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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Emotionss: 7:50pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
[color=#006600][/color] Mariangeles: Yes. We have done that on so many occasions. It all depends on the kind of family you're married too. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Sabpet(m): 7:51pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: All dz gullible ladies, xo if de young man doesn’t have anytinz @ dat point he should go n steal n come n give ur mum. Must u ladies suck de guys finished bfr proper marriage My dear u are veri wrong in hanging his calls n u shdnt see tinz from only ur mum side mayb ur fiancée doesn’t v @ dat moment 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by BusinessCity: 7:51pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
poshestmina: Go to your in laws place empty handed and after two weeks come create a thread about the aftermath of your action |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Ameenu914(m): 7:51pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
This is my problem with y'all someone said advice some of y'all be raining insult that's so lame. In our setting down here it bad to go empty handed to the in-law without anything doesn't mean they're hungry or something but then look at it how would you go down without having anything it best you don't even show up at all |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by BusinessCity: 7:51pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Homeboiy: Poor family indeed. Can he visit Dangote empty handed? 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by robosky02(m): 7:52pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Na waoooo |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by buzorcharles(m): 7:52pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
donbachi: Even if he is the husband. There is no law that states u must visit with gift or food. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by OBelz(f): 7:52pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Freemasonry:The mom is greedy and the man should not marry from that family otherwise she will use the daughter to make money from the man 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Yippeedaniel(m): 7:52pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
� � � Aboy..... No worries during marry she go collect |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by BusinessCity: 7:52pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Regex: Thank you. Here's mature advice here. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by malvisguy212: 7:52pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:small issue, you can solve it, you shouldn't have told your man, you should have find a way to talk to your mum and calm her down. best of luck and happy married life in advance, go get your man. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by jacoik(m): 7:52pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx:lolxxxxx hahahaha I swear guy, u for add wickedness join it name na. see as u finished gal with her mama. I swear hunger full this land oooo |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Jetland(m): 7:52pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx:Bro, please be calming down. This "uppercut" is way too much. Don't send someone's daughter into depression 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Lashist(m): 7:53pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Sixfeetbelle:Oh..you and your fiance were not raised the same way and you should not blame him if he doesnt have entitlement mentality...you are a lady with entitlement mentality...what you have failed to know is that bringing bread is good but not by force...a bad man will bring bread and the mum will be happy but he might be beating her in private...the mum should have been looking out for his composure and other good attributes to know if the guy is a good guy or not...expecting gifts from bf visits reeks of hunger and poverty mentality...ur bf doesnt owe ur family anything cus he is dating you...if you want to give his family gifts everyday, na ur cup of tea. I won't even want my gf to want to think its a must to bring gifts since im not broke to that extent 6 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 7:53pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Now i see the reason why nairaland guys keep bashing nigerian women.. Can you even imagine the effontery you had supporting your mum and hanging up on your fiance. Your dad will never feel such entitled, this attitude is common among igbo mother's... 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Freddd009: 7:53pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Best comment ever. It's so sad guys these days are so insensitive n lazy. How can u go to your girlfriends home empty? This is 2021, let's stop this entitlement mentality, that u are entitled to your girlfriend's pussy but gets angry when asked to take some responsibilities over her no matter how small We guys are the reason some ladies date other guys. Do u know why? We date them, sleep with them but do not take responsibility over them claiming she s just a girlfriend, when she gets tired, she looks for another to love her wholeheartedly. Why not pocket ur dick n wait till u are ready to be a responsible boyfriend or husband before u can sleep with her? Or do u visit a brothel n not pay after service? So, why deny responsibility over that lovely girl u call ur girlfriend n love but u can be responsible to prostitutes n pay them because u know prostitutes don't take shit. They service u n u must pay them. Guys, when a girl is good, treat her like a Queen cos we all have sisters too 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by oskobi: 7:54pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Please your family should show some form of respect to their future inlaw to be. It shows how hungry you guys are, for God sake the boy is also their son. Pls give ur parents sense. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by jacoik(m): 7:54pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
GayPontiff:I swear, if I get that guy number I for call him and tell him to run far 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Chris2863(m): 7:54pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:Take it or leave it, he is right. Both you and your mom are hungry and the earlier he (your alleged fiance) runs for his life, better for him. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Emotionss: 7:55pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
[color=#006600][/color] Mariangeles: Giving in-laws gift is a choice and not a must. Stop mistaking entitlement mentality for culture. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by AliAgbede22(m): 7:55pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
He went there for trying and u and ur mom fall , when u visit him the u go hungry , he know what is doing |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by mrde(m): 7:55pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:. We are Africans and I think common courtesy demands we come bearing gifts especially in such visits. It just shows respect. But he may not be acustomed to this and I guess he got defensive when being confronted. We men don't like our egos hurt��. I think you should call him and make peace because it also is not mandatory for him to bring those gifts as there are merely custom and he may not have had the means to. I'll advise you call him because it's good enough an effort to go visit in itself 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by bukatyne(f): 7:55pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: It depends on the frequency of the visit. Since that was not the first time he visited and the first time he visited without a gift, the mother should have let it slide. But bringing it up, complaining about the drink she offered him, the girl fighting with the guy all reeks of classlessness IMHO. I think the Bobo is trying to build a relationship with the mom which gives him points in my book. Well, OP claims Bobo has apologized. They should both learn their expectations of one another. 9 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Ojayk(m): 7:55pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Its obvious that was your fiancée's first visit to your mum. Have you thought about your man's intentions to visit your mum even in your absence? Just maybe, he went to see "an older version of you as a wife to him" Maybe not going with any gift was intentional. And your mum, maybe, just maybe, seem to have missed the opportunity to "have a motherly deep look at him to identify prospects of him being a good husband to her loving daughter" Take it or leave it, a times mother's attitudes/behaviors to their husbands/others tells one what to expect from a soon to be wife. If you love your man, call him and appreciate where he is coming from, besides he can still buy a private jet for your parents in years to come, don't let this get you to start experimenting with another relationship. All the best. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by ONYEKAfra(m): 7:55pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
As a man, things like this should be avoided. Do not visit in law to be empty handed. This is Nigeria If you do not have anything on you, make the visit short. If they give you kola, do not take Try to avoid it and leave in style, If you must drink, kola should be reciprocated. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Pricelass: 7:55pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Onyemaya:poverty they say is a disease 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Omok91(m): 7:55pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
As for me, i will end the relationship . 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by babadee1(m): 7:56pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: You and your mother are not ready for a husband and a son in law. Nonsense! 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by timothydare(m): 7:56pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles:Waiting dis 1dey talk? 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 7:56pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Hathor5: Probably she is still young, there are ways she would have told him for next time but not making it look like her mum was angry about it. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by BusinessCity: 7:56pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Fiscus105: God bless you. Another elder speaking. He's not even showing remorse. The mother is telling her daughter if she marries him she will regret it, she's not understanding what the mum is saying. Such a nuisance for a man seeking to Marry. Our society breeds nonsense these days. Thank you for this truth... 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by DONFASZY(m): 7:56pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Hungry bitch moda Hw do u expect him to visit With trailer full of food or d world Jus to visit U see why its nt n never gud to involve or allow ur mum penetrate ur relationships Ladies Modas lived d old fashion traditionals wAyS Haba D next visit would carry all his gifts n food |
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