FuckThaMod:
Women can never be vindicated 100%
Even if all the present children are yours, keep doing DNA test till she has given birth to the last born.
My nigga, never trust women..

officialmario:
Good day to you admi and every member of nairaland
I want to share a story with you
My mame is olanrewju, about five years ago, I met a lady Adedeji folashade and we started game of love, along the line she got pregnant for me but as at when she got pregnant I was planning to travel to Canada then so when I heard the news about her pregnancy I was happy but due to the fact that I was processing my travel then I wasn't having money with me, the mother of this Lady force me that I must marry her compulsorily so I objected her that she should give me more time to settle down, but she promise to carry out all the feeding and she even promise to buy me clothe and shoe for the wedding but I objected her since it is he duty of aan to do that.. There was a lot of argument then so along the line told the lady to stop seeing me...I tried to see folashade but the mother got another apartment for her, Nov 22 2016, shade gave birth to a baby boy at UCH Ibadan but I was not inform about the arrival of the baby, the day I saw shade at gbagi in Ibadan she told me the boy died during childbirth...but I never believe her story, the mother conspire with a young man who is rich to claim the baby...I went to a church for counselling so I was told that I have a son outside which I must make sure I bring back home...I had to use a friend to set shade up to know the truth of the matter and she confess to my friend which I have all the voice note of her confession..they cheatede because I don't have money, they gave another man to father my on biological son..I wanted to take this matter up but my mother told me to hold on just for the fear of been killed..attracted bellow is the picture of the boy that was claimed by another father
Nigerians should please help me, I have been cheated
Please help me repost
I have full evidence and even the voice note of the lady where she confess about the boy.

danowena:


You need to open a fresh thread to get opinions and more views.

cassyrooy:
Many of us are clicking and commenting about this new social anomaly that has come to the fore because of the recent saga with late Mr Tunde, his estranged wife, Mrs Moyo and the former FCMB MD, Adam Nuhu, as well as other cases we've read on the cyber spaces regarding infidelity.

Opinions are diverse but the question remains, what solution does paternity testing offers in a union?

1. It unearth fraudulent women and their deceitful ways: any man, out of choice and/or suspicion that something isn't right can get a test done to ascertain whether he has any direct biological relationship with his wife's birth. This will help put him in the know as to how to manage situations arising and/or linked to a situation of infidelity, betrayal of trust, fraud by his wife, or a possible scenario of baby swapping.

Solution: When you must have failed to ascertain for sure that the kid is yours, men, please remain calm and try again somewhere else. The probability of a misinformed lab technologist handling your case may eventually cause you to break your home. Revalidate that outcome in separate centres.

2. Run maternity tests too to ascertain for sure the child belongs to your spouse: paternity fraud and testing is a very sensitive issue, therefore, as a man who wants to know the truth, don't take a fraction of what exist as truth by conducting only a DNA test for yourself and then exclude the woman who birthed that child. Once you have established that your spouse is the mother but you're not the father, she has a clear case to answer and that is where next-to-confirmation of cheating and adultery may come in.

Solution: don't hastily conclude, gather impeccable proof that you're not the father but your spouse is the mother. There you have trapped her and telling you the truth will become easier.

3. When both paternity and maternity tests fails, then you have the hospital and delivery team to answer as to why you or your spouse share no direct biological relationship with the child: there are plenty reasons why a paternity test may fail, and cheating may not be directly the cause, so watch your handling of the issue and investigate properly before making unwarranted and provocative accusations.

Solution: paternity tests seeks to unravel the truth and the truth is a very complicated thing to understand. We know of baby factories where people go to buy babies in Nigeria, we also know that the tendencies for people to buy children based on their sexes are other forms of premeditated crimes in Nigeria. Therefore, seek the truth, and the total truth which can also be found in cases where nurses engage in switching babies of opposite sexes and then collecting money for thee illicit endeavour.

4. Paternity fraud vindicates or allay fears of the unknown: we all know that not all cheating women authenticate their infidelity with a child, but where you can genuinely prove that the children belongs to you and your spouse, your mind should as quickly as possible return to your marriage, to work on your insecurities and other marital issues in other not to give room for eventually problems.

Solution: sue that institution that out of their negligence has put you and your wife under intense financial drain, emotionally traumatizing endeavour and get justice for those who went home without verifying the biological identity of their offspring. Also, to unearth the criminal culprits perpetrating these crimes.

Therefore, men and women, do not stand against paternity/maternity tests if you know you've not committed any marital infractions, rather stand down and let the suspecting spouse carry own with his/her investigation, you never can tell, you may not be at fault but someone has explanations to give to you and this may be another experience altogether.

For the women, it hurts when you are seen as someone who had done the worst thing on earth, if you love that child, or any child in your union, please always do the right thing. Don't cheat when you're cheated up, rather be bold enough to walk away. Cheating out of revenge will eventually bring more problems than your intended revenge seeking. And also, please women, terminate every thread connecting you to any ex no matter what. Focus on your new life no matter how challenging and do not listen to friends who may come with good revelations buy bad intentions towards your marital life.

For men, please, stop legitimizing infidelity in marriages, whether in private or social media, you expose yourself to horrors and pain when you do.

Stand against infidelity and kick at it with all sincerity to help allay the fears that you may one day join them.

Please, kindly note that these are my personal takes on this trending issue and may be subject to readers evaluation and scrutiny.

WoundedLamb:
I don't know about women. I can't speak for them. But if I were a lady and my husband comes back asking for paternity test on our kids, I know for sure that marriage would never remain the same again regardless of how hard I try. There's simply no better way to plant the seed of distrust than making such a request.

Splitmind:


Because men aren't the ones getting pregnant and passing off another woman's child as the man's own for financial gain.

cassyrooy:


Social Sciences but this issue need thorough evaluation if not, everyone will be living in fear and distrust. Only a head that can thoroughly see things can handle some women.

cassyrooy:
Sure that is why the man must trust more than his instincts and equally be prepared for his wife's wrath if he chooses to openly do the tests.

Na person wey get sense go understand wetin e take to go through this processes and still not crack.

Blackdisciple:


Why fear bro, I thought all the kids belong to the family na.??

thundafire:
I know of cases in hospitals were children could be exchanged because of the sex of the child or by error.

naijapips04:


Pathetic SIMP. DNA testing is 99.99 % accurate. Don't run any maternity testing. Don't ask any stupid hospital any questions. The hoe cheated and is forcing another man's child on you.

I know you are a female hiding under a male moniker either that or you are just the biggest simp alive.

cassyrooy:
I created this thread to beam light on where your limited knowledge can not penetrate, yet you still choose to remain aloof and ignorant of all other extant realities because you've chosen to hate what you can not comprehend.

Continue vaping ideologies you can not tailor and prune properly into your life. E go be.

oluseyiforjesus:
On a serious note, DNA test will break trust whether d out come is + or -

naijapips04:


What an asshole. Your purpose is to create doubt on DNA testing and you have failed whole fully. With your bullshit maternity testing and hospital swapping ideologies.

Guys get that DNA test done and if it comes out negative, please throw the hoe out immediately, don't ask any further questions....throw the cheating hoe out!!

cassyrooy:
Guy, if only you know much hard laugh I'm having here because of your comprehension and cognitive ineptness, you'll just quit this clannishness and cringe back to the normal life you have always feared and face it headstrong with character.

I'm sorry kiddo, this is my last take on you, don't rush women, focus on growing yourself and be gentle with whomever cross paths with you.

FYI, I'm a dude too.

cassyrooy:
I'll kindly refer you to my posts on the first page. Read all of it and see the differing circumstances that can make DNA testing fail.

Please do read and educate yourself.

cassyrooy:
I'll kindly refer you to my posts on the first page. Read all of it and see the differing circumstances that can make DNA testing fail.

Please do read and educate yourself.

Jaqenhghar:

What financial gain?You talkn as if there is one special funds that is given to women who fall pregnant the way they do in the western countries.

Splitmind:


The numerous stories of women getting pregnant when their man is out of the country hustling.

Or women who lie about pregnancy so they guy won't send her packing to her village.

Or the woman who was having a relationship with another man while married and lied to both of them for financial gain.

And the women who marry for money yet sleep with other men like Odartey Lamptey's wife did to him.

Jaqenhghar:

You still haven't mentioned the financial gain. Are those financial gains to you

Blackdisciple:



In a situation the DNA fails just as u said whereas you and your spouse has no biological relationship with the child which is understandable that the fault is coming from the hospital and they have questions they need to answer.

Ok in a situation whereby the test matches you and did not match your spouse that's were the problem comes in you know!

cassyrooy:
The test can not match and fail for your spouse (if she's the mother of the child), only logical thing I see here is that the lab might have mixed up samples and got the procedure all wrong.

So, hope not to find yourself in such situation but if you do, kindly and diligently investigate why things are the way they are.

officialmario:


OK
I don't know how to post a new topic on nairaland
Can you direct me on how to do that?

dam4sam:


For the Man to come back home and 'ask' for a DNA test (He is not asking, he is just informing you, as a matter of right!) on your Child, that marriage already has Underlying Trust-Issues, so you using such emotional statement to attempt to blackmail Husbands, will not fly.

As a matter of fact, nothing brings Trust back into a Marriage that the 'Power of Knowing the Truth'!
The Truth of a Negetaive DNA Test Result removes that element of a 'Cardinal Sin' that can never be forgiven, other issues of distrust can then be addressed and possibly resolved.