Mariangeles:





Let me ask you this question as nwaafo Igbo; can you visit your in-laws empty handed?

Answer honestly...

Mariangeles:
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Do not patronise me biglittlelois!

TransAtlanticEx:
Yes.

Biglittlelois:



Who are you exactly?

Mariangeles:


Hahahahahahahahaha

What is your problem? Why are you always always angry?
Why do you take everybody's comment personal?
What is or are your issue(s)?

Biglittlelois:



I cringed when I saw the bolded, is it that your fiance can't eat in your parent's house? Cos I don't understand what you mean by her drink, una nor dey entertain visitors? Smh!!!

Freemasonry:

You see!
He’s not really as stingy as you make it seem.
He probably didn’t think bringing stuff for your mom was a lifelong ritual.
Please lose this mentality and get your man back.

ststyreal:

Mbanuuu, aunty Tracey you fail am for here... Since he has come before and with something too, you shouldn't have informed him that your mum is angry about him coming empty handed....
I think he is a nice and free guy who just want to acclamatize with your family.
Go and apologize to him and next time make sure you are around anytime he is coming to see your parents again.

GIANTPLUSHUB:


Your mum have a hold on you on trying to compulsorily leech on your man? Sorry, you aren't yet matured for a relationship. You need to be enrolled in a pre-relationship class.

Mariangeles:





Let me ask you this question as nwaafo Igbo; can you visit your in-laws empty handed?

Answer honestly...

Biglittlelois:



My point exactly,

Not to sound tribalistic, she must be Igbo, but then, not all behave same way.

Biglittlelois:



Are you refering to me?

Lol this must be for someone else

Stating a counter opinion to yours is me being always bitter and angry?

Who took my words personal with your "don't play smart" or "don't partronise" rant?

You must think you're worth the anger effort, you are just a moniker maria

Nice chat though, cheers.

izzou:


When did he turn to her in-law? Dem don marry?

I can decide to bring a gift everytime I visit. That doesn't mean it's an abomination if a guy shows up without a gift in front of his babe's mum.

She even told us how her mum entertained him.

Sincerely, I think her boyfriend dodged a missile. The Op needs a lot of growing up

Mariangeles:


You didn't answer my question straightforwardly.

For me, I don't think the woman did anything wrong telling her daughter (mothers do that most times), it was wrong of the lady confronting her fiance with what her mother told her, and then hanging up without sorting things out with him.
What she should've done is guide her fiance on what to do next time he goes visiting.

The last time he came, he brought a gift for the mum

And then because he comes again without any gift, she goes complaining?

I don't blame people who think the Op's family is poor or the mum is greedy

No wahala sha. She can decide to sacrifice her happiness for an in-law that always remember to bring gifts when visiting her mum

Mariangeles:


OK. Fair then.

Where I come from, we're culturally raised to go bearing gifts whenever we visited places like your in-laws or your maternal home.

Trayceey:
My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around. When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink. Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up. Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?

Afromentalist:

You people only like culture when it favours your materialistic tendencies. Now you are so attached to the culture of bringing gifts to the in laws,

If we now talk about polygamy and patriarchy , you will now curse culture and call it backwardness and woman exploitation.

Let's leave culture out of this discussion. Did the guy do anything that would warrant such foolish reaction ?

In fact if I be the man, I will never be back in such a relationship.

Hathor5:


My thoughts. He took his time to visit her mom even though his girl wasn't around which is really nice. The women in my family would be concerned if he has already eaten and serve him food whether he is hungry or not instead of complaining about him not bringing gifts. Ungrateful lot.

iamL:
Your mum should have been more concerned about his behavior and the kind of man he is.

Mariangeles:


You didn't answer my question straightforwardly.

For me, I don't think the woman did anything wrong telling her daughter (mothers do that most times), it was wrong of the lady confronting her fiance with what her mother told her, and then hanging up without sorting things out with him.

What she should've done is guide her fiance on what to do next time he goes visiting.

Trayceey:
I'm not a poor woman u fool. I can feed you and your entire family for ages. This is not about being poor. It's about doing the right thing that culture demands. we are Africans

ceeceeuwa:

Even #250 bread, the Bobo no fit buy!
Their hate for women on this forum won't make them see reasons.