Mama's boy and make independent decisions. He has his own family now.

cooooooks:
Where is the crap that OP endured from his wife?

OP's wife was somehow expected to endure an unprovoked slap. Na magic?

OP's mum should not be going around slapping people anyhow. That is the main lesson here.

OP should stop being a Mama's boy and make independent decisions. He has his own family now.

BlueAir:
Who are you deceiving or defending here? The problem is with the average Nigerian money entitlement mentality and it's Ridgid men like uthat makes it worse! Are their mates in the US not supporting their men financially and maritally without making a social mess? And I wasn't against your realistic opinion oga. I was buttering it.

spice123:
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Go and make money. We are not in the U.S

khia:


You're not a man.

BlueAir:
Im not the one to talk about what I have even with money,are Nigerian women any better? And rigid people like u with little or no sense of positive change are the reason Nigerian political mess remains the way it is! Your wacky socio-marital mentality preceeds you! >

BlueAir:
Im not the one to talk about what I have even with money,are Nigerian women any better? And rigid people like u with little or no sense of positive change are the reason Nigerian political mess remains the way it is! Your wacky socio-marital mentality preceeds you! >

Exc2000:



If my Wife's Father Slapped me I'll punch a tooth out of his face

Never ever tolerate people attacking you physically for whatever reason

A mother wanted to give her own child the best second birthday (after poverty made the first one uninteresting) and make the child happy, she works and have means of income, took a loan at a grocery store to make her child happy on the 2nd birthday, she got embarassed for defaulting, untop that she got Slapped by the mother in law

Let them go their separate ways, marriage is not by force or for any party to suffer or become slave


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Preshmane:


Who are you ? The kid still has a lot of birthday to celebrate with them.. the issue here is that the lady is not considerate!! on no account should you take a loan to celebrate birthday, something that's not going to yield money
To me that's the first sign of a stupid person